TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

pickle sorry to hear about your riad hassle. What a pain that you have to get a solicitor involved

Why don't we go into a lottery syndicate?

shoes not sure what to say. What crap to have to go through. hope your friends take good care of you.

latenight it is really hard to combine fertility treatments but do as I say not as I do you should prioritise your IUI - can't you "sneak" out for treatment? You only need to rest up for about 15mins after.

Whilst I was on holiday I got, not sure how to describe, a breakout of acne on my neck and upper back. Yesterday I had a "bacial" (back facial) and a lot of extraction. I have since been tending with frequent applications of salycilic acid pads but do not feel any improvement. The good news is it is not on my face. Bad news: I think it is spreading...
Only 2 days left of holidays... Did Sweet FA today... Rest of weekend = Project Allotment!

Good luck late for tomorrow will be thinking of you!!
I had my 6 day scan today with so far 4 follicles on my right and 7 on the left, Mondays scan will let me know if it's Wednesday for egg collection or Friday, hoping they keep growing nicely.

Best of luck late!!!

Great news lovely - lots of lovely follicles!!!

Oh by the way not sure if I mentioned that I try to use PMA where I can - either by writing & saying out loud my own affirmations using the power of "I am", for example:
I am in perfect time
I am ready to conceive a lovely healthy baby

I also have a CD with tracks for the different parts of the process - follicle growth, implantation and 2ww (The Belief by Helen McPherson).

Thank you kwick
I will hunt out some affirmations and meditation cds, they can definitely help, especially as I'm beginning to get a little anxious! Just so badly want this to work!
Have a great weekend all 😊

How did it go late?

Horrible. The doctor couldn't get the catheter in - apparently my retrograde uterus also has a weird entrance. It was very, very uncomfortable. In the end rather than waste the sperm he left it in the entrance. Then after I'd been moved to another room for the rest, everyone just vanished. 25 minutes later I went up to reception and said I couldn't find anyone, and said I hadn't got the leaflet or pregnancy test, they looked surprised, but then I thought that they probably didn't give that if it didn't work, and had to leave before I started crying. Then I went back to work and had to be cheery in front of a load of kids.

The plus side is it doesn't count as a try so I still have two tries left. The downside is that the doctor said he wouldn't want to have another try until it had been investigated. I don't know why he didn't use the ultrasound as the previous doctor did.

I'm sorry, that was probably far more info than you needed. They said it was very unusual, so I am sure that those of you still waiting will be fine.

latenight there's no such thing as tmi. We are all going through this. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. I'm not sure about this, but if it's at the entrance I would think you have a chance still. My uterus is retrograde too. And my iuis always hurt. Are you able to go to a different clinic? That's not very nice that they forgot about you. Hugs.

Oh sweetheart that sounds awful :( which clinic do you go to?they sounds meanies!!!
Like karen said,there is no such thing as tmi here, this is place where you can say tmi and we don't judge or get grossed out just here to listen and go through it all together is there a family planning clinic in your area? we have walk in centres near me (I'm not quite sure what they do as I just work in the same health centre as them rather than been there) but they might be able to get to seen by specialist sooner and possibly more likely to be sympathetic/understand than a Gp. Hugest hugs but don't give up if it's inside at all they may still get up there.xxxx

late I am so sorry you had such an awful experience... Your clinic sounds not of the best standing... How can they abandon you? I always have a nurse with me during the 15 minute wait.
Anyway I think you should put a line under it and make sure you focus on implantation - so fresh pineapple including core, cayenne pepper and lots if PMA!!!

Thanks everyone, it is lovely to be able to tell someone about it all. I had pineapple and a very small glass of red wine last night - will add some cayenne pepper into whatever I cook tonight!

The clinic has been great every other visit, but I think their staffing levels are lower on a Saturday and my procedure which should have taken only a short time over ran considerably. I'm going to see if I can speak to the other doctor tomorrow (the one who managed to get the tube in...) to see what she suggests. Fingers crossed for this time though!

Late that sounds really stressful. It's perfectly possible for those swimmers to find their own way through your cervix so definitely don't give up hope. After all they usually found their way of their own accord!

I hope everyone else is OK. I'll catch up properly on the thread when I'm not trying to read it on my phone.

How is everyone doing?

Evening pickle
How are you? I'm not going to lie I'm having a minor anxiety moment, having my er tomorrow morning and I'm nervous as anything!

Hello ladies,

Sorry I've been AWOL. I wasn't getting emails to say there had been updates and it's been a crazy month or sk. Just been catching up on all your news. Did I see a sneaky 13 week baby scan in there? Congratulations!!! That's awesome news!

Seems a bit odd still posting on here but just on case anyone wants an update, all is good here. Tomorrow I'll be 29 weeks and all seems to be going well.

For those newbies since the last thread, I'm 36, married to a woman (same sex relationship), did 5 rounds of IUI with donor sperm (plus 2 which were stopped early cos they messed up the medication levels), and finally got pregnant on attempt 5. All earlier ones were medicated but the one that worked was unmediated. Currently 29 weeks pregnant. So hang on in there ladies, I am proof that this really can work. Any questions please do ask.

