The October Bus - hoping for lots of BFPs and Summer babies!!

[Writerwannabe83]

Hi guys, just starting the October bus.

I'm almost 33, have a DS (2.5 years) and am now trying for DC2. I caught pregnant on cycle 1 but unfortunately had an early miscarriage and am now entering cycle 5.

My current situation is that DH has been changing his mind over the last 12 months to wanting to try for another, then not wanting to, then wanting to etc and it's been very difficult. We have now come to the compromise that we can actually try up until next August but if nothing has happened by then we stop TTC.

I'm on CD3 now, I usually ovulate around days 17/18 and have cycles of around 31/32 days.

Good luck to everyone!!!

Hi ladies, I joined the October bus bring have been very busy and haven't had much time to post. I'm just catching up with everyone's news.

I'm cd14 today and gother slight ewm, so planning a bit of baby making action tonight. This is my first month of temping, so not sure what to expect. My cycles have been a bit inconsistent since having the coil removed. I've been using the cheap opk from amazon, it's all shown negative so far, so unsure if it's the wrong time I'm testing or if it might be later, I'm hoping temping will show something! Feeling a bit anxious about it all, but can only do what I can do. Does anyone else use the cheapie opk?

Hi guys, can I join?

My stats:

Age: 29
DH's age: 36
TTC #2 (DD 26 months)
Cycle 5
CD 1

AF arrived this morning. Last month was my first month charting and my temps have been low since 9dpo so I've been fully expecting AF. I've found charting really helpful, wish I'd started it ages ago.

ali I don't think that sounds crazy at all. I wake at 5.30 every morning & take my temp (even on weekends!).

mumrahh I use the One Step OPKs from Amazon. Are you testing a few times a day? If your surge is short you could miss it if only testing once a day. I have heard of women never getting a positive OPK and still getting a BFP so don't lose hope. Hopefully temping will help you pinpoint ovulation too

Good luck to everyone. Hopefully this is a lucky bus!

I'm on CD15 and due to ovulate in three days. I started getting EWCM today.

I've just come home from work all ready to DTD but DH has the worst cough, it's horrible, phlegmy clearly full of rank germs and it's putting me right off!

Thanks purple haze, I'm going to try for the next week with the opk, just to see how it goes. I am only testing once a day, so might not be enough.

What sort of temp drop should I be looking for? The last few days I've been 36.2 and today I was 36.1, is that a drop? Thank you, all quite new!

Hi all, jumping on from the September bus. 37 and been ttc#2 for over a year now. Keeping things crossed for this month. if nothing, then I'll be taking myself off to the gp. Don't want to have to...dreading that.

Well tonight was a write off too - so two nights in a row it hasn't happened because DH is tired/unwell.

I'm feeling pretty pissed off to be honest.

If he's not up for it again tomorrow then I'm going to make him wank into a syringe and I'm going to inseminate myself. I'm not even joking.,

Oh no writer, that's rubbish! Sorry to hear that.

My OH likes video games and he was playing tonight and I told him that he needed to make time at some point as 'I wanted him to stick his willy in me so I could take his juices!' He has very kindly and dutifully obliged and he's agreed he'll pop it in his diary again for Monday 😆

That approach clearly worked for him!

I've just done an OPK and it's totally negative so my anger has lessened somewhat.

I slept in the spare room last night as DH's cough was so bad and I can hear him downstairs now and he sounds much better so hopefully it will be 3rd time lucky tonight.

Oh writer sorry that's bad timing for DH to get ill. We had the same 2 cycles ago & last cycle DD was sick on ovulation day! It's almost like the world is conspiring against us sometimes FX there's still a few days until you actually ovulate so plenty of time!

I'm just so frustrated as last month DH said we can TTC for 12 months and if nothing has happened then we stop and just have the 1DC.

Last month was a write-off because we only DTD the day of ovulation because prior to that he was withdrawing as he didn't want to TTC at that point.

This month we've already missed two nights of my FW.

Next month DH is out of the country for the entireity of my FW.

