Test results show Chlamydia

[babymilkmama]

Good morning,

We have been ttc for almost two years and have started all the tests etc to try and find out more about why we haven't had a baby. My first dc was conceived without even trying three years ago and so we were a bit disappointed as to why we are struggling.

My gp has just called me to say one of my blood results has shown evidence of a previous chlamydia infection and I'm booked in for swabs next week. I'm absolutely devastated and don't know how I'm going to tell my DH! I've never had any symptoms of an sti so must have had it for years and years. It's been five years since I slept with anyone except my husband and it must have caused some massive damage 😢 he's going to hate me and think I'm disgusting. The gp said not all chlamydia is sexually transmitted but looking online it says it is. I don't know what I'm going to say or do 😬

I have a DH who is not into talking much- I think he must believe that telepathy works , but sometimes you can't second guess everything so some words just have to be exchanged. Certainly you need to ask him if he is still upset about the last birth as you are willing to do it again.

I think you are worrying too much about the Chlamydia - from what the sti doctor above said above it is only a possibility and probably not the cause of your current problems.

It is always the same when they are testing to find the cause of something - there are several blind alleys and it can get stressful worrying about all the possibilities until you are sure.

@terrylene he's already told me the thought of another traumatic birth scares him to death and he can't go through it again. I've convinced him no two are the same and that I am sure I want to do it again. Pah what's 42 stitches and a torn pelvic nerve when you have a beautiful baby!

He's not dodgy or untrustworthy he's just very private. I'd only met his parents once before falling pg and he was nervous about their reaction so that explains that. He's grown up in a family that don't really discuss relationships and feelings much and the man of the house is the breadwinner and that's all they need to know.

I think I'm panicking over it all and think he'll do the same. I'll wait till Monday and see if they'll call me as soon as the results come in.

He was traumatised by your birth? He still needs to get over it?
He'll kill you?
He'll hate you forever?
Standing by you and supporting you after a sexual assault is what any decent partner should do,not a badge of honour.
You feel you are dirty? He'll think you are dirty?

Can't you see how none of this is normal or healthy?

@rebelrogue I was pretty traumatised too but I had a baby to distract me whilst he had nightmares! It was the first time he'd seen down there and wasn't pretty!

I also don't think anyone takes the "I have an sti" conversation well and he'll jump to the conclusions I have. I actually associate sti's with people who sleep around and I've never been that sort of person so it's come as a shock.

You can get home chlamydia tests. I'm. It sure how long they take

It might help you both get quicker results

Well i had abnormal smear tests linked to HPV, after previously being all clear. Quite commonly, HPV is also considered an STD. My OH's reaction was worry about my health,complete support,take days off work to accompany me to tests and procedures etc. At no point was afraid of his reaction or think he'll hate me forever or kill me or doubt me.

Yes but hpv is present in everyone and chlamydia isn't. I've had abnormal smear tests since I was 16 and didn't lose my virginity till 24.

I don't think it is correct information - that every pregnant woman gets screened for STi's...I'm pregnant with DC2 and never been screened because of pregnancy.

If it's just showing in the blood test you could well have had it years and years ago - well before you were with your DH, then cleared it naturally / as a result of other antibiotics. Unless you have reason to believe he's cheated - that's by far the most likely scenario.
STIs happen to people who have unprotected sex, you don't have to have a lot of sex or with a lot of people.
Also if the infection was asymptomatic and you've had a baby since the chance of significant tubal damage is pretty low.

Don't want to say too much that will identify me, but I am a health professional in this area and like user... feel the need to comment and calm everyone down who seems intent on jumping the gun and concluding that OP must have caught chlamydia from husband in between last pregnancy.

You are not routinely tested for chlamydia in pregnancy. Only under 25s are offered screening.

The blood test indicates previous infection with an infection that most likely is chlamydia. This test looks for markers in your blood's serum - the markers are the same for pneumonia chlamydia. However only the swab will confirm if it is a) genital chlamydia and b) active.

It is possible you had either pneumococcal chlamydia or genital chlamydia many years ago, that has now cleared up.

It is possible you have genital chlamydia that is still there.

Generally, if genital chlamydia is confirmed then depending on the levels of antibodies in your blood test (over 1 in 64 is considered high) you may be offered a laparoscopy (keyhole camera) to see if your tubes have been affected.

Please bear in mind that for a generation chlamydia was incredibly common - hence the free tests, results by text etc. I have looked after literally thousands of women and anecdotally out of those born after about 1985, a good 1 in 4 have had it ... and they're the ones who were diagnosed. It also is not confined to the promiscuous, feckless, particular socio-economic groups etc. I have seen doctors with it.

Please do not worry at this stage. Deal with one thing at a time. Get the swab and results. Then discuss next steps with your partner.

Good luck xxx

HPV is also sexually transmitted and is only present in people who have caught it by having sex. Chlamidia presents earlier with symptoms sooner, and is slightly less prevalent but both are STIs.

Once again I believe your relationship has bigger issues than chlamydia whenever you contracted it or how.

@rebelrogue I don't understand why.

I'm with rebel, sorry OP but the relationship dosent sound 100% healthy. Red flags all over your posts. The 'good boy' description is one I have heard before about men whom have turned out to be quite the opposite.

