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ttc - February 07.... the trying game....

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beansprout · 03/01/2007 21:39

Am going to sit on this thread and feel sorry for myself for a bit!! If anyone else wants to talk to me, please feel free!

OP posts:
cazzybabs · 09/01/2007 21:14

I went to the doctors today - she said it was just bad luck and that to wait a couple of months before trying again - but she couldn't tell me why i had to wait and as I was a blubbering wreck I thought I dardn't ask. So I have decided to ignore her advice - I really don't like her anyway and carry one! So when I have mc number 3 - you can also say told you so!!!

KezzaG · 09/01/2007 21:21

Hi all, can I join. I am ttc following 2 mc. I am sort of trying this month but not properly, but come Feb my dh is on strict schedule

cazzybabs, I was told by my consultant to wait 3 cycles following 2nd mc. she said it was statistically more likely that you will mc again if you try too soon. Mind you, I didnt ask what the stats were, just took her word for it.

My friend describes ttc as being in a waiting room, and other people seem to be called through before you, and there is no order to the waiting, you just have to keep trying and wait til you are called. So, here we all are in the waiting room......who is going to get through that door first???

madrose · 09/01/2007 21:26

hello - can I join in.

Been trying for so long, had an attempt at assisted conception last month - no luck.

Trying au natural yet again this month, but trying not to be mechanical about (bloody hard not to though) as saving for assisted conception.

Why is it so hard?

Good luck everyone.

KezzaG · 09/01/2007 21:29

Hi madrose. What is assisted conception? Hope you dont mind me asking.

HonorMatopoeia · 09/01/2007 21:54

Thank you Beansprout
I think I'm CD 19 ish but my maths could be a bit wrong there, forgot to note down the last day of AF in December (could kick myself but got over run by Christmas!)
Good luck everyone x

greedyforbabies · 09/01/2007 21:56

you said last day of af honor, surely you meant first day. the first day of af is cd1!

Ready · 09/01/2007 21:56

I have been wondering today why it's so hard to fall pg.
I remember reading a story in a magazine once when I was about 17, and it was about a young girl who found out that she was pregnant, yet she swore that she and her boyf had not had sex!! They had only "fooled around"... This magazine said that he must have got some 'fluid' on his hands and transfered it to her vagina and the sperm wriggled their way in!!!!!!!
At the time I was petrified by this! Looking back I don't believe a sodding word that girl said !!!!!! We have been trying for 4 months now and nothing, nada, zip. And trust me, we have been doing more than "fooling" ...

Why is it so hard for those that want, but so bloody easy for those that don't.

I'm actually feeling really upbeat and positive today ... although you wouldn't think it from that rant would you!

HonorMatopoeia · 09/01/2007 21:56

I've just noticed that too I'm very tired!!!!

cazzybabs · 09/01/2007 22:01

KezzaG - so waitiing 3 cycles - well changes are I;ll be waiting longer than 3 if I start tyring now! I did wait a long time between previous mc (due to wedding plans) and that didn't make any difference. And alot of the books I read said it doesn't make any difference. Have you got any children already?

Uki · 10/01/2007 01:05

Hi All
just logging on to see your news. Good luck to all this month.

Crazzy and Kezza, I really don't believe trying before 3 months can cause another m/c.

I've always waited one month as i needed the mental recovery space more than anything. but never told to wait even one month. I saw lots of specialists did research on the matter and there is alot of debate about waiting, more saying no wait than yes.

So i reakon go for it.

KezzaG · 10/01/2007 10:24

I think I should have asked her more questions but I just accepted what she said at the time. Anyway, I am going for it now and that is all I can think about.

decorativeD2Bmum · 10/01/2007 10:49

hello everyone

a/f arrived in full flow yesterday and it has hit me a lot harder than previous months..i guess maybe because it arrived 3 days late and subconciusly i built my hopes up to much.

my yearn for a baby last few days is incredible i actually feel a dull ache in my heart becasue i just want to be pregnant and have my baby and i know it just wont happen overnight. i know i have got another month to go yet again before i find out if BFP OR BFN

i had a long chat with dp and a cry, i know he doesnt understand how i feel but he gave me a big hug and i have decided i am going to step away from mumsnet for ther time being as i have been reading the ante natal threads and posting on conception threads and it just isnt doing me any good. you guys are great and i wish you all the best TTC over the next few months and i will be back at some point to check on you all.

i have booked me and dp a week away in spain for a few months time so gives me somthing to focus on.

