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hope when i got my letter to go for my scan it never said anything about drinking water, so maybe it his external then, always good to be prepared thought x

Thanks Chops and Rainy. If it is internal I will do my best not to look surprised and horrified. I'm a grown woman for gods sake so why does the thought of exposing my lady garden to a healthcare professional make me feel so scared?! I'm sure after the smear and internal the day before I will have lost my inhibitions! #prayformyladybits

Just popping by to wish you all well. Hope it's all going smoothly for you. I keep lurking and I'm really hoping you all get bfps soon.

Thanks pixa hope you are ok.

Hi Pixa I remember you from before.

Well ladies I had my gp appointment today and it went a lot better than expected. I have been booked in for my bloods 7 days before Af (although this will be an absolute guess) and on cd4. Also given a sample pot for DH to do a SA. I'm scared of the results but at least I'll know either way if something is wrong. We won't be entitled to any help on the NHS which I knew anyway but we can pay privately. It was just so nice for someone to listen the gp was so lovely about it all

beaut glad you were listerned to.
I'm having a little pity party of my own. I spent last night with a good mate and her 6 week old. Made me sad :(
we've been trying for 16 months now. This month is probably a write off as we didn't dtd as planned we managed 2days before OV and the day after. next month DH is away. DH is struggling with depression, out of work, stuck home. He has sometimes started drinking whisky early and generally sits on the sofa playing grand theft auto all day (which I hate) with the curtains drawn. He's got to the point he can't actually DTD much. He doesn't seem to want to look at me when we do. I feel terrible for him. Depression can be crippling, so I don't really want to moan or be selfish but God life is tough :(

boris your poor DH and you. It must be so tough. My DH has depression we even split up for a whe over it as everything was my fault according to him and I couldn't take it. He has been taking anti depressants for quite some time and is back to the DH I met. Is your DH taking anything for his depression. DH totally went off sex when he first got depressed and when he first started the medication he couldn't ejaculate (common side effect).

I'm sure your DH does want to have sex with you. I think sometimes ttc can affect men just as much if not more than women but men hide their feelings. Have you spoken about it all? Try to stay positive. I know it's hard. Play a bit of GTA that's bound to get him in the mood

Morning!

hair. There's not really much I can say but I hope your dh gets better soon. My ex had depression and it was a bewildering thing to have to deal with, seeing someone who was so happy go lucky suddenly change. Is his depression related to ttc? I hope you can stay strong for him but make sure you look after yourself too.

pixa nice to see you back, I hope you're ok! Miss you!

hopes when is the scan? (Started posting so I can't skip back a page to check!) good luck, you'll be fine!

beaut that's great that your appointment went well! Hopefully you'll have some answers very soon. How long does the sa results take to come back? When I had my bloods done they were very quick.

My DP was on anti depressants when I met him as he was struggling to come to terms with his divorce. He doesn't deal with stress very well. He struggled with ejaculating too whilst on them. But they helped give his overworked mind some respite whilst he came to terms with things.

Had yet another ridiculously long shift last night. Was meant to finish at 23:00 but didn't get off until 04:00 (the government can truly fuck right off when they say the police service can cope with more budget cuts.....that's 27 hours overtime worked in less than a fortnight now )

This meant my temp was screwed up this morning which is very annoying. DP is pissed off about me being off late again, I was getting shitty text messages at 3am. I'm ignoring him today, he can sod off. I had a breakdown a couple of weeks ago because of the amount of stress I'm under at work and he was so supportive, saying I'm great at my job and he's so proud of me and won't let me leave (I was ready to quit), now I'm getting texts saying he's had enough of it and I need to get a new job and we should put off ttc until I've sorted myself out with a new job!!! I sent him an equally snotty text back reminding him that it is him that's been stopping me from handing in my notice. Grr.

Feeling hormonal (or just very tired) today. Woke up feeling pretty iangry about all the hypocrites on Facebook, who a few days ago were posting comments about blocking the migrants coming into the UK....now all of a sudden after the dead baby story (they didn't care about the hundreds of drowned adults earlier on in the year....?) they're making posts to brag about how much they've donated to charity and we all need to do more to help?!! Sod off! Hypocrites.

Then I started crying at the headlines about the father losing his boy and his wife .

No symptoms today other than the mood swings. Had heartburn most of yesterday and I've suddenly got a mouth ulcer but that's more likely due to being run down that anything.

Sorry for ranty post!

Waves to Pixa, hope you're well!

Beaut glad the dr's appointment went well, a sympathetic, understanding Dr is worth their weight in gold!

Boris so sorry to hear about DH's struggle with depression, I've been there with my DH so I know how hard it is. It will get better

DizzyN those are crazy hours...and in a stressful job...look after yourself! Let's hope maternity leave is on the cards soon for you!

Can't remember who asked but my scan is in the 15th! Using the mobile site on my phone is proving tricky...I miss the app!

Had a lovely day out with the kids today, plenty of fun and fresh air...and no rain!

Can I sneak back in? I've been dying with a stomach bug and a mild ectopic pregnancy scare due to extreme one sided cramping (even though dates didn't quite add up) which has left me not eating for a week and generally feeling lousy.

AF due in 2 days, have POAS twice and as much as I squint I think they are negative, but I am only 7dpo...