TayDex x

How nice to hear from you taydex and I am so happy that things are going well how big is the bump? How are you feeling? Tell all!

lovely I think it might be your egg collection today? If so best of luck! I must admit I had a minor melt down just before mine... I suddenly had an overwhelming feeling of fear/sihtcaredness just prior and sorry if this is TMI but I realised that I just did not feel at all physically comfortable (I have never been very good at being knickerless and those gowns are so revealing!) Anyway I snuck off to the toilet, and was able to compose myself. Then the actual procedure was fine - and over in a splish-splash. I was out for the count, the only bit I was awake for was a lightening speed scan at the start. Minor discomfort afterwards.
Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you. Let us know how you get on.

Lovely good luck for today,hope all goes well and there lots of mini lovelys eggs to collect. Let us know you get on. I'm ok thanks, still bit down with the unresolved house crap going on but I've slept the last 2nights and that makes a whole heap of difference! I'm trying to stick it in a box until I need to deal with it again-waiting for my file to come back from archiving as to what it says about service charges which could take about 2weeks! Yay I'm so impatient but it will need to stay in a box cos I really can't deal with it and waiting for the company to respond to my very long email of
Complaint

Eek taydex so lovely to hear from you.29weeks wow when did that happen?! My sister is 31 weeks and my bestie 32.5 weeks so all around the same time :) we love hearing from you so don't feel you shouldn't post here. So when do you go on mat leave, did you find out what your having or did u decide to have a surprise? Really am very happy for you keep in touch and let us know when the little munchkin arrives xx

Well ladies I'm 12dpiui and I think I'm out. Used a frer this morning. I thought I saw a line but only if I held it a certain way. I'm on progesterone do I can't even say when my period will be. Feeling down about it. I have my bloodwork on Saturday to make sure. Just really thought it worked. Guess it was just so easy the first time, and I had a positive 11dpiui then.

Hi everyone
Congrats taydex not long now until you meet your baby!!
pickle that sounds crap! Yes pop it all in a box until you can deal with it.

karen it's not over until the lady sings so I'll still keep my fingers crossed for you

kwick well remembered 😊 yes I had my procedure this morning and was very nervous beforehand, but I have to say it was exactly as you described and not at all bad! I'm home now and about to get my pj's on and settle down for the day.
11 eggs were collected and I'm now hoping for them to successfully fertilise.
I'm not sure how I feel at the moment apart from completely out of control and desperate for it to work.
Please pray to whomever the gods of babies are!

latenight we can go through the torturous tww together xx

OMG lovely 11 eggs!!! That is amazeballs!!! I only got 2 and that was on full stimulation (in words of consultant "lets throw everything at it") and then 1 of the two did bot fertilise....
So, so happy for you

Ooops was a bit trigger happy!

pickle sorry about the charges issue... These things are sent to try us!

karen you are definitely not out yet!

lovely will they call you tomorrow with a status report? You have to keep us posted!

At my end:

• Feel like crap - seem to have an upset tummy and does not help I cried all over my new boss this morning when I told her about TTC. She was very supportive.
• was in such a good mood yesterday and am now quite low, hate this hopefully my "bacial" appointment now will sort me out!
• I want a donut... But I gained weight at my SW weigh in today
• 4 different people at work gave me unsolicited positive feedback today (again it is a mystery as to why I feel so low)

Off to give myself a good talking to #firstworldproblems

sorry your feeling poop kwick sometimes it's the small things that tip you over the edge from the big things that you've been managing so well. Keep ur chin up (she says whilst trying not to have yet another breakdown over this stupid service charge shite)
WOW 11 eggs that's fab lovely! Will pray to the little stork for you :) x

kwick have a good cry it works wonders, I love a good cry!
Also have a bloody good guilt free doughnut!!
Thank you for the encouraging words, it means a lot, especially as I have no idea what is good amount of eggs!
One thing I will say is important in a bit of pain at the moment, paracetamol isn't shifting it so I'm adding wine

lovely that's wonderful news! 11! Hope you enjoy your wine. And I hope the pain subsides soon. Just sit back and wait for those eggs to fertilize!

Sorry to hear you feel crappy kwick. I hope you do go out and get that donut!

Thanks for the support from everyone. I've spent my free time today looking up new donors. My previous donor is all sold out for now, so I want to have something lined up. I have 3 good options which makes me feel more comfortable potentially going into a new cycle next week. I know it's still early. Google tells me women get bfn on day 12 and then go on to have bfps all the time. But I don't want to get my hopes up. I really thought I would get a bfp today. I've been having this on and off sharp pain on the right side of my uterus (not my ovary, that I know is higher up because of the pain I felt from my cysts). And I had this same thing last time I was preggo. Ah well. Bloodwork on Saturday and then I'll know.

Thanks pickle and lovely

Food consumed thus far:
1 pizza bun thing
1 cinnamon whirl
2 donuts
5 slices honey roast ham
1lion bar
I think this maybe what they call comfort eating

Bacial was postponed until monday due to mix up... This is good though as feel I need to be near a toilet... You would think severe cramps would curb hunger?