Ttc after stopping the pill thread 3. Join us for: Super long cycles, living in limbo, obscene amounts of poas and trying anything and everything to get that bun in the oven!

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Welcome to the 3rd thread for anyone ttc after coming off the pill

We're a lovely group of ladies here to support one another through the wonderful pain in the bum experience that is trying to have a baby

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Here's the link to the previuos thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2559429-The-craziness-that-is-TTC-after-stopping-the-pill-On-this-thread-we-have-100-day-cycles-do-weeks-of-opks-and-send-ovia-into-a-fit-with-our-ever-changing-fertile-windows-Welcome

Woke up to a very unwelcome visitor AF this morning. Feeling quite down about it. It's only our 3rd month of trying but I can't help but worry why it's not working. Felt like I timed everything perfectly this month too.

Sorry to hear AF got you too marmite. Hopefully next month will be our month! It's good you have the vineyard to look forward to and enjoy a drink.

I am going to let myself be a bit sad about it today and will try to be positive. I'm going to Stockholm tomorrow for my 30th birthday so at least I have a nice weekend to look forward to.

Sorry about AF bobo and claire! All the best for next month xx

Sorry to hear of AF marmite and Claire. Enjoy your trip to Stockholm claire, it sounds amazing! I've always fancied going there. Allow yourself time to chill out & indulge in all those things you couldn't have if you were preggers xx

Sorry about af marmite and Claire! Onwards and upwards lovelies 😄

I think our new tww'ers are Lou and cookie!! Exciting times 🙂 I am eagerly awaiting testing day for you both!

Sorry AF turned up Bobo and Claire. Hope you both treat yourselves to lots of lovely things

Defo in the tww now. Mostly okay apart from occasional cramping and backache. Doing my best not to symptom spot and go crazy. How is everyone? Glad it's nearly the weekend!

Sorry marmite and Claire! It's so frustrating but try not to be too disheartened (I should really start taking my own advice!).

I think I am in the tww?? I have no idea right now to be honest! I am if I ovulated haha.

I am on CD 27 today. According to ovia ad due next weekend. Only 'symptom' really is a sore left boob which is random but I'm not looking into it too much.

Fx we get some more BFP's soon!

Does anyone else get really bad pmt?
It's the reason I went on the pill because I get really angry and low for 2 weeks before af. The last 2 months I've been ok but this month it's awful again. Is there anything else I can take to reduce the symptoms?

Hi sparkle, before I went on the pill I used to get bad PMS. My doctor at the time said he didn't recommend taking anything and the best thing was keeping hydrated and having a good diet. He also said to not have too much caffeine as that can affect mood. That was quite a long time ago now though, so there may be something GPs do recommend now.

I, on the other hand, am now remembering the irritating symptoms I used to get mid-cycle back before I went on the pill. They would have probably coincided with ovulation, thinking back as they always showed around the mid-point, and I'm starting to get them again: lower abdomen feeling "full", tense and uncomfortable accompanied by nausea and horrible tastes in my mouth - hurrah!

Oh well, at least it may hopefully mean I am ovulating. Will have to see if/when AF turns up, keep DTD and hope for the best.

Sparkle, I do get mood swings prior to AF (tho no idea if it's AF related or if I'm just being a moody cow!). I'd definitely speak to you doctor about it!

3dpo for me, or possibly 4dpo! Once it gets to Monday I'll be on AF watch as the witch arrived within a week of ov last time! I'm on my big long summer holidays at the moment so I'm hoping that zero work related stress and complete relaxation may make a potential bean stick! Xx

Hi gang. Been plodding along with my "fertile week". Day 21 now. DH and I thought sod it and have dtd every single day- we are going for 7 days straight and if that doesn't do it I don't know what will?!

Pretty sure I've already ov but CB digital opk has other thoughts. What do people think about the CB digital tests missed peak (as you only do FMU) and carrying on with high (flashing smiley) fertility. My bbt dipped today and assuming it will rise tomorrow. Also had a bit of spotting and ewcm is a distant memory. Any thoughts/ideas very much welcome.

Fx for anyone in 2ww X

Hi johno, how are you?

I had the same this cycle - I got 8 highs and gave up! Too stressful. DTD on the first day of flashing smiley and everyday for 5 days. I am hoping that was enough, now I'm thinking it either missed my peak or I didn't ovulate.

