Getting Ready For Baby Challenge Thread 5

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The fastest moving TTC thread where we are all trying to get ourselves ready for our bundles of joys. Come and join the madness.

Aww bless you confused. What set that off? I'm sure it's normal to have those kind of worries. You'll be a wonderful mother I'm sure. Also how you were parented is no indication of the type of parent you will be. We make our own choices.

How is everyone doing today? I am having a really stressy week. My boss is on hols and I am swamped with work. He's only been gone one day (nearly two thank god) and I am already struggling! Hurry up weekend!

Oh confused I'm so sorry that you are feeling sad. I think it's really natural to worry about those things and we all have hang ups (particularly where parents are concerned!) that we worry shape us too. I imagine between you and DH you will do a wonderful job but it's a learning curve as with most things My BFP due 16th (next thurs) but might test on 14th (12DPO) as it's my day off :)

Red you're so right! But it's so easy to obsess. Someone close to me was diagnosed with fluid in her fallopian tubes yesterday and will likely have to get them both removed :( So sad for her and I'm (I don't mean to make this all about me!!) worried now as she gets lots of watery cm and so do I. I know really irrational of me.. but this process doesn't do much to help and so easily to diagnose loads of fertility problems..

Oh Confused don't worry, I'm sure it's completely normal to be a bit overwhelmed right now! Just take care of yourself and try not to stress. I'm sure you'll be a wonderful mum.

My day is ok... just so bored at work! I said to my DH the other day that I just need to get pg already so I can go on mat leave and not have to put up with it any more haha!

God my last post makes me sound selfish. Obviously my friend was my first thought!

Jupiter, your poor friend, what an upsetting situation for her!

You don't sound selfish at all... it's only natural to worry if you've had similar symptoms, although try to give yourself a reality check as it's very unlikely that you have the same thing!!

You will be a fabulous mummy confused I do understand those feelings though, along with other things about coping, money etc.

I wonder if my ovaries are trying to pop an egg out. Low pelvic aching, right hip ache and lower back ache. Saying that, I do get a low pelvic ache after dtd when my cervix is open.

Can't believe I'm almost back in the TWW, but I'm not symptom spotting this time, Ovia is redundant this month

Thanks Penguin, totally agree need to give myself a reality check :) It's so sad and so unfair but IVF is still an option so fingers crossed.

When are you testing again parnsips? Hope your day improves!

mummy that all sounds very hopeful, I get all those symptoms when I'm ovulating. Can't believe we're both back in the 2ww either, definitely not using Ovia so much this month..

(Or you're nearly back in the 2ww mummy anyway)

I'll probably test again in the morning Jupiter. Another negative today but I don't think the tests are that sensitive and I only have the rubbish floody ones left. It does say they are effective from up to four days before AF so theoretically I'm in the timeframe. But anyway.

I feel a bit sick today but that is probably more to do with hectic workload. Still have really tingly boobs but could easily be PMS so I'm not counting my chickens just yet.

Might nip to pharmacy on way home to replenish stocks.

Aw sorry about your friend jupiter ... & you absolutely don't sound selfish, you're lovely, supportive & we're lucky to have you on the thread getting us through the ups and downs!

Hope your DH talked you down confused You can either get good examples from how you were raised, or if you had issues, you can say 'I'm not going to do that when i have kids' You'll be amazing! Regarding money, i think people just survive on what they have, of course you always need more but you'll be fine! I remember you saying you'd saved a brilliant baby fund! I have been re-doing some bills this month and trying to make some savings!

Oooh is that an early ov for you mummy ? Hope mine stays put for now, DH away for two days on a fishing trip!! Have DTD most days so far but hopefully ov more like end of the week/weekend.

Sorry for the BFNs parsnips Is there anyone in the UK that knows youre TTC who can poo some FRERs in the post!!

Ahahahs poo some FRER in the post i cannot stop laughing!! 😂😂😂😂😂

Thank you all so much for your kind words ladies! I cannot blame my mum she had undiagnosed depression for years and so the bad memories always cloud the good... i do also have a good baby fund but have credit cards etc that i should have really paid off first that would have made the whole thing seem better!!... i could use the baby fund to pay them but then i just think that i'm better off having cash in my pocket instead of needing to borrow for the big stuff like pram and crib etc and barely pay the bills whilst on mat pay!

Confused if it's any conciliation I'm feeling the same about money, trying desperately to pay my cards off I'll be 2/3rds or more of the way there when bubba arrives but it massively stresses me out.

Sorry you feel crappy confused, you will be a great mum!

Thanks hB - my DH is in London in a couple of weeks so he's going to pick some FRER for me if this isn't our month. It's grand I just need to be patient. Only a few days to go now!

Oh god... pop Obviously

Confused sorry to hear about your traumatic weekend. It's only natural to worry because you want the best for your little bundle of joy! I think 95% of people have credit cards with balances on..me being one of them. I'm trying my hardest to get them down..having put a lot of bits n bobs on there for the wedding and then I would've just got it cleared up and then have the honeymoon back on it but I'm hoping to get a little cash from the guests that can help go towards it 🤞🏼 I personally would clear them and start afresh (it's one less bill you've got overshadowing you) and just save like mad with the extra dosh you've got every month and you'll soon accumulate a good baby fund again. Have you been having a better day today?

I've done another OPK tonight and it was lighter than this morning.. I'm feeling out this month already 😔

Well the problem is they arnt a small amount... when i left my dickhead ex with the house i had to fully furnish a flat on one... then i put some of the wedding stuff on another etc etc... there is no way i could clear it all before the time bubbles arrives! ... i usually just pay about £150 a month off and just think of them like another bill but the guy at the bank was like its going to take you 5 years etc and now its playing on my mind!

Mummy can you dtd tonight? You will deffo not be out this month then!

Confused I think it's natural to have all those thoughts. I had a similar breakdown last week where I just didn't think I could do any of it. Exhaustion + hormones makes everything seem extra intense too. Hopefully things will seem brighter. Your little one is going to be so loved, and that's really the most important thing!

Mummy I thought you got a day or two after a positive? Not necessarily out! 💐

Confused is there someone you can talk to about planning and stuff? Maybe options to transfer to a card without interest on an offer? I'm sure it must be really stressful, but you will cope! 💐

Confused, www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about-us/how-we-provide-advice/advice/search-for-your-local-citizens-advice/ this may be some use....

confused and dancing I'll definitely be dtd tonight regardless how tired we both are 😂 I'm just having a negative feeling month

Mine aren't small amount either confused I've got £1400 on one and then I'm gonna go and put another £1500 on it on my birthday when honeymoon is due. It is what it is..even if you could get it down by a fair it it all helps doesn't it. Just my personal opinion, you do what works best for you girl 🙌🏼 credit cards are great until you wanna clear them off prior to an important event. You'll get there eventually tho Hun, just slight lifestyle adjustments and it'll all click into place. I used to pay £375 a month off mine a month just before xmas as I had another one that was from when I went abit mad shopping in America but you eventually get there. Money can always be earned at the end of day, you haven't always got the time and the memories can't always be made. Do it, enjoy every moment you can because it soon flies by that's for sure.

Confused exactly same boat had to but sbx out of my house and he left me up to my ears in it, been paying them off for 2 years now. Still got a lot to pay off but trying to clear as much as I can. I regularly have melt downs about it but can only do what I can do!

Buy not but lol