Ttc#1 Thread 6. Flying through threads! The bus is going 100 mph and only stopping to drop off at the grads thread! Symptom spotting & TMI alert throughout.

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Thread 6! Wowzers! Welcome one and all! Group of weirdos, wee hoarders, covert opk or okp, depending on what your autocorrect decides addicts with a side business in cm management!

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kat, a resident piss stick queen runner, loaaaaaads of bfp'ers who keep us positive! We don't have rules, we love a good symptom spot, we try to stay grounded and not be hysterical sometimes we manage it aswell

But on the whole, we're a good bunch, especially bunch who is literally, a bunch. bunch

Yes definitely indi. It's time to relax! Obviously maybe don't go overboard though! It's nice you have something to look forward to to take the edge off the tww.

Definitely indi, I think a few in the 2ww will be fine. I'm definitely having baileys tonight!

Poor you kathrino! MIL is constantly making comments, any mention about the future and she mentions kids!

Sounds fab mileymoo! Lots of sunshine! We're saving for a house so just a trip to Ireland for a friends wedding for us! But you'll have to let us know how Dubai is id love to go.

That sounds hard going evergreen my DH was a bit like that last month, and it came out he felt pressured/manipulated into sex! We had a long talk and he's been much better this month but still very keen to ignore any kind of "trying" or charting etc.
Fuck off Gregg tho

feef my sentiments about Greg exactly.

I'm excited, it was a lovely birthday surprise! I'm desperate to go quad biking over the desert but that may not be an option if I'm housing a little one. Same goes for the free plonk on the flight!

Aargh I've got terrible cramps now but also a bit sting-y. And the postie hasn't been

ImpYCelyn you are so right. Last night OH and I had a big 'chat' about the OPKs since I'd had 2 days of faint lines. I explained about the follicular stage, the LH surge and then implantation etc and then trotted off to work thinking no more of it. Then when I came back, we dtd and he made some comment (which I have now forgotten). It turned out he hadn't listened understood a word I'd said - I suppose the female body is just so mystifying to him that he cannot comprehend it at all 😂

BAHAHAHA Evergreen I was so confused - I thought you were saying that guys come to you at work for POAS advice and spent ages trying to work out what a guy would poas for!!

So I'm most likely due af today but my temp went up instead of down this morning 😜

I'm keeping Kindara on my original cycle and FF on the FAM setting. So I'm either 14dpo or 16dpo depending on which one I use. Either way, no af yet and the impending doom cramps I had yesterday have gone so far today. No more tests until af shows or not after the weekend. I feel like they stress me out more than just waiting for af to show herself.

Lisa you are so right! I almost never believe people now when they say it was a surprise! One girl at work told everyone it was a shock but then drunkenly (years later, don't worry!) told me she'd secretly been trying for a year. Its so unfair as that's partly why people think it happens so easily and then feel so isolated when it doesn't.

Indix do not worry about it but go slow and light - ie no shots or cocktails with 5 different types of boozy juices

Just caught up with several pages lol...

So jealous of those of you going on holidays. I really want a warm beach holiday but we just had to pay a small fortune to do work on our tenants house (not even our own house is that nice now!!!) and now we are skinter than skint. Plus I'm going back to uni in September so we are saving in case we get me upduffed too and I can't work plus do uni plus have a new baby. So our warm holiday will be turning the heat up and laying on towels in the front room with Hawaiian music playing and possibly cocktails being consumed.

I agree with the idea that lots of couples downplay how long it takes to get pregnant. Friends of ours said they told family it took a couple of months but in reality it took over a year. They didn't want to "let family down" by having it take a long time. That's pretty sad that taking a year to conceive is seen as letting people down. Although I'm bordering on cycle 3 and I'm sad I haven't been successful and feel like I've let dh down in a way, and myself down too. This is more emotionally charged than I thought it would be. Having a que sera sera attitude is all when and good but it's so hard to maintain that stiff upper lip each time af arrives.

Snow - crossing all my fingers and toes for you!

