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Beaut How annoying for you Do you think you'll be able to get one in tonight? x

eskimo I get hideous mood swings on soy, I dread to think how bad other hormones / pills would be. But you are now so much closer to your bfp...

TBH Boris The mood swings are not too bad. I think I'm a moody bitch anyway most of the time, so they go unnoticed. It's the hot sweats that are hideous. I only had one of tem last time though, so hoping it's the same this time around!

Just popping on the fling my pom poms around. Hope you're all having a lovely weekend.

Fingers and toes crossed for sammy and lucie

Cd23 and still not a positive opk. Last 2 cycles I got my +opk on cd21. I'd better bloody get one this month

It's lovely to see this bus so busy again. Sorry I've not been posting just didn't feel like I had anything to contribute and this 'wtf cycle' is proving rather challenging.

Sorry you're feeling down rainy. You will get there lovely there's no other stop on this bus only destination bfp

Lucie after everything you've been through it absolutely has to happen for you. I always think things are delayed when the outcome is a good one.

Sammy I'm so excited for you and will keep everything crossed.

Eskimo fx for this clomid cycle.

Lily I have everything crossed for you. Hope those pesky hormones are taking their time to show up clearly.

Kir keep going lovely and fx for a positive opk in the next few days.

Turd you're a please stay!

Eskimo I've told him I expect to have sex every night this week to make up for it I reckon that's fair

Hi Pixa good weekend here we just got back from Sunday dinner at the in laws. Hope you're having a good weekend.

Kir I still haven't had a positive opk either. I always got my positive smiley on cb on cd 18 or 19. Since I've started using the ic opks I've not had a positive. CD 19 today

Good on you beaut all is fair in ttc land

Feel like screaming. Just got home from my parents and told DH about the BFP's, he says I must be excited and then moves on to telling me he tackled some mildew in the wardrobe this afternoon! I know it's early days, but I did hope for some enthusiasm

Beaut - I love a good Sunday dinner. We went to see the in-laws today too. Was lovely.

Lily - I hope he's more enthusiastic for you again soon. Do you think there is a reason he is playing it down?

lily that's a bit of a disappointing reaction, is he not fully on board with ttc? Sorry if you've mentioned before but I sometimes miss pages on here

Lucie, my love, it's natural to panic. IVF is a huge, enormous, massive deal. Right? Your IVF protocol has become a long game. It has had unexpected bumps and you bravely took the step of staggering your cycles and not rushing into transfer. I think you've absolutely done the right thing by building this arsenal of embryos, but let's get one thing clear: three blastocysts is not a mean feat. A blasto is the creme de la creme of a couple's IVF hopes and you now have a collection of them.

You must resist the demons that are telling you trouble lies ahead; there is literally no point in fretting about implantation. Implantation is the easy bit - I promise. The hardest bit for an embryologist is nurturing the beginnings of life, which have now become your brilliant blastocysts. There is huge, huge promise in those creations. Trust your clinicians to prepare your womb lining when the time comes - it really is not rocket science and they will do just the right thing for you and your lining. It is a rare thing when IVF success hangs on a womb lining; there has to be some fairly complex NK killer cells/immune issues for implantation to be seriously thwarted.

Please stay out of the future - nothing good comes from living there. Stay in the present and remind yourself of the promise a blastocyst brings

Sammy, my stoical little pumpkin. Your DH is the best on the planet. Fact. What is your biggest fear? Is it egg quality? Is it egg quantity? Is it that this whole bloody completed cycle is never going to happen? Tell us what's plaguing you and I'll help break it down. You've waited far longer than could reasonably be expected my darling, but waiting is not destroying your dreams of a family. That much I know is true. You'll be PUPO before you know it...and you'll never know fear quite like that! Keep talking. I promise I'm listening

Lily, it doesn't mean he doesn't care. I remember DH comparing my weepy fretfulness during my IVF 2ww as being exactly the same as his fears for Burnley FC's relegation

Pixa, are you on the road to adoption? It's going to be unbelievably brilliant when you're matched with the tot(s) you were always meant to have (sigh). We desperately wanted to adopt but our criminal records negated that. Your marriage is another good 'un that will be just the luckiest child's sanctuary

Pixa he is on board, but I don't think it is as big a deal for him as it is me. I think once I get a nice strong line or we get our early scan, it will hit him a bit harder.

turd-iePie I love having you back, your wisdom and support is phenomenal. but please, for the love of my visual senses would you name change if you intend to stick around? turds just don't help me to live in my happy place.

Hi Turd, I've really missed you. Please let us know how you are getting along. I really hope things have progressed well for you. Thank you for asking about us. Your kind words really mean a lot to us. We are not yet on the way to adoption. We are just waiting for some results to tell us whether we should be able to go through surgical sperm extraction. Although DH has had the tests, we won't get the results until our follow up appointment which is in February.

If the follow up appointment gives us no further help, we will go and see a male fertility specialist.

In the mean time, we're petition against the government and NHS to ask for a review of fertility treatment. We are blogging (although this is a very recent development), we are in contact and hopefully helping an Infertility charity and we are doing our best to raise awareness. It feels rather odd to be able to say all of that, but that's where we are.

My wish is your command, Bozzer!

Pixa! You're having TESE then? Yippee! One of my friends from my IVF thread when I was TTC in 2013 had a husband who needed that treatment and they extracted summat like ONE sperm....and it worked! We all couldn't believe it, it was phenomenal news - but not that unusual, apparently; there is great success with TESE. What kind of results are needed in order for TESE to go ahead? Do you mean they need to clarify whether your husband produces any sperm at all?

Your blog is a brilliant idea and I just know your words will inspire and bring comfort. How is your job?

You asked how I was: I have vulval varices and ischiogluteal bursitis. I kid you not. Google and weep...

Thank you so much turdie You always help me to feel better. I think my main worry is even though these ones have made it to blasto it still doesn't mean they are viable embryos as around 40-50% of blasts are still not viable at my age and chromosomally abnormal but I know I have to try and forget about that for now and I massively grateful that we have managed to achieve these 3 so far. I hope my response picks up a bit next time and we can manage a couple more.

I would also love to know how things are progressing with you. I hope everything is going well.

Thanks bird

lucie may I ask how old you are?

pixa your campaigning and blogging is fantastic. Anything we can do to help?

Oh Turd, I'm scared of everything. Mostly that we are never going to reach transfer. Things just keep going wrong for us. Currently I'm terrified this cycles gone wonky already, my boobs hurt and I'm crampy and it's only cd8 :(. I can't have ovulated already can I? There was already a dominant follicle on cd5, but the nurse said not to start opks until Tuesday...

Is this all in my head??? Have I actually gone mad? Xx

Nice name change

I'm 36 Boris x

Thanks lucie it helps me put your stats and references to egg quality into perspective.

Hope you all have a lovely Monday.

lily and sammy have a good day, I hope your bodies behave themselves.

Positive opk here has brightened up an otherwise awful Monday!

Kir Brilliant news, now get busy DTD

Boris body behaving, still mild cramps and no AF, normally I get 1 day of cramps so I think I am going to go with I am pregnant. Got another faint BFP, so that's 3 now, I should maybe start to believe it!