TTC - First Time! (2)

[mrsjkerry]

Hi all. Reconvene here!

Hi Misty glad you're doing okay! You sound so positive about things, you're doing so well with everything you've been through! Hope the cycle after next is the one for you xxx

Jelly your fall sounds awful it's good that you didn't break anything, but I bet you've been really sore! I'd say your OPK sounds like it's still positive, so I'd give it another go tonight if you can manage it... take things easy though Mr Jelly!!

Jelly I hope you're not too bruised!!

I have to get cheap OPKs as I just can't help myself but test repeatedly!! Despite this I think I might have missed O as now lines are even fainter plus symptoms suggest O such as right sided pain & an increase in ewcm!!Ovia recalculated based on symptoms but still dtd 3 times in fw even withrevalculation. Not great but it is something!!

Anyone else soon to start tww with me?

Misty you are a complete pillar of strength!! I don't know what else to say! Your pregnancy was real, your BFP is proof of that!

Fx you can get back on track ttc asap! xx

@JellyBean89 you poor thing! That sounds awful! I'm now on 2ww. I have a feeling this won't be our month though, as I think I may have ovulated early. Didn't want to do OPKs on honeymoon, but will use them next month if need be. I definitely felt more ovulation signs this month though, the main one being a massively increased sex drive, haha! I've also been drinking, having caffeine etc as I didn't want any restrictions while on honeymoon! As you can see from the photo, our last hotel in Napa is opposite a vineyard!

@MistyBxx they tell you to wait as it's hard from them to date a pregnancy if you fall before your next period, that is the only reason so no idea why she was being so scary about it!!

Hello all. I am so annoyed. DP reckons he was too tired to finish DTD this morning, which I am really pissed off about as we agreed last night to wake up early for exactly that (this is a romantic household ). He just doesn't seem to get the fact that there's only a few days a month, and he's telling me to relax and stop pressuring him - which I am not at all this month, but he asked me straight out last night if it's the right time - and whilst my new plan is to not announce when its the good days, I'm not gonna lie to him and say no it's not either. So we had this big stupid argument this morning. Humph.

Anyway, we did DTD on Monday which was a flashing smily day, that one will count won't it? Seeking reassurance here ha.

Why is this all so stressful!? I really think they should be more honest with us at school about all of this rather than just telling us if we so much as look at a willy we will end up up the duff!

@MistyBxx I honestly admire your positivity and strength. Hopefully it won't be too long until you can start TTC again xx

@Flatwhite sounds like you're having fun on your honeymoon. It looks lovely! fx you ovulated at the right time and have a honeymoon pregnancy x

Anyway sorry for the 'poor me' post there! @Jelly that fall sounds nasty! How are you doing today?

@Flatwhite I am so jealous your pics look amazing! Yeah sod the opks on holiday, good to give yourself a break from all that madness!

@Twisted so do you think you are ovulating now? 3 times in FW sounds pretty decent to me!

@Misty glad to see you are doing OK in the circa. So are you gonna wait until next AF or you getting back on the horse (so to speak) earlier?

@ttcnovice did you get a solid smily this morning or still flashing? I am avoiding peeing on sticks today as i just do not wanna know as I'll only get riled up again...

@Pibbee that sounds so annoying. I don't know how the flashy smiles work but from what I've read sperm can live up to 5 days when inside you so hopefully Monday will count x

Yeah I hope so @Jelly. I'm only on CD10 so I'd be surprised if I've ovulated already anyway. I sometimes wonder if he even wants this kid although he says he does and I do believe him. It's just a PITA.

Tmi alert - I had ewcm yesterday early evening and so my latest theory is that Monday mornings DTD will count, because if there was enough in there yesterday to come out (ewww sorry)then there must have been some there Monday too?!

Oh and @Jelly- flashing smily means high fertility. Solid smily comes after that and means peak fertility. But who knows as all the CB ones do is detect the surge in hormones, which is no guarantee that Ov will actually occur of course. Also I was reading something last night which said the sperm have to go through some kind of process (capacitation or something) which takes around 10 hours, and so it may be the case that DTD on ov day is not as good as I'd previously thought, as by the time they have finished doing their thing the egg might have gone. Or words to that effect.

Why are our bodies not better designed to get this done!?

Pibbee your DTD efforts on Monday will definitely have you in with a chance don't worry! Do you think you can make up with DP tonight so you can fit another try in? I'm going to read up on that sperm process you've just mentioned - I love an excuse to do some research when I'm supposed to be working . I had the flashing smiley again today so will see what happens tomorrow. Still feel like it's too early for a peak but the first month I used these CB's I did get it on CD12 so you never know I suppose!

Pibbee and any others who notice EWCM... can I ask a question please? Might be a little TMI even for this thread . How can you tell the difference between possible CM and leftover semen? I had some 'stuff' on wiping this morning but I'm not sure which out of the two it was! It seemed colourless and wasn't sticky which made me think maybe ewcm, but maybe semen changes after it's been inside all night? Those in the know please educate me ha!

Ttc I've wondered that myself!! I think ewcm is really clear whereas the semen is not quite so clear

I'm pretty sure I'm now in the tww as OPKs getting fainter. I must have missed a positive in the night sometime!

Fx my 3 days counts for something as I'm really getting down about it now. They really should be more honest when teaching sex-ed in schools!!

No such thing as tmi on here!!! That's why this thread is so good! I can't talk about any of this to anyone as no one knows we are TTC!

