Getting Ready For Baby Challenge Thread 5

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The fastest moving TTC thread where we are all trying to get ourselves ready for our bundles of joys. Come and join the madness.

Oh god ladies I have an embarrassing problem!

Yesterday I felt a little uncomfortable in the downstairs area, a bit like when your knickers haven't been sitting straight. Today I woke up with a horrible lump on my vagina! Ahhh it's so uncomfortable and painful I'm trying not to freak out. Dr Google suggests is a Bartholins Cyst?! Has anyone ever experienced this? I really want to it go away so I don't have to deal with it any longer. I don't want to go to the GP! 🙈

mummy so nice to see you! 🙋🏽 you're so wise! Hope you're doing well ❤️
penguin sorry you've been baby bombed :( it'll be you soon!

jupiter how are you keeping it a secret?? I'm supposed to be seeing a friend on Friday for drinks and then a girls night on Saturday! Help!!

confused I will have a look at baby centre, thank you! I've not felt sick at all yet, fingers crossed

mrs 2nd May that's so exciting!! Eek!

I'm very impressed actually, especially after being worried that id never hear! I'm nervous about Saturday, presume will just be booking in but feel like I need to make a good impression, gonna have a major clean and I feel like I need to bake or something 😂

Oh no wiggly I've just googled it that looks so sore!! Hope it's not too painful! Don't be embarrassed going to GP I'm sure they've seen loads worse!

Ouch wiggly I have never had that but have had lumps from ingrown hairs that are incredibly painful! Anything in that region is ouchy, def go to the gp, mine told me before that looking at a vagina is the same as looking as a throat to her!

Luckily it's not as hideous as some of the Google pictures! It's only the size of a small pea but I'm terrified it could turn into something gross. AB is due any day which is even worse so if it's still hanging around after I will book in. Ohhhhh

Anyway lovely to hear about all the midwife meetings! I had a lovely baby dream last night, all squishy and cuddly!

Thanks for the kind words all. Jupiter, my work is just rubbish in general! It's frustrating because it's just the role I'm in that sucks; I hope know that it's a good place to work, I just need to put up with the crap until the next opportunity comes along.

I'm less upset about the baby bomb now... I spoke to DH and he told me to stop being silly, it won't be long til it's our turn. He's lovely

MrsC sorry you're a bit worried about the quality of care you might receive at the hospital ... but Dancing is probably right, it's probably not as bad as you expect. Maybe you could think about having a home birth if you'd feel comfortable doing that?

Laura omg the Maldives sounds heavenly, definitely a treat!!

Oh no Wiggley that sounds horrible! I would be straight on the phone to the GP though, it's probably nothing to worry about but better to know.

I haven't caught up completely yet but Grumpy I just want to say I'm also 30 (next week) and I am feeling the pressures generally of work. I took on a new job in November and have climbed the career ladder quite quickly and I often find myself not feeling cut out for it, I have no confidence in myself, think I am rubbish, etc. I'm looking into some confidence/leadership coaching to help me gain some confidence. I also find myself lacking in motivation a lot and working long hours! I used to have such a good work/life balance in my last job! Gym every morning, work at 8, leave at 4.30. I could have evening plans and not worry and now I feel under pressure when I make evening plans!

Also to add I have booked my holiday so now have 6 weeks to lose a stone :( Not going to happen is it.

wiggley are you sure it isn't an ingrowing hair?

Yes, I’d just have a chat with the midwife Dancing, as long as you don’t feel really unwell then probably can wait.

Don’t worry confused, not everyone gets nausea - you’re fine :)

MrsC so happy you have your scan date. The wait must feel unbearable but it will come round… can’t wait to hear all about it!

Ohh Wiggley what is the lump like? I have had a sort of spot on my labia before (a bit like a pimple would be on your face) and I just squeezed it and puss came out (sorry for grossing you all out) and then it sorted itself out. Does it feel pop-able? Or is it hard?

buzz I don’t know how I’m keeping it a secret Think I’m naturally a bit anxious when it comes to health and things so I’m really scared something bad will happen. I hope those feelings subside by about 6 weeks and then I’ll feel more confident telling other people. Once I start though I won’t stop and the whole world will know. So excited for you still, any more thoughts on the wedding dress? Love your need to be domesticated for the midwife. You can go all stepford wife and have cookies in the oven and an immaculate house… or just be your lovely self.

Penguin your DH is right, it will be your turn soon It’s so difficult with work problems.. I’ve felt the same for the last 6 months. TTC has been a good distraction but in some ways has made work harder as it’s taken away a lot of my focus on my career which has made me not enjoy the role. I don’t hate it but faced with a lot of budget cuts which makes it emotionally draining. Being pregnant has improved this of course as the end is in sight (even temporarily) but also don’t want to go on maternity leave still feeling unsettled in my job. Hopefully things will improve for us both.

cocktails you can lose a lot in 6 weeks, at least half a stone maybe? Am sure you look great. Yay for the holiday though!

jupiter everything will be absolutely fine, you don't need to worry :) you're nearly there! I'm thinking lace up will be a good plan if it doesn't do up 👍🏽
I'm actually really nervous about telling my mum 😔 I just don't know how to even say it ! I know she'll be disappointed that it's happened now and not after the wedding. I'm just petrified of the whole conversation 😔 also should I wait to tell her too? 12 weeks feels like ages away

cocktails are you on a particular diet? We can keep you motivated!

wiggly I get folliculitis all the time! Got this fab cream from the gp called fucidic (omg that just autocorrected to GoDucksGo what the hell!!) acid and it clears up within like a day! Is super painful otherwise :(

Wiggley I know exactly what you mean..I've had with MrsC has had and boy are they painful. I've also had it when I've changed shower gels and maybe used something abit too rich down there..hurts like a mother tho but if you put some sudocrem on it and try not to wear any underwear that's too tight it'll go down within a couple of days. DTD is off bounds for then haha!