love and babydust to you all xxx D2Bmum

heresfor2007 · 10/01/2007 11:33

Good Luck Decorative. Taking your mind off things may take the emphasis off of it which will help to reduce your stress and in turn you will hopefully get the result you are after without trying. Take Care and enjoy your holiday. xxx

heresfor2007 · 10/01/2007 12:10

Cazzy & Kezza, After my 1st mc the midwife said that it's a 0.05% increase in chance of mc if you fall pg within 3 months - and she basically said it is so small that it's almost insignificant and not to worry about that. My consultant recently said that I should wait until 3 normal cycles since my last mc so that you know everything inside and hormones are back to normal. Good luck everyone. My AF isn't due until 27th and planning on starting after that so won't know anything until end of Feb.

thehairybabysmum · 10/01/2007 12:39

Can i join too, i had a mc in Nov and want to get pg again asap. My head is full of it this week, feeling sad.

Can anyone recommend a good book or website for conception info (other than the obvious!!). I've never done anything to boost my chances as it were and don't know anything about such things...any tips?

Also my cycle is irregular so how the hell do i work it out??

Thans and good luck to everyone else

KezzaG · 10/01/2007 12:48

Hi all, well I wish I had posted on here sooner and got some differing opninios on whether to wait or not. I think I agreed with the consultant because I got pregnant v quickly again after 1st mc, and that too ended in mc, so I thought I would try waiting and see what happened.

HBM, I used The Fastest Way to Get Pregnant Naturally by Christopher Williams, and I have got pregnant twice on the 2nd attempt and once when I wasnt even trying so it worked for me!

He says the mistake people make is to count 14 days in from day 1 of their cycle, when in fact they should count 14 days back from the date of their next expected cycle. As most people have approx 28 day cycle the plus 14 days method does work but it is not as accuate for those with longer or shorter cycles. Not sure if you have irregular cycles though - month of sex anyone!

thehairybabysmum · 10/01/2007 13:07

Will look that up thanks.

DH will be delighted at month of sex...only trouble is he works away most nights in the week so we couldnt do it everyday (even if we did have the superhuman powersrequired for this!!). Also have DS 12months, bathroom mid way through us doing up and an allotment...need more hours in the day and drugs o keep us awake methinks!!

greedyforbabies · 10/01/2007 17:05

sorry to see you go decorative, i am sure you wont be able to resist a bit of lurking around though will you. i understand what you mean about MN, it is really helpful but i do think it really adds to the whole obsession thing! have a good holiday and come back when you are ready!

Ready · 10/01/2007 18:55

Don't stay away too long Decorative!! I was like you last cycle, I felt it wasn't helping me being on MN so much, and a little break did me the world of good. Just don't forget that if you need us you know where we are!!

cityangel · 11/01/2007 00:27

d2b without wishing to repeat myself from the Jan thread I am sorry you are going away and will miss you. Please pop back even for one off hugs and enjoy yourself.

Asta la vista amigo de la fertilidad

Ready · 11/01/2007 10:44

Posted this on the wrong thread initially... doh!!

---Hope everyone is doing well? CD6 for me. Feeling upbeat today, but have been having very mixed emotions lately... very up and down. I fully intend to hang in there but just getting frustrated and impatient

Original poster
beansprout · 11/01/2007 14:30

I know how you feel Ready. I'm all over the place at the moment. A big part of me thinks, "oh stuff it, let's just stay as we are," but I know that isn't my long term view. Somehow this ambivalence always seems to creep in about now (am on CD9), not sure why. Perhaps it is the depressing prospect of having sex to order. I mean, really.

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HonorMatopoeia · 11/01/2007 21:30

Hi ladies, I've got another doctors appointment tomorrow and hopefully we'll get a bit closer to finding out what these pains I'm having are. I have pains on pains at the moment but I think the second set are the onset of AF . Hope everyone is feeling upbeat, I think I am despite the uncertainty of things at the moment. Beansprout, I know what you mean about the sex to order, kind of takes the enjoyment out of it doesnt it!!

KezzaG · 11/01/2007 22:13

Good luck HM, I hope it is nothing to worry about and you can get on with sex to order soon.

I know just what you mean beansprout when you say somtimes you feel ambivalent about it. I have days when it just doesnt mean like a big deal and I wonder why I just dont stay as am and stop thinking about it, but then the next day my head is filled with new baby thoughts. Then I am back to studying the calendar and marking days.

I think the phrase emotional rollercoaster applies here!

firststar · 12/01/2007 12:38

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