Did you conceive during a stressful time?

[BestBeastie]

Wanted some positive stories!

MC in September - first month ttc after first cycle.
Everything is pretty shit. work stress, on top of miscarriage stress, now upstairs neighbour has turned into neighbour from hell when smashed in our door pane and kicked at the door 4am early sat morning. Drunk, I think - but also very hostile towards us for locking our front door, which is where the rather violent angry outburst came from (?!). Don't see where my career is going and feeling pretty hopeless. Mainlining caffeine. and 38 now.

Please tell me that you've conceived during a pretty shit time of your life? I know you're meant to be more fertile after a mc but I feel like I'm wasting the time because I CANNOT get off the coffee at this moment and have pretty horrible stuff going on.

Me! With my first. Was 38, just started a new role with a lunatic boss in a completely poisonous team and was massively stressed out every single day aswell as working every second of the day. My mum had surgery and ended up in ICU for weeks. My dad wasn't coping. We'd just moved house into a place that needed completely renovated so I could even come home and relax at night.I can't actually even remember dtd! Anyway....ended up pregnant....and this weird sense of calm overtook me and suddenly much better able to cope with all those things.
Don't give up! It can happen! Good luck!

Sounds like you're going through a bad time

I honestly don't think stress will affect ttc. If you get a decent swimmer and a good egg it'll happen.

Good luck

Hi, just seeing if I can restart this one..... I'm suffering with stress and anxiety through some horrible life events and I'm worried this will stop me getting pregnant, I'm not sleeping well and my heart rate has increases quite a bit and I'm not doing well at managing it.

I had a mmc confirmed the end of July. I’m 33, and it was my first pregnancy. We are in the process of buying a house & things keep going wrong. We’ve both worked all through covid, and it’s really starting to pick up even more now. It’s heavy, tiring, stressful work. Been shouted at left, right & centre, & oh has had it worse.

Haven’t been able to sleep at night, trying to process the mmc, & going back to work after 6 weeks of medical suspension, telling everyone why I’d actually been off...

Got my bfp yesterday morning, 4 weeks 4 days after the surgery for the mmc.

I honestly didn’t think it would happen. I had. Cut the caffeine down, but not stopped it. And I’m always going to be worried we lose this one too.

@Sef89 good luck, lovely x

Oh really congratulations. Did you feel your heart rate was increased? And depressed... Thanks x

I've got anxiety and depression as standard, I miscarried at 6w last month so I've been pretty stressed this month, but I got my BFP, and this one feels strong already! I keep feeling the anxiety build and I'm calming myself, it's more my hormones I'm worried about than heart rate. When you feel the anxiety come on focus on breathing and the feeling of calm.

Thanks and congratulations
How did you depression and anxiety affect you before getting pregnant... X