Thread 17 TTC#1 Follow the fallopian road ~~~○

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

I wonder what is going on with me too jem! I had my Nexplanon implant removed in March after three years of having it, then was on pill from March to May as I was getting married and going to a country with Zika for honeymoon and didn't want to take any chances. Now my system seems to be in total chaos!

We dtd last night, DH now not in tonight so will OPK test again tomorrow and see if it's any stronger - then will jump on him if it is!!

Sorry you've got AF symptoms, although I'm swiftly learning that symptoms can mean totally opposite things! You're not out yet

I've got my fingers crossed for you kwick!!!

kwick I am delighted you are still here but obviously gutted at the same time that we are still here. I didn't understand a word of what you said - how different an experience you are having with being so precise and specific about it all. That's what I'm working on at the moment: pregnant people aren't luckier, people who get upduffed first time aren't better - we are all just having different life experiences. I really am so grateful to have had all the support of you guys.
kav good to see you too - been a while! It does feel weirdly nice to be back!
Settles in on couch, turns on Netflix and prepares for long haul

Skip that is a really great sentiment and I am going to keep it firmly at the front of my mind.

It reminds me a little of a line I read in a book when struggling with the ending of my marriage that said we must never consider relationships that come to an end a waste of time. Each one is right for us during a specific time in our lives, and provides us with valuable life experience, and we should think of them as being important milestones in helping us to become our best selves. Or something vaguely along those lines anyway! I have summed it up terribly but I remember it had a really profound effect on me and suddenly made everything seem much better.

So in a roundabout way what you say strikes a similar chord - in my weird brain anyway!

Welcome back, kwik! Hope life is treating you well and good luck with the next cycle.

Wow I have an Internet free day and it's all go!

Welcome pyjamas. I'm fairly new here too and have found huge comfort in a lovely bunch of ladies I talk to in more detail than anyone else on earth.

Live - big congrats.

Kestral sorry to see you go but of course we understand. Please leave in the knowledge if you wish to return we will welcome you with open arms.

I know we still have a way to go but who is starting the next thread? Did Starky/Audrey hang up her boots now she is late in her pregnancy?

I'm really confused with OPKs. On my second 'high' day with CBFM. Lots of CM. great. Only I tested with Internet cheepy this evening and absolutely nothing. I've had this before and my non-expert conclusion is that my hormones are all over the place.

Hm, Purple, that must be confusing. I'm sure someone on here said that the nurse they spoke to said that CM was a more reliable sign than OPKs though, so I'd take heart in that and get plenty of sex in. Especially when it's the cheapies that are saying something different.

Try not to stress about things too much - you must be having an LH surge and you have the most important symptom of EWCM so your body is very likely doing all the right things!

That's a good point Penguin thank you.

fxskip great thinking batman! Yep my journey is full of people sticking wands up my fanjo and me choosing my very own magic potion!
Not sure if it was on this thread where someone wisely said (and much more eloquently than moi) that it is not like there is a list of maximum babies and because someone does get one you have less chance. I take comfort in that, particularly as I am now 42 and time is ticking.
Must admit that I am siht scared I will have either a failed cycle, BFN or MC... Not sure how I will handle any of those options. But for now need to use maximum PMA (and drink loads of milk) *

In other news was awoken this morning at 5.30am by neighbour upstairs smoking weed and the fumes infiltrating into my flat... Not sure what to do about this as it is not the first* time..... Oops not sure how to get rid of bold everywhere!!!

For the Love of God starky/audrey you are not allowed to leave the thread.... Who will award starky stars????? Who will come up with amazeballs thread titles???? Who will keep us all entertained with extra sensory perception of Mr Starky?????? - this is my angry face in case you were wondering!!!!!

So AF got me on CD34 and just after another BFN (thanks AF, could've showed up 5 mins earlier and saved me a FRER for next month, but noooo )

Ah well - on to cycle 2!

Sorry pyjamas

Sorry pyjamas

I've been using cheap Internet HPTs which claim to be the same sensitivity as FRER if that helps. I've never been pregnant so no idea if they are or not but I don't feel so bad using them when they're under £1 each.

Sorry about AF Pyjamas.

Kwick they should have the test results now which is really annoying but next available gp appointment was next week! Glad you're ready to get things started again!

Inspector/Purple that was me chatting with a nurse last week, she was a big believer in CM over opk's. She said it took her 18 months to conceive her first so she knew the frustration!

I'm fully expecting AF in a few days, I'm not going to test again, just trying to chill out a bit. Means I can drink on holiday in a few weeks! I've also booked in for my first acupuncture appointment for next week.

I love that penguin and kwick we will have more struggles, that much is guaranteed. Yours might be a failed cycle, any one of us could face relationship issues, miscarriages, difficult pregnancies. You'll cope, we all will, because we made it this far. That's the good side to all of the difficulties we've faced - we'll all just boss through like we always have

Thanks all - it was only our first proper go at TTC, so I knew we would be extremely lucky to hit the jackpot first time. It was hard not to hope though! If I'm honest, I think it's good that I got a BFN - I was just as scared of getting a BFP, but as soon as I felt the disappointment (rather than relief) when I saw the BFN, I knew that now is the right time to TTC

That's what I'm working on at the moment: pregnant people aren't luckier, people who get upduffed first time aren't better - we are all just having different life experiences.

Amen to this skip

Agreed kwick this thread misses starks straight talking! You do a good job of talking us down from the edge though. Perhaps you can award kwicks cake?

