TTC - First Time! (2)

[mrsjkerry]

Hi all. Reconvene here!

Confused I imagine that was a tough decision but I admire you for it. I'm not sure I could do the same.

Thank you twisted that's really nice of you. It feels sad as I am ready now. Stopped the pill etc.

BUT with the opportunities that opened up last week for DH and the other rings we need to consider I think it's the right choice. This way a baby will hopefully be born into our family home and we will be better off financially. And it's only three more months so not too long. It seems silly to be emotional about three or four months but I do feel sad.

I will use the time to eat well and take the vitamins. Can I still stay on here? I love reading about everyone's progress!

Glad you're feeling a bit better @Twistedsister7. I hope this doesn't sound awful, but what I can't stand is people who pop out loads of (unplanned) kids by five different dads then moan they have no money!

Hi @StaceyRavis. I've heard stories of people getting pregnant just after stopping the pill! I stopped two months ago now after nearly 12 yrs on the pill. We are just coming up to the end of cycle 2, so I can't offer a personal story yet, but I think everyone is different. My GP said that you should give your body three months to 'adjust' though. I had crazy mood swings and cramping in the first month off the pill, but thankfully things have been much more settled this month. Who knows if AF will show her face tomorrow though! I have no cramps today, but have given in to sugar, salt and fat cravings and have eaten really badly all weekend, so we will see!

@ConfusedWannaBeMum you can definitely stay on here! Sounds like you have made the right decision for you and DH

Ahh bless you twisted I understand exactly how you feel . It's so, so hard isn't it! Everyone else seems to just look at their DH/OH to fall pregnant, whereas here we are, 6 months of bloody military planning, and still desperately waiting for those BFPs! My DH is the same as yours too, keeping an optimistic look on things and saying "it will happen for us" - I know all too well it's hard to believe that at times though! I'll try to channel a bit of that positivity for you though and remind you that the best things in life are worth waiting for... let's just hope we don't have to wait much longer hey .

Confused that must have been a hard decision to make! But if it's the best decision for you and your DH, then ultimately it will have been the best decision for your future DC . Definitely do stick around on here!

Ttcnovice it will be our turn soon!!! I'm going to try to relax a little. I am incredibly stressed out at the moment workwise so that won't be helping and I need to take care of myself better!!

Hey girlies, sorry to see a couple of you are feeling down, I can totally empathise today, I'm under a huge dark cloud 😣
Enjoyed the baby shower yesterday, it was lovely and I even felt a little kick on my hand which I thought would break my heart but actually made me feel so much love for my friend, and excited for her! Also found out another (not close) friend who was there is 14 wks. She got married last year but didn't want to try immediately, then decided to try this year, came off the pill around New Year and boom, caught first cycle 😳 like literally, how the fuck does that just happen for people?? I was happy for her as well of course but she was moaning all day about feeling tired etc and I felt like rolling my eyes 😒 obviously everyone talked babies allllllll day which was lovely and I had a few "when are you gonna have one then, come on you've been married 7 months!" my poor best friend (who knows everything) was cringing for me and I couldn't look at her 🙈 she was trying to change the subject but all eyes were on me and I was like "oh god knows, I'm happy with my wine at the mo!" Oh and we all laughed and laughed and I did NOT feel like laughing. But I did drink my wine and have a horrible hangover today. Argued with hubs coz he was annoyed I stayed out so late (he's not a control freak but I did go a bit ott, spent a bomb, my phone died and I slept at my sister's without telling him so he was right to be annoyed) now we are not talking right now, my head is throbbing and I'm feeling generally shitty. I would have been 12 weeks this weekend and was looking forward to the baby shower to tell my pregnant friend (afterwards, didn't want to steal her thunder). So yeah. My positivity isn't so strong today. Also no sign of af and no idea when it's gonna arrive. God I've been in limbo with one thing or another for ages 😡 sorry to be depressing but a bit like twisted I just feel really down xxx

No AF this morning, but BFN using FMU! Guess AF is going to be late. This whole process is frustrating me, and it has only been two months...

Oh you poor love @MistyBxx. I would never ask another woman (unless they were a very close friend and we were discussing the following anyway!) when she was planning on having a baby, esp at a baby shower! It's nobody's business. How are you feeling today? Xx

@Twistedsister7 I am sorry you felt so down but glad you feel a little better. I know it's so cliche but we just gotta or patient. I have endometriosis and every time I go on a board and see someone else with that got pregnant my heart breaks but I am also filled with joy for them as I know how hard it is.

@mistybxx I hope you are feeling a little better, it's so hard when people just ask "when are you gonna have a baby then" like just hold on, let me pop into Tesco and buy one...eyeroll

I'm having a bit of a rough time. My 2 years wedding anniversary is coming up in a few months and it's just depressing me as I thought by now we'd have a toddler. I only went on bc because we couldn't conceive and my endo was so bad, but what if I wasted all those months? Yes my endo is much better now I hardly have any pain but what if I missed my chance? My best friend had a baby last month, her sister in law had one last week and her actual sister just found out she's pregnant with her 4th; I am so happy for them and I LOVE my best friends baby, I even helped her pick out the name but part of me is really struggling with it. To make matters worst my stepmother touched my belly the other day and asked if I was pregnant, I had to tell her no I just put on weight, I felt so shitty I just wanted to cry. And this morning I dreamt I had the most beautiful baby girl, and we loved her so much and then I woke up and tried to go back to sleep just to see her again. I feel like I'm going mad.

