Thread 8, TTC #1. Change my FW one more time Ovia, I dare you! TMI Warning throughout.

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Symptom spotters, tww - ers, slightly hysterical hormone laden ladies! Regs, lurkers, intermittent posters! Our raison d'etre is 'am I pregnant?' Depending on how much Ovia (Whybird) has pissed us off/messed with our fw she is either the oracle or a sanctimonious charlatan.

Just a warning, we move FAST! Our threads last on average, about a week before they're full.

Thread 8 , Welcome one and all! Group of weirdos, wee hoarders, covert opk or okp, depending on what your autocorrect decides addicts with a side business in CM management!

We do not judge, we enjoy TMI, we i encourage waiting to poas nobody listens and all the grossness you can find from a group of intelligent, articulate ladies. Fart stories make us laugh, stories about cervical mucus, pooing, cysts and nausea equally welcome. Although normal conversation is also encouraged.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kat a resident piss stick queen runner loaaaaaads of bfp'ers who keep us positive! We don't have rules, we love a good symptom spot, we try to stay grounded and not be hysterical sometimes we manage it aswell

We like acronyms, we make some up: PET = Proper expensive test. We love the d(h)...which can of course mean 'dearest' or 'dickhead' why, what were you thinking?

bellini I think that's definitely positive!! Congratulations

bellini that's definitely a line - did it come up within the time??

Eeeeeeeeek how exciting xx

Congrats Bellini, I can see a line on both of those!

Thanks Lara and Miley. Had a bit of a self pity party earlier, have showered and put make up on now (off today-too much time to sit around feeling )!

Lara you didn't upset me at all actually it did make me think that it would mean everything was working ok so hopefully still in with a good chance another cycle. Thanks. Not long for you to wait until FW! Are you OPKing/temping (autocorrected to poking ) this time?

Miley isn't it time you POAS?! I can't get FF on my crap old phone, seriously need to upgrade then can tell Ovia to do one! Anyone using FF and is she a creeper?! My friend showed me MyDays yesterday, it doesn't seem as TTC oriented as Ovia, though that might be a good thing!

I'm off for some baby snuggles with my lovely niece (3 months and gorgeous) and may try to rub some banned baby dust on myself, let me know if y'all want a sprinkle

elle tomorrow morning apparently. I've for FF just today and I'm not a fan just yet. I think Ovia is easier, albeit very fickle! I have one called period diary which I downloaded first and I find it ok ☺ might just stick with one!

I thought I'd lost you! /drama

But no - just a lovely new thread. Hello all :)

Name: SuchaJem
Age: 32
TTC #1
Cycle #2

I had some unusual symptoms for me in the tww, which culminated in a BFN and an early AF. AF has now suddenly stopped after 2 days.

This is all very strange for me - I'm usually like clockwork, 29 day cycle and 4-5 day period. I can't help but think something might have fertilised and then gone wrong.

Check this out ladies I need my leftover tests confiscated asap hahaha ... OPK does indeed detect pregnancy (as you can see the test line is darker than the control) BUT the cheapie pregnancy tests are no where near as sensitive as FRER but still brought up a faint line with middle of the day urine yet nothing this morning! Lol

FRER gave me that lovely clear line that left absolutely not doubt or need for squinting yesterday so if in doubt, whip one out 😉😂

That does sound like maybe something has gone amiss sucha sorry and sending hugs xxx

Congrats Bellini!💐

Thanks choc. I kind of feel like I want to know, but then not sure if I'd be able to, and what difference would that make. If it was a chemical pregnancy, does that affect conceiving next cycle?

Warning : Before you read. Upsetting content of post. Not TMI, just awful and upsetting

Wasn't sure whether to put this here as it seems somehow just so wrong. I did a funeral this morning of a stillborn baby girl. I can't even find the words. I didn't know the parents, I just go to help my dm. It was beautiful but just so awful. There should never be a need for a coffin so small. I'm honestly just speechless with sadness for them. Full term baby, touch and go/tricky pregnancy but just an accident at birth. Im trying to rationalise it out, and it's just not ok for that to happen. It's probably hit me more because we're ttc, and all the little one knew was love. No unkindness or pain or hurt, just love. But it's just wrong. I can't imagine what the parents are feeling and I'm sorry if I've upset anyone, I just needed to get it off my chest a bit. I'm really sorry. It's made me even more determined to ttc though, life is too short. If anyone has a spare prayer, keep baby V in your thoughts.

stark I almost lost my daughter during birth as she got stuck and none of the midwives would listen to me, thank goodness the registrar came out of a cough section in time to help deliver her (venthouse and a cut) and she was fine but it could have been so worse.

