Thread 21 TTC #1 - The one where all our cycles went haywire but we DID NOT GIVE UP

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Calling all clomid-ers, OPK-ers, temp-ers and anyone else on the TTC Bus.

We are long past cervix prodding (in fact we know where it is at any given time just by closing our eyes) and we have ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar. We don't do baby dust, or baby-dancing, we just keep legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX) We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate, but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face. You get kwick-cake if you behave, and talked down from the ledge when you need it.

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share....

Alexia yes it looks like O-2 was a success! FX it is for you too. You so deserve to be on that grad thread. As do all the other lovely ladies on this thread. Can you give your sticks to your DH? That's what I did. He wouldn't give me one until 12dpo! I have one left from the packet so I am thinking of poas on Friday to check that the line has got stronger. Don't want to obsess too much though...

Exciting that there are quite a few in the tww atm, hoping for some more BFPs soon!

jam glad you have a nice day planned on Saturday. Is your AF usually like clockwork? I wouldn't read anything into having usual AF build up symptoms. I haven't had anything that I could say was out of the ordinary this cycle.

FXskip all looking good with your LSFX action! Hope you can get another one in tonight for luck.

Hep hooray for normal functions resuming! Hope house stuff isn't too stressful the rest of this week. IKEA furniture isn't my favourite I have to admit.

skipper I used preseed for the first time this cycle! I thoroughly recommend it. I don't know if it gave me my BFP but in my mind it totally did.

skipper I know I'm the voice of doom and gloom!

nicky what dpo are you? Be brave! I know I hate the BFN white death stare too! fx for you

music yeah my cycles are like clockwork, they could set Big Ben to them. I should be grateful really but they haven't bloody got me anywhere! I hold absolutely no illusions that it'll be AF as usual - not in a "woe is me" type way, just a real, facing cold reality way.

ho ho ho!

Ladies apologies - it has been a very long day - only just on way home now, left home at 7.30am and so my sarcastic side is winning...

fxskip listen to moi: I have been in a DTD desert for years - if you have it "on tap" so to speak then i think you should be DTD at every opportunity!!!
Side note: do you have any idea how much they charge for magic potion?????

Hep seriously have you not heard of outsourcing?

jam I am going to be well hacked off if you do not get a BFP this time!!!

I am feeling quite despondent with work... it looks like another decision which I fundamentally disagree with is about to be made. And just like the other one it is muggins here that has to not only implement but pick up and resolve inevitable fall out....
Glad my CV is nearly there but of course cannot leave as this would impact maternity pay and I am about to get my BFP (PMA always lurking!!!)

This cycle is not going well. I quit alcohol and have worked hard on stress levels as im prone to a constant state of stress.

I was then involved in a minor car crash on the way to work & so dh took me out tonight for steak and wine. Luckily neither myself nor other driver was hurt and cars are just scuffed and dented.

kwick well if you know Mary Poppins' phone number .....

Oh is nagging me.... But we have made progress! Just need to buy IKEA sheets for the IKEA bed and the guests on Friday have a room to sleep in! It's just our bedroom that is a disaster..... Oh just can't see mess in the bedroom! It doesn't bother him, but I won't be able to fully relax until it's done.

Jem

EJ💐

Kwick -having a rubbish time in work is awful.

Today was our Christmas concert in work. We have another one tomorrrow. The children did amazingly well. I now have a terrible tight chest.

On plus side I feel chesty

Don't trust them boobies miw!

Kwick - work sounds bad but don't loose your natural cool. What's your maternity pay like where you work?

I feel so backwards ATM. First cycle not doing OPKs, I'm not even checking CM...just going with the flow. It's weirdly liberating. Tracking BD just in case I need it to work out a due date or something but that's it.

Chesty should have been Christmassy!

Sk1pper am not testing anything either. Just going about my business 😁Hoping that this pays off.

kwick, we've had a number of those decisions in my company recently and the fallout has been really hard for everyone. It's so hard to keep people engaged when they feel like management is screwing them over at every opportunity. Liking the eternal PMA though!

EJ, so sorry to hear about the car accident. I hope you're not too shaken up

I'm loving these relaxed attitudes miw and sk1pper. FX for you both that it works.

Thanks for the welcome Nicky!

