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Life after 30???

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RudolphsREADY · 04/12/2006 14:35

A couple of gorgeous MNers have mentioned "life after 30" today, and it got me wondering how old people are. I know it is terribly rude to ask a person's age, but I am beginning to wonder if I am in the minority (under 30) and also, what wonderful things I have to look forward to when I turn 30 (not for a couple of years yet!)??

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RudolphsREADY · 04/12/2006 17:01

Sorry MrsSpoon... I posted it on here, as a few of the ladies had mentioned about symptoms of life after 30... I didn't want to post it outside of the conception boards, cos I scare easy

MrsMcClaus... Now I am worried, cos I am only 27 and numbers 2,6,7,9 and 10 are true of me already!

To tie it in with conception a bit, does anyone else worry about fertility decreasing with age?? I sometimes wonder if I have left it late to start, and I am only 27!! What if and all that!! But when I was a teenager I was certain I would have had all my babies by this ripe old age

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2nervesnapartridgeinapeartree · 04/12/2006 17:37

3,6 and 7 applied long before I was 30.

BoJingles · 04/12/2006 18:35

Ho ho ho MrsMcClause these things are so true!!! Ditto ditto ditto . The only thing I would like to add is that in the last year I have slowly developed a small muffin top and have now turned into one of those girls who is always yanking her top down .... where did this come from and more importantly why won't it go away??!! I truely think its caused by living in wedded bliss with a man who luuuurves his food . Wouldn't have it any other way. Being in your 30's is great but then again I've had the last 4 years to get used to it!!

BoJingles · 04/12/2006 18:39

Ready - you'll drift smoothly into your 30's without noticing any differnce if all those things apply now . I also worry about fertility declining with age but there aint nothing I can do about it and I have 7years on you. Really... please don't worry about fertility decreasing just yet, you'll be absolututely fine and it will happen when the times right

Donbean · 04/12/2006 18:45

Im 36 and i think its a down right outrage that you insinuate that there is no life after 30! CHEEK!
My life is better than ever it was in my teens and my 20's and let me tell you i have had a brilliant life throughout.
reaching 30 is, well, different. Its how fast time goes that disturbes me tbh.
It is the next great adventure in life and i have done all my best "grown up" things in my 30's... bought a house, got wed, had a baby, career has taken off but best of all i am more aware than ever about myself.
I know me and have found me. I am definitive in my understandings of what is important to me and what just doesnt matter.
I have done all the daft stuff and now do stuff because i want to and i have decided to myself.
Ive arrived IYSWIM.
My goals are all acomplished and what happens now is pure joy.
Do you get what i mean or am i speaking rubbish?
(i know what i mean)

festivefettle · 04/12/2006 19:07

I'm 31 and really don't feel different to when I was 18. Although I still don't listen to Radio2 - I'm shocked[fshocked] at you MrsMcClaus & Greedy - Lost mixed with Radio2, do they mix??!

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RudolphsREADY · 04/12/2006 19:13

Oh no!! Donbean!!! I'm so sorry, looking at my title I now see how that can be offensive. I really wasn't meaning to question if there was life after 30... Not at all. oops.

I love how fiery you are though

If you read my original post it should be clear that I was asking what wonderful things I have to look forward to. It stems from a few MNers asking if some of their symptoms were due part of life after 30. And it just got be wondering if there were lots of 30s women on the conception board.

So sorry to have offended anyone if I have. I feel really horrible now

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RudolphsREADY · 04/12/2006 19:14

me not be (I do that all the time!!) oops

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HonorMAGIpoeia · 04/12/2006 19:26

I love being 30 (ish!!) 31 really. I totally agree with what others have said about just generally feeling more comfortable in your own skin. Things that would worry me incessantly in my 20's suddenly don't seem so important. For me, the big one is my job. It's stressful and I really don't enjoy it but now I feel I could leave and life would not fall apart for me. The same goes for 'friends' you know, the ones who you do all the work for and are never met half way? forget them, if it's too much hard work to be fun then what is the point of having them as 'friends'? These things I would never have felt confident enough to say or even feel before 30.

Impatience · 04/12/2006 19:28

I'm 32 (I think..?!) My 20's were crazy fun, but my 30's are much more fulfilling. I couldn't hack my 20's lifestyle now (perhaps this is why I can't conceive... ) and would never have been content then with things I find so calming and satisfying now. Right now I prefer being 32 to any other age. No doubt my 20-something self would have considered me a right boring old fart though!

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RudolphsREADY · 04/12/2006 19:35

HonorMAGIpoeia - Oh my goodness, you could have literally just been talking to me then. I am really feeling like certain "friends" are just not worth the effort anymore, and to hear someone say forget them cheers me up (I know that might sound horrible!) Lately I have not making so much effort with the ones that don't seem to give a toss, all my teen/adult life I have always been the one that organise everything and sorted "the group" out and I'm tired of it!

In the back of my mind I do wonder if I should just continue with the effort, keep in touch with them, you know, cos of the history, and oh what a shame cos we've known each other too long blah blah blah!