How many flashing smileys have you had so far? Last cycle it worked brilliantly - 5 highs then peak.

I had the EWCM too before I got my high and also ov pain so who knows xxx

Hey Lou. I'm ok. Still "trying not be stressed"

What cycle day and dpo are you now?
Well last cycle I had like 2 low, 4 high and then peak.
This time I'm on 2 low and 5 highs. Can't imagine I'll get a peak now. Most my ov pains have gone and bbt seems to support the fact I've already ov, esp with the spotting I've had.

2 more days of dtd and I fear any more and my DH's bits will fall off!!!

We were talking about names for ahem the white stuff. He says some hilarious stuff I have no idea where he gets it from. The best was "population paste"

Going back to the CB DIGITAL opk. I guess it remembers and goes by your normal levels. If it registered high and then as you only test fmu you could in theory completely miss the LH surge for ov and be right back to flashing smiley.... Or am I kidding myself?

Have told myself if we don't start cooking our mini Johno this month in just gonna have a break from bbt, opk and see what happens and enjoy my 2 weeks holiday in the sun X

Hi all just wanted to pop in and say hello. It's a looong time since I posted but have still been trying to follow just a little less regularly! Found I was thinking about it all too much.

Glad to see there has been another BFP! Congrats jjspoon!! 😄

Sorry for everyone AF continues to keep getting!! 😡

Fingers crossed for a stress free week and no AF cookie.

Nothing to report here. Thought I ov'd around day 25 and now day 44. So allowed myself to test this last few days but both cheapies and frer whiter than white!! Despite thinking my cycles were reducing (33, 41, 28) they are just going back up again! Means I didn't ov on 25 and unfortunately didn't manage to keep DTD so not a chance now. With busy lives and long cycles just can't manage to keep trying so regularly but then get frustrated when in this position.

Johno I wondered the same about CB digital. I haven't used consistently and used opks more regularly, but noticed that some months had lines that were clear positives for 2 days then other months lines just the same colour and for one opk only. So assumed some months surge was just shorter and CB could easily miss but who knows! Soooo confusing!!

DH keeps telling me not to stress, easy for him to say!

Fingers crossed you caught the egg but it seems to me you've done all you can this cycle. You'll have to let me know how you get on. Are you going to continue testing?

I have heard of a few people saying it missed their surge and they just got flashing highs. Even if you dip it in water it will flash as a high until it detects your surge. More confused than ever this month, then I wondered if it was being off because I started taking seven seas. We'll never know!

I have no idea how many DPO I am to be honest. I stopped testing this Wednesday but got all ov symptoms last week.

Love the names for the white stuff, brilliant! .

Hey may, nice to see you here again! Sorry your cycles are getting longer, makes you wonder what on earth is going on doesn't it!

I still have no pregnancy symptoms at all and still having cramps. I know it's normal to have the cramps but I just can't help worrying :( this is all so stressful, first the ttc and now the actual early pregnancy.

Sounds like most of you are in the 2ww now, good luck! Hopefully see some of you soon in the pregnancy threads!

Jjspoon, i found early pregnancy quite stressful with all the cramps etc. I ended up in hospital at 7 weeks with dd2 due to very painful cramps but everything was ok and she's now 3.

I'm not sure when I should test if af doesn't arrive. I had a static smiley on cd16, but I'm not sure if I go from then or a couple of days after because it says peak is for 48hrs. My last 2 cycles were 33 and 32 days.

Good to see you May! Sorry about the frustrating cycle you are having 😔

Lou I have everything crossed for you this cycle!!!

Jj try not to worry it's all totally normal 😄 Just focus on the fact you got your bfp and are having a baby not what could go wrong!

Hope everyone is having a good weekend 😄 I've just spent the afternoon and the mil's bday BBQ. Dh and I were told three times to hurry up and have a baby 😡😡😡 sometimes I really want to just yell and tell people that actually we are trying but it's not happening and the last thing I need is nagging people reminding me grrrr!! Aren't families annoying at times haha xxx

Hi all just checking in quickly from hols, wifi a bit sketchy so haven't been able to check back past this page to see what I've missed - have I missed any exciting bfp news!? I hope so!