AF is due tomorrow and I'm dreading getting out of bed in case she came early. Anyway sorry for the rant ladies, I'm just having a rough time x

Hey girlies, I'm feeling a little better today. Hubs has calmed down and my hangover has gone. Back to normal.
It seems a few of us are having a bit of a miserable time right now. It's not great is it. Surrounded by babies and pg ladies, although probably no more than normal, just we notice it more right now!
I would have been 12 weeks now and probably going for my proper scan this week. Feels like forever ago when I took the test and got my bfp! Another life ago 😳 I'm finding it hard to let go of the milestones and dates. I will be fine for a few days then the what ifs will appear. My due date was November and I'm just praying I'm pregnant by then. I know it's a while off and anything can happen but time goes fast, I'm into my 8th month since my wedding now!! It's horrible when people ask 😳
Really hope we all get some good news soon, I think we all need a bit of a boost.xxx

Sorry to hear of everyone feeling down at the moment . Who is testing again soon? Let's hope for some good news on here to cheer us all back up! Sending positive thoughts to everyone (and desperately trying to have them myself!) .

Hello! Sorry I've been AWOL, was away with DP for a few days, was lovely!

Sorry to hear a lot of you are feeling a bit down. Are you feeling better now? It's such an emotional rollercoaster all this.

I have nothing exciting to report; am on CD22 or thereabouts, and AF will rock up in a few days if last cycle is anything to go by, or another week or so if going by the cycle before! No symptoms of anything, and not expecting any either!

Guys I'm out!! AF is here!!

But despite my emotions earlier in the week I actually don't feel too bad. I joined a gym & treated myself to new gym clothes. Time to take care of me & hopefully it will help!

I'm sorry some of you are also feeling so down & hope things improve soon!

Ah no sorry Twisted glad you aren't feeling too bad about it though! Do you think allowing yourself some time to feel down earlier on this week helped? I'm going to take a leaf out of your book with the looking after yourself more I think, feel free to send some of your motivation over this way .

Hi Pibbee glad you had a lovely few days away, bet that's made the 2ww go a bit quicker for you!

Not much to report from me either. I'm 7DPO (if I ovulated on the day I think due to ewcm and pains) and I have had stitch like pains today, but I had that around this time last month too so I'm not holding out much hope!

Hey @ttc I think I am 7dpo too and I have had slight stitch pains today also. Really mild pains on my left hand side. No idea what it means if anything....Have yours been like that too?

Sorry about AF @Twisted but good to hear you are feeling OK about it. PMA and all that! I so need new gym stuff, and I even more need to get back into the gym!!!

Pibbee mine are on the left too! They've been mild mostly but every now and then I get quite an intense sharp pain for a second or two. Strange!

Yeah same @ttc! They are sort of half way between my hip bone and my belly button, but a bit closer to hip bone (hope this is making some vague sense?!). No idea if they mean anything or if its just that I notice anything and everything these days! Fingers crossed.....

Still no AF and still BFN! Fed up, as my cycle is clearly messed up. Arrrgh.

Hi all 👋🏻
Been to the docs this morning and they've said there's traces of Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and Endometriosis so I have to have further blood tests and a consultation with a gynecologist to see what the next steps are and possible treatment. Due to irregular and heavy periods it may have an impact on conceiving as I'll not be ovulating "normally" but we'll have to see what happens in the future. Doctor said it's good that I've got time on my hands thought as I'm only 25 (I love that she said I'm ONLY 25, get in! Lol)
I'd sort of self diagnosed this via google so I'm off to be a GP now hahahaha.
Bawled my eyes out to the OH when we got out of the doctors, he came in with me and held my hand as he knew how nervous he was. Bless him, he said to me last night that no matter what they said we would still be a couple.
Looks like everyone is down in the dumps at the moment, sending hugs to everyone 💐 xxx

@littlemma1, glad you have some answers, but I can understand your tears. Bless you. I wish I was still 25!
I'm so frustrated. Two chin spots, sore boobs but no other AF symptoms, but very very negative pg tests! Why are our bodies so complicated?!

emma glad you finally got some answers! You must feel relieved to know what's going on but of course it's only natural to feel upset too! Wishing you a positive appointment with the gynaecologist to figure out your treatment xxx

I am relieved to finally have answers yes, just wish I didn't need any!
I'm just so worried that it's going to be so hard to TTC, as we all know on here it's not the walk in the park that they tell you in school so I feel like anything that could hinder it is going to make everything so much harder. I feel like the emotional side of things is going to be the hardest, as you all know, the build up every month and just not knowing what's going on with my body in general! Think I'm also going to join the PCOS thread on here for extra support if needs be.
OH and I are now talking about taking things seriously and trying because if it's going to take a while then I need time on my side!
@flatwhite, some people look at you crazy when you say you're 25 and aren't married with kids but it is still young in the whole grand scheme of things! you never know, could just be taking a while for your HCG to build up! Xx