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Positive opk after miscarriage- 2

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jinglebellmel · 30/08/2016 19:49

Can't believe we've filled that thread, hope you all find this one!

Ali - so uncomfortable isn't it?! But I like that I can feel it happening, gives me a bit of warning at least. Yeah, I'm expecting I'll ov Thursday/Friday now which would work out much better than Saturday so fingers crossed.

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jinglebellmel · 16/09/2016 21:15

Thanks castle, congratulations on your third time lucky

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Castleonacloud · 16/09/2016 21:31

Thanks, I know it's not easy... X

Castleonacloud · 16/09/2016 21:41

Bear - For those who have had or are having early scans, can you remind me how you initiated the process? Will I automatically get an early scan (at 8 weeks say) because of the mc, or will I just have to wait until 12 or 13 weeks like any normal pg? Did you see your GP, or book in with a midwife?

The NHS hospital I went to had an BEP clinic (bleeding in early pregnancy unit). It was on the maternity ward and was only open mornings, but I was advise to go there when I didn't feel well on my first pregnancy, I thought I was 10 weeks, but lost the baby at 6wks. The BEP clinic did an internal scan. I went straight there on 2nd and 3rd pregnancies, and on 3rd pregnancy because of bleeding, I was scanned every 1/2 weeks from 5weeks.

The midwives there were also great when I miscarried, explained my options and sat with me while I cried.

Maybe there is one near you?

thatsnotmybear · 16/09/2016 23:15

GP was very sympathetic, she had bloods taken immediately and I should get the results on Monday. I can get more bloods done early next week too, to compare the levels and see if things are going up or down. I'm not very hopeful. There's not really any explanation for getting a clear bfp at 11dpo then a near bfn at 17dpo unless hcg is dropping. I'm also getting my thyroid tested at the same time, which was something my acu was keen for me to do. But GP said it's more likely to just be bad luck than anything wrong with me. Small comfort though when facing my second pg loss in the space of 4 months.

thatsnotmybear · 16/09/2016 23:28

Sorry I missed all the latest posts. Thanks for the info Castle, I'm sorry for your losses but I'm glad it worked out for you eventually. I hope it does for me!

Oh Mel. I sincerely hope we're not in the same boat. I'm inclined to agree with Ali regarding your tests though x

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jinglebellmel · 17/09/2016 03:34

Glad your GP was helpful bear, don't hold out much hope of even managing to get an appointment with mine! I hope that the results surprise you and there is some sort of anomaly/innocent explanation. Being in the same boat I know that's hard to believe though.

Thank you everyone for the positivity, but I just can't see any reason for the test being so light other than a cp. there was an obvious line on Tuesday and a squinter 3 days later. I'll try another later today but I think in my heart I know. Not sure I can do this any more though

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jinglebellmel · 17/09/2016 04:44

Just got a not pregnant on a clear blue :( how can this be happening again?!

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thatsnotmybear · 17/09/2016 06:21

Mel I'm so sorry. I just did my last FRER hoping that it would all have been some big mistake, and it was a glaring BFN.

All my sentiments echo yours, how can this be happening again? It seems very unfair Flowers

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jinglebellmel · 17/09/2016 07:31

So sorry for you too bear. I've woken up the last few mornings happy, for the first time in months. Waking up today I just want to hibinate until things are better X

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jinglebellmel · 17/09/2016 07:37

I wonder when Af will start?

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thatsnotmybear · 17/09/2016 08:07

I've just starting having cramps and pink when I wipe, so I guess AF is on the way. Strangely thankful that at least this is going to resolve itself & I won't need surgery or other intervention.

I think now you've had a negative hpt, AF will be along soon.

Sorry Mel Sad

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Alibaba2 · 17/09/2016 08:47

I'm so sorry Bear, I'm shocked.

If it's any consolation, someone told me recently that people seem to fall pg straight after a cp.

I was wondering if I had one last weekend although AF was on time so perhaps not.

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Bee1234 · 17/09/2016 08:48

I'm so sorry ladies.. Life can be so cruel sometimes, my heart goes out to you. Sounds like a probable CP if AF has arrived within a week of a positive test. Sucks :( but yes at least no extreme measures. Big hugs for you and take care of yourselves this wkend.

Thebean123 · 17/09/2016 08:58

Morning ladies...

