TTC and still breastfeeding? Thread # 5 - Positive Vibes!

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Peardrop - age 33, TTC cycle #9, DS is 26 months (stopped bf soon to be 4 months ago). Af returned when DS 14months, currently on CD14 and have had 4 flashing smileys. Praying for a static smiley tomorrow! Dangling legs in air!

So, I've decided that I'm definitely not going to continue to dtd. I'm having lots of signs of progesterone flooding my body which is not sexy whatsoever! It's dpo 1 and I'm officially done for this month anyway

Pear, you only need to dtd once with one determined little swimmer fx this is your lucky month too!

You would know Ava

Even hubs said he didn't want to tonight

Congrats Ava That is such lovely news Sooo excited & happy for you.

Thanks Mumo x

Oh Mini, my DH was like that one night the cycle before we decided to take a ttc break. I was really upset at the time, but, looking back I think I needed the night off too. It's so emotionally and physically draining dtd eod / ed, especially when you already have a lo and other priorities

I've not slept more than 4 hrs and I have a soft play date to go to this morning I mainly can't stop thinking about the newborn cuddles I had with my friends baby yesterday and how my Ds went to spontaneously cuddle another friends baby lying on a couch. It was so cute but also tore my heart out Why is it taking so long All my friends, NCT group, celebs who had baby no1 after me...they all have their babies or bump

Because life is not fair and really sucks sometimes Pear but mainly because you made the best decision to give your ds the very best start in life. I have days where I really struggle with the jealousy but I deal with it by being (really judgy about other people not bf) really smug about my successful bf journey. It may not be very healthy but it definitely helps Also, try to think about it that you still have all the newborn bit to come while there's will be all done soon. Dh and I had a long chat about ttc and he admitted that he was hesitant only because we know this would be our last and he doesn't like to think about us being done with babies ????

Oh god Pear, I feel like that at the moment too . So many questions about when we'll have a another.

And is DD so sweet with her dolls and toys, caring for them, feeling them. Yesterday her nursery manager told me how sweet she is with a new baby that has just started in her room, and that a sibling would be great for her .

I am full of doubt and worry at the moment, about whether I should stop to enable this to happen.

On the other hand, I too, really, really see the benefit for DD. I was at nursery for DD's end of year assessment / report type discussion (ridiculous I know, they are only two!)

She only goes two days a week, but if I can allow myself a little boast, they told us she is exception, streaks ahead of the others both in measurable stuff (speech, knowledge, memory) but also in maturity and confidence.

When I'm feeling strong I think that kids naturally space their sibling, enabling you to get pregnant when they are ready. Having two close together can be really hard core, and I think the effects of that, especially for the older one, are long lasting. If I was younger and didn't have a history of luteal phase issues I'd be happy to wait it out, I think.

Also for me, likely we will have two (though secretly i'd love three - can't see it happening though!). So I didn't want to rush through it, and in particular I wanted to feel like I'd properly recovered and had some space to enjoy DD before we get into it again, so I'm able to enjoy another baby, and not feel like its all just sped by in a sleep deprived blur.

When I look back, I do feel a million times better now than I did when we started out TTC in January.

My SIL has 2 and 3/4 years between her two and still found it pretty tough.

I'm trying to really let myself feeling all this stuff now, to emotionally make space in my and our lives for a new baby.

Spotting continues here today. Bah.

Thank you ispy and Dougal for understanding Very kind.

Pear, you have the satisfaction if knowing that you bf DS to give him the best start, and could already be pg x

Well put, iSpy x

Dougal, your DD sounds loads like mine (and Wax's!) her speech, nemory and nurturing skills amaze us - she's 2 going on 12 lol! I'm so grateful to be able to still give DD milk when she needs it and that my body has had sufficient time to recover between pregnancies - I can't imagine it having happened any sooner now x

Good luck again everyone - thinking of all of you in the 2ww and keeping everything crossed for more good news x

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Dpo 3. I think time is actually standing still Still feeling really low about stuff TTC and just can't snap out of it It does not help that I have lots of time on my own this week with DS as DH is working 24/7 at the moment. I really need comfort food but I have nothing in the house boo hoo and DH is away working

Sorry, a very me me me post

Oh and I stupidly read the Grad thread just to depress myself some more ???? That was really dumb of me!! Ladies I do not recommend doing that

How is everyone else doing? Mini are you surviving?

