Waiting to try, and cycle a mess from the pill

[AlexandraOrlov]

Just wondering if there are any other lurkers in the same boat as me, planning to TTC in December/January?

I came off the pill three months ago and have only had one pathetic AF in that time, so very glad I came off early but also pretty anxious at how messed up things are, 1st cycle was 39 days, this one is 40 and courting.

So who's with me? I can't be the only person on here who is actually hoping for AF!

So sorry cookie you must be devastated, all your symptoms sounded positive. Today will be crap but try to pick yourself up tomorrow, remember stress doesn't help our bodies with baby making.
Re your lutenal phase I would really recommend temping, you can get a really good indicator of the health of tour lutenal phase even if it is short based on this. Starting to sound like a Kindara salesperson but they have a really great article about it which I can share if you're interested
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So gutted for you Cookie it really is so sad when AF arrives I hope you manage to get through work ok today

Chapman I know just how you feel two of my close friends and my brothers partner are all expecting I am so happy for them but I do keep thinking when will it be my turn hopefully we will get some BFPs this cycle xxxx

Aw cookie I am so sorry Hun! Really thought it would be both our time this month. I really guess it just isn't meant to be st the time. Pick yourself up and today is a new day! I'm going to start temping this month so hopefully this shall work. It's a right kick in the tits isn't it, hope you're ok xxxx

Yvonne - yes exactly I'm happy for others but i also wonder when it will be our turn! Apart from gx91 and Sophie we haven't had that many successes haha we need to mean business xxxx

I know Chapman we are definitely due a big burst of BFPs this WILL be our month!! I'm on CD8 just waiting for my OPKs to arrive xxx

Oh sorry cookie. It's rubbish isn't it! We have absolutely zero control and are just waiting every month to see if AF arrives or not, all the suspense and symptom spotting and high hopes! Look after your self today. I recommend chocolate and wine and a soppy film, wallow in it today and then tomorrow pick your self up and move on to next month. I'm doing a little bit of meditation this month to try and chill out. And opks/temping will give you a better idea about your cycle. I find iv been less disappointed last 2 months when AF arrives cos iv seen my temp drop before and know AF is on its way.. Gives me a day or 2 to get my head round it and be ready! Sending a hug xx

Thank you girls, you are all so sweet! I feel so naive to have convinced myself I could be pregnant. That'll teach me for getting my hopes up! Where are you all at in your cycles? Chapman, looks like we're going to be cycle buddies again! 32 day cycle this time so it's getting shorter. How depressing to be right back at CD1 now! pops open the wine

Ps think I will definitely try and temp. Thanks for the advice girls xx

Cookie I'm sure we are all the same I become obsessed with pregnancy symptom spotting from the day of ovulation it's so hard not too! Enjoy your wine xxx

Not naive at all cookie, just hopeful which is a good thing, your symptoms were positive after all.
Enjoy the wine tonight!!

Update from me - CD19 and got my 6th flashing smiley OPK in a row today, where is this static smiley!!! Driving me mad, my cheap OPK's are still completely negative. DTD again tonight for the 6th day in a row, beginning to feel like we just have to get the job done , it's even taking its toll on DH a little, we joked tonight getting our 'chores' done but actually enjoyed ourselves in the end!!
Shouldn't complain really but even if I get my peak tomorrow that'll be another 2 or ideally 3 days we do it on the trot, I think it'll be our record!!

Ooh exciting times New Girl. Your static might just come out of the blue when you least expect it! I got mine at 12 midday after I'd been using the clear blue at the same time every morning. Also held the stick in my pee pot a wee bit longer that day! Keep dtd & hopefully you'll reach your peak over the weekend!

Hope ov comes for you soon Yvonne! What OPKs did you order? I need to get some more Amazon ones as went through a whole pack last month, and a whole pack of CB! Really hoping we all have some luck this month- we're over due some Bfps!

Newgirl, just had a wee giggle at your 'chores' comment! It can feel like that at time can't it! My DH is still struggling to get his head around the whole fertile window side of things. He thinks we're in for a good chance regardless of where we dtd in my cycle. I think I need to send him back to school for some biology lessons xx

Sorry to hear that cookie. Good that you had a nice normal length cycle though.

Cd22 here and no sign of ovulation still. ..

New girl, hope you OV soon so you don't get too tired out! Is this your 1st month using the really technical clear blue monitor? Iv heard it can take a couple of months to get used to your hormones. You will probably just get a static out of the blue... Loads of sex can only help your chances though!

First, what cycle day did you ov last month? Hope it's soon for you. I'm hoping I OV earlier this month. It's got slightly shorter each month so fingers crossed.

I'm cd10 today, was going to pee on my 1st opk of the month today, but I forgot!! Haha, doing a bit too well with the chilling now out this month. Not that it matters as I'm sure I won't OV for at least a couple more weeks! I peed on about 50 last month to the point where it felt weird going for a wee and not dipping something in it! Lol. So need to get back into it. Xx

sunny was cd64 last month!!!

Can anyone answer me why I'm killed with like bad bad period pains and a nausea feeling the last few days I'm in a lot of pain?