WELL - I am almost 30 and I am not going to be slave to so called friends anymore!! Thank you HonorMAGIpoeia!!!!

Sorry rant over... all you gorgeous 30 somethings may continue to tell me wondeful things to look forward to (and can I start early ??)

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HonorMAGIpoeia · 04/12/2006 19:40

Glad it helped. Was invaluable advice passed on to me by a very good friend. Works well for me!!

greedyformincepies · 04/12/2006 20:04

HEY FESTIVEFETTLE - it wasn't ME that said i listen to radio2! it was someone else!!!!! The cheek of it! i admit to lost though!

I am 33 and proud!!! bit of an old biffer, i know, but at least i have an excuse for looking so rough in the mornings!

i think i like being over 30.....i have had both my kids since turning 30 so that has to be a plus!
ready...you are so young! i wasn't even married at 27....you have stacks of time for everything!

festivefettle · 04/12/2006 21:37

GREEDY - SORRY SORRY SORRY - after I'd posted it I had to rush to put DD in the bath and I suddenly thought oops, I think it might have been Ready not Greedy - I blame being over 30 and becoming more forgetful!

I do prefer being over 30, I think - definitely more confident in myself now than I was when I was 21. Not too sure I'm ready to be 41 though - no offence to anyone at all, it is just a personal thought to me - but I'm sure in the next 8 years, I'll come around to the thought slowly

Donbean · 05/12/2006 09:14

OMG Rudolph, i was joking! Was NOT offended at all. Its really difficult to Show humour isnt it.
Hehehehehe LOL to your lovely post though!
Dont feel horrible (please)...ive never been described as "fiery" I LOVE that...im as quiet as can be in RL.
Thankyou!

1stTimeMumat40 · 05/12/2006 10:38

A message from over that hill LOL...as someone who cried on my 29th birthday I have to say being 40+ is surprisingly fantastic. At 30 I could have stayed up all night (& did being a so-called mature student). Since having DS 4mths ago I have discovered I can't really handle it anymore but that's what toyboy DHs are for!!

alittlebitshy · 05/12/2006 12:23

I'm another 27 yo.

I find it strange because i don't fit a lot of mould... i had my dd at 23 almost 24, but most of my friends MY age are not even in relationships, or some are just married and the odd 1 or 2 have babies.... BUT my friends with children dd's age are in their 30s.. often as much as 10 years older than me.
TTC again now, and in many ways I think next time round (however long it takes) there will be a lot more mums of babies my age... does that make senss????

re Mrs McClaus's list: 1 6 8 10!!!!!

honeyhangupyerstockingsapple · 05/12/2006 12:29

Hi- a littlebitshy- I'm exactly like you, when I had my son (age 22) all other mums were in their thirties and I always felt a bit of an outsider- even though all very friendly- just they couldnt get me! Hopefully, if i get PG again, at 30, I wont have that situation again.

honeyhangupyerstockingsapple · 05/12/2006 12:30

And none of my school friends are having babies!

MrsMcClaus · 05/12/2006 13:32

I agree with so much that you all have said. In my 20s I had visions for the future but I couldn't really reach out and touch them. I got that horrible paranoia after drunken nights out and did sweat the small stuff. I don't really know if it was getting older and more comfortable in my skin or meeting my DH when I was 27 (though we've only been married 6 months) that got me over that. I love my life and it has got better since I turned 30 but I think that is because I truly do believe the best is yet to come!

Now listen .. Radio 2 has some great stuff on it, some old rubbish too but shows like Chris Evans' drivetime, Steve wright's love songs, Elaine Page's showtunes , Jonathan Ross & Parky plus the very funny comedy show on Sat pm are great!! I do wake up to Radio 1 though, got to get the old bones moving somehow!

notsogummyanymohohoho · 05/12/2006 13:48

i'm 36 and forget how old i am until i look at the year i was born . That's how life is when you turn 30 imo!

Macdog · 05/12/2006 13:58

I met my dh 2 weeks before my 30th birthday.
Since then we have been engaged, married and have a beautiful 10 month dd.
I am now 33 and am more content in my life than I have ever been!

wethreebodkinsoforientare · 05/12/2006 13:59

My take on it all is (I'm 33) you will never be as young again as you are now, so don't sweat it. I know that sounds obvious, but it really works when I look in the mirror and see those sneaky little wrinkles - I think, well, in ten years time I'll wish I had this few wrinkles!!!

And agree with all that about being more comfortable in your own skin stuff too.

Love Radio 2 - (even Ken Bruce - don't get me started on Popmaster...) But particularly the evening stuff (Mark Lamarr, Mark Radcliffe, the funny little documentaries about Barry Manilow etc.) Switched over from Radio 1 the day that oaf Moyles started. Bleurgh, he is just sh*te

MrsMcClaus · 05/12/2006 14:12

Loving the name Bodkin and the sentiments, couldn't agree more x

wethreebodkinsoforientare · 05/12/2006 16:28

Whoops, sorry MrsMc, just re-read your earlier post about being a radio 1 listener in the mornings.

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