You shouldn't be worried about telling him. He should be the one person you can tell without fear of judgment.

And it's kinda rude to associate chlamydia with uncleanliness or being dirty.
Why does sleeping around make you dirty? And why the association anyway? Only takes 1 encounter to contract an STI.
Would you say the same about a common cold? Cold sore? Or HIV? Where's the line of what you think makes someone 'dirty?' What about cervical cancer resulting from hpv?

Also, and this is irrelevant to your original Q, but if you don't know what he does or what he earns how do you know that your family is financially secure? Just weird that you have never had a conversation about how much money you have available as a family. Even for booking holidays or maybe when you have to move house?
He must either be so rich that money is no object or he earns so little that he is trying to hide it from you. Or he doesn't value for your role in the family at all and treats you like an employee. Why is your job house wife and mum AND you have a full time job as a teacher? Are his jobs also house husband and dad?
Do you have any say in what happens to your family?

And poor him struggling to get over YOUR labour (which by the sounds of it was awful, I'm so sorry) he needs to suck that up and get over himself to support you.

Sounds like from PP that you don't need to worry at very least until Monday and I really hope for you that the test is all clear and it's just an old virus that has long since cleared.
But regardless you should be able to discuss with your DH without fear or worry.

Our relationship isn't like loads of others I'll admit. We sort of got rushed into a serous relationship after knowing each other four months and falling pregnant. It's fine and we got married but he probably wasn't quite ready for it all. He's a brilliant dad and supported my decision to go back to work even though no one else did. He struggles with it though as DC only wants him for playing and when the sun goes down treats DH like the devil and won't let him near either of us.

I know he earns enough as he can afford treats, shopping trips, we've just been approved for a £300l mortgage, he drives a new car etc. He's just not sure why I need to know what he earns.

DC has been in hospital all day so I've not had time to process what I'm going to say. I'm going to wait till Monday and ask for the results to be called through to me as soon as they come back. I'm not sure how to tell him either way.

As to me thinking sti's are a bit dirty I guess it's the way I was brought up. I used to get tested regularly as I struggled with finding a contraception that worked and they did a test each time I had a new pill or injection. Every time was clear till I stopped after being told I wouldn't ever have children in 2011. Then I did have a baby and I guess I didn't think about it. This test has made me worry so much about how I must have caught it in the last six years and don't know how. The odds of all three of us all having it with no symptoms must be massive but it's DC I feel sorry for most.

'traumatised because it's the first time he's seen down there'
Sorry op but I'm starting not to believe this thread...

What?! We'd only been together just over a year when we had the baby and only slept together twice in that time. He's a strict lights off man and locks the door in the shower so I've not seen him without his pants on either.

It's only because I've been breastfeeding 27mths that he's seen me topless and even then I'm discreet these days because of other family members who disagree with me feeding.

How did you manage to meet fall in love and have a baby without knowing anything about each other?

This is a very common test for IVF clinic in Athens. Google hidden c test SERUM clinic. All very normal and common according to them and for some the treatment leads to pregnancy

We fell in love instantly. The day I met him I fell in love. We got together in December and first slept together in the march. Due to a court case in April we didn't sleep together again and I found out I was pregnant the end of that month. We then moved in quickly and the baby was here before we knew it.

He's secretive about everything. I don't know what he earns, what relationships he's had, what his job involves. My job is housewife, mother and 9-3 teacher for 38 weeks a year!
You continue to sound unhealthily blinkered OP. And in my experience, no teaching job is 9-3. Meetings before and after school plus marking and prep...you must have a good one here

DC has been in hospital all day so I've not had time to process what I'm going to say.
Oh dear, you have got a lot going on . Was that a day off work for you or did dh step up and help out?

If your blood test is showing "antibodies" then it means you have been treated for it in the past.

Your body won't get rid of it without treatment.

@fritzdonovan due to leaving my previous teaching job to have a baby I have gone back as a supply bank teacher so I literally get paid by the hours I teach. Fantastic if I get a full day... not so great if I'm there all day and teach one lesson! I won't be a contracted subject teacher until September when space becomes available. So yes I work 8.40-2.50 (we have two lunch breaks of 20mins so we can finish early and avoid the next school finishing time at 3.20 because it causes problems).

No DH didn't take the day off because he works an hour away and had got the train yesterday. At the time we were sent to the hospital my first priority was to get home and sorted to get to the hospital rather than wait for his meeting to finish and then contact him before I left. I left him a message explaining what was happening and he called me as soon as he was finished. As I had the car he had no quick way to us and I said I would be fine. Which we were. Plus when my son is ill all he wants is me and like night times just tells everyone else, including his dad, to go away and cries till I get him. Not his fault just I'm the one with the milk and no one else (and no at 2yrs on I can't express because it's the comfort he needs more than the nutrition).

@toobloodytired I have never had treatment for chlamydia. I'd assume I'd have to physically be tested and know I was taking it. It's why I am shocked I have these blood results. The gp said as I have nothing on my medical history about being diagnosed or treated for an sti she can't say how long I have had it. She's waiting till my test results on Monday come back before doing anything as it's only an antibody test and not able to show the presence of an actual active infection. IF there's evidence of a current infection she will treat me then. However that would mean all three of us would need treating I'd guess because my son will have it too

This thread is really weird. I don't believe it.