Test results show Chlamydia

[babymilkmama]

Good morning,

We have been ttc for almost two years and have started all the tests etc to try and find out more about why we haven't had a baby. My first dc was conceived without even trying three years ago and so we were a bit disappointed as to why we are struggling.

My gp has just called me to say one of my blood results has shown evidence of a previous chlamydia infection and I'm booked in for swabs next week. I'm absolutely devastated and don't know how I'm going to tell my DH! I've never had any symptoms of an sti so must have had it for years and years. It's been five years since I slept with anyone except my husband and it must have caused some massive damage 😢 he's going to hate me and think I'm disgusting. The gp said not all chlamydia is sexually transmitted but looking online it says it is. I don't know what I'm going to say or do 😬

Fantastic if I get a full day... not so great if I'm there all day and teach one lesson! I won't be a contracted subject teacher until September when space becomes available
What an odd system. Having also worked as supply I can honestly say this is not how it worked for me, and I m not sure I understand how it will be any different as a 'contracted subject teacher' because there is now 'space available '?? You are not contracted as a subject teacher now? This is in the UK, right?
I hope your ds is okay - it sounds like you got called in at rather short notice. (Assuming he was at childcare and you got called out of work.)
You're right about having an unusual life/relationship though (I think you said this earlier). Still bf at 2 is unusual, isn't it.
I'm not a doctor, but if you did have chlamydia when pregnant (with no symptoms) does this automatically mean the baby would have it, because I know that doesn't happen with everything...

I hope your DS is better soon, and that you have time to come to grips with your diagnosis before talking to DH about it.

You seem to both have quite old fashioned attitudes by today's expectations. (Not a criticism). How did you meet?

@titaniascloset why is it weird? Because I didn't know I had something that might be preventing me have children?

@picklemepopcorn he will be fine, thank you for wishing him well. He was at the drs Tuesday night with tonsillitis and they gave him antibiotics. Unfortunately he had a bad reaction to them and was being violently sick and just wretching constantly and his temperature was uncontrollable. They sent us to the hospital to get him sorted because he has history of febrile seizures and they just wanted to be safe. He's fine now though. This morning his temp is down to 38.8 (it was 41.4 at its worst yesterday).

I think my relationship with DH is quite old fashioned. He grew up in a family where his parents had traditional roles. I grew up with parents that both worked and spent most of my time at my grandparents who taught me what my mum did was wrong and she should be looking after the children. I became a teacher like my grandma because I loved the idea of it and when I started my teaching practice I loved it. It fits well with my personality and home life so that's a win win for when my DS starts school full time in January. I personally don't think it's an awful relationship I have with DH I just think he likes the traditional set up and I am fine with it. It was difficult for him for me to go back to work and he would have rather I stayed home till our DC started school. The thought of giving him this news is awful. If it was the other way around I'd be asking questions as to what he had been doing!

Sorry if my questions have offended you OP. As you answered posters either side of me I can only assume you didn't want to address my q for some reason

@fritzdonovan it's a way for schools to save money. If they use a supply agency they pay costs to them and often a full day pay when there's not always a full day cover needed. I am paid by teaching hour like a cover supervisor but we are called supply bank now. If I get a full day I get paid that full day but if not I won't. The dept I am qualified in has a vacancy coming up in September and I will then be on salary like a normal teacher. I will have a timetable and classes and have marking planning and all the other responsibility.

As I said above my DS is going to be fine now. He's on antibiotics that work for him and he'll be back to being himself in no time. I was already home with him because he was poorly but we had to go back to the GP because he was being so sick and I had I had no control over his temperature. As a precaution they sent us to the PDU to help because he has had febrile seizures in the past.

I have said it's a strange relationship by other people's standards because I think we have a lot of ways of doing things that aren't as common these days. As for saying my son being bf at two is unusual though is not. 2 is the very minimum recommendation for weaning and I know a lot of people who bf their children at 2,3,4 and beyond. He's still very little and times like this needs that extra help in immunity and comfort.

As to me passing on chlamydia to my son that's only what I have read online since because it says that it's passed on during pregnancy and birth. That's why a lot of people are tested for it. It just seems odd that neither myself or my partner have symptoms and IF dc did get it then neither does he.

@fritzdonovan yours was a longer answer so I allowed more time.

I'm not sure why people are still adamant that op's dh has given her an STI when not one, but two, professionals have clearly given explanations as to why that isn't necessarily the case.

