Waving the witch off and starting afresh.. Buddies welcome!

[DrMum83]

Wondering if anyone wants a buddy?
I'm ttc #2 (DD 13m)
Just finishing AF and embarking on cycle 2

Come shove 2 fingers to the back of the witch and let's count down to O and POAS psychotically in a few weeks...

I'm going all out this month with SMEP, pressed, EPO, OPKs....

I worked in social housing, I did a variety of different things over the years but my last job was giving financial advice to young people starting in their tenancies. I don't think I'll go back to social housing though when I go back to work.

Oh that's interesting then. Do you want to work in any particular area of nursing? I kept thinking about midwifery but I really don't think I could hack night shifts. I'd love to be a community midwife though.

Oh fingers crossed for next cycle then DrMum.

Are you hoping to have a few children minty?

Yes, I had a normal period after the mmc and then conceived... Doubt I'll be do luck this time.

I agree minty, interesting bunch of jobs/skills! I always think the midwives have got a great job, esp the Community ones as sunny said.
In the last few weeks I've had SOOO many patients coming to me to tell me they're newly pregnant - have just wanted to cry!! and if anyone tells me they're ttc, I'm like a mentalist with advice re OPKs, SMEP etc etc I swear they think I'm odd! Lol

mimi hope you're ok lovely. It's great that you have so much experience with little ones - will know who to come to for advice re my tantrumming DD!!

Waves ohno hope all is well

*so lucky, not do luck!

Funnily enough drmum my first thought when I read that you are a gp was I bet you see loads of preg related issues - just what you need right now! Good to have a supportive gp though, I've heard that's not always the case.

I don't work - I've been a sahm for about a month now and am still loving the novelty factor. I mostly go to the gym then come home and eat the calories back on again, and potter round doing housework. Work is a whole different thread for me - a few political issues in our marriage about my employment status at the moment. In a nutshell I would like to not work, DH says he'd prefer me to not work and raise our son, but then moans that he works oh so hard and I do nothing. I jest that i do nothing - yes I do go to the gym a few times a week but I have a child to look after and chores to be done which is hard. He works long hours so he does help occasionally but generally can't be arsed and wants to sleep at the weekends so I largely do it myself. We have childcare for a few hours a week during which he thinks I love a life of Riley when really I'm scrubbing floors or ironing. Sigh.

So minty and mimi are you def out this month then? Back to the beginning of your cycles? Shitty - crack open the wine. Sunny I'm due on the 23 I think. Am going to try and be more restrained with testing this month but will no doubt be obsessively poas from 10dpo. Had weird feelings kid of like pinching in my pelvis earlier. Short sharp pricks that lasted for a few mins. Dr Google tells me it's too early to be anything of significance though dammit.

my husband is also driving me mad, is that a symptom??

Haha DrMum I saw a GP about 4 months after I came off the pill and wasn't having periods properly and she was just step away from OPKs and all that kind of stuff! So definitely a different kind of dr to you! She was probably in her late 50s though so I don't know if it was all just a bit different then and also when it's all a distant memory to you you can't remember how stressful it can be?! Must be shit them telling you about being pregnant though. I remember when we were TTC an 18 year old girl who was living in a bedsit and single with no money told me she'd fallen accidentally pregnant. I was just like LIFE IS SO EFFING UNFAIR!!!

Yeah I think a lot of people seem to think being a SAHM is a bit of a jolly really but sometimes I'd so rather go to work. Especially if he's ill. Good for you going to the gym though ohno. How often do you get there? I find I've taken over the entire running of the house now I don't work, so DH would get some right shit if he said he worked harder! But I have to say I do really enjoy my few hours peace in the afternoon when he naps. That kind of makes it all worth it! How do you pass the time?

Haha yep definitely a symptom !

I'd def rather be a sahm than a working one (full praise to you all - I worked briefly part time from home and was knackered!!) but it does annoy me when husbands think we do nothing. He empties the bins and then somehow the magic fairy does everything else to keep the household running

I pass the time by doing housework and gardening, we are v fortunate to have quite a large house and garden so there's always something to be done. I also got about a million annual passes for stuff for Xmas so we go out and about quite a lot!