Sorry for AF bobo and claire

bobo that is so rude and inappropriate well done for holding your tongue!!

So what I thought was AF arriving on weds was actually only around 30 mins of brown spotting (sorry for tmi!) then another even less amount of brown spotting the next afternoon. That's it. And nothing since. Surely that wasn't actually AF?! My AF has been very light last 2 cycles since being off the pill but still obviously AF and for a few days, with red blood. Has any one else had anything like this?! Have done a few ICs over last few days and all bfn. Currently cd38 so now longest cycle. Unless that was AF and now start of a new cycle?! Guys I am so confused!! can anyone offer any insight??!

Sparkle I would test on cd 33 that's should give you plenty of time for the hormone to build up and af to (hopefully not) arrive 🙂

Hope your having a lovely holiday Marmite 🙂 That sounds frustrating but promising! Maybe you are slow to build up the hormone so the ic's aren't picking it up! Have you still got your frer? You could try that 😄 Really hoping you get a nice holiday bfp!!! Xxx

Thanks Bobo, yes I'm not sue where I stand on being able to enjoy the Italian grapes?! Ha.
Yes I still have the Frer stashed! I have the Frer and 1 IC to last me the last week! Never thought I'd need so many preggo tests on holiday!
I might have to do Frer with fmu tomorrow although still tempted to hoard it for a few days longer...
I'm thinking maybe the stress of the last few horrid weeks at work has messed things up and delayed AF arrival

Haha yeh you should have packed twice as many 😄
Don't worry too much about the vino! I read that baby won't be affected by what you eat and drink until at least 6 weeks so enjoy it while you're there 😄

Stress can do that but fx it's for another reason 😉 Xxx

Fx sparkle and marmite!

I think I ovulated on Saturday. In the evening I began to get cramps on the left side of my pelvis, which lasted until Sunday lunchtime and then just disappeared. Know it's not exact as I'm not testing but it was the same as the ovulation pain I used to get every month before I went on the pill and I've heard some women ovulate a bit early when they first come off the pill?

Couldn't dtd on Saturday as we were staying at a friend's house on a sofa bed in their dining room, which would have been a touch inappropriate! However, we did dtd on the previous Sunday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday as well as last night (tmi, sorry!) so we should have been covered if it was ovulation. Fx something sticks.

Otherwise, I just hope for AF so I can start a normal cycle. But obviously that's Plan B!

Haha that's great news Sarah and I'm sure your friend wouldn't mind 😉 Imagine telling them in nine months that actually baby was conceived in their dining room!! 😆
I would dtd tonight and tomorrow to be absolutely sure! I know I get pains before I normally get a positive Opk so might be best to keep going a few days longer 😄 Fx for you!! Xx

Thanks, Bobo! Haha! The look on their faces would be worth it I think!

Will try to persuade dh to dtd tonight. He's pretty tired after the weekend away though so I may just have to settle for tomorrow. We've said we're just going to dtd every couple of days anyway so hopefully we should be alright! It's still only the first cycle though so we'll see what happens!

Hi ladies, how is everyone doing?

Marmite hope you are having a great time and not stressing too much about poas! Fx for you.

I haven't posted in a while as I've just been so confused and abit stressed with it all, but things are no clearer.
According to FF I was meant to ov on sat/Sunday, had all the right symptoms, tons of EWCM, positive OPKs 3 days in a row, lots of the right cramps pains. But my temp has only gone up a little bit, like 0.2, it's stayed up for 3 day a tiny bit higher but I don't really see a thermal shift.
To make matters even more complicated, on Sunday morning I decided to do a pg test, just to check as it's wierd my temps have been a little higher than usual this cycle. I had AF 13-15th June, but I know on rare occasion some people can still be pg and get AF, plus my nips are so sensitive.
Anyway- I was so tired I did an ic mid stream with first morning urine but it didn't really soak anything up, so (sorry if tmi!) so thought, ah wat the hell, and for some stupid reason decided to dip it in the toilet water . It came up with the faintest of lines, then 10 mins later it was an obvious positive.
Holy crap how confusing!
So I did another IC later yesterday BFN, then a frer and I thought I could see the faintest of blue lines.
This morning I did another IC and again there's a very faint blue line there but outside the time frame.
So-could the lines just be evap lines?
Could I have had a chemical pg?