Ttc#1 Thread 6. Flying through threads! The bus is going 100 mph and only stopping to drop off at the grads thread! Symptom spotting & TMI alert throughout.

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Thread 6! Wowzers! Welcome one and all! Group of weirdos, wee hoarders, covert opk or okp, depending on what your autocorrect decides addicts with a side business in cm management!

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kat, a resident piss stick queen runner, loaaaaaads of bfp'ers who keep us positive! We don't have rules, we love a good symptom spot, we try to stay grounded and not be hysterical sometimes we manage it aswell

But on the whole, we're a good bunch, especially bunch who is literally, a bunch. bunch

imp I LOVE that analogy. Guys are rarely as sensitive as us. This will be my third by my OH 1st... a guy who was dead set against having kids when we met but has morphed into the most amazing man with my two (their dad is kept at bay by various things - thankfully) and I'm lucky they have a wonderful role model! Then amat the beginning of December he drops the 'I think I want kids' bomb, we decided to start trying without any protection in April were going to use condoms til then but now this has transpired we figured what difference will a few months make either way!

I'm waiting for his first moment of not being as support as my emotional state thinks he should be, it'll be worse because it rarely happens! 😂😂

I will admit sometimes when I know I've ovulated dtd doesn't feel sexy at all to me and I struggle to climax because I feel the pressure a little bit. It's completely different to the rest of the fw lots of ewcm and we'll up for it and month because I know that dtd is for fun then. Maybe he picks up on fw dtd and feels a little pressured. Men are funny things

If I'm honest, because of the absolute hell I had from my ex during my previous two pregnancies, I'm the emotionally awkward one here...

The other night he hopped in the bath and was like 'oo I'd better not stay too long in this as I don't want to damage the lads, it's pretty hot' ... I didn't know what to say. Apparently my face was a picture 😨 😂

Very true Miley and Impy. For my DH I think he responds better (ie is more likely to do the needful at the right time) if he thinks I'm just more up for it, and he just gets stressed if I tell him too much about TTC. Not sure I'm explaining that very well!

Ladies, I need someone to ground me. I've just been to the loo and I'm full of creamy cm sorry should have tmi'd at the beginning is this normal? Already ov'd (16th) and dried up! It feels like the wetness of af bleeding but is just runny cm.

The positives outweigh it Elle but if you're looking at the negatives you can find a fair few. But if I looked at any 9 month stretch of my life there'd be a few really tough bits. It's just one of them wouldn't be sitting on the floor and crying because I can't find the tinned tomatoes in the fridge, and then shouting at DH for laughing instead of being sympathetic

Super, fx postie arrives ASAP!

choco wtf with your nipples?!

LOL Impy!

choc I'm very emotionally awkward too. I've never been a romantic one and I cringe at PDA's! Lol at damage the lads.

elle I totally get it. I explained to OH how it all works expecting him to forget and everything to be relaxed but he asks about fw and if I've had a positive opk!! He's almost 30 and was definitely ready long before me so I think he's a bit insecure I might change my mind haha

Miley that turned out to be a positive symptom for some of the grads... What CD are you?

Miley erm don't know what to say. Do you normally get lots of cm in lp? That does sound like a lot. Chalk it up to a good sign? It's not bleeding...

Ooh, yay then! Fx!

I'm 5dpo (CD 17) and totally not normal. It feels icky. Thanks guys, I really want to get my hopes up but I will remain irrationally up a height calm

Irrational is what we're all about

Miley - I'm the same with the cm right now (think I'm in a similar cycle to you - testing at the end of the month?). However, I have absolutely NO idea if something like that is normal or not for me as this is the first month I've been looking for things like that (previously just been tracking AF). shrug.

Ever - I'm sorry you're feeling like that wth your DH. I agree with others that they often (sorry to make a mass generalisation) just don't understand what is needed, even if they've had kids before. One of my friends got so close to leaving her OH as he showed no interest in TTC even though he agreed to. Then, once she got preggo, he became a new person overnight and was genuinely excited. He just couldn't believe it until he saw it.