So that's two months of potential missed opportunity and one month (next month) of pregnancy not even being a remote possibility.

So that's 3 out of my 12 months wasted already

Writer - I totally get why you are frustrated, I'm worried this time limit is going to put unnecessary stress over the whole thing though. Can you agree with DH that next months doesn't count as he's not around to DTD. This month sounds okay still, especially if you haven't had a positive OPK.

I've told DH that I've added an extra two months on to the deadline in light of last month and next month

So I have got until the end of next August to get pregnant.

I've also told him that if during any future cycles he's out of the country or he's too ill/tired to perform when needed then that will also result in extra months being added

Argh writer that is so frustrating. I agree with others that the deadline seems to be creating unnecessary stress and pressure, but I get there's not a lot you can do about that when he's the one imposing it.

I'm expecting to ov on Wednesday if I follow last month's pattern. DTD Friday and last night, hoping DH will be up for more in the run up.

Hi Writer,

It must be really frustrating but you've still got time this month.

Can you remind me what cd you're on and when you normally ov?

Urgh I'm frustrated too. My CM is perfect this morning but OH not interested at all, won't do my opk till later but hoping it's still negative. Hopefully I can drag him away from his PC game later whatever my OPK.

Now even Ovia has shifted my fertility window and I haven't even put in today's data. Urgh FFS, doing that OPK now...

It's positive, how did Ovia know this? I didnt think the data that I've put in over the last few days indicated anything. Maybe it's the temps but they look erratic to me and there was no dip pre ovulation.

Ali - I'm on CD16 and due to ovulate on CD18.

I've had more EWCM today so we are having sex tonight, no excuses!

Ooh that's weird sk1pper, I'm not sure how it knew!

Hope you and writer managed to pin down your OHs!

I did

It was a bit of a half hearted attempt because he's still not well but we got there in the end

I've booked him in for tomorrow night too

Up early as can't sleep. AF really heavy yesterday and overnight , I mean really heavy. I can't help but think I need to book first gp appt to ask about fertility sooner rather than later, I've just put up with heavy periods and flooding for years but now I am very worried there's some underlying cause and it's affecting my chances of pregnancy. Could anyone tell me what happens at the first gp appointment? I dread going to Dr's at the best of times (anxiety issues) so I would like to be prepared if poss.

My OH is refusing to DTD because of the wedding. It's fair enough but I got really upset about it last night and now he's just giving me a wide birth. So probably out this month as I ovulate tomorrow.

Boo - how long have you been TTC? I won't tell you about my appointment as it was shite, I'm going back in the new year and trying with a different doctor. My advice, is to add 6 months on to he length of time you've been TTC.

Ah sorry sk1pper. Hopefully he has a change of heart & you can DTD tonight.

Boo - I have no experience but I hope the GP is helpful

sk1pper - is it just this month he wants to put TTC on hold? I know it must be frustrating and upsetting but would you really want to run the risk of having to cancel your wedding? What happened if you went in to labour a few days before? What would happen if you have birth complications and you or baby are ill? What if you had to have a c-section? It's a huge risk to take because if your due date would be on your wedding day then there's a very high chance, for many reasons, that the wedding may not be able to take place.

I know it's disheartening, but it's just one month he's delaying it and for practical reasons.

Last month I was tempted to delay TTC for a month because if I had fallen pregnant it would have meant I wouldn't have been able to go on our already booked family holiday next April - I was worried about a £600 holiday going to waste let alone wasting what your wedding must be costing?

boo - you have my sympathies. My periods are horrendously heavy! I usually wake up in the morning to find it has arrived and there will be blood everywhere. When I get out of bed and stand up it just pours out of me and I'm not even exaggerating. My periods last about 7 days in total and the first 3 days are just awful, I soak through tampons and sanitary towels within hours, it's unbearable.

When I go to bed at night I actually put a nappy in my underwear so that when I wake up in the morning and first get out of bed it can soak up all the blood - that's how bad it is. I hate it.

The only respite was when I had my Mirena Coil in, it was heaven!!!