Prty's Gang and The Festival of Foof Fun (when they not being cray cray!)

[PrtyPsn]

Hi (big wave)
So you clicked on here cos you were looking for me (I'm flattered!) or the title seemed interesting!
I'm aware it doesn't really explain but we are bunch of lovely ladies all TTC and going ever so slightly crazy with it! For more info see our original thread here - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2412386-TTC-anxious-over-early-pregnancy-possible-symptoms?msgid=56357000#56357000

We are symptoms spotters extrodinaire - you name it we've had it, real and/or imagined
We are here to help, we are all supportive, we laugh, rant, cry, joke, rage, smile, and comfort together. Be you a lurker or poster (established or new) then you are very welcome here. We only have a few rules:

1. No judgement - we all lead different lives and have different standards and that is fine. You wanna get wasted everyday of TWW, that's fine. You wanna abstain completely, that's fine. We need support, not judgement.
2. No feeling stupid - we've all had those months where we definitely think we are pg 110% convinced and then AF turns up, don't feel bad about it, it happens. Also we all have different levels of knowledge so no question is stupid apart from the one you don't ask.
3. On this thread there is no such thing as TMI - we are all adults and we all know how miraculous and amazing... and downright disgusting our bodies can be, it's fine. Share what you want, we will not be fazed.

So that's it, jump in and FX'd for all my lovelies xx

moo - I've done that before, get what you need then resume the argument
prty - glad you don't have to be around your family for a bit, I know exactly how you're feeling.
Thanks stripes - I think I'm going to go with it being a light period too. I've spent a fortune on tests so I know I'm not. I'm not going to bother with opks this month, tbh the way I'm feeling at the moment I feel like not bothering with ttc either - why is it so damn difficult? I'm becoming quite bitter about it all now, which I really didn't want but it's just not fair that people get pregnant so easy all the bloody time

So I think it was a big mistake telling OH about +ve test....mega sperm strike here.

I don't know whether he just couldn't help himself, he didn't think that it would matter, or he's getting cold feet and deliberately tried to sabotage my fertile window, but I know that he masturbated this morning whilst I was busy with DS (didn't do a great job of hiding the evidence). I didn't say anything because nothing productive would have come out of that conversation. I just thought let's see what happens tonight...

Sure enough, he failed to complete DTD I could tell he wasn't in the mood, right from the beginning. And last night he stayed up much later than usual and fell straight asleep before I could even suggest DTD. Again, I don't know if he was deliberately delaying going to bed so that we would be too tired, or if I'm being completely paranoid.

For the record, I don't apply any pressure about getting Pg. We are very open with each other and casually chat about TTC. I only reveal the full cray on here, so that it doesn't spill out in real life!

He apologised for tonight. Blaming it on being tired and dehydrated (we were in bed by 9pm!), so he clearly doesn't want to admit to what he did earlier. This is what makes me think no good will come of calling him out in it. Also I really don't want a massive blow out and risk putting him off TTC altogether. Especially if I am just being paranoid and it's just a massive case of poor timing!

Not looking for a solution just really needed to let it out because I can't sleep and I feel really really low. If anyone's got a spare pocketful of chocolate positivity, I'd be mega grateful because I'm all out!

Peace out (sorry for the Monday morning blues!)

So of course with not sleeping, I casually open up Facebook for a bit of entertainment only to see 5 posts in a row of bumps, babies and scan pics. FML.

Kitten I know exactly what you mean, I don't feel like I can keep this up for many more cycles.

Oh aindy (squeezes you in a massive hug until your eyes bulge)
That's really, really, really crappy, my lovely.
You're a strong woman though (that would have caused a huge argument in our house) and you've DTD within the last few days, right? Remember sperm can live a few days in the right conditions x
Slightly related but I was thinking the other day how our sex life as changed... before TTC we wouldn't always DTD when feeling frisky, sometimes... ahem... other things would be enough - now I feel like anything but DTD is a waste, regardless of cycle time. Wondered if this is a similar thing for you and OH aindy? I might mix it up a bit and go back to other methods during TWW

Can I join the bus???
I'm a bit of a lurker but needing some cheering up.
TTC#1 on cycle #3. Think I'm now on my TWW after being off on holiday last week DTD lots!!!

