He doesn't want a child and I do!

[Bubbles58]

Hiya, I'm hoping you lovely ladies can help me!
My partner of 4 years doesn't want a child with me. He has 3 children from a previously relationship and I have 1 from a former relationship also.
We are amazing together and love each other very deeply, we have a great relationship and I can't image life without him. Ive had a lot of crappy bfs and know he is good man one!
He doesn't want more children as we have 4 in total and finiancial it cost us a lot of money. However I have only the one, I never thought I would only have one and we both have well paid jobs!
It's so hard for me to make a decision, there is no way he will change his mind and I don't want to try and persuade him either!
I have to choose between him or a having another child. It's heartbreaking to think this could be the end but I need to make a decision. The kids we have are already building a blended family life and it can't continue with me not knowing what to do!
I feel unfair on my child, the others have each other but mine is all alone and she has expressed this feeling to me.

What would you do?

I'd leave him and have a child on my own.

If it's a deal-breaker for you, then you should end it. If you could come round to the idea, stick with it!

I have a friend who wanted the man over having kids, but for me it would be a deal-breaker!

I think he's very sensible not wanting yo bring a child in to the world without considering how you will afford it.

You can't force him to want a child nor would it be a good idea to get pregnant without his agreement.

You need to decide which is more important to you.

My dp has been adamant he didn't want anymore children and after years of saying no he has finally agreed. Even now he looks terrified but he has said he will have a lo because I really want a 2nd and DC can have a sibling which he now recognises is important. I wouldn't completely give up hope as he could change his mind? Or maybe even tell him that you feel so strongly that u r questioning where to go from him and see if that makes a difference.