Anyway, my understanding is that if it's the stretchy stuff then it's ewcm and if it's not stretchy/jellylike (NICE!) it's either normal cm or boy stuff.

But I am by no means an expert!!!!

Thanks Twisted and Pibbee - the things we talk about on here hey . I think I'll go with it being ewcm in that case as it was definitely colourless and quite 'loose' rather than being jelly-like/solid.

Twisted 3 days in the fw is definitely enough, don't worry! It's better to have the sperm there waiting for the egg anyway, so DTD before ovulation will always be better than afterwards!

Thanks for the reassurances both!! This thread is ace!!

Just watching OBEM and thought of you all! Love this show!

@JellyBean89 My implant was in my arm - it hurt coming out a lot more than you would expect seeing as it is quite little! Horrible about your fall! Hope you are recovering well x

AF lasted 4/5 days for me which was a nice change from the 10 days I would have with the implant in. Fingers crossed this is the start of a normal cycle and I ovulate, quite excited about the thought 😄

I can't believe it's the middle of April already. Where has this year gone?! I got a promotion yesterday 😄

Is anyone testing soon?

Sorry ladies just catching up! Seems like everyone seems to be syncing hehe!! Hope you're ok after your fall jelly xx

Sorry can't remember who replied to misty, but that's quite helpful to know that that's why! When I went for my confirmation scan, we did ask if we could just carry on as normal and the midwife said yeah, because the scan has shown everything is clear it's fine and safe to just carry on.

So my AF finished at the end of last week so think I might now be reaching my FW. Haven't ever used OPKs or anything like that, we've decided to just go with the flow for the next couple of months and then get serious if nothing happens in that time. Don't quite know how to use them tbh!

Good luck to everyone dtd-ing! Lots of energy and baby dust all around!

Xxx

Millie congrats on promotion!

Girls I'm so pleased I stumbled across this thread!
I often wonder all of these things too!
@pibbee I love your description of "boy stuff"
Still no AF for me. CD 55 and counting. Just hoping I get some answers on Tuesday when I go for the ultrasound. As I haven't had a period in so long, the OH and I have adopted a "f**k it, let's just ride the horse properly instead of getting off at the last hurdle" approach and we'll just see what happens. I'm pretty sure there's no chance I'll end up pregnant when my bloody cycle can't decide what it's doing but it would be amazing if it did happen nonetheless! Xx

Hey girlies,
Well I've been pretty good recently, but I got well and truly baby bombed this morning 😳 now I've never been one to envy pregnant ladies AT ALL, it's never been on my radar, when ttc, I've been over the moon hearing of others around me growing new humans, and even since my mc, there's been various friend's baby announcements on fb and I've not batted an eyelid, but this morning... 😳 I had a last min coffee date with a couple of (not overly close but lovely) buddies who I haven't seen in 7 months, myself and one of them got married within a month of eachother, was looking forward to seeing them, in I walked and up she stood, absolutely blooming with a big 20 week bump! I was in such shock, my face dropped and I felt myself go white! I checked myself quickly and was like omg WOW like this is amazing! And it IS amazing, I'm genuinely happy for her, she's 4 yrs older than me at 37 and over the last couple of years we've briefly discussed children but she's never seemed fussed, it's always been me saying I'm gonna go for it etc, and I honestly don't know what came over me, my stomach just dropped, I had to sit down! They didn't notice, it was such a muddle of hugs and congrats and haven't seen you in so longs, I got away with it! It was only a short catch-up and she said coz of her age she was worried and expected to have troubles but just came off bc and boom, honeymoon baby. I really am so pleased for her, I know how hard ttc can be and I'm glad as she's a little older she hasn't had to stress like I have but I can't believe how I felt, I went home and cried my eyes out, mostly out of guilt for feeling so bad! I haven't cried like that in a couple of weeks now, and it made me realise that I'm actually not ready to go back to work and I'm off for a few more weeks for a reason. The physical side may be over but I'm obviously not as emotionally strong as I thought.
On the other hand, hubs has shaved his beard off today (I've been nagging him for weeks) and came out of the shower earlier looking and smelling like a GOD and I had to pounce on him 😂 so I'm casually dtd as and when I feel, sod protection lol and will start tracking properly after next period xx

Hey Misty, I totally get you and haven't been through what you have.
I'm desperately broody at the moment, and anytime I hear someone else is pregnant I try my best to be happy for them but it's sometimes so hard!
Everyone around me is either getting engaged or announcing they're pregnant and I'm so envious of them (even though I know I have it all to come, and probably not that far off either!) and it makes me feel like such a bad person.
I have found that it has tipped me over the edge and brought on the tears, but for me I think it's mainly the impatience in me but I can totally understand your reasons! Xx

Hi all....well DP seems to have taken my ranting seriously this time as an impromptu DTD just occurred (hurrah!!!!)! Peed on a stick earlier (his request!) And it was a flashing smily, which means baby-making time but not peak baby-making time. All good!

I'm so glad he seems to have listened cos it was really starting to do my head in. Hopefully this will continue now! Am thinking a mega-strop was needed really. He is totally on board with the whole thing and hopefully he gets it a bit more now and understands that it's not a case of getting knocked up whenever the mood takes you - it's called trying to conceive for a reason dammit!

So if nothing else I think we can finally say that we've had a pretty good bash at it this time. Am happy with that!