Never realised how complex TTC could be...

[Willow25]

Hi MN,
I'm a bit new to all of this. Hubby and I decided to come off the pill in November and I tried to start off a bit casual as I know it's important not to over think it and get obsessed. We're still enjoying trying anyway
I enjoy reading through the threads on here but I never realised how much there was to it!! Is anyone else just dtd regularly and hoping for the best? I use an app to try and keep track roughly of what's going on, but I just can't quite get my head around all the technical speak on these threads... do I need to be studying up now?

I had my coil out at the end of November. Didn't DTD at all in December due to night shifts-norovirus-antibiotics-cold.

DTD four times at start of January (when my app said I'd be ovulating. Came on mid-January) (bang on schedule).

DTD as "normal" last month. No particular tracking but just every couple of days as we felt like it.

Got BFP last Monday. Shagging works

I came off the pill 6 months ago and so far nothing. I didn't realise how much was involved either. So much for school teaching you one forgetful mistake and your life will be changed forever

Me too

Had implant out last summer and just shagged for a while (although not much shagging due to busy work schedules).

Start of this year decided to try a bit harder and monitor ovulation.

DTD on Saturday 11th (when I think I was fertile). Been feeling sick and sore boobs last few days. Done 2 tests both negative.

It all feels very complicated

I'm with you on this Willow. Apart from keeping an eye on where I am in my cycle & knowing when my fertile time is & we dtd around then! I'm on cycle 6 of ttc now. I fell easily with my first 2 DS's so hopeful it'll work again. That said if we go another few months & nothing then I might start OPKs/temps I've been reading about on here.

Hi,

I think that provided there are no underlying issues then so long as you have regular sex then at some point it'll happen. For some of us it happens super quickly but for some it takes a whole lot longer. When we started TTC our DD I got obsessed with temping, ovulation tests etc and it took us years to conceive. I look back now and think I put too much pressure on DH and I. I've been pregnant twice since having DD although both have sadly ended in a loss, but both times I haven't been doing anything more scientific that DTD every few days.

Now we're TTC again I find I'm becoming obsessed again and am doing ovulation tests etc but actually writing this has made me think 'what on earth am I doing?'. I think I need to chuck out the ovulation tests and stop the obsessing and just go back to DTD regularly and hopefully it'll then happen.

Good luck! X

I know what you mean, but you don't have to stress yourself out if detailed tracking isn't got you. There's a long running thread (link below) called 'just shagging' for those who are taking a more stress free approach to ttc!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2796204-Lights-twinkle-its-icy-cold-outside-tis-the-season-of-Yuletide-come-and-join-us-yes-you-For-this-is-JS62

Aww good luck everyone! I know it's different for everybody. I want to give us the best possible chance but also feel like I don't know where to start with half of the things discussed e.g temping.. but yeah I don't want to get too carried away either because I know it'll make it all the more difficult every month that AF continues to appear. Exciting times though!

We can't be bothered to DTD all the time (we are so busy!) so knowing when we should seems like the best plan for us

But yes, it is rather complicated, i didn't quite know how complicated until i joined MN!

Hi! I'm in my first cycle ttc, so I'm also taking a natural and relaxed approach... Although I can already feel myself starting to symptom spot and think about when O is likely etc.

Fingers crossed for you!

Tell me about it. I have about 4 different signs telling me I've ovulate but my Temps aren't up yet so might not have! Grrrr
After all those years of trying not to get pregnant as well thinking it would be easy! Lol

With both my pregnancies (currently 28 weeks with no 2) we pretty much dtd every 2-3 days rather than concentrating on doing it during the fertile window. Fell pregnant with baby no 1 after 7 months and it took 5 months to fall pregnant with baby no 2.

It's so good speaking to people about their experiences. I'm just so impatient! month four is early days so going to keep enjoying the act of trying whilst educating myself on here in case I end up feeling the need to do more than "just shagging" lol!

Ahh welcome Penguin27, exciting times!! And massive congrats on #2 Jennymac31 thanks for sharing your experiences, it's so helpful