Today is a big day here - just had my final counselling session for pnd. I don't really tell people about it because I only really got help at Xmas when things got out of hand but I feel loads better now. So I feel it would be poignant to do a frer next Friday instead of going to my session! Actually work had a lot to do with my pnd, I desperately didn't want to go back as I felt a lot of my mat leave was taken up with pnd and marriage issues and I wanted more time with my son. Pnd, marriage issues and work are all gone so I'm not sure if the counselling or just sorting shit out fixed me.

How's everyone else getting on? How many dpo are you sunny? Any symptoms? I drank a load of wine last night because DH was out and also thought if I do start getting symptoms I best cut down but this early it wouldn't make a diff. Bit of a headache this morning and we've run out of Diet Coke - disaster!!

I've had moments where I really wished I went to work, but I don't think I actually wanted to be at work, more so I just needed some time away from DS. We've since moved into a bigger house though so that's give me a bit of a boost again. Haha I insist my DH does the bins too, but even that I usually have to remind him to do! I feel like he should at least have one job!

Oh that's great you're feeling better. It sounds like you had a hard few months and obviously having a baby in general really isn't easy. What were you doing before you finished work? Have you got some FRERs ready?!

I think I'm 3po so not much at all really. I have felt mega bloated but the rational side of me is telling me that I couldn't feel bloated so quickly. How many DPO are you? Any symptoms? Love the wine rational. I think I'll be having some this weekend too just in case it's my last weekend I can drink too! AF is due from Friday-Monday next week so I'm thinking if she's not here by Friday I might have to forgo to be on the safe side!

I'm really fortunate that we have a few hours of childcare every week so my son benefits but I also get a bit of time to myself to do the chores etc. If I had no childcare I may feel differently and go back to PT work!

I'm 4dpo I think. I obviously have lots of (imaginary) symptoms. Exactly the same symptoms as I had last month I think and look where that got me! I'm absolutely knackered and have low mild cramping. I'm certain that this is nothing to do with having a very busy weekend and sleep interrupted by the fall out from this weeks jabs/the crap I've stuffed into my face over the past couple of days causing stomach issues. Definitely early preg symptoms eh? ooh I've also just started having a kind of weird popping to the side. Clearly not gas, it's a very small person growing arms and legs and kicking around. I must get a life.

I remembered that I have a big drinking event on Saturday next weekend, it's a leaving party for a friend going travelling. So I'm going to do my Friday frer to double check and take it as final. I got a faint line on an ic at 11dpo last time so there's no reason a frer wouldn't show by then, by the time I did a frer at 12dpo last time it wasn't exactly dark but was very certainly a line so should def see on a frer by 11dpo. Last month I was still employed so had money to waste on frers but not this month. I'm sure I will renege on this at the earliest opportunity and pee on a million ics but please do try and talk some sense I to me if I show signs of becoming a poas addict again...

How's everyone feeling? Plans for the weekend? Drmum any progress on your quest for the bfn?

So yesterday I was knackered. My husband does night feeds at the weekends and that involves one feed usually - so my frickin husband woke me up three times to pee. I'm honestly ready to kill him. During the week I often leave him sleeping on the sofa so I've actually had a worse night than when I have to look after the child. I'm so tired that I shouted at him then cried.

Also got some weird cm - sorry for tmi but I never see cm or Ewcm (though not too worried as I've never really had it but still got preg last time) but had some in my knickers last night, I guess the kind of stuff that ovia calls school glue. I've no idea about cm and what it should look like at this stage but I remember getting lots last time I was preg. Still too early for it to be a symptom I think but maybe it's a good sign...?

Eurgh DS has had some shocking nights this week but last one takes the prize. I don't feel like I've slept at all and I'm a miserable cow. I'm actually hoping I'm not pregnant because nights like that and pregnancy would be such a killer. Eurgh. Hopefully I'll cheer the fuck up as the day goes on.

Anyways, ohno, I think CM is supposed to go from EWCM to creamy after OV. However if you don't normally seen any CM then that could well be a sign for you. Pregnancy CM is completely rank though isn't it, don't look forward to that feeling again!

Sorry you're also tired as well. Nothing worse than DH waking you when you're already tired. My DH snores sometimes and I honestly feel like killing him. I'd be so much happier if I had my own bedroom I'm sure!

