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duchesse · 19/02/2007 14:19

I'm imaging this one as more of an Eeyore stick hut type thing. Maybe Eeyore is actually still in residence.

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seaside72 · 13/03/2007 16:50

BTW - Crypto totally know what you mean about the six week wait now - I had a little cry yesterday about the fact that I will no not have a baby this year - theres just no chance - so it just feels like time is slipping away - I know it is stupid in the scheme of things but it seems to be these little milestones that really do me in and the constant thinking nine months in the future - pointlessly!! [frustrated emoticon]!!!

seaside72 · 13/03/2007 16:57

LOL duchesse - - not that desperate yet but who knows in a few months time!!! (might totally lose my marbles and head off in search of my embarassing secret crush - Joshua Jackson - shh don't tell anyone - all my frends make fun of me about it already - but hey he is much younger and hopefully virile!! )

Impatience - I know it is good in theory and last month DH and I agreed we would not disuss my days but then this month came around and a flurry of pg announcements and visits to new babies and he was being so enthusiastic and supportive that he said lets make a plan to really go for it this month - when should we focus on and of course I told him - duh - faker - should have lied I guess. Next month will definitely be trying to lie and cheat my way through it and wil not let out the true CD even under duress!

lissielou · 13/03/2007 17:01

i like joshua jackson too. and shayne ward. but i doubt even they could get me knocked up enough

londonlottie · 13/03/2007 17:08

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duchesse · 13/03/2007 17:24

How about reverse psychology and telling him you're never having sex with him ever again? You've got a six week wait to get him in the mood. hehe

Or tell him you're going to take a lover unless...erm, that one might backfire actually, now I come to think about it properly, if he already has performance anxiety, poor guy.

Or jumping on him every night to get him in the habit?

I suspect that not very deep down he is terrified of making a long-lasting irreversible change to his life deliberately. I fear the only way forwards is stealth.

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Cryptonomicon · 13/03/2007 17:24

I know Lottie, I have that too. We tried the tack of me not telling him when was the right time but it always seems to fall on weekdays when we are knackered so it never seemed to happen naturally at the right times and then cue me sobbing myself to sleep next to him.

Bah, you know that we should all have affairs, pissed out of our heads up against some alley wall and then we would get knocked up straight away

seaside72 · 13/03/2007 17:27

Yay lissie - another JJ fan - ohh how I miss Dawsons Creek - The OC is just not the same!

Lottie - I know - its the fear and desperation. Its so hard beacuse for the first 9 months of TTC we didn't have this problem and my DH and I really are best friends and talk about everything so it is really hard to hide anything especially how I am feeling

MrsMcJnr · 13/03/2007 17:38

Thank you all for thinking about me.

Latenightowl ? that was an amazing post and I felt empathy with so much of what you write, thank you for sharing it.

Can I share the poem I wrote today for my poor lost baby? Somehow made me feel calmer:

How we?ll Miss You

We never quite met you, but knew you were there
exquisite and matchless, not one of a pair.
You were tiny and fragile but meant so very much
it shreds our hearts that we?ll never feel your touch.
How can we go on without you? why should we even try?
we?ve lost our angel, why baby, did you die?

We set out to create you with all that we are,
blended our beings to create a new star.
We couldn?t wait to hold you, to sniff your soft hair
to love you and nurture you in a life without care.
We longed for your laughter, the smiles on your face
we can?t believe that you?ve gone, left no physical trace.

We shall never forget you; you?ll live in our hearts
we know time is a healer and there?ll be fresh starts.
Our lives are now different, changed by your being,
though we trust your soul to him all seeing.
Your brothers and sisters will hear of your plight
they?ll know that we pray for you each day and night.

When we learnt you were coming we rejoiced with such bliss
we never imagined, we?d lose you like this.
You were our little cherub, our own secret smile,
our joy, our salvation for a short, tender while.
We thought about the future and gave you a name
excitement and anticipation will never feel the same.

We pondered your childhood, your future, your looks
and the thrill of sharing beloved rhymes and books.
We longed to see your heart beat, to know you were fine
we never heard or saw it; a foreboding sign.
We spoke to you endlessly and prayed that you?d grow
and you did and we celebrated; too soon I know.

When we started to lose you, we cried through the night
we just couldn?t bear it, our dear little mite.
The pain was immense, the blood brilliant and thick
and all the while, we hoped that you?d stick
but you just couldn?t make it and cruelly you died
and a tomb was created eternally inside.