Miley - I'm the same with the cm right now (think I'm in a similar cycle to you - testing at the end of the month?). However, I have absolutely NO idea if something like that is normal or not for me as this is the first month I've been looking for things like that (previously just been tracking AF). shrug.

Ever - I'm sorry you're feeling like that wth your DH. I agree with others that they often (sorry to make a mass generalisation) just don't understand what is needed, even if they've had kids before. One of my friends got so close to leaving her OH as he showed no interest in TTC even though he agreed to. Then, once she got preggo, he became a new person overnight and was genuinely excited, caring, and bought loads of baby stuff. He just couldn't believe it until he saw it.

Ugh, sorry for double post. App said it wasn't successful so I posted again.

Also, sending lots golf sympathy to those being constantly asked about babies or marriage by friends or relatives. It drives me crazy. My SIL is particularly bad for this - every time I see her she touches my belly and says 'when?? When?? When??'. It is genuinely inappropriate on several levels.

Also, she's a doctor in OB/GYN, so she must know how things work and understand more about infertility or problems TTC than most. For all she knows we're having real trouble conceiving....

I don't know elle I don't know 😂😂

Yes kwick you are!!
I am not sure imp, but I got urine test done at the docs the other day and I weed in a pot and left it there and I understand it might take a day to get to the lab, so I assume it is ok to keep for a few hours. But maybe put a lid on it so it stays the same in there?

Ahhhaaahhh fx this is too funny! This is why you need a little purse for your ramekin! People assume you are on your period and you have your stuff there. Guys do come to me for poas at work advice and I will give you Emergency Poas at work 1.0.1!

Elle always busy yes maybe he needs to understand a bit. Just last month he was shocked when I told him you can't get pregnant any day of the month you know?

Imp yes you are totally describing my feelings. And you are right, it will come and go and come. And I am so emotional normally...

Miley yes I told him last month but I don't think he still understand

And it doesnt help that when he said to start trying I said it can take up to a year or more and he was all, I dont know I think it will take me no time, Gregg said that it was first time for them. Fucking great Gregg, well probably your DW was doing poas non stop and planning the whole thing! So that didnt help.

Ah lisa Glad it's probably normal then! I was wondering if it was something to do with my slight kidney infection!

Yeah your SIL should totally know better. It's not as easy as oh I want a baby, think I'll get pregnant right now.

"I think it will take me no time" 😂😂😂 MEN! It's a total ego think for them tho isn't it, like my spunk is quicker and stronger than yours.

Theory: also, I wonder if there is something around pregnant couples (or couples with kids) who tend to play down how long it took to conceive.

Partly it might not be something they want to dwell on (particularly the guy if it did take them a while), and partly I would be sure there is something around rose-tinted spectacles. Something feels long and arduous at the time, but it always feels like less of a deal once you're past it and looking back on it.

TL;DR - I bet what other people say isn't always true

Ever I completely agree with what the other girls have said, I don't think men truly appreciate the science behind having a baby, I know my DH thought it was a case of me getting my coil out and getting upduffed straight away. If only!
We've just come out of my FW I think becuase ovia has changed it 3 times! And I've got to admit I was feeling a bit tired of DTD, I usually have a really high sex drive and I do always climax and enjoy it once I get going but I hated the thought of HAVING to do it, I think that alone can take some of the fun out of DTD. I suggested to DH we go on a date night tonight I feel like we've had a routine for the last few days, dinner, telly, sex, sleep. And I'm getting fed up of it.
I am now in the 2ww, we've booked a little trip to london for the night next week and now I'm very cautious of drinking. I know we've spoken about it before but do you think a few drinks is ok on the 2ww?

I definitely agree with all those who say that their DH doesn't really understand the process. I know that mine has a basic understanding of the biology (thanks, not least, to a very awkward session of our marriage preparation course...) but I don't think he has fully grasped the implications of it in terms of timing. It doesn't help that all of his relatives seem to be able to get pregnant on demand (they're all teachers and have timed their pregnancies perfectly) so I think that's slightly skewed his perception.

Indi - I'm personally fine with a couple of drinks during the 2WW because it's too early for anything to pass over to the baby. I'm certainly planning on having the odd drink here and there over the next few weeks.