First time TTC - thread five!

[LisaSimpsonsbff]

Yet again we've managed to exchange nearly 1000 posts swapping our tales of peeing on sticks, dancing for babies, trying to stop Auntie Flo's all too frequent visits, and sometimes, just sometimes, of Big Fat Positives! So let's begin thread five with some updated stats. Me first...

Age 29
Cycle #4
Cycle day 1

Link to thread four: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2756020-first-time-ttc-thread-four?pg=1

Hi and welcome dolwar
Ha pjs most of us have had those time wasting ex-BFs yeah I've heard that too about the HSG test, it must really clear the way for those swimmmers! Your clinic sounds fab
bassett I go to slimming world and have found some friends - an odd place that I'd never thought I'd find friends at! I only have a few close friends but big close family. pjs I'd never heard of meetUp that sounds great. Like others have mentioned, classes seem to be a good option. When we finally get to those baby classes we'll make lots of mum friends
Hi and welcome kittykat. Has anything been unusual this month e.g. Stress or travel? Can sometimes affect it. But yeah good idea to start doing opks and then you can have a good idea when it's happening.

Something really odd happened today, I went to the loo about 5pm and had a load of EWCM - WTF, I'm on cd27 and waiting for AF!

Yep - am trying to invoke the law of sod kaydee! This is a pub we've wanted to visit for ages (me and DH are really into our ales 🍻) so it really would be Sod's law! But, I would obviously rather have a BFP 😁)

Welcome kitty! I was on microgynon for about a decade, had a year break, then had nexplanon implant for 3 years, then back on microgynon of three months to tide us over the wedding/honeymoon. My body didnt know what was what when I came off it and it took a while to settle! Opks and temping definitely helped me figure out what's what though. Good luck!

Yeah meetups are really good Eva, there's one for pretty much every hobby you can think of! Me and DH are part of a hiking one, and I've just joined a crochet one for my newfound TWW distraction hobby 🤓 That's so odd about your ewcm! Fertility friend tells me you can have it after ov, so hope that puts your mind at ease.

Also trying to invoke Sod's law, ordered some internet cheapies last night, and have woken up to low stabbing pains this morning, so may have worked CD30 so would be excellent if it is, I think

Hi kitty, feel your pain re coming off the pill, I stopped in Dec & now waiting for things to settle down, coming off hormonal contraception is the worst!!

Hey ladies,
I’m back! Took a few days break after AF as I’d 100% convinced myself that we’d done it last month so took it all pretty hard. A lot better now though and AF has nearly left the building so looking forward to getting back on it – going to try a session of reflexology on Friday too – see if that helps me to relax a bit. My NY resolution is to stop putting so much pressure on myself too so that’s going well so far and I’m feeling a lot happier. Think the anticipation of Xmas and all the family stuff had really taken a toll.
Lisa – I’d definitely go for the job – this whole process just seems like a lot of waiting and think that having distractions can only help pass the time a bit!
Fx for you PJs – but sounds like a good day out at the weekend too!
Welcome to any newbies!

Hey everyone!

Pjs and Basset - thanks very much for your welcome and advice.
Lisa - Congratulations for the job offer; I would definitely take on the extra responsibility (alongside TTC).
Dolwar and Kittykat - welcome! Kittykat, I also have my first OPK's ready to try this cycle, so it'll be good to share experiences as to how we get on!
Flora - glad that you are feeling positive and hope that you enjoy your reflexology session.

So, AF is on her way out and I have a few questions for this cycle. I read that you should only DTD every other day, eg. days 10, 12, 14... of a 28-day cycle, so that DH's sperm can build up. Is this a good idea? I was thinking we'd just go for it as much as possible whilst I might be ovulating? Any advice please?

Also, I'm sure this has been talked about elsewhere, but any positive experiences of being upside down (standing on your head!) after DTD? Although it seems amusing, I'm really tempted to try it if there's a chance of it working!?

Hope you're all having a good day, and baby dust to all!

Thanks everyone for all the welcomes :)!

Eva thats a good point i didnt really factor in stress.

