Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Part 9

[HopefullyDothButterNoParsnips]

Through the ups and downs of this amazing journey - we are all here together. I'm grateful for you all ❤️❤️

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Orange I am so sorry to hear about your mum

I'm in A&E they've done bloods and they are transferring me to OB/GYN shortly

[orangefolly]

Thank you. Glad you're getting seen grumpy - hope they can help reduce the uncertainty

otters I missed that cupcake pic - they look awesome

[Tigger83]

Grumpy be strong and get the best outcome for you. I know erpc was definitely the best choice for me.

Little max is gorgeous would love a cat!

Well started today with the clear blue dual thingambob which feels very technical and scientific but I'm using my usual opks alongside. We're going for eod too (well at the moment Ed ) which is fun! Trying to feel more relaxed and positive about everything. I think I'm due to ovulate on my birthday which would be pretty cool so just keeping everything crossed (apart from my legs lol)

Beautiful sunshine out there so off to Homebase for more work on my garden projects then out in the garden planting up! Hoping oh and I get to go for a walk later in the forest.

Planning on a hot bath and a film later I think bliss.

Oh and I weighed in on Friday and 3lb gone aiming for same again this week but will be hard with b day looming.

[Seven0fNine]

Hope they can help you Grumpy I'm thinking of you xxx

Orange I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum. Keeping positive is the best thing you can do. Hopefully they will be able to do lots to help her xx

Omg otters you are so clever! They look amazing and I love the colour of the icing!

Para I am doing an AF dance for you right now...although I'm not sure it's working - it's gone very cloudy all of a sudden :D

OMG MUMMY I waaaaaaant!!!! He's so gorgeous!!!!!! Precious baby!!!

Tigger that sounds so exciting! I loved doing wedding stuff.

[Seven0fNine]

oooh and well done on the weight loss!!

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Surgery is booked for Wednesday, they could not do it today as too many trauma patients in front of me. Don't know what to do about work. Fucks sake my career is gonna be ruined already without even getting a baby at the end of it.

[Parastars]

Haha thank you Seven!!

Orange so sorry to hear about your mum.

Otters those cakes look delicious! You clever thing!

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Is there any risk of damage to the uterus or fertility from this surgery? I honestly hate my life so much right now.

[DancingUnicorn]

Grumpy the drs will talk you through the risks. They are incredibly low. And if I remember correctly the risk of infection is similar regardless of what road you go down. I'm so sorry. I so wish I could make this hell go away for you.

Your career, my lovely, will survive. You are more strong than you know, and you won't give it up without a fight. This hell will not defeat you, even when it feels like it already has. Sending all the love.

If you haven't found it already, the miscarriage association website has been incredibly informative for me. I like to know what's going on, and they have a lot of information. ❤️

Oh, lovely orange. I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. That must be so scary for you all. I will be thinking of you as she starts this journey. Hopefully they can get it all with the surgery.

Otters the cakes look incredible!! Clever lady!

[HopefullyDothButterNoParsnips]

Orange - so sorry to hear about your mums diagnosis lovely. I hope the treatment goes well. It must be such a scary time.

Otters - those cupcakes look amazing. Absolutely wonderful talent you have there!

Mummy - that wee kitty is divine. He looks sooo cute.

Grumpy my love, in the nicest possible way - fuck work right now. Focus on yourself love. Can you speak to that colleague you confided in recently? Maybe speak to one of your bosses. I was nervous to speak to mine too, I know what it's like working in an unsympathetic profession, but ultimately they need you. You are incredibly valuable to them and they will support you through this. Please don't shoulder all these burdens yourself. You'll need some time, particularly if you have to have surgery. You're in my thoughts love. You need to think about yourself and you're own well being and not about work. Easier said than done I know. Xxxx

[Mummyme87]

grumpy good you have a plan. Dont worry about work right now, you are the most important person right now

orange so sorry to hear about your mum x

Good work on the weight loss tigger I feel my weight loss may be hampered after a week away

A day of packing, food shopping and preparing for centre parcs tomorrow

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

I already text the colleague I told. She said not to tell work unless I absolutely have to, but that was before I knew I was having surgery and what passing it naturally might entail.

I've decided to tell my direct line manager as I think I can trust him and it will look very bad if I give some vague reason (they will probably guess anyway) so I'd rather be upfront. Especially as I've been out of the office on various business trips for the best part of the last three weeks.

I can't risk passing the embryo or having huge blood loss at work / being in the loos for hours which is an hour tube journey from home / my local hospital, so I'll need to stay home until the surgery.

Talking to him in 40 minutes

[DancingUnicorn]

Good luck grumpy. Hopefully he will be understanding and sympathetic to your situation.

[HopefullyDothButterNoParsnips]

Oh grumpy you poor thing. I know this is the total opposite of what you wanted to have to tell them but I'm sure they will understand. Let us know how you get on.