I'd totally bring you chocolate Pear! Have you got a good book you can get stuck into to take your mind off things?

I am 15/16 dpo. Still spotting.

It has a pattern all of its own in the 5 or 6 days at the end of my cycle, and always tails off just before AF arrives (which it is doing now) I tend to get excited and hopeful for a day and then...

So on the plus side this is a good length cycle, with stronger and earlier ovulation. On the down side, still pre AF spotting, and if anything a bit more than last month.

Pear - this is what online food ordering was made for. Get thee to ocado or sainsburys.com or whatever and order some treats for tomorrow.

Would channelling your energies help? What can you do at the mo which will be harder when pg, or with two. Going out, or spending time enjoying DS? Or doing some stuff to prep for pregnancy?

My twenties were a bit of a disaster, relationship-wise. By my late twenties I was still single, while friends all around me were getting married and having children. I worried about it a lot, but then i realised i need to use that time to prepare, and become the person I imagined I would be in a settled happy relationship. I partied less, got regular exercise, sorted out my work situation. Physically I had a great pregnancy and a decent first birth, and i do put that down to many many early morning yoga classes when i was still single.

OR - let yourself feel it. This is hard. We are really ready to welcome a new baby to our families. Let's long for them, dream of them, wish for them, make space for them, imagine it is real...

And stay off the grads threads!

Ispy - oh thank you. What chocolate would you bring me out of interest? This is embarrassing to admit but I don't actually remember the last time I read a book Maybe something I should get back into whilst I have time in the evenings!

Dougal - I really feel for you and your confusing spotting! When is your appointment? have you bumped into anyone else on MN in a similar situation? I know some ladies have lots of spotting during their pregnancy but I've not heard so much about spotting during cycles. Is it linked to PCOS do you think? Sorry lots of questions!

I need to take on a lot of your good advice. Tomorrow whilst my DS naps I'm going to garden in the sunshine I did that last month in the 2ww and it did help. Tonight I'm thinking I should have a warm bath and go to bed. On the plus side I should be grateful that I'm not ovulating today because DH is away with work. Hmmmm now shall I look to see what last minute online shopping slots are left and what snacks to order! See I am smiling already

What is dpo please? I feel like I have nothing to offer you guys as I'm not really counting days etc (except vaguely trying to dtd around ten days after the first day of my period - which is how we got ds)

Lost - dpo = days post ovulation

Sorry I am here waves

Just catching up now! I seem to struggle the days I work all day (yesterday) as u end up falling asleep earlier!

5dpo today and been quite emotional. Burst into tears at work. Just a bit fed up of certain people. Although that's nasty of me I suppose!
Right I'll catch up!

Thank you pear.

Ava I was relieved he didn't want to dtd! 3 nights in a row is enough for me hahaha!

Pear it's completely crappy when you're waiting and those around you are pregnant or have babies. I was secretly optimistic it would be quicker for us this time round after waiting for so long for ds but I'm now thinking it'll take a while. Deep down I know that's fine as actually, as much as we'd like 3, 2 kids may be it for us.
Stay away from the grad thread for now lovely!
Comfort food sounds amazing right now! Get into a good book lovely. Or get a colouring book full of pretty designs as they're a great way to procrastinate

Ispy I like your outlook, I do sometimes feel a bit smug especially because everyone bar hubs was telling me to give up bf in the early days. I think sometimes we have to remind ourselves of our achievements and imo bf is one.

Dougal I know you've had spotting but 15dpo sounds like a good length. I think spotting is a sign of low progesterone so definitely worth asking about. I have 2-3 days of sporting before af but my lp is short as well.
I like your thoughts on preparing for pregnancy, I cut down my caffeine intake knowing I wouldn't want that much in pregnancy and I definitely feel better for it and my pms is less severe!

I've been enjoying a salted caramel chocolate recently, it certainly makes me feel better! I've just bought myself the new Harper Lee book but haven't started it as I know I'll lose myself in it for a couple of days and I'm just too busy at the moment. Glad you're feeling better Pear. I hope everyone waiting for ovulation, testing day or appointments manages to pass the time quickly. Day 4 of flashing smileys here....