Thread 21 TTC #1 - The one where all our cycles went haywire but we DID NOT GIVE UP

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Calling all clomid-ers, OPK-ers, temp-ers and anyone else on the TTC Bus.

We are long past cervix prodding (in fact we know where it is at any given time just by closing our eyes) and we have ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar. We don't do baby dust, or baby-dancing, we just keep legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX) We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate, but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face. You get kwick-cake if you behave, and talked down from the ledge when you need it.

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share....

Alexia - glad you are there still xx

Wanting - yeah how have you not texted? I know we're all poas mad on here but late period is one of those times you just have to test. Good luck, hope we're going for a double BFP this week!

My special diet has failed so far this cycle. Visiting my OH's grandad and there is SO MUCH delicious home baked food and good wine. There was two desserts to choose from last night I had both and I forgot to bring my decaf tea so have been drinking caffeine non stop since we got here. I know I shouldn't be so strict with myself all the time but I'll regret it when AF turns up again.

music I'm a reluctant to test incase it's a bfn and just a weird long is cycle

I may poas tomorrow.

One of my best friends had a bfn until she was over a week overdue. I think that's what's stopping me.

sk1pper enjoy the nice food and wine!

Wanting, sorry for being a dunce, can you remind us of your stats? Cycle? Usual cycle length. What CD you are today?

This months chart is shaping up to be a bit clearer than last months but my temp is a bit rocky! What do we think, 11dpo today and a BFN yesterday. AF due on Saturday but will usually start spotting on Friday.

mouse I'm on cd30. I'm usually 28 days and this is my third cycle. Probably absolutely nothing but odd for me to be this late. Leaving it anothing day or two before I test.

MrsG - what a lovely chart. The dips and troughs don't matter, the overall pattern is lovely - nice temp rise and solid cross hairs. Hope your temp stays elevated!

Wanting. Get bloody testing. You probably wouldn't even need to wait for FMU either. If it's a BFN then you know just to wait. But if it's a BFP then you have yourself a Christmas announcement!!!!

MrsG your chart looks perfect. Test again on Sunday if AF isn't here. Looks promising. X

Hi all, long time no speak (well in reality it's probably less than a month but that's an age in MN-land!)

Couldn't believe I'd caught up on 30+ pages and still no BPFs until the very end......mega congrats kav!!!

So I've taken a bit of a different approach this cycle. Stopped temping, didn't opk or even look at my app, stopped taking pills and fussing about special LP diets. The aim was to completely forget when in the cycle I was. DTD every 3 days was the aim, and it started off quite well. I never thought I'd be able to put FW out my mind, but amazingly I did, I soon couldn't remember the day of my period and therefore was in complete blissful ignorance about my cycle day.

DH had been performing well on the 3 day schedule, until the 4th occasion when his back put pay it, and I couldn't resist checking ovia to see where I was at....to my surprise CD18 already. Have to laugh though as even when DH has no idea what time of the month it is, he still failed to perform on CD18 yet again! (i believe i ovulate on CD17 or 18). Now on CD26 so expecting AF any day now.

Haven't made my doc appointment yet either, but will probably aim to do so in the next week and kick things off there.

Hope you're alright binky sorry if it is AF

Harriet partying Dec sounds the way forward, January will be here before you know it

Wanting I can understand you avoiding the white glare of the BFN, however I would have tested by now! Fx for you

Winging oh bad timing! You were doing it before so a good chance I think

Thank you for your support too girls, it's very much appreciated. Fxskip i read your reply about three times this morning! DH emailed me a big sincere apology and I replied and we've sorted it out. So thanks for helping me remember it's normal for couples to struggle with this at times.

He's out this evening so it's me the cat and some I'm a Celebrity to catch up on. Kwick you can definitely fancy both Ant and Dec

jam I am really sorry about your fall out with DH. I hope you can patch things up. And what fxskip said

kavan I might have bought a Look Fantastic one which, initially was £70, but I did not buy in time so ended up getting one on ebay for more!

Alexia thanks for that - Femara sounds hardcore. I have been put on Inofolic )well at least I think that its name) - no side effects and helps fertility.
Been testing since sunday - no sign yet just BFNs... frickerty fcuk

I am on Eurostar back - day was ok except one of my bosses made me cry this morning on the phone. Yep it is a bit of a shitty time at work... but that is just it I only have work and TTC to focus on - need to change that!

