Thread 17 TTC#1 Follow the fallopian road ~~~○

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

Thanks inspector, yes, I am feeling positive that all the signs suggest my body has actually remembered how to ovulate after all those years on the pill! Even if no ewcm this month. And we managed plenty of dtd right up to and through fertile week so we shall see...!!!

I think we should all join in on some sort of fertility rain dance. Maybe BFPs will come in runs?

Sounds like you're doing an amazing job of staying strong fxskip

Skip so sorry to hear that. I hope whatever you decide on it goes as smoothly as possible. Look after yourself

Happy birthday Kwick

Jem good hear you had some time away from thinking about ttc, a break is important. Enjoy your FW!

Moose your DH and mine sound similar, he doesn't drink anymore but could never finish when he did and can still never finish in the mornings. We talk about it and the pressure mounts and then his performance anxiety gets worse... It's a vicious cycle. BUT since we have dropped all notion of a FW it has gotten better. Personally I don't think dtd a few days before AF is due is going to help us conceive that cycle, but that helps because I'm not fussed, he picks up on that, I get jizz, he feels pleased and more confident. Over all i get more jizz and am actually following NHS advice of regular sex.
Before we go to sleep every other night, we check in- could we dtd now? If he's stressed or tired we put it off a night. It saves me coming on to him randomly and he being surprised and then me feeling rejected...ugh.
Maybe throwing the idea of a FW out the window would help? Its the only thing that has worked for us in 7 months. 8 jizzes compared to the normal 3 (often not around ovulation anyway).

I'm expecting AF this weekend, or Monday latest. Can't get my hopes up. Need to prepare myself a bit more for cycle 9.
I've thrown away my opks and IC's, I've got one FRER to use if I'm late and 2 clear blue digital to check the FRER... Which is probably never going to be positive.

Well that sounds positive Alice
This month hasn't been great as I've been away so much, so it made the not finishing worse as that was the only chance we really got to do it!

I'm all up for the fertility rain dance! I like it when the BFP's happen on here, especially amongst those who've been trying for a while. Reminds me that there's hope and all is not lost....
I do think trying to be relaxed about it all must help. That it far easier said than done though - something crazy happens over fw and the 2WW!

fxskip I completely understand the hanging on to hope - I will keep my fingers crossed.

Now now alice it us far too early to throw the towel in!

kavan I've just started cycle 8 too. High five to bfp on cycle 8

penguin know what you mean re doctor. I went earlier to have a chat about pcos as a scan showed up abnormalities a few years ago before ttc and this has been playing on my mind. She has referred me for blood tests during my next period so I already feel like I'm going to get my period and it's fine - bring on the blood tests.

Sorry you and your oh are having so much trouble with this moose it must be incredibly frustrating. I think I've said it before and you've probably tried it - but I do find a sexy playlist helps - and me being quite vocal during sex.

Hope you get some clarity soon purple

skip thinking of you lovely how are you in yourself? Crampy or anything? The waiting must be awful.

Thanks alice and don't lose hope, fx for a bfp for you

Totally up for this rain dance. I did an OPK earlier and it was pretty much positive - checked my cycle day and it was only 11 which is really early for me. I've got a funny feeling I may have had a chemical last month - things just felt a bit different. Who knows. Plenty of DTD happening so just keeping things crossed and hoping for a little uteral Union of hugh and eggo

I'll join in this fertility rain dance!

[Puts on her hippy skirt to join the dance]

Ooh.... Think I've had the minorist of cramps/twinges...... Maybe my body will start doing something again..... Either that or it is wind

AF is here.

Means my next FW will fall when OH is away on a stag do.

Ah sorry purple! I swear she is cruel bitch with her timings.

Have a nice glass of

Thank you Hep. Feel sad as at this rate it could be October before we can try again. A friend started TTC at the same time (although no one knows we're trying) and she'll have a baby by then.

Weirdly hoping next cycle is an odd one so have a chance of OH being here during FW. Also going to see the Dr about possible PCOS as it would explain the odd OPK outcomes.

Got wine.

Sorry for the moan. I know there are many others in a much harder position.