We?ll think of you often as we live through the days
we?ll see you in sunshine as you play on her rays.
Though the pain is immeasurable and the loss so severe
just knowing you briefly was worth every tear.
You chose us as parents though short was your stay
and you?ve taught us to love in a whole different way.

Goodbye our little one, may your soul quietly rest
may archangels protect you their heavenly best
may the Lord love and protect you, keep you safe from every foe
and we?ll try to feel better but there?s so far to go.

northerner · 13/03/2007 17:45

Mrsmcjnr that is such a moving poem.

I am vsery sorry for your loss

xx

lissielou · 13/03/2007 17:46

mrs mcj, im in tears. i wish that things couldve been different for you!

rahrah1 · 13/03/2007 17:53

Hi Impatience - I'm OK thanks (thanks for asking) focusing a bit too much on TTC... but am getting a bit stronger and the days seem easier to get through. How about you...

Impatience · 13/03/2007 20:51

I'm surprisingly upbeat, Rahrah, but I'm sure it's just a glitch! Looks like dp will start trying in a couple of months, and I can wait. Not sure if I'll carry on. Probably the only thing that'll make me conceive will be the insanity of us both conceiving at the same time... But that'd be worth it. Good luck, as ever x

beansprout · 14/03/2007 08:30

How is everyone today? Has now been 48 hours since the last sighting of a mouse so we are keeping our fingers crossed and generally living in hope. I don't seem to be ovulating this month, as there is a distinct lack of the gunk that is usually so easy to spot. Great. Just what I need.

rahrah1 · 14/03/2007 08:38

Good to hear your are well Impatience... I wish my husband could try for a baby at the same time as me... that would heighten the odds! But I'm sure he would not be brave about it!

feedmenow · 14/03/2007 17:30

I love that idea rahrah However, seeing as it will never happen then could it not at least be made compulsory that dp's have to wear prosthetic bumps?

beansprout · 15/03/2007 12:47

Have we all taken a happy pill? Where is everyone?!!

Come back! I neeeeeed you!!

sideways · 15/03/2007 13:49

You ok beansprout?

It is alarmingly quient isn't it? Maybe they are all taking what Imaptience is taking.

Cryptonomicon · 15/03/2007 13:59

I am still around feeling without an upbeat feeling in sight. Its a really bugger if you are having an anovulatory (or whatever its called) month Beansprout. You can join the 'no hope for six weeks' club with me and Seaside

Good news about the mice though

beansprout · 15/03/2007 14:27

Thanks people. I'm so tired I would prefer to just fall asleep. It doesn't get less sexy than "we should, just in case" but I'm convinced that no gunk means no egg. Boo.

Ah, excellent, the 6ww club! Count me in!

sideways · 15/03/2007 14:39

My mucus levels vary a lot from month to month. I had never thought that I may not be ovulating, am now paranoid.

I just thought that it was normal for it to vary and that if there wasn't much it was just a bit harder for the sperm to travel.

Will go off and add non-ovulation to my list of Topics To Worry About.

seaside72 · 15/03/2007 14:40

I'm still here lurking too! - fully paid up member of the 6ww club - where does that even take us to - summer practically!!! well way past easter anyway - OMG

But yes it is quiet on here without duchesse and impatience!

duchesse · 15/03/2007 14:51

Beansprout- no gunk certainly does not mean no ovulation, just not so much for the sperm to snuggle down in. Are you drinking enough? (water/ fluids, that is!) Are you glugging the bloody grapefruit juice? (sposed to help) So no giving up just because no gunk, mrs.

I am here- it's just sunny and I feel sort of cheerful... Sorry. It's me mediterranean upbringing- I'm mis as sin under clouds.

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Sunshinedays · 15/03/2007 15:52

[skulks in, graven faced, effing and blinding, hopes no-one minds I've been lurking rather than contributing, and screams..]

I'VE HAD IT UP TO HERE WITH TTC.

So, very fed up.

I'm two months of having to do effing IVF. WHY CAN'T I JUST GET PREGNANT LIKE A NORMAL WOMAN.
WHY AM I SO CRAP.

There, that's better.

Thanks to all of you for keeping this esstential thread going.

xxx

becklespeckle · 15/03/2007 15:53

i'm still here and still miserable! am nearing CD70 with no sign of AF and a couple of BFNs under my belt, think I had some EWCM when I had flu in Feb (handy) but no AF since, didn't even know about EWCM until MN!

becklespeckle · 15/03/2007 15:54

am very p*ed off with my body and the bloody consultants who want me to wait and see for a bit longer!