Sorry AF got you pyjamas hope you are alright I completely know what you mean by the disappointment being reassuring that yes I am now ready for this.

Just got a letter from my doctors regarding the scan, I have PCOS.

Oh fishy sorry to hear that. What did the letter say, is there a level of severity? What are the next steps - do they try clomid for pcos? Hope you are alright

Oh, Lovely, I'm sorry

I don't have any direct experience (that I know of) but I have read numerous times on here of people successfully getting pregnant with PCOS so please don't get too despondent. If nothing else, they can now give you a proper treatment plan and prescribe the right medications to make things happen.
Better you know now and can take action soon than spend more months in the dark.

It must have come as a blow though so feel free to moan and feel sad and use us as your therapists x

I'm sorry to hear that Lovely I hope you can get a treatment plan and things look more positive soon.

I'm only 5dpo and already I'm talking myself into being out this month. I don't think I can bear that bit of hope.

Sorry to hear that lovely, but don't worry that it counts you out-several years ago after getting intermittent pelvic pain I was diagnosed with PCOS and whilst I think mine flares and subsides, when I first started ttc I asked the doctor if it would present a problem and he was pretty zen about the whole thing. Stay positive x

Thank you everyone, you're all fabby beyond words! I had a mini meltdown but then pulled myself together. I spent all yesterday feeling sorry for myself and I wasn't going to waste a second day like that!

The doctors letter was stupidly short, I had to go to the NHS website to find out more about it! I have zero symptoms. I've had another blood test today, no idea why, but I have my appointment next week where hopefully I'll become more informed.

Sorry to hear that Lovely but glad you are feeling a bit more pulled together. Hopefully you'll get lots more useful and helpful info at the appointment and will be armed with knowledge for next steps. At least you know what's going on now rather than being in the dark. Knowledge is power!

Haha thanks Kwick! And yes, I guess I will be sticking with my current job. Shame I spent so much time on applications over the last week! Good luck with your PMA and milk guzzling! And for dealing with your skanky neighbour?!

I am loving these positive sentiments guys about every experience we go through being an experience in itself. I think that's a great mindset.

Inspector work has definitely been less than productive since getting that bfp. It's actually a really busy time at work for us though which in some ways is a good distraction!

Jem sorry you think AF is on her way. Has she shown her ugly face yet?

Purple - I agree, listen to CM! Hope you're getting on it!!

Sorry AF got you Pyjamas. onwards and upwards to the next cycle armed with more knowledge for cycle 2!

How are you doing live? Has it sunk in yet at all?

I am supposed to be going home (4hr+ train journey) on Thursday night to see my parents for the weekend and to go bridesmaid dress shopping with my friend. Her wedding is 1st April next year. I'm not sure what to do as, if all continues well and this pregnancy goes ahead, I'd be due around 2 weeks after her wedding, which is at the other side of the country. I don't really want to tell yet though (we've told no one so far) as it's such early days but obviously would feel really bad her spending money on a bridesmaid dress which I know there's no way i would fit into if this bean sticks. It's not like you could 'let a dress out' to eight and a half months preggers. Plus she might might be mad when she finds out? Also, am I even likely to be going to be a bridesmaid at the wedding anymore?! Really not sure what to do.... plus have been having a very off tummy and a bit sicky so worried about spending the whole day out shopping (this includes several dress shop appointments, lunch and then dinner and drinks) and not being able to hide it. What do you guys reckon?!
Also, am I going to be able to hide it from my parents? Who will think it very strange if I'm not drinking wine with them, nevermind gagging when I open the fridge... I'm going to be up there on my own without DH so wasn't going to tell them yet. Maybe I will have to rethink that..
Sorry for epic post, just getting myself into a bit of a tizz about this and wondering what anyone else thinks?

Marmite don't go. Claim flu / awful sickness and you can't leave the bathroom let alone get on a train. If you aren't ready to tell them and it's going to be obvious then I would stay away until you are.

Period is not due for another week so no sign of it. I get PMS for the whole TWW - just subtle signs of the increased progesterone like mood swings, sugar craving, tiredness, sometimes breast pain. But this happens regardless of whether you get a bfp or not - you aren't actually pregnant until it implants and hcg starts up. It's in the laps of the gods.

Sorry to hear that lovely, hopefully now that they've pinpointed something, you'll know what's what and find a way around it

I wouldn't go marmite and would just claim sickness for now - it all sounds a bit complicated, especially if you're starting to feel a bit rough already - the last thing I'd want are questions I'm not ready to answer!

marmite that's a proper condundrum. I'd definitely claim too ill to go, but what to do about the dress! Leave it too late and you're right, she'll be mad that you didn't tell her ns she didn't have time to get a replacement bridesmaid. 2 weeks either side of due date is defo risky for commitments, so I'd suggest you drop out of bridesmaiding. But there is no way you can get out of it without telling her some horrendous lie or the truth - both are not ideal! Can you get out of the wedding by saying you've won a once in a lifetime trip to somewhere amazing and it has to be then?!

Marmite if it's just looking at dresses now could you write down the names of the contenders and Google them later to see if they do a maternity fit? Many people work right up until their due date so I'm sure it's possible to be a bridesmaid, however you never know exactly when they're going to make an appearance so DH may need to stay sober with the baby bag packed and ready to go! Is there anyway you can go to only part of the dress visiting and dinner plans? Again you could claim illness and say you want to show up but not be there all the time and end up being worn out?