Argh first, it's so annoying isn't it! I hope it's shorter for you this time! Your on af us now aren't you? Did you start the Angus at the start of your cycle? I noticed ewcm quite quickly after starting it, I still didn't ov for a while but it did seem to wake things up! I know ov said this before but mine are getting shorter..
1st = 98 day (Ov on cd88).
2nd = 42 days (ov cd32)
3rd= 35 days (ov on cd26).

Currently on cd 11. Seem to only have 9-10 day luteal phase so ov late regardless of cycle length. I'm hoping this one is shorter again, first didn't yours get shorter and then you had a long one again?

Shan what cd are you on? Are you expecting period. I used to get period pain for 2-3 days before my period when I was on the pill, now it seems to hit suddenly when period starts. Depending where you are in your cycle it could be Ov pain or implantation... Or one of many other things, bowel pain etc. are you at the right place in your cycle to poas? Xx

Not on af.. Angus! And I seem to have trained my auto correct to change iv to ov! Too much ttc talk!

sunny yes my pattern has been 38, 32, 48, 77.
Now on CD23.
I didn't start AC until 11th which was CD18.

Cookie you are my good luck charm!!

Got another flashing smiley yesterday morning and on your advice did a second one around lunchtime and finally saw that static smiley!! Whoop! So pretty sure I have ov'd today, my temperature dipped this morning so waiting to see if it spikes tomorrow. Will probably DTD tomorrow as well as a backup.
How are you getting on, is AF slowing up yet?

Sunny I've been using it for a couple of months and I think it is taking a bit of getting used to, last month I didn't test as much and went straight to a static smiley. For me it's worth every penny though as I don't get the faint lines that others seem to get while approaching their peak.
Glad to hear you're feeling relaxed about it, get POAS tomorrow!

First hope the Angus makes a difference and Ov makes an appearance soon, your EWCM sounds like a good sign.

Good luck Sunny sounds like you have definitely caught OV this cycle!

Just wondered if anyone has given up alcohol while TTC? I don't drink much but I do really enjoy a glass or two of wine on a Friday and Saturday night, j didn't think much of it but a friend commented today that this won't be helping my chances of conceiving?! X

Hi girls ! How is everyone today? Am in the boring stage now.. AF has gone, All my stuff arrived today - conceive plus, ov sticks, pg sticks, basal thermometer so I'm ready to kick ass!

Cookie - are u feeling any better today babe? I know it's depressing waiting for ovulation haha! We in the same boat hope you enjoyed your wine
Sunny - good news about the ov hopefully it gets shorter this month & it's your turn bring some good luck to the group!
New girl - so happy you got your smiley! I think with all the DTD you have done it works wonders for you!
Yvonne - I never drink anyway but there's no harm in having one or two! You could cut alcohol out all together and not get pregnant for months and then you have to miss out for 9 months!

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Hi cn I'm ok tonight. A bit annoyed at myself as I felt a but jealous at a pregnancy announcement of a friend. I am really pleased for them, but I just don't feel I have affair go at it at the moment!!

You can't help feeling like that Firstgo I'm the same xx

I think iv confused you guys. I haven't ovulated yet. On cd12 now. But my stupid phone keeps autocorrecting "Iv" to "Ov"... Iv obviously been doing to much ttc talk! Haha.

Our first, I think that's a natural reaction. It doesn't mean you aren't happy for them, it just means that you also want that for your self, and that's ok. The two feelings aren't mutually exclusive. And it is crappy isn't it, having stupid cycles, I feel the same, like if I knew I was going to OV on cd14 like a normal person we would really go for it over fertile period, but I just don't know when mine is going to be! And also if you are having long periods you get less chances!

Have we only ever had one bfp on this thread?? Statistically each person has a 20% chance of conceiving each cycle and 70% will conceive within 6 months. How long have we had this thread? Seems like the pill really has messed us all up 😕 x

First - I know exactly how you feel! I go onto Facebook and another person is pregnant. Like sunny says we are happy for them but we just wish it was us. There's no harm in that it's human nature!

Sunny - we've had 2! Gx91 and SophieD and this thread was started in August so not a lot really. The pill is cruel if I knew what it would be liked I would of stopped ages ago but you get it drummed into you if you forget to take one pill you will get pregnant so you're so cautious.

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Sunnydays I'm on Cd 18 ? Not due anything till February? Like it feels like pressure more so than anything really strong pains ? Then I get a nausea feeling

Sunny love you statistical analysis of our BFP rate that is so the sort of thing I'd do!! Ive only been properly trying for 2 cycles including this one so I probably squee our stats a bit as been on this thread longer.

Chapman and first I know exactly how you feel. My best friend is pregnant with her second at the mo and I really thought we'd be going through our pregnancies together!

Yvonne I've not given up alcohol and I do like a drink, staying away from big binges but still enjoying a few glasses of wine etc. Like Chapman said you could end up not drinking for ages if it takes a few cycles to fall and then having 9 months off it while you're pregnant!!

I'm a bit confused on what's happening with me, got my positive OPK on Friday so though I'd Ov yesterday, but still getting some watery cm and Ov pain today and no temp spike this morning maybe I have a slow egg still waiting in the wings!!