Ha ha miw!! Your typo has really made me laugh

kwick I'm in a similar boat at work, where I make a recommendation, no one listens and then I have to deal with tidying up the mess. A few days ago this resulted in a £40million mispayment that I had to deal with, when my boss commended me on my swift action and calm demeanour I confessed that ever since the first major fuck up like this I've been cultivating a very specific mindset with regards my job, it goes like this: everything we do is pointless, it's just a job, it's just money, it doesn't matter. Feelings like stress and panic aren't real....and so on. He just looked at me like

So anyway, no dtd last night as I've got a chesty cough (an actual chesty one - not a Christmassy one miw ) but hopefully we've done enough. I know we are so lucky to have free magic potion, just sometimes it's not available on tap!!

jam correct. AF will show up bang on time just like every cycle except that this time it won't because you'll have a bfp but we aren't saying that because we don't want to jinx it fx for you.

Had a new shower screen installed to stop a leak. Just showered. Same leak exists.Now to see how the builders deal with this!!

Ej sorry to hear about car crash & glad to hear you are ok

hep I am the Queen of outsourcing - eg having to take food to a family get together and buying in Tesco's and then disguising as my own
And now I have outsourced my CV update

miw DO NOT TRUST THE BOOBS!!!

sk1pper it ain't great but I have over 14 years service - and that is hard to walk away from fx I get made redundant

It sounds like I am not alone with work naffness...

Get well soon fxskip

My first injection of Merional went well... so much less painful than the Prontogest ones

Off to Frankfurt tonight, back tomorrow... next work trip (and last of the year!!!) starts Sunday!!!

Kwick - you're such a busy lady! A real jet setter I work for a massive company but the maternity pay is the legal minimum. It's honestly crazy. We saved for a year before TTC just so we would be able to afford food/bills for a year but in hindsight wish I'd started TTC earlier. Hindsight is a wonderful thing though!

Morning

Sorry about the car EJ know what you mean about the constant state of stress, I feel like that too. I need to adopt your work related mantra fxskip! Sorry work are being numpties kwick

You are getting there hep!

Had my third blood test this morning, I am getting to be a pro got follow up GP appointment next week to go through all our results - bloods, SAs, scan , and then discuss next steps. Feeling alright about it really, I've just got to go with the flow and maybe even work on developing some kind of PMA next egg is Christmas Day - which doesn't feel too long away!

Morning ladies!!

Hep I'll chant with the others, DON'T TRUST THE BOOBIES!!!

Alexia go stand in a corner. Stop testing before a missed AF!!! Go on... in the corner.

London see hep's advice, join Alexia in the corner!!!

Skip I have everything apart from the legs crossed for you!! Good egg vibes!!

Kath sod off AF

Nicky if testing early will get you upset then don't do it. FX it won't be upset but your BFP.

Kwick I feel like I'm hanging on at work. It's just not the kinda work I want to be doing forever, kinda wish I'd moved sooner though. I'm resided that the BFP won't be for a while. I think you are soooo close. This cycle is the one!! I'm sending you good vibes.

EJ are you ok? You seem really stressed. Try to have a nice relaxing Christmas. New year new start!!

Miwe chesty

Sk1pper high five for ditching everything. Give it till your appointment. I think you could get your BFP being relaxed. I've ditched temping this cycle and weirdly think I'm sleeping better. I don't think my waking was helping my seismic chart lol.

Nothing really to report here. I'm CD11 and starting OPK today. Knowing my luck I've already ovulated (ovia and ff seem to think so according to my lovely 23 day cycle last time) but I'm not too worried if I have or haven't. DTD the last two nights... let's see how long that run lasts for lol.

TMI questions....
Do you always finish after your partner? (Didn't want to use the DP acronym just in case you guys thought I was into some kinky stuff.... I'm not) lol.

And what does it mean if my boobie sensitivity is LOW. As in you could snack them with a cricket bat and I might think... oh what was that?? Lol I think if they suddenly get sore I might freak out.

kwick, have a good trip to Frankfurt. I was there with one of my team over the summer and we accidentally stayed right in the middle of the red light district. It was...interesting...walking back to our hotel after dinner one night.

jam, looks like our cycles are in sync as I'm also expecting a festive Christmas egg. In my mind, I'm picturing it wearing a little Father Christmas hat which can only be a good sign surely? Here's hoping you don't need one though...