Everyone around me seems to be pregnant, and someone who always said they weren't bothered about kids has just announced she is due. Just needing a bit of a hug and some positive vibes.

Welcome SunnyScot!

Sending hugs Aindy. This TTC stuff is hard enough without sperm strikes! I do feel that a lot of the onus is on us women (unfairly) and I'm not sure why really because trying for a baby is a joint decision. I certainly feel anxious around my fertile period in case DH doesn't want to DTD ... and there's something not very nice if you have to say 'please can we DTD, we have to do it today, please' I guess it's not very romantic. Maybe you should have an honest chat with him about finding TTC stressful?

I deactivated my Facebook account when I was in a bad spot. It was a good thing to do.

Aindy your OH can officially join the sperm hogging idiot club.

I'm sorry he's being an ass FWIW, I'd be paranoid too.

Hi sunny err probably a bit early for hot chocolate... (tentatively holds out a decaf coffee)
You're very welcome in our gang of cray cray-ness lol! I literally feel like everyone is pg just lately and every time I try to buy a test places are sold out!! What's going on?!
pirsy I'm with you in the Facebook deactivaters group! With all the childish bickering and constant pregnancy announcements, scan pictures and basically nosy bastsrds I've decided it's just not worth it. Will permenabtly close mine once I get a chance to back up all my photos and videos etc to be honest, it took a good week before anyone even noticed I'd disappeared... maybe I just need better friends pahahaha

Thanks ladies, even a virtual hug makes me feel better! So good to have listening ears!

Prty we attempted on Saturday morning but my foof didn't want to play ball, so last successful deposit (lol) was on Tuesday morning, so I haven't got high hopes. Maybe the pressure is just getting to both of us?? Oh and I totally get you about anything other than DTD feeling like a waste if time!!

Pirsy yeah it was so awkward. Normally we are very tactile, cuddly, attentive to each other, very 50/50, and it only takes a quick suggestive glance to get things going! We are very loving and close, even after 12 years. Last night was just depressing and mechanical, no kissing, foreplay, passion and I certainly don't think there was any enjoyment from either of us .

I think you're right about a chat. We are good at that. I won't mention any specifics but just suggest that we go back to just enjoying ourselves whenever the mood takes us, which doesn't always have to result in deposits!!

Maybe a break from it all would be wise anyway, as my current or next cycle's due date would be very close to DS birthday, and I wouldn't want to be to tired/preoccupied to celebrate it properly. That may sound like a crazy reason but he is my whole world and I want the experience of being a big brother to be very positive from the start.

Thanks Bex I set my alarm for an hour later so we didn't have to have an awkward morning together. He gets back late tonight so I will have had plenty of time to calm down. I've already had a text asking me if I'm ok...

Yeah, Facebook is just a complete cesspit. I probably only have about 5 friends whose lives and children I am genuinely interested in keeping up with!

Time to crack on with work I suppose and stay distracted. This is making me too tearful and my office manager will be back in half an hour!

hands out fat free muffins to all for breakfast

Sorry, sunny! Welcome! Fx'd for you

Welcome sunny!

Aindy so sorry to hear about your DTD troubles with your OH! I think men can get paranoid about being under pressure to 'perform', maybe it was getting to him. My DH has deffo been guilty of staying up too late, etc... I've been making it into a bit of a joke - we're on duty tonight, etc... But he doesn't like it when it's not 'romantic'. I'm the one that sometimes just wants a wham bang thank you ma'am!

I'm feeling low today (well can't keep my positivity up all the time!!), as I've started spotting and have got PMT. Why is it we get PMT at the point of must disappointment for us TTC-ers!! Makes it doubly bad!! I suppose it could be IB, but as I didn't get that with DS, it doesn't feel likely!! At least I have acupuncture on Friday. And everyone here (at work) seems in a bad mood! I got in and two of my colleagues were stropping at each other. Sigh!!