Oh and thanks penguin I'm hoping it'll be nice. We're not going in ideal weather (December to March) is there best time but because I didn't want to wait until 6 months after the wedding for our honeymoon because I wanna get straight down to business with TTC we just booked it in June. I've read a lot of forums that said they went in June and it was perfect sunshine everyday all day and I've read some people have been in January and it's chucked it down so just pot luck I spose (autocorrected to pornhub..wtf?! 😂) I'm expecting a little bit of rain just not too much hopefully!

Yes that's exactly what is like! Feels hard but also squeezable. Tried some major contortionist moves and can't see a head on it (gross).

Buzz I'm sure it won't be as hard as you think to tell your mum. Will it be her first grandchild?! I know what you mean though, I would be nervous too. Could you break the news in a different kind of way to make it more lighthearted? Perhaps a "only the best mums get promoted to grandma" mug?!

Who was it on here that bought the labels for wine bottles? They were great!

Cocktails my dress fitting is in 5 weeks and I need to get a move on or I'll weep as she's measuring me! We can do this together!

Wiggley I have had that too and you just have to wait till it's ready to pop (sorry). I think because I get waxed down there it doesn't help!

Buzz aww I bet your mum will be super excited once you tell her though, don't worry! I'm so excited to tell my MIL and mum when I get my BFP..

Cocktails thanks yes the struggle is real! I know what it's like to doubt yourself at every turn., but I like that advert for This Girl Can - bit of an analogy stretch but you're still lapping everyone on the couch!

Well I just got home from a 4 hour dinner with some industry people.. literally me and 5 guys.. I'm small talked out! Luckily my dinner tomorrow got cancelled and I'm now seeing some old girlfriends instead and will still be home in time to see DD! Yay! Also will definitely be a bit hungover tomorrow. I hope my potential fertilised egg won't hold it against me! 3dpo tomorrow

Hehehehe @ fucidic 😂

Buzz why don't you tell her you've had to add an extra person to the table plan and then tell her it's her grandchild? That will be cute. I bought wine labels to tell our family (they say "guess what" and then have two little baby feet and say "Baby XXX is on the way" and I've got a little baby grow with "hello daddy - I can't wait to meet you" printed on it for DH.

For parents I'm going to give them the wine wrapped in a bag and then asked them to check it's the one they like or whatever so they look at the label.

Don't worry buzz I'm sure she will be grand - might just take a minute to get her head round it but if you present it positively I'm sure she'll be positive too!

Morning all! I'm liking the autocorrect fails

Sorry your work situation is difficult too Jupiter, hope you have a good day today.

Buzz I'm sure your mum will be delighted to find out that she's going to be a grandma!

Grumpy, it sounds like our cycles are still quite similar ... I'm not sure if or when ov happened for me, but Ovia says I'm on CD21 and my fw ended on Sunday, so I guess that would make me 3dpo? It says AF due 31st. Is that the same as yours?

Penguin I'm CD18 now and my FW also ended on Sunday (when I think I ovulated). But Ovia has me on a 33 day cycle so doesn't expect AF until 7 April
I'll be testing on 31st march though as that's 12DPO! We can be POAS buddies

How's the lump this morning Wiggley, maybe press something warm on it as I think that helps fluid be reabsorbed..I'm thinking a hot flannel before you ask :)

buzz thanks for the lovely words. I am sure your Mum will be thrilled. If she starts worrying about the wedding just play down any anxieties, mention the dress alterations idea and just appear really relaxed about it. That will soothe her. Ultimately it's going to be fine and she will realise that after the initial surprise.

Have a lovely time with your friends tonight grumpy, I had three glasses of wine when I was 3dpo and felt very guilty but all good so far :) Enjoy!

Love your wine labels parsnips, they were fab!

So what's the schedule with testers.. Hb this weekend, grumpy and penguin next week? Love the POAS mornings..

It looks like grumpy and I will be testing on Friday next week if I can hold out that long

Morning Gals!

Parsnips That's a SUPER cute way for Buzz to tell her mum! I vote for that 🙋🏻

Ahhhhhh I'm so nervous about testing... slept so badly last night! I'm really not feeling it, i have next to no symptoms this week (after a complete overload last week)

Thanks for the lovely replies everyone, you're all so great ❤️ and great ideas too!

I second putting something hot on it wiggly I was told to boil water and soak cotton pads, and press them on when they've cooled slightly so it's bearable.

Sooooo excited about the testers! hb when are you due?

Hb I am so excited for you!! I had far less symptoms this month than any before so maybe take it as a good sign :) In fact sleeping badly might be a symptom itself!

penguin hope the rest of the 2ww flies by, will have everything crossed for you and grumpy. I think holding out until 12dpo was the best thing I did this month as find the whole squinter thing really stressful.