Sorry I have been silent for days, been so busy with moving and funeral plans etc, but I have been coming on once a day and having a quick read to check up on everyone so I think I'm up to date.....please forgive me if I get something/someone confused I mean no offence.

Bear and Mel.....I'm so sorry this is happening to you both. Mother Nature is an absolute piss taking bastard! Excuse my French, but I am starting to believe that this whole conceiving business is just a massive cruel torture exercise for women. I unfortunately know how devastating it feels to have your hopes raised for pregnancy and then taken away so quickly again. I have no advice really, as I know myself I just let nature take its course (needed no intervention) and felt well and truly sorry for myself and bitter for a while. And that's totally 100% ok.

On the flip side, Mother Nature has taken her cruel bastard hat off and massive congrats to the ladies with beautiful and happy news regarding scans :) so pleased for you and despite how cruel and horrible it is when we lose a pregnancy it's these stories and accounts that pick us up, dust us off and enable us to keep on trying :)

In other news (and an attempt to make you smile) we moved on Thursday and DP decided to pick up a sickness bug and managed to actually shit himself whilst loading our sofa onto the Lorry. Yes ladies.....a 30 year old man gripping a sofa whilst looking at me with sad eyes and the words "babe....I've just done a poo in my pants"! I was very sympathetic and replied...."put the sofa down, change your pants, pop and Imodium and get going. You can be ill tomorrow we don't have time for this today!!" And the poor bugger did. 14 hours later he collapsed into bed in our new home and was allowed to poop freely again ha ha!

McBaby · 17/09/2016 09:41

So sorry you too I can imagine how disappointed and frustrated you both must be.

thatsnotmybear · 17/09/2016 09:47

Thanks for your support everyone. And thanks for cheering me up Bean. Your poor DP! Blush

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jinglebellmel · 17/09/2016 16:16

Haha that's great bean!

Thanks everyone, it really does feel cruel, I just hope it resolves it's self quickly now and without any intervention so I can try again. Not sure if I should go to dr to try and get them to out this on my notes as 2nd miscarriage? Not sure if they'd count it?

Bear so sorry Af has arrived, although I can understand you being a bit thankful. I did a few more tests earlier (single handedly supporting the test industry) digital is back to 1-2 must just be that I held wee longer as frer is still complete negative from the same lot of wee. So it seems the digi is more sensetive than advertised.

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McBaby · 17/09/2016 16:52

Jinglebell I would go to the gp on Monday and let them know you have been getting a mixture of positive and negative results. They may want to do blood tests to check hormone levels etc.

thatsnotmybear · 17/09/2016 16:55

Mel it sounds like there's something still going on? Can you get a GP appt on Monday to request a Beta hCG blood test like I did? I think under ordinary circumstances my GP might've sent me home to wait it out, but in light of the mc and how upset I was, she was happy to do it to give me peace of mind. I think your GP should agree to the tests given your recent history?

thatsnotmybear · 17/09/2016 16:56

Sorry crossed posts with Mcbaby.

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jinglebellmel · 17/09/2016 17:51

I'll try to get an appointment, I have a feeling they're going to be disinterested though.

FYI for anyone like me who likes to waste money on frer, both first response one step and Asda own brand tests (much cheaper) are giving me a v faint line when first response isn't. So I wouldn't bother wasting money on them in future cycles as they don't seem to be as sensetive as some of the cheaper ones anyway!

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thatsnotmybear · 17/09/2016 19:21

That's good to know Mel.

Ali I forgot to say earlier that you can have a CP and have AF show up on time. It can either be on time, or up to a week late. So it's certainly possible that's what happened to you last cycle.

Alibaba2 · 17/09/2016 19:32

Thanks Bear.

I've been pg 4 times and hcg gives me a sense of panic and depression. I feel like a black cloud moves over me and I feel doom and gloom.

I felt just like that last weekend and like I'd been drugged. Obvs I was happy at the possibility I might be pg but I recognised the feeling. I also felt really cold but had rosy cheeks. I would have put money on being pg.

Am feeling pretty downhearted today I must say. And like it's not going to happen Sad

How are you feeling Bear?

thatsnotmybear · 17/09/2016 20:00

It's incredible the effect that hormones can have on your mindset & mood.

Weirdly I feel a lot less irritable now than I have been feeling for the past week. Emotionally I feel much better than I did yesterday, I just had a little cry this morning when I got the negative hpt but that's all. I had a really good sob yesterday though, no point keeping it all in!