My mum had still born twins when I was 8. I had no grasp or understanding but it must have been so so hard for my parents :(

Everyone knows a frighteningly high percentage of pregnancies end in miscarriage and although as mum's to or soon-to-be-mums-to-be, nothing can prepare you for that kind of loss. But to suffer that at the very end, when you think you're going to get all you've dreamed of for 9 months and more... I can't even begin to process it. :( bless them all xxx

sucha alot of people find the conceive on the very next cycle after a chemical pregnancy xx

Kathrino those cramps could be implantation!
I am 6dpo and going crazy trying to feel some sort of implantation pain or symptom
Kat we have a spare room with a futon for guests and my snake's vivarium. We will manage somehow when my bubba comes I am going to love him/her so much that it won't matter . I am already dreading fw as again I will have to put so much energy into convincing DP to dtd...
Imp omg I say poas!
Thanks so much for the info!!
I am catching up on messages here

Oh Starky, that sounds so unbearably awful. That poor family. I can't even begin to imagine what they're going through.

choc I think that's what I can't get my head around. It was a tricky pregnancy on mum, but baby was ok. Not poorly, no signs of being unwell. Just a difficult traumatic labour. And to have 9 months of all those hopes and dreams and love, for it all to be taken away in 5 minutes, with no warning. That's what I'm struggling with. I'm so sorry for your dm, and for you. One of my old friends lost a baby a few years before I knew her, but in the same way. And I can't get my head round it. Just the abject loss. The grief and sorrow was tangible in the church. There are no words to say to make it ok.

starky one of my friends had to have a funeral for her little girl who was stillborn at almost full term due to rare genetic illness. It's the most cruel thing on the planet. It's awful you had to see it as I know how much it can take you by surprise.

I meant to add my auntie lost a baby boy at full term, too only a few years ago. It must be so upsetting to know that you've carried a supposedly health baby full term and lost it so quickly

Lara thank you. I know it's all normal and it will all be okay but just frustrated as it seems so out of my control (apart from dtd which I don't think we did enough) luckily my cycles seem to be running at about 25 days (also concerned this isn't long enough for the luteal phase to work properly) so at least I'll get another fw week and test end feb/beg March I expect. That'll be cycle 7 at which point I may start to get concerned. Doc won't do anything though obviously.

Stark I am sorry to hear what a morning you had to go through and also what the poor parents must be feeling. I can't even really imagine the pain that must be ever present. (May I ask what involvement you were having in the funeral just for nosiness sake? You obv don't have to tell me)

I can't believe runner is leaving us. it feels like the end of an era.

starky i couldn't imagine it. I can't even bring myself to try. A friend of ours has a son born with half a heart. I've spent more nights than I care to count speaking to her as they've told her he won't make the night. He's had open heart surgery three times now, the first time was when he was less than 24 hrs old... it's been so so heartbreaking at times but so amazing to watch him grow and develop. He's 3 next month and what a fighter he is xx

kat my dm is the vicar, so I just go to help set up, light the candles etc and then I do the music. So during the services, whether it be a wedding or a funeral I man the ipod/cd player. And this sounds ridiculous but it can be really stressful. It's the most important day of their lives (whatever the occasion) and if I balls up the music, it sets a tone. I don't usually cry but today I'm not ashamed to say I shed some tears.

Why is runner leaving us?! What have I missed!?

Starky, virtual hugs if you like them. It's good that you were there for them at this difficult time. I can't begin to imagine how painful this must have been for the parents.

stark no one is going to judge you for that. I welled up just reading what you wrote. Sending the biggest of hugs. Life really is too short ❤❤

Runner can't keep up with both threads... I've posted over there too but I don't want to leave here stamps feet lol!

Aah! I missed your post runner ! No probs pal, ill take over and direct people! I sense I'm in for the long haul on this thread so I might as well!

Imp that post about nappies was amazing, I am printing it!!

starky that sounds so heartbreaking. My OH's mum had a stillborn baby, full term, before him - it was her first and they never knew what had happened. I guess it was more common in the past when technology wasn't so good - seems incredible it can still happen now.

Re the chat about nurseries etc - we live in a 1 bed so baby will not have a nursery!! Planning on keeping it in with us for a year at least and then either moving or converting our loft. Probs the latter cos we love our flat! Our friends have a 10month old and she's still in with them despite having a beautiful nursery because she's still breastfeeding and it's easier at night, so I hope it will be ok for us. Guess we'll cross that bridge when we come to it!