how much BDing are you all doing?

[Lelly0503]

Hello, been ttc for 8 months now, for #1. Not conceived before. appreciate fully that I am still well within the normal time frame and Im not overly worried. I think my issue is we don't BD enough. So, how much is everyone BDing? If you have conceived before how much did you BD and when to get your bfp? We tend to BD around 3 times over my fertile period. Have tried smep twice but didn't work xx

Every other day from end of my period to around four days after ovulation. How are you monitoring your fertile period?

Thank you for replying,I have used OPKs but stopped as I was getting too obsessive. I usually track CM and try to BD around when I think I'm ovulating. Every month we say let's do it every other day but it just doesn't happen for one reason or another xx

Studys show that you have a good chance of conception 4 days before ovulation 2 days before on the day and after incase ovulation is late when I was ttc I did exactly that it did still take 6 months but with this one I'm expecting now I conceived by having sex 3 days before ovulation and consistently for 3 those 3 days

I'm on cycle 3 ttc 2 and I'm using opk this cycle. At the moment we're doing it whenever we feel like which is every 3-4 days roughly. As soon as I get + opk though we'll dtd that day and the day after.

When I got pregnant with DS we had DTD three times over eight days. I got a BFP four days ago with DC2 and we'd only DTD once.

Congrats writer! I don't think there is a rhyme or reason to it sometimes. I'm at the end of my fertile period now and we BD 3 times in 6 days. Two of those times I had Ewcm so hopefully it will keep the sperm alive for a few days to catch it!

We dtd 3 times the month I conceived, once at the start of fw and on the last 2 days - what i think was ov day and day after, i had positive opks on those days. But dating scans have me conceiving the day after the first dtd!

Moral of the story - give it a crack every now and then even if you think youre nowhere near O - because no matter what opks say you just never know!

That's interesting have, so you basically ovulated before getting your surge? Congrats also. I think the window you have is so vague it's really luck of the draw. We have just followed the exactly the same pattern this fertile window so fx! Xx

I think this depends on the people and levels of fertility. I only got pregnant with DD1, after 7 months, when we decided to have sex every day from the day I stopped bleeding until the day my next period should start. That worked first month we tried it. Then I conceived DD2 in only 1 month with the same method.

I just figure me and DH aren't massively fertile so needed to throw a lot of sperm at my lazy eggs!

I've been pg 4 times- 1 mc and 3 dc. Every time it's when we've been doing it about 2-3 times a week throughout the cycle. I found opk etc just made things more stressful but you basically know you'll be ovulating around middle of the month.
We tried everyday for a few months when ttc first time but nothing happened until we calmed down a bit.

I read somewhere for the best chance of success you should have sex every three or so days throughout the cycle. Then you'll always have sperm at the ready for ovulation. More often than that, sperm start competing with each other plus quality can go down. Apparently.

Wow fell out that's good going! We've tried SMEP twice which didn't work, then we switched to the not trying not preventing kind of approach which results in us BDing only twice around ovulation. Thank you for all your comments it's good to see everyone's different experiences xx

Yay Writer! I remember you from an older thread. Congrats!!!!

Thank you Alibaba - it finally happened on cycle 10. I was starting to think it was never going to happen and it's taken me and DH completely by surprise

Writer did you spill the beans??

Lelly we aim for every other day from high fertility on OPK to a couple of days after peak. Usually get an extra one in around peak. Not pg so far but fun trying. Hasn't got to the stressful feeling of DTD to order.

We have sex every day (3 times yesterday! Lol). We both have extremely high sex drives.
DP does work away a few nights a week though but we make up for it when he's here.
I stopped my pill at the end of October.

My GP told me to ditch temping and BD every other day from the end of period to the start of next cycle. I do have very irregular period so hard to catch the actual ovulation. Even so I find it 'physically unbearable' and like a chore...