FXSkip - that's really interesting, and you're right that it just all contributes to making the whole issue more taboo and heightens mystery around it. I guess the worry of talking about it publicly taps right into people's fears about being seen as failures, infertile, or less of a woman/man if they can't conceive.

A relative of mine was trying for three years before he and his wife got pregnant. We all kind of knew/guessed they were probably trying, but they didn't talk about it. And then when she gave birth they put a lovely post on FB about how it had taken so long and the baby was such a miracle for them. It made it so special, and it was lovely they'd been so open about it.

Snow - that's such a lovely and honest post. Thank you for writing that on here.

I know you know you haven't actually let anyone down, but I'm going to say it anyway - you definitely haven't!

Aw snow! I have everything crossed for you.

I don't get the letting people down thing. It's emotional enough ttc without worrying about letting family down. I feel shit when af arrives and I have to tell OH tho.

Thats what we are here for - to reassure each other that it is normal - even logical - to take time.

We've only got 6 days each month, a 25% chance at best (not to mention the fact that 25% of all pregnancies miscarry anyway) most of us work at least one job, we are taking on additional training/courses/charity work/jobs/fitness regimes all the while being expected to look good, not be too ambitious, lazy or needy, tolerate constant judgement and manage everybody's expectations including our own with a radiant smile and perfect lipstick. Give us a break, seriously. Rant over

fx for presisent. Here here!

I didn't realise 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage!!!! That's made me sad.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2553716-Ttc-1-Thread-7-Ive-sneezed-twice-dtd-drank-2-glasses-of-juice-ate-some-cheese-and-I-want-a-cuddle-Ovia-am-in-pregnant-yet-TMI-alert-throughout?watched=1

New thread, before we scatter,

Don't be sad miley in roughly half of all miscarriages the embryo is lost shortly after implantation, so unless you are always testing pre-AF then you would simply have a normal(ish) period and never know about it. It can happen for a variety of reasons (including getting absolutely plastered during the 2ww) and I don't think that it makes you more likely to miscarry repeatedly, but I am not sure about that.

Thanks Starky see y'all on the flipside

When anybody says that "see you on the flip side " I just immediately want to go "motherfuckeeeeeeeeeer" and I'm not sure why!

snow I know exactly what you mean. I'm spotting which is how my AF arrives so I think that's me out for the month. It's a tough game, this Ttc business ☹️ But, I'm going keep trying, and stay realistic and positive.. (It's that or cry in the work toilet)

Very wise words Fx!

Thanks to all for the support. 😗 Get me on the Feb party bus!

Thanks starky

Name: Lara
Age:: 33
Ttc: 1
Cycle: 3

Love this thread and all you lovely ladies. Love that we can be sad and angry and crazy and all the other emotions this brings without judgement.

Thanks Lisa, hard doing things on my own. Thankfully I have you ladies here! And yes, I think some people play it down!

Exactly Miley errrrr nope, it doesnt work like that... It will take me no time my ass.

Indi you are right, I too am a bit tired of this routine we have... Maybe a date would be nice...

Feefs hahaaaaa fuck off indeed Gregg with your super sperm

Fx guys have not come to me for advice, but you are raising a very good point. Maybe I could start a secret society of the poas, and educate men about the ramekin and gu pot culture. And!!! About this surprise pregnancy...

Someone at work announced she was pregnant (which I have suspected for over a month) then said that she had no idea and she wasnt trying. Oh really??? I don't buy it with this girl in particular. If it is true, great, but I am thinking that probably she is just saying that, not realising that some people might be struggling and that hurts.

After a shitty day fxskip you just made me wail with laughter - thank you! Have not read rest of saga yet but I cannot believe your bad luck... But was impressed by your quick thinking!

indix i have read that you are not connected until about week 5 so a little drink on 2ww should be fine.

Hi ladies can I join,

Drew
28
Ttc #1 3rd pregnancy
Cycle 1
Cd 16

I’m already not hopeful ❤️