Although everything has calmed down now the past few months have been really stressful with a family bereavement so that most likely has had a big impact on my cycles.
On day 40 of my cycle now going to a trampoline exercise class tonight! hope that encourages AF to appear so i can get started on tracking if not it should be a laugh anyway

Starfish I think my method this month is to DTD every chance i get haha! but leaving it till every 2nd day makes sense so that there is a good build up of sperm. x x

Also PJ and Kaydee Thanks this is exactly why i came on the forums it feels so lonely and that your the only person going through these things especially when keeping it from friends and family. Good to know we are going to go through it all together :) x x

So cd1 today after a 24 day cycle. Why now after years and years of regular cycles do I now start to be early or late? As if Mother Nature hasn't been enough of a bitch.

blissful -- boo.

So sorry blissful xx

So sorry bliss. Have a look after yourself

Oh bums bliss 🙁 Definitely some 🍷 for you xx

I am in a FOUL mood today. Sign of af i reckon. Doesn't help I saw at least 6 pregnant women today, gave up my seat on the tube for two, and the lady in front of me who got a bit confused at the till, turned around to me and said "it all goes downhill when you're pregnant." Oh does it. DOES IT. Arrggghhhhh.

Bliss definitely & Mother Nature is definitely a bitch! Can you think of any reasons for change in cycles or is it just completely random? Sorry if you've said & I've missed it!

Pyjamas I could have written that yesterday - had unbelievable rage and then almost tears because the shop didn't have the type of salad I wanted

pjs you got your good deeds in though!
blissful so sorry
Hi flora glad you're feeling better. My new year resolution was to stop worrying about the small thing about and I'm enjoying it.
Hi starfish I'm happy with every other day

I'm in the odd position of doing a HTP (neg) and OPK today. I know the attached OPK is negative but that's quite dark for cd28 right?

Well - the good deeds are at least an upside! DH just gave me a big cuddle and I've cheered up now ☺️

I think LH levels can fluctuate quite a bit during cycles Eva - could mean pg or approaching AF, it was AF for me when I got one like that, but I hope it's not for you!

Am 11 dpo today and still absolutely nothing. Not a tingle or a twitch anywhere. Bad mood tells me it'll be AF though. I was the same today kaydee I made a mess chopping up broccoli for dinner and nearly burst into tears! Am going for a glass of wine tomorrow with my best friend 😈

Eva. Give it a few days and do a FRER. 😜
That's darker than it should be at CD28. X

Thanks pjs and mouse - I wish it was a sign of pg! Did another OPK today and line was barely visible so probably just a random one yesterday. Either way, should have some answers by weekend as AF due Friday.

We're on the same timeline Eva - my AF is due on Saturday! I'm basically a fire breathing 🐉 today, so fully expecting it to arrive right on time 😒

Pyjamas I'd think we were on the same cycle we're it not for lack of anything happening over here!! Also been for wine with a friend after work CD31 & still nothing to report!!

Fx for the weekend too pyjamas & Eva

kitty welcome!

bliss so sorry

Eva I get a strong line on an opk before AF, nearly had a heart attack when I accidentally peed on an opk instead of preg test and got strong line instantly Fx for you!

pj's as if it's not hard enough having period arrive, feeling like the bitch from hell beforehand I hope it stays away! Fx regardless of the angry...

Fx for both of us as well kaydee! My ovulation was really early this month, so am already on Knicker watch...

Exactly piehunter - it's like I'm possessed. Saw my best friend tonight though which did cheer me up 🙂 Just want Saturday to put me out of my misery!

Morning all.

Well Ive got the rage today too but I think mine is linked to lack of sleep and possibly that nasty cold that was doing the rounds ha finally got me. Especially as af isnt due till the 20th. Fx there are a few bfps this month

I am amazed at your willpower eva that you havent done a hpt yet.

Did some yoga last night. New teacher so she asked if I was pg but I said no. Haha. Cross that bridge later.

I think I'm out - spotting this morning. I don't usually spot, but AF is due so I think that's that. Cried about it for the first time today. Now that we're facing cycle 8 it's starting to feel even more unlikely 😞 Sorry, just feeling pretty down about it. Going to wait until AF arrives properly and then I'll make my appointment for my HSG.

Haha pie that's something I would do!
Oh bassett I have no willpower what so ever, I did a hpt on Tues and Sat and both Bfns!
pjs so sorry I know the feeling, I have AF cramps this morning so definitely on the way. But must pick ourselves up - you have the HSG coming up to get that ball rolling and also hopefully clear the way for some swimmers right? What do you have planned for your f*ck it day with DH this month? Hopefully something to take you're mind off TTC, even if it's just for a few hours.