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

So I told my line manager and he was really nice. It's a relief to be honest. He said I didn't have to tell him, but I said at this point in the situation I felt it best to be open rather than make something up explaining my absence given we work so closely together (which I think he sort of agreed with).

He listened to all my worries about the bosses discriminating and tried to reassure me that he has my back (and he won't tell them of course). He asked if he could give them any more info if they asked a direct question and I said absolutely not I don't trust them. But I think he appreciated that I trusted him enough to tell him.

I was upfront about my (would have been) Mat leave plans which he said not to worry about and they'd manage whatever I wanted to do, but I'm glad I managed to tell him that I had had a plan and i was never going to just leave the team in the lurch.

Also picked up my mat clothes sleepsuits and baby sling from the jojomamanbebe delivery. I didn't feel upset. I just hope I get a chance to be pregnant successfully again in the near future.

Physically the bleeding has thickened but it's still not constant. They told me that the cervix is still quite closed so it may not happen before the surgery on Wednesday, but it could. That's why I can't risk going into work.

Sorry for the essay it's helpful to write on here.

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Thank you all for your kind words and support it means a lot.

Mummy that kitten is so cute. DD and I were considering taking advantage of the current shitty situation to ask DH for a new kitten but I think three cats is probably pushing it

I'm having a Campari now 🍸

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Oh meant to say the plan is that I'm working from home all week except Wednesday when I'm having the surgery. Then see how I feel Thursday / Friday. DH has told his boss too so is staying at home all week to look after me.

[DancingUnicorn]

So glad it went well grumpy. Sounds like he will be really supportive, which is hopefully reassuring. I'm so glad your dh will be home for you all week. Obviously see how you feel, but if you feel you can take Thursday and Friday off, then I would recommend it. Sobbing at my desk was a real low point. Thinking of you. ❤️

[DancingUnicorn]

Sorry, I meant at home rather than off. Take care of yourself.

[buzzmoon]

Oh god girls I'm so sorry I've been away, only just had a chance to get wifi and check in and oh gosh I'm just sat sobbing and can't believe you're all going through so much shit. You are the most amazing bunch, you're all so strong. grumpy I can't even imagine what you're going through at the moment. I'm glad your boss has been good and that you've told him. You can have the time off now to recover properly without worrying about making up an excuse. Your DH and DD sound absolutely lovely.

parsnips you sound super positive which is great, sorry about your families reactions though, sometimes you just panic when thinking of things to say.

orange I'm so sorry to hear about your mum :( ❤️

tigger very exciting about wedding stuff! And otters those cakes are amazing!!

Just want to give everyone a big hug and wish I could make it better :(

I'm having a nice time, weather is lovely and hot so really nice to get away and relax. Hopefully check in again soon and see how you're getting on grumpy ❤️

[Mummyme87]

Must be a real relief for you that you have told your boss grumpy and great that he is supportive.

[HbH]

grumpy sounds like the right plan to tell your manager & have the week at home. You're so strong. Hope your campari is a big one

mummy MAX IS ADORABLE! Have fun in center parcs! Did you decide to just go ahead with the spa?

otters what a talent! Love the cakes... especially the rose ones! Beautiful colour too!

Buzz hope you're surviving the hen do!!

Sorry to hear about your mum orange A close family friend got diagnosed with stage 4 before christmas, but responded extremely well to initial treatment, only had to have a small keyhole op followed by a bit more treatment but she's pretty much beaten it despite the initial shock & negative thoughts... FX your mum will crush it too

Amazing weightloss tigger What are your secrets?!

[Seven0fNine]

Glad you are having a nice time buzz
Hope Jupiter is having a nice time also.

Also glad you told work Grumpy its the best thing as at least they know the truth and it's less stress for you having to pretend xx

Feeling proper down today..I have no idea why! I have every reason to be happy. Just had a really unproductive weekend and feeling a bit hopeless with this ttc business. Went for a walk to try and pick myself up and then got some beer so sat in the garden now pretending to be happy so dh doesn't worry. AF due Tuesday by my calculations (or Thursday according to Ovia) So it's more than likely just pmt.

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Sounds like it's been a pretty shit week for almost everyone. Hugs to you all.

Buzz I hope you have a great time on your hen do! Jupiter and mummy enjoy your breaks too x

Dancing and tigger and everyone who has taken the time to talk me through the past 48hrs of hell thank you so so much.

I've had a hot bath for the first time in 10 weeks and taken some paracetamol. Now sitting in bed drinking a beer and waiting for my dinner to be ready. DH has rallied so hard for me but he did have a little cry earlier as well. Pain is still mild right now. Hope I can make it through the next two days without too much drama and then get the surgery over with. So glad I'm staying home.

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Orange I am not a religious person but I am praying for your mum that they have caught it in time x