Ooh less than a week until you POAS then! I've read a lot of people say that sainsburys own are really good and much cheaper than FRERs so you could get one of those?! I'll happily send you a judgey message if you decide to start testing early next week haha!

Loving the symptoms. Baby would definitely be giving some good kicks at this stage haha! I have been symptom spotting a bit as well. I definitely still have that first cycle optimism. I'll be better next cycle I think! Next week should tell me if I'm pregnant though based on what happened from 7/8dpo with DS.

Hope everyone else is well.

I've also got really creamy CM this morning. I don't think I usually get so much so soon after OV either. I'm sure in other months I still had EWCM at this stage

Ooh what happened at 7/8 dpo last time?

I def had some weird shit going on quite early last time because I remember very clearly being at my desk and thinking this is bloody ridiculous, my cycles are getting shorter and shorter. I booked a dr appt and by the time the appt came round I had a squinter on an ic the night before so had a blood test at the dr, so no doubting it at all. Then did a frer immediately after the appt. however I can't remember precisely what that weird shit was because I put it down to period related shizzle. I think I had a tiny bit of brown spotting and some cramping and I vaguely remember that I used to get that one week before af started and this was even sooner - but now I don't get symptoms a whole week before anyway. I've got horrendous heartburn today and I had it bad during preg but j get it sometimes anyway. Not helped by the fact I havent had a proper meal yet today because DH has been doing fit that was supposed to take between 10-12 this morning and it's now gone 6pm and still hasn't finished

I was on holiday with my family and I was walking and all of a sudden just felt really dizzy and sick completely out of no where. Same thing happened the day later and I had to go for a lie down. I think it was probably implantation. I know people say you're more sensitive when TTC etc but that 100% has never happened to me before or after being pregnant so it definitely was my first symptom!

That's interesting that you felt pregnant quickly as well. You must have been slightly further along to get a BFP? Did the blood tests come back straight away? I had a little bit of spotting at 10dpo as well. I was so sure AF was on her way!

What's a 'fit'?! Annoying that it's taken up all of your Saturday pretty much though! I hope you get a better nights sleep tonight. Do you ever worry that implantation won't happen if you're over tired and stressed?! I might be being completely irritational there though?!

Evening ladies!!
Reading through, I'm getting quite excited for you ohno and sunny - sounds like you may be both hAving early signs, esp your CM! Hope this next week goes quickly!

I'm still having weak positives, ffs!!! The good news is, I've bought a bottle of prosecco for tonight as I figure I defo won't be ovulating anytime soon.
My DD Is driven me absolutely mad today. She's been off for a few days - hardly eating, getting her to drink is a mammoth task! Think she has an ear infection and teeth but I also wonder if she's being a bit of a tantrumming toddler and starting to test boundaries. I'm so worried she's not eating enough!!

ohno - I'm so glad to hear you're getting through PND. You're so brave to have recognized and acted on how you were feeling. I think I had a mild form in the shape of more anxiety symptoms, I spent so much of my year off feeling worried about my DD. I never reAlly said it out loud but only in hindsight can I see how much of a shitty time I had. I think it was triggered by my mum dying when I was 6 months pregnant - she died quickly from cancer and I found not having her around when DD was born really tough. It was little things like my NCT friends all having their mums to stay when their babies were born. I felt like a huge hole had appeared in my life. Anyway, it's not about me, (but kinda therapeutic to get it out there!) thanks for sharing your experience

Hope you managed a snooze in the sun, sunny today to catch up!!

Hugs to minty and mimi

Bloody auto correct, I meant diy not a fit! At least a fit would have been over with quickly lol!!

Drmum what a shitty thing to happen to your mum, my best friend also lost her mum to cancer when 6 months preg (and also just had a mc - are you my friend in disguise?? Haha) and I know she struggled with the same things. She was also pretty young so was worried that people were judging/fussing over her and she's a very independent type. So tough.