Congrats kav👍😀💐
Let's hope it's like London busses on the BFP note

jam that argument really sucks but so glad you have made up now and talked about it. It sounds as though your DH knew that he was completely out of order and it was a heat of the moment comment that he clearly didn't mean. Hope he still treats you to dinner/cake/wine or something though!

alexia it's so good to hear from you. Those side effects sound awful. Really hope they pass soon. Do you take it all the way through your cycle or just on certain days?

wanting please poas tomorrow - we're all dying to know!

mrs nice chart. Agree with others that a BFN at 10dpo doesn't mean you're out this cycle. Hope your temps stay high!

skipper I have no time for diets. I think trying both desserts was a good call by you!

kwik fingers so tightly crossed for you. Sorry that you've had to endure some BFNs and a shitty time at work. It sounds like you have a really stressful job. Have you tried anything for relaxing like yoga or pilates? I am looking to start one of them to help me develop a calmer state of mind generally!

winging that's so annoying. FX you still had some spermies up there from the last time and your O could have varied a day or so from the norm (ideally earlier!)

Sorry to everyone that has been, or suspects they have been, got by AF

Wingingit welcome back. I'm taking it a bit more relaxed this cycle. I'll probably lurk when AF buggers off.

London buying a house was probably the most stressful time of my entire life. The wedding was a breeze in comparison. Please be good to one another, and hold each other's hand. You'll both be feeling the stress.

Kwick hugs. Bosses who make you cry can swivel.

Sooooooo I'm pretty sure my mum knows I'm TTC. Bless her she's been to my house today (my parents live around the corner and my early retired dad is currently decorating for us - he loves it, and it's keeping him busy) and she's cleaned my bathroom and hoovered upstairs for me (I'm having issues with my back and pelvis at the moment) and it's a massive help. However she's put fresh towels out, so she's seen my thermometer by my bed, and cleaned using my cloths, my OPK and HPT are all right next to the new pack of sanitary towels and cleaning cloths in my bathroom. So, yeah. She's not stupid. I almost feel I should tell her now, so she's not on tenderhooks about me announcing a pregnancy. I know she is desperate to be a nanna and I know she will be an amazing grandparent as will my dad. I'm so lucky to have them.

Ummm guys, what is going on?!? I totally expected another BFN this morning
AF due on Saturday so I'm 12dpo today! Trying not to get too excited until she stays away.

MrsG - OH my god!!! Looks positive to me. Congratulations!

Mouse - I think it's a case of, does it need saying? She knows and you know she knows and TTC is always a private thing. You can have a talk if you're finding it awkward but I don't think she'll be feeling left out or anything. And sometimes indirect support is better than full blown support because the pressure is off, no unwanted concersations when things aren't going particularly well etc. Totally up to you though! Either way, your parents sound amazing.

I think you can get excited now Mrs!!! Congratulations! Have you had any symptoms??

No symptoms at all really Music my boobs felt a tiny bit sensitive on Sunday night which is why I tested on Monday but got a BFN!

Which cycle was it for you and did you do anything different? So happy for you

I think by the rule of threes that means we should be having another BFP soon! Who's up?

Hee - I guess it IS like buses after all!! Congratulations MrsG!!!!! feels surreal, doesn't it??

Btw thank you all SO much for the congrats here. All I want to do is squeeee out loud and having to shut up at work would have been 10 x harder without being able to celebrate here. Boobs increasingly tender and no AF this morning, so staying positive:-)

Congratulations mrsg!!
More brilliant news!

At this rate of going thread 21 will need to change names to 'the one where we all got bfps'

Kav / MrsG - would you say you felt more relaxed on your current cycles? I do sometimes think it seems to happen when people least expect it.

Hurrah!! Another one!!! Congratulations mrsg am so chuffed for you. What cycle are you on, did you do anything different?

Glad to hear everything going well kav please stick around and let us know how you are getting on with scans and things!

Mouse my parents know as I told my mum when we started trying last year. I kind of wish I hadn't but I think I would have had more comments and pressure to start if I hadn't. I love my Mum but she's such a blabber mouth! She cannot keep things to herself. There's no way I could tell her about DH morphology. She said to me the other day Don't be stressed... perfectly good advise but love how it's assumed that it's the woman's fault for being stressed?! Anyway hope your mum will be a support and that she won't be waiting long

Thank you everyone!

Only cycle 2 off the pill! Ovulated on CD11, DTD on 5,8,10 & 11. We were going to do SMEP but got my positive OPK on CD10 so we hadn't had much DTD in before that.

Ironically we were originally not going to TTC till after the new year to avoid an August baby... EDD if all is well would be August 11th but we're both past caring now!

I had an entertaining evening yesterday. Was cutting up my pineapple (kwik!) and accidentally sliced my finger with a very sharp knife. Then proceeded to have to lie on the floor for half an hour because I felt sick and like I was about to faint while DH rushed around me with tissues and plasters. Then afterwards he was like - what is this new obsession you have with pineapple anyway - and I told him and he burst out laughing! Fortunately I was able to see the funny side by this point...