I know that nobody on the Internet can give me a right or wrong answer, or a yes or no, but I feel like I need to get this out there!
DH and I are considering trying for our first baby. Together nearly 10 years, married nearly 1. I am very happy with our relationship and think he will be a great father.
But it's scary isn't it?! How do we know if it's the right time? Is there ever a right time?!
He is in FT work (not a 'forever job' ie. he doesn't like it much) but we are hoping in the next 18 months- 2 years or so to move house and set up a business together.
I am FT post-grad student, due to finish around October.
Does it make sense to have one now, before I go looking for FT work to sink my teeth into? Do we wait til we have moved and set the business up- what if that takes longer than we thought? What if we try for ages and nothing happens?
We have a nice house- a little small, but we could manage with a baby in our room for a while. Manage to pay bills and have a decent social life (when we want it- favouring tea & cinema to partying right now). My Dad was older when he had me and I'm worried he won't meet his grandchildren. I'm worried it'll take a long time to conceive. But I'm also worried I'm not in FT work. The plan would be DH as a SAHP and me at work, post-baby, as I will have better earning potential.
Sorry it's long.
Any thoughts?