Morning! Whoah It's been quiet on here! Did I scare everyone away with my ranty post?

lily I read your other post, sorry you've been feeling shitty. Could you have had a cp which isn't showing up on tests? Try not to worry too much, I would test again in a few days. Either you'll have a stronger line then or if you've had a cp you won't get a line & then you'll know you're good to go for next cycle.

Hope everyone has nice plans for the weekend! DP apologised yesterday and we had a lovely evening last night with a takeaway curry and catching up with GBBO. Today we're off to a car show. I hope the sun comes out!

Dizzy thanks, I'm wondering the same about the CP, it would explain quite a lot. Your night last night sounds lovely, and have fun today xx

dizzy I keep thinking have I killed the thread as its so quiet. But I'm hoping that it's just because the app is no more and it's a bit of a pain in the mobile site.

lily I hope either your pains are implantation and you get a BFP or that it's nothing to worry about. Fx for you.

Nothing exciting to report here only cd8. Took my last lot of soy last night. It gave me a bad headache but I don't need to take it again this month

beaut how are things going in your salon? I need to go back and catch up on posts but seems such a mountain after a couple of weeks away. How have you found the soy in general?

I'm here, but used to use the app and am struggling with the mobile site :(. Plus I've used up my data allowance so for the next 5 days I can only log on when I have wifi!

Lily - sorry to hear you've been poorly, hope you're on the mend now.

DizzyN - sorry for the rows with dh, but glad you've made up now. Xx

DH can see the line, it's not just me, it has colour, he independently said he could see a faint red colour, and was that what it should look like. Oh please keep everything crossed!

I'm still here too! Just had a really busy week at work and we're having some work done on the house so spent all yesterday evening moving furniture around etc. on the plus side I'm completely distracted from my TWW!

pixa hi! How are you getting on lovely? I hope things are okay x

boris that sounds so tough, would DH be open to the idea of talking to somebody about this? Sounds like he needs to break out of the cycle of being at home all day. Are there any friends you could call upon to get him out the house for a bit and socialise? Hope you're okay

dizzyn hope you're feeling better, sounds like you have a nice weekend planned!

Weeeellllllll, hello everyone! I'm back from an amazing holiday in Italy. Have been trying to keep up with you lot when I could get internet access, but it's not been very regular, so forgive me for not reading back completely.

Boris I really hope things start to look brighter for you and your DH soon. My ex had depression and became an alcoholic whilst he was unemployed. Sadly, he never admitted it to himself or anyone else and things came to a head when he was hospitalised after an alcohol related seizure, so I completely understand what you are going through.

Lily How exciting! Keeping everything crossed.

DizzyN It sounds like you're having lots of ups and downs at the moment. Hope that things stay good for you. I'm back at work on Monday and really hoped I'd be pregnant by now, as trying to juggle teaching and TTC is really stressful, especially at the beginning of the September term

It's actually been a relief to go away for two weeks and not to have to think about taking any pills, or working out dates for tests, or POAS or anything. Now I'm back, I need to think about taking the progesterone pills for a bleed (still absolutely no sign that my body wants to have a natural period ) and then start the 150mg clomid. Again, being the pessimist that I am, I don't really hold out much hope for it working, but am prepared to go back to the consultant and see what 'life after clomid' may contain! (I did ask the secretary last time I rang up, but she couldn't give me any details and just said that they'd make another appointment for me... )

Big hello to everyone else! x x

lily How exciting. Keeping fx for you. The salon is going well thanks for asking. I've just taken on a new tanning system and saved myself £500. Plus I've had calls about it already so obviously clients know & trust the brand.

I've got on fine with the soy. This is the second cycle of taking it. It made my cycle longer and I ovulated a couple of days earlier than usual. Which in hindsight is a good thing as I usually have a really short LP. Last month I took it cd5-9 this month I've tried cd3-7. The only side effect I've noticed is spots.

Beautician glad your appointment went well,

Boris sorry , seems that you are having an awful time with your dh, depression is an awful illness, hopefully he gets it sorted,

Dizzy sounds like you are having a hard time too, such long hours you have worked, take care of yourself!!

Eskimo lovely to see you back and that you have enjoyed your holiday , i wold love to go to Italy!!

Well I've done some obsessing checking on dates. Think I'm 5dpo and have mild cramping low down this morningall created in my head. Other things in the boris family seem ok ish, not as dire as the beginning of the week but not fun either.

dizzyn things sound tough for you too. Hope you are able to look after yourself?

eskimo welcome back :) we missed you.

Waves to everyone else

Glad things are a bit better boris, sorry it's still not great though. Good luck with your TWW, fx for you!

eskimo welcome back! glad you had a nice holiday and relaxed.

About 9 dpo here today and nothing of note to report. Hope everyone has a good Sunday! X

Morning! I'm fine thanks, been having a lovely chilled out weekend with DP. Already feeling depressed about going back to work tomorrow as I know I've got a busy week of getting on top of my work before having two weeks out of the office from next Monday.

I'm either 10 dpo (according to ff) or 12 dpo (according to my wishful thinking) or if I go on my first and only opk this month I'd be 15dpo which would mean af due tomorrow!

No symptoms as such, had a runny nose and the odd sneeze but that's nothing out of the ordinary for me. Feeling rough today but that is blatantly because we've ran out of caffeinated tea bags

Hope you're all enjoying your weekends!