Hi billy, God it sounds so stressful. Not being able to quickly find out practical information when you having to deal with all the emotional and physical sides of the loss. I don't know any of the practical details about testing the fetus as I have never had it done. I hope Louise responds to you today so you know what to ask for tomorrow. Sending you loads of support for the ERPC tomorrow and for the healing on many levels afterwards. I had a low of all low days yesterday (I am 5 days post miscarriage) but today seems a bit more stable. It's now the up hill battle before getting the courage to try again.
Annaif: thanks for sharing your story and so sorry to hear of your losses too. I can't imagine how hard it must have been. My latest was 10 week and I found that full on enough. It sounds like you have, as you say, done the rounds. So frustrating to have continued to have miscarried on protocols. It defiantly sounds like immune stuff is relevant to you with Hashemotos. Let's hope Dr S protocol is the one for you. I have had thyroid checked and most other things.
I found they were totally lovely in coventry. The problem was my GP would not prescribe the medication so I had to keep going up there to get a month supply of meds and that just didn't seem sustainable when I was just preg. I also think my problem starts before BFP and do need steroids or something earlier on but I do not have the guts to self medicate and not be under a doctor- hence Dr. S. Epsom have given me a follow up appointment 17 weeks after my ️bloods have been taken!!!. I had such a low day yesterday and took out my frustration complaining to their PALs service and then booked a private appointment with Dr S (or is he Mr S?). To get my ️bloods read. This is still 6 weeks away.
I find all the testing really soul destroying as it is a constant reminder of what is not happening. As we all do I just want to take home a live baby.
My 3 year old son said to me yesterday (I was in floods of tears after being told I would not get seen before 23 sept at Epsom and no point trying to get a cancellation). "I don't want you to be sad mummy, I want you to be happy". I explained to him that going to doc docs makes mummy sad sometimes. He has had to come to so many appointments with me, including scans where we found out we miscarried. As you say it effects the whole family. My last miscarriage I totally felt my husband would say was the last. But we talked and his main reason was he couldn't bear seeing me go through all the testing and heart break each time. So I reassured him I was willing to go through it, for now. We now know the process and that we have a couple of funky months and then we all pick up. I have been really trying to get my head around my son being an only child (no upset meant to anyone TTC first) and I feel I have made progress with this but I am still not ready to give up yet. However, it does sometimes feel like it is not good for the family we have going through the repeated loss.
Anyway, nearly at work, I have decided not to go to my team meeting this morning as I can't face everyone- going to hide in an office. Thinking of you for tomorrow- billy