Sorry purple how long is your OH on the stag do for is it just a weekend or longer? Hoping your FW starts either a few days before he goes or continues a few days after her bets back! That is hard about your friend. Have a wallow then try and stay positive.

Hope your twinge means something is happening for your hep! Did GP have no advice as to what to do now? Just wait?

marmite
I haven't heard anything from the gp. She sent me for the blood test, and as it was normal/negative, no action was taken (it actually says that on the result paper i received).

I plan to wait 1-2 more weeks, and then go back to her to ask if there are pills to restart my cycle. I have 1 month supply of the pill left, so could even take that.

AFs last appearance was 19th may.

Must be so frustrating Hep :( Do you normally have regular cycles?

alice
fairly regular. since coming off the pill: 33, 29, 29, 28, 37, 29, 33, 32, and now 70 and counting.....

before the pill..... was around 29-35....

Wow! I hope your GP can give you something to sort it out. How strange.

Hep have you now missed 2 afs? wtf?! My last AF was 18th May. 2 years ago I'd have been overjoyed to have missed 2 periods, especially over the summer, now it's become the stuff of nightmares.

Purple you've every right to feel what you feel, you just gotta get the feelings felt and then let them go. If you stuff those feelings of mild resentment (or whatever it is) away, it will fester and grow. Be kind to yourself and be kind to your friend - she can't help it. Just like you cant. hugs to you xx

Thank you everyone. I am really relieved that we agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC as I feel it takes the pressure off and I am glad my pregnant friends don't have to worry how to act around me if you see what I mean? So I don't think me feeling sad shows to those feeling joyful and I'm able to put it aside enough to be really happy for them.

yup..... 2 missed AF.

purple moan away ! this is a rant- and moan- welcome zone ! we all need an outlet and many/most of us aren't telling people in the rl we are ttc

Sorry purple :-(

hep that's mad, really hope you get clarity soon.

moose different things work for everyone but contrary to Alice, dh actually gets a better hit rate in morning. It's hard as it means dtd circa 5.30 am but the tiredness helps him not feel pressured in a strange way.

hep I'd give it a week and if still nothing go back and ask for something to kick start it. Think that's pretty bad the GP didn't ask to see you again after blood results.

I officially have ttc on the brain - saw a car with a number plate that ended in FMU while out at lunch earlier and all I could think was 'first morning urine'!!

Sorry purple hope you're alright

Hep what the hell that must be unbelievably frustrating, and they've got no clue as to what's happening?

I did an OPK yesterday and got quite a strong line - that was day 11. This is really weird for me - I always ovulate on day 15 or 16. We DTD days 10 and 11 but now DH is away until friday. We can do it first thing Friday but I can't help but feel like we are already out this month.

I did a pregnancy test just in case which was obviously negative and dos another OPK today which was negative. Guess I'll keep doing them to see what happens and if I get a proper positive at the weekend as I was expecting?

God I feel like I've slipped back into my mentalness again already

jem There will be no Starky star for you if you're not careful! You're meant to be relaxing, forgetting cycle days and having a month off stressing!! Put down the pissy sticks!!
If you did ov day 11 though, you DTD so not to worry. And if it is the weekend, then happy days you get a second chance! I'm trying kwicks PMA mantra!

hep that is totally crazy, and so unhelpful with the results. I'd be booking another appointment just to bug them into helping me find some answers. It's mental torture otherwise.

Just lost my chilled out cycle on day ten of the tww, I can tell I lost it when I looked up how many cycles of ivf my CCG offers (1 incidentally, after 3 years of trying but under the age of 35). Now I'm looking back at my charts over the last year. The one attached is one where I thought I had a good chance of being diffed because of the timing of DTD and Fertile fluid, but now I'm thinking maybe this is why I'm not pregnant yet, just not getting enough jizz. I worked out I've actually got jizz 17 times this year and this month has been 7 times... I think I've been living in a dream world because of seeing people just look at jizz and get insta-diffed 1st cycle.
Perhaps I'll say that I'll actually start to get concerned if I'm not pregnant by January and between now and then I have regular jizz throughout my cycle.
I clearly need to stop looking so far ahead, yesterday I was worrying that I might ruin my 30s because of ttc and it would all be pointless anyway.