This whole TTC thing would be so much easier if men weren't involved!!!

Haha, Sunny my thought process exactly!!

Thanks Ella. So sorry to hear about potential PMT , when is the witch due?

Ah nothing like colleagues with a case of the Mondays to keep you in high spirits!

This is my last week of half days before DS goes full time to school. Nice to have the afternoons off together. And I was absolutely not fuming inside at all the bumps and prams at the school gates...

Day 4 of cramping for me now (CD33). However I've had an upset tummy for a couple of days (ugh) so maybe I've mistaken the AF pain for that?! Been in a foul mood though lol so definitely feels like PMT.

AF not due until Friday according to my apps best guess. Wondering whether to wait until Friday to POAS if AF doesn't appear by then (scared of disappointment now I've started building my hopes up - big mistake, was much easier when I was convinced I wasn't PG!).

Dare I ask what you would do? Resounding cries of POAS?

Hmmm...Bex I would be very tempted. I guess as you were expecting AF anyway, BFN wouldn't be so bad, and anything else would be a bonus. But it depends what tests you've got. I have a tonne of ICs, so I don't mind using them liberally. I'd be less tempted if I only had HPTs from the pharmacy. Even if they are only £3-4.

What's your gut instinct telling you to do??

Bex do you have any idea when you OVd? If it's been at least 10 days, then I would POAS, but if there's any likelihood that you might think, ah well, it's still a bit early, I would wait. Does that make sense?

I might have gone out at lunch and bought myself a lipstick to cheer myself up i did!

Awww ella big hug and a bucket of Maltesers for you, lovely x
bex I'd be tempted to POAS cos it would drive me crazy being unsure but also like what ella says about dpo x

Ella unfortunately I haven't used any OPKs this month but my best guess would definitely be more than two weeks ago (if I OVd at all).

Aindy I only have Asda ones left - 15-20miu I think? And £1.75 each. So not the end of the world.

Prty it is starting to drive me crazy but not sure I can face the disappointment. Once I've got that BFN I'll just be waiting for the bitch to show up, at least if I don't test I'll be uncertain rather than bluuue.

No pleasing some people is there! Lol

(Won't be drinking before the weekend anyway so could realistically hold out til then)

Hi ladies , just getting my after work fix!:) aindy sorry you had a frustrating time with OH , totally get the 'not wasting it' thing though! I don't know if when I ov so I dont think I apply too much pressure , although it's normally noted that I want it more in first couple of weeks after AF and jokingly get accused of using him for sperm :) bex I'd tend to wait until I def know I'll get a more accurate result but that's because I know it it's a BFN before AF due i won't believe it anyway and still convince myself I'm pg :) fx for you lovey x

Hi all - thanks for the Maltezers and sympathy!!

I think I might have been ok if it had come at day 25-6, because it would have felt like a vaguely healthy cycle. But 22-23 feels so short!! I know I'm lucky in some ways, as my wait is shorter, but I'm worried to have such short cycles!!

Anyway...

Bex I tend to agree with Stripes, I would only POAS if you think you'll believe the outcome. If it was me, and before I was due, I would still have that glimmer of hope, and that's just darn frustrating!! I've vowed not to POAS until after I'm due, so I won't have that feeling of 'maybe' still. Sorry. So frustrating for you!!

Need a stiff drink tonight!! I'll have an extra for all you Teetotalers too! No...no need to thank me!

Thanks ella if you could manage a glass of rose or a Bacardi and coke for me I'd appreciate it!!

Evening ... well today couldn't get work trousers done up at all....so bloated and it feels very tight and bloomin warm, feels like someone has stuffed a hot water bottle down there.
No idea when I OV as didn't use kits this month. Currently on day 17 of cycle

Snap neetie I'm on CD17 too !!

Yay Stripes cycle buddies :)

Oooo my belly is sooo warm...