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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Tested negative.. gutted :(

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sophiekitten92 · 06/04/2016 21:14

Spent all month waiting for time of the month, and got too excited when I was late. Tested negative and period has arrived. I know I shouldn't feel so upset but I can't help it :(

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SquishAndCuddlesFTW · 06/04/2016 22:03

I'm so sorry you've not got BFP this month :( It's horrible getting your hopes up only to have that sinking feeling when the test turns negative.

HUGS!

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sophiekitten92 · 06/04/2016 22:46

Thanks Squish - I need to take my mind off it but it's so hard :(

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twinkydink · 07/04/2016 07:46

I've just tested too and got a BFN and I'm so sad. Had a dream last night that I got my BFP so I think that got my hopes up.

for you

broodypsycho · 07/04/2016 10:55

It's poo ain't it? I've never had my hopes up before like i did with this month after my hycosy, when af showed I just broke down. I'm asking my consultant for some clomid this month as I can't take any more disappointment. Chin up kitten

Penguinepenguins · 07/04/2016 13:13

Hugs from me to you too.

It really does suck, try to keep positive lovely xx

Littlepixie85 · 07/04/2016 15:31

I sympathise completely. I tested neg yesterday and this morning...and then AF arrived. Really thought I had nailed it this month did everything right so feel completely devastated :-( how long have you all been trying? I don't know what cycle I'm on as I have irregular periods but been trying about a year.

Penguinepenguins · 07/04/2016 15:39

Hi Littlepixie - if you have been trying for a year you should be able to get some help from your GP now - 6mts if over 35.

Ive been trying properly since September sadly for me I have trouble staying pregnant. So I ovulate (see the smiley face on the stick) and bam I'm pregnant, see the positive tests even on early response sadly the little beans just don't seem to stick.

It's so frustrating and upsetting, I keep everything crossed for you that it happens next month. I have a friend who was super healthy as was her DP in their late 20's at the time who did everything right and it just wouldn't happen - they did IVF and had a beautiful baby boy, two months after he was born she got pregnant with her second :) there is always hope and so hopefully it will happen for everyone on here very soon xx

Littlepixie85 · 07/04/2016 16:15

Penguin that sounds so frustrating - must be devastating each month. Really hope this month sticks for you.

I have been to the GP and had the Day 1-5 blood test (which came back normal) but haven't had the Day 20 yet. I've been referred to a fertility clinic too, as I have a history of irregular periods even when on the pill. Got my appointment on 11th May (which will be at the end of the next TWW!) so a while to wait. DH is going to have a SA too, so am hoping we get to the bottom of it! I've just turned 31 but this is making me feel ancient!! xx

Penguinepenguins · 07/04/2016 16:53

Try and keep your chin up X I'm 38 and also feel so old! But I am lol Have other friends who have popped them out with no issues at 40 :) it is just the luck of the draw I guess - keep picking myself up :)

It is truly heartbreaking to get the BFP or faint BFP only to find it doesn't stick, but we just keep trying! We're going for private reoccurent miscarriage tests as my GP said it will take up to three months to see someone on the NHS I find the TWW bad enough :)

I wish you lots of luck with your appointments X just keep trying :)

Littlepixie85 · 07/04/2016 18:04

Good luck to you too just keep trying as you say, it's all we can do. But I think tonight I am going to try and forget all about it and pour myself a large ! xx

Penguinepenguins · 07/04/2016 19:55

I did pour the wine already and it's bloody marvellous!!!

Cheers :)

Songsandstitches · 07/04/2016 20:01

Oh kitten I feel for you. I think we all feel that and it feels like the whole world around us is getting prehnsnt and you're not.

Penguin- I had exactly the same with dd. I got referred for some tests and a scan in the day after I got back from holiday to see if they could find out why. DH and I all but gave up that month and barely DTD or anything. AF never arrived whilst on holiday and a v early morning trip to local supermarket for a HPT revealed that I was 7 weeks pregnant and finally a bean had stuck- appointment promptly cancelled. Gorgeous DD is now 2. Not having the same problem this time around. My dr did say that once you actually get pregnant and stay pregnant once, your body "learns" how to process the "bad" embryos faster and therefore never get the early bfps again because your body flushes them out sooner. I cannot see the science in that at all, but they were her words. 6months in and nothing happening at all this time. Best of luck with your tests- hope you don't need yours either xx

Penguinepenguins · 07/04/2016 20:20

Hope kitten doesn't think I've hijacked not my intention at all - really do hope you get a BFP soon kitten xx

songs thank you, have felt very emotional this evening and this just made me burst into tears X sorry you had so many issues but it's lovely to hear you went onto to have a DD. I read something the other week that some ladies have an "overly hospitable wombs" :) any little one may get cosy before sadly not making it. Hopefully once a "good one" happens it will stick! Although I lost one baby at 10 weeks and that was awful both emotionally and physically X

Sorry again kitten if I hijacked x

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sophiekitten92 · 07/04/2016 20:52

hey everyone - sorry for the lack of reply, it's been a really hectic day! penguins - don't apologise for hijacking at all. are you still feeling emotional?

reading this has made me feel a little tearful - I can't even begin to imagine how it must feel. my stepmother had several incidents, which was heartbreaking to hear about and you could tell she was distraught.

we've been 'trying' since november - we've been having a lot of sex, but haven't been monitoring it religiously with cycles - my bf and i agreed it could add too much pressure and intensity.

songsandstiches - that's great news, congratulations! I thought you'd all like to know that I too am enjoying the wine...

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Penguinepenguins · 07/04/2016 21:15

Aww kitten you sound like such a lovely lady, I'm sorry it's taking so long for you X and thank you I did feel a bit bad X

What I will say is that for me the monitor was actually very helpful, as I knew when I was ovulating - Sorry if TMI here but DP and I have a very loving and active sex life but to know when I have a peak day helps make sure we are "doing it" on the right days so to speak

It also helps me understanding my body more. It is not for everyone but it helps us, because we don't miss those few days where it is possible xx

Miscarriage is an awful thing to experience, I'm so sorry to hear your step mum experienced this it's something many women feel sad and embarrased to talk about which we really shouldn't X I think it's lovely you have a close enough relationship with your step mum that she shared this. I only discovered my MIL had experienced many when DP told her of our second and my own mother suffered seven.

The good news is no matter what we will all get through this and I look forward to seeing your BFP news :) please do post back here when it happens for you xx

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