Op i understand why you are worried about telling dh, it's not only that you are ill, which would worry him, it's that he may be too. No one likes to give or receive bad news!

Do listen to your doctor and the 2 professionals on here though, it is possible that it is a non sti strain or that you had and got rid of it years ago. It could even have been a chest infection - I've never been tested to see what strain of nasty is causing a chest infection.

As for ds contracting it, you say he is on antibiotics now? So hopefully they would deal with it in the very unlikely event that he has contracted it from you.

Wait for your results, then you can tell dh the accurate situation rather than panic him about it when there may be no need. Or tell him you may have 'an infection' if you want to explain why you are worried and upset.

@dizzy199 thank you for your reply. I don't think for a moment it's DH who is the source of this as he's someone who won't even use public toilets for fear of germs and any minor deviation from 100% healthy in him he has to get checked out so if he had chlamydia symptoms he would have been straight to the dr.

My DC has never been ill before really so this is his first experience of antibiotics. He's had the odd cold but it's always a 24hr thing and this has been since Saturday now. We saw a dr on Saturday afternoon but she just dismissed us as it's only a 5min slot.

Sorry @dizzy199 I posted too soon.

I'll wait till Monday for the tests and then hopefully by this time next week the results should be back. If it's positive I'll obviously have to say something to DH but if it's negative then I can just deal with it by myself and not worry anyone.

Thank you again for your support. I think this post has gone off topic with my relationships with both my DH and DC being brought into question. There has been some support from a lot of people though and professionals on here. Hopefully it's something like they say and just antibodies due to an old infection or non sti strain. I honestly have never been treated for an sti and if I had it wouldn't have come as a surprise to me.

When I had my first booking in appointment with the midwife back in February she said that only women under 25 years old are now checked for STI's as part of tests done during pregnancy. I'm not sure if this is a recent change, but I was told that I wouldn't be checked as I'm 32.
I've since miscarried, but just thought I'd let you all know what I was told x

I don't know if I was tested during pregnancy. The last time I was certain was 2010. Sorry about your MC xx

If it helps I would know where it came from as I've only had two boyfriends. One was for 5yrs and one I've married. I'm 34 so getting pg is important now as I know time is marching on! 😆

If your child hasn't been ill previously, how does he have a history of febrile convulsions?
He'd need to have been ill with a fever?

@pineapple because he used to go to nursery and one day they called me to say they had called an ambulance and were taking him to hospital. He was fine once there but they said his temperature had suddenly shot up and made him have seizure and then come straight back down. He wasn't ill and they found nothing at all wrong in any tests. It happened twice in a week but with no reason. This was over a year ago. They said it was just one of those things but we had weeks and weeks of tests to get to the conclusion there was nothing wrong.

Hang in there op, how long till you get to find out all the information? You'll be in a better position to explain to DH then.

The world is made up of all sorts of people, and we are all surprisingly surprised when other people are 'not like us'. My DH is quite set in his ways and stubborn. It has been quite tricky at times, but we're still hanging on in there.

@picklemepopcorn I have swabs to be done Monday and I'm going to ask that as soon as the results come back I get a call.

I've spoken to my drs this morning who said I was tested at booking in appt back in 2014 when I was pregnant because of the short length of my relationship. My records show negative then so I feel better about my DC being at risk as there's zero chance it's positive in him.

Good luck with your swabs, sounds like there is nothing to worry about and that it is most likely a past infection or non sti.

Just a side note, I fed D'S until he was 2 and a half, I don't think it's that unusual.

No advice to offer, but sending support. Theres some awfully judgey comments on here and some personal questions been asked which i dont agree have been necessary. Everyone is different. For whats it worth you sound like a great mother and very caring and considerate of those around you. It's natural to worry - I do. Best of luck x

Thank you both for the support. I think some people are jumping to conclusions and being judgemental but that's all I did really so don't blame them.

I'm going to hold off saying anything till I get the test results and I'll probably have to tell both boys. It would be rude not to really. However I've looked online and the antibody test really is lifelong antibodies and they test for markers which point to many different things but coincide with chlamydia so are picked up on the test. I'm clutching at straws I know.

Not straws at all! There are all sorts of explanations that you won't know yet. The doctor will help you piggle it out. Try not to worry- you just don't have enough information.

I just want Monday to come. Having a poorly DC has meant I'm sitting too long thinking as he has to lie on me to sleep and settle.

Good luck today OP!

Hope it goes well OP don't panic.

Hey, how did it go today?