Sunny this is all bringing back memories - I passed out on the train too when I must have been literally days pregnant but it was my first week back from honeymoon and it was hot so at the time I put it down to that. I also remember feeling massively jet lagged and my boss pulled me up on it one day then when I found out I was preg he did say he could see is been a bit weird. Just a few days before my bfp I went out drinking and a small amount of booze made me really really off my face, and I remember also not wanting anything off the pub menu for lunch but forcing fish and chips down because it was a bday party. How funny that I'd forgotten all this! At the time I just never put two and two together though. I got my frer bfp at 12dpo which was a weds and the drunk/off food incident was the previous sat so about 8dpo and the other incidents were the previous week so between 3-7 dpo.

Drmum enjoy the prosecco! I have a sneaky cold glass of white in my hand too. Can't believe you're still getting positives, it's dragging on a bit now - you must be so frustrated!

You totally have my sympathy on those tough toddler days, they make me totally lose my sanity. I find it extra hard if you are in the house so have to get out but getting out is enough to make me cry. My son has been fine today but rolled over when being changed so got shit on my new jeans then threw up his tea into the ball pit. Not naughty but just as bloody annoying! And he wouldn't get out of the fridge or leave the food alone when my shopping got delivered.

Morning everyone. Hope you're all well. I really don't know if it's early signs or what to be honest, this week should tell me more. I'm allowing myself to symptom spot but cycle but I'll try and be more realistic in future cycles!!

Sorry you're still getting BFPs DrMum, hope you enjoyed your prosecco though! Hard work DD doesn't sound like fun. My DS is definitely starting to get a bit more stroppy. He's thrown himself on the floor a few times when I've not let him get something etc so I think that might be the start of it! I'm on a thread from when I was TTC DS and the toddlers who are a few months older on there are really into the swing of tantruming! Does not sound like fun. Is she sleeping ok? So sorry to hear about your Mum. I can't imagine how hard that must have been. Do you have siblings?

Oh sounds like you had a lot of symptoms then ohno! So weird isnt it. How was your pregnancy in general? I felt shit pretty much from the start to the end so I don't know if that's why I started feeling weird after implantation, I think my body just doesn't like pregnancy! Are you still feeling quite optimistic? I really just want to know now, I'm not stressed about it but very impatient!!

Oh yeah should have worked out you meant DIY!! Hope he finished at a reasonable hour! Shit on the jeans is not good! DS crapped himself in the night which he hasn't done for a long long time so I'm wondering if there's something up with him. I had a nap yesterday when he did but he's been up on and off since 3.45am and woke for the day at 4.45am so it's going to be another long day.

Hmm what does everyone think of the theory that if you're preg your opks get progressively darker? Not sure why but yesterday I des odes to do an opk and it came up quite dark. Did another today and it looks like it's going to dry as dark/maybe slightly darker. 6po I think here. The 2 on the left are from after the oositive opks last month and the two on the right are yesterday/today.

Also had some cramping but then had diarrhoea (from a shotty chicken pasta salad at lunch I think! Way tmi!)

Shitty. Autocorrect hates my foul language

I should add that I def had a lighter one than that too - more like the one on the left - a day or so after the positive one. Stopped testing at that point then did the random one yesterday. I have in the past tested all month and not had a second peak and the last ov date of I think last Monday would tie in exactly with my 24/25 day cycle

Hahaha shotty!! I personally have no experience but I have read a LOT of people saying that OPKs work as HPTs!!!! They definitely look quite dark don't they and I don't know why they'd be picking up LH at 6dpo?! Exciting!!

I think I tried it last time and had a positive opk but didn't think to test til days after my bfp and I can't remember how dark it was exactly. Annoying!

Ah I really don't know then. I guess it would depend on whether or not the egg had implanted yet to whether you were releasing hormones for it to pick up?! I honestly don't know. THE TWW IS SHIT

Yup!

I'm sat here thinking why on earth did I even pee on a frickin opk? I'm just more confused than ever. I'm generally one of these people who thinks you should love normally until a bfp because it could take forever, so don't give up drinking etc but now I'm wondering. Will do another later and see what happens...if ots lighter I will resume the gin.

Idiot!

Haha desperate times eh! Yeah I'm still drinking this weekend, not much but a glass of red every night. I might not do next weekend though when AF is due, especially if I've had any symptoms! I dunno, it's awful. I was so sure I wouldn't get obsessed this time round but I clearly so am

I'm not sure I ever really believed I wouldn't be obsessed hahaha