Mouse, I never have any boob sensitivity at all. Occasionally I think I do and then it inevitably turns out that it's just my bra digging into me at a weird angle. I can't even imagine what it would be like for them to feel sore, like you I think I'd be totally freaked out!

Mouse that is some epic responding! I am lucky if I remember one or two people....on the ahem finishing front, I usually have at least one first, and then one after (not always) or at the same time. I have heard that doing kegels after (ie to 'squeeze' it all in) can have an adverse impact but I can't guarantee that. With the boobs, mine don't often get very sore, but more like I can't stomach the idea of them being touched - they're more sensitive I suppose.

EJ sorry I missed your car crash post - its such a scary thing, even if everything is fine, your adrenal/stress response goes through the roof! Hopefully you can do lots of nice relaxing things.

I read an interesting article, that I've lost now, about the power of deep breathing - it basically allows your stress response to switch off and stimulates blood flow to your uterus/ovaries etc - so get deep breathing chaps!!

mouse - my boobs are always unbearable in tww. Like hurt to walk downstairs and nipples sensitive so im aware if i brush them when dressing. Ive barely got any boobs either so its not like they get in the way or bounce about. Funny though this month i ovulated yesterday and today only mildly sore. Usually neon flashing we are here by cd 15.

EJ - I'm exactly the same!! Got the worlds smallest boobs but in the final week of my cycle, my OH can brush my boob with his elbow by accident and I'm like crippled over in pain. He always thinks I'm taking the piss

Just a quick one as I'm currently deep cleaning the house. No idea if that's a good thing to be doing in the tww or not!? Lol

About boobs... When I had anovulatory cycles my nipples/boobs were never sore/tender. When I ovulate my nipples either get sore leading up to O and during the tww, or just in the tww. Word of warning to others if their boobs aren't sore, it could be nothing as everyone's different, but I'd get checked out to see if you're O'ing or at least temp or do opks for a couple of cycles to make sure you're getting a temp rise and LH surge.

Hep hope you get the house sorted in time!

miw that was hilarious

Sorry to all those struggling at work, especially you Kwick

Mouse I haven't tested yet far too early I just had a random urge to! Apps are only good at predicting things if you're regular, opks and more BD is a good plan As for finishing after DH, I only do that in the FW. Only did it once this time though. Will aim to do it lots more next month if not successful this month.

EJ hope you're feeling okay, sorry about the accident

Skip hope the chesty cough clears up quick. Did you get a temp rise today?

Music how are you doing hun?

Good luck to all those testing soon

Morning Alexia I'd say just keep all the windows open if you are using any sort of harsh cleaning fluid to avoid excessive fume inhalation. But I'd say that no matter where you were in your cycle!

This morning my temp was up - from 36.12 at the dip, to 36.20. So a minor raise, hopefully it continues tomorrow! It seems unlikely to me that it will be my month. I had a funny thought this morning, if I put as much effort as I do for TTC into, say, losing weight or being good at my job I think my life would be massively different.

Skip - you're right, I feel the same about a few things. Like I've done nothing with the house since moving in 3 years ago...that's why I'm forcing myself to get my bathroom fixed before Xmas. I need the distraction and I'll just keep putting it off otherwise.

I'm off to Yoga now, but I'm yawning before I've even begun. Last time I nearly fell asleep at the start, it was quite embarrassing.

Sorry I've been hiding ladies- been feeling pretty shit with it all and just needed to have some time off MN to get my head together. Anyway, after a few days of crying at the drop of a hat and stewing in my own misery, I'm back, and just read the epic number of posts I've missed!

Moose I'm so pleased your results came back with such low risk. Hope you have a relaxed pregnancy from here

Music great news- congratulations!

Am joining the more relaxed approach this month- have told DH that we are DTD every other day the whole month (I'm not OPKing or going to push for everyday DTD in FW) and he so far (well last night!) has been agreeable to this. With the last couple of my cycles being unusually long I'm not going to try to predict what's going on and just have Christmas and new year, try to sort my new job and then hopefully before I know it I'll be pregnant right?

Good luck to those 2WWing! Let's have some more BFPs!

Welcome back Binky! Hope you have lots of festive gun this Christmas

We all need a break from time to time