TTC and still breastfeeding? Thread # 5 - Positive Vibes!

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Peardrop - age 33, TTC cycle #9, DS is 26 months (stopped bf soon to be 4 months ago). Af returned when DS 14months, currently on CD14 and have had 4 flashing smileys. Praying for a static smiley tomorrow! Dangling legs in air!

Hi all, your dh sounds lovely pear.. Hoping your luck comes through v soon. Thx for checking Lea, my nausea etc was just AF. Or maybe some bug as she's now here and still feel like throwing up! At least my cycle is gradually returning to normal, 32 days this time so am glad abut that. WIll just see how we go this month and then decide if cut back feeding any more etc. good luck all!

Ps dougal I'm not expert but also thought temp rise was reliable and that a rise does indicate ov albeit retrospectively. I always found it really tricky though as have to be consistent abut waking time etc and if you're not or don't take straight away can throw things off. Did you already try corresponding temps with other symptoms esp cm? Some people say that is effective as then there's checks and balances.

I've had ewcm the last couple of days (much later than the app predicted but only first cycle) so like you pear was planning on dtd but didn't due to an argument. Typical isn't it. I know I said start properly next month but when I saw the signs it made me want to try :-/

Damn these arguments we're having!! What's going on...something in the water?! I'm now dangling my legs again as tonight is probably my last chance to dtd this cycle as I'm out tomorrow night. This is my main problem...with an irregular cycle I can never plan quiet nights in!!! However, next month I will definitely assume that I will OV around cd25 and keep the week free next time!! Sod's law I'll then go and OV 2 weeks early!!

Dougal - yay for BF progression! It's all got to help, surely!! I am baffled as I too thought a rise in temp indicated OV. Could you gyni confirm this if you rang her up or is that a no go? Like could you pretend you have a question about something she said and then when you speak to her say something like...you know how you said I OV'd on XX date, well how Come I didn't see a rise in temp? Surely if you pretend that you want to monitor it right for next time that you see her she will want to answer your question? Maybe?!

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Clara - I hope you feel better v soon! Yay for your cycle settling!

That's - boo! I so know how your feel. Once you see a sign you just want to act on it and it's super annoying when DH doesn't comply!!

Sorry for AF Clara, hopefully this next cycle will be lucky for you.

Dougal, how are you temping? I've found vaginally gives me more consistent temps as when I was doing orally would be very up and down as sometime sleep with mouth open. Tbh though, I'm not very good at understanding charting myself! My temp rise on most recent cycle came 48hrs after +ve opk/last day of ewcm...

Got my fingers crossed that you've both caught your eggies this month and good luck for your upcoming twws pear & thats

I'm most definitely CD1 now (finally), feel sad even though it was completely expected due to all this LP spotting, also only 9dpo normally get AF on 14dpo... Stupid hormones! As soon as AF goes I'll be mega healthy, I would start today but need some chocolate I think haha!

Dpo 1 today. Just wondering...what's everyone's opinion about dtd on dpo1? So, the day after your two peak days. Clearblue reckons that you're still fertile on dpo1. I'm not sure. I've been avoiding it for the last few months as I'm always so shattered by dpo1. Should I make the effort this month?

In other news...I confided with a friend this week who has been through a similar TTC journey to me. It was sooooo nice. She was so lovely about it and gave me a tip about visiting a private clinic's open day for free advice. It was just really nice to talk to someone who totally gets it without saying anything annoying or judgemental. I'm glad I was brave enough to share my story with her!

In the end I dtd on cd 12, 18,19, 20, 22 & 25. Peaking on cd 25. Strangely to me it doesn't feel enough this month Have to remember that Ava only dtd once!

got my fc crossed for you Pear, looks like plenty of dtd! I'm not sure how fertile you'd be on 1dpo unless ov was delayed? Its great your friend was so supportive, I've not really confided with anyone in RL about my struggles ttc no.2 and constantly smiling through gritted teeth when i answer "yes, we want another one... yes we're trying"

Pear my fertility app shows one more fertile day after ovulation day if that helps at all

Hello please can I join?

I'm 31 and DH 40. Our DS is almost 4 months and ebf and we would love to have a close age gap if we can. It took us over a year to conceive him and I had rubbish long cycles which at one point was 80-odd days but eventually down to about 40 days when I fell pregnant. I used ovulation tests for the first time the cycle I fell pregnant.

I don't know much about ovulation whilst breastfeeding but I have a Clearblue digital ovulation predictor but not had a period yet so I guess no point using it yet.

Don't necessarily want to be pregnant this early (although would be very happy if I was!) but am anticipating this taking ages.

I need to read up and educate myself bit but just wanted to introduce myself really!

Tentothesix - 4 months Are you nuts? He must be a good sleeper! Good luck...I hope it doesn't take you as long the second time round!

Well, I didn't dtd last night. We had planned to and then DH thought that he would stay downstairs for so long that I fell asleep. Wow is all I can say. I don't have any hopes for this month at all so there is no point having a massive argument over it but all I can think is that so much has to change lifestyle wise in our household.

Morning pear. Sorry you are feeling down. Maybe not a massive argument but certainly a conversation needed? I so hope this is your month.

Hi Tento, welcome :) I wish I started thinking about ttc when DS was 4months :) I feel your pain with the long cycles, mine have been mammoth after DS, before though, I was regular 33 days. Basically, i think fertility before/after baby can differ greatly, could be much quicker than you think.
definitely get reading on ways to get cycle back if you are wanting to ttc soon as I know for many, thats what holds up proceedings. Good luck :)

Sorry you didn't get to DTDlast night Pear, hopefully you've already caught the egg, like you said in a previous post, ava only dtd once in her bfp cycle!!

Im currently experiencing the heaviest AF I've ever had! Horrific!! hopefully my uterus is just having a mega clear out ready to receive a nice fertilised egg this cycle - my positive spin haha!

So today is cd23 and I've just checked my app, I've had ewcm since cd19... My fertile period has basically been a week later than my app predicted (I know it's only guessing based on the average cycle). Who knows when to expect AF next. I wonder if I'd still be in with a chance this month...

Thanks ladies There's nothing I can do now but wait it out. My head is still thinking that something is wrong with me like PCOS. We've decided to cut down dramatically on snacks and desserts at home. I weighed myself today and checked my BMI which is 25 so google is saying I'm not overweight. It will certainly be a tell tell sign if my bloods say that I have not ovulated this month!! It feels good to know that I have everything in place ready to take the next step with the two doctor appointments booked. DH has agreed that we can go to a private clinic open day if the GP is of no help.

That's - sounds very promising! Hope you've managed to dtd recently! Will you be tempted to buy ic opks next month or temp?

Just done an opk and there's barely a line. Must remind myself I wasn't meant to try this month!! I will be really tempted to opk next month especially seeing as my body doesn't seem to be corresponding with the app. Never temped, it seems quite complicated and a big commitment to do every day; definitely something to consider though for the future.

pear sounds great to make some positive changes to your lifestyle and it can only have a beneficial effect health wise. Glad you hear you sounding a bit better

Best of luck Pear and Thats Fingers crossed that's you'll be cancelling the doctor's appointment. I bet you making the appointment i the push you need to get a bfp, that's the way it usually works right! At least you're being super proactive so you know what the next steps are.

Leamice Hope it isnn't too painful and I admire the positiveness!

Hope you're feeling better Clara

Dougal no idea on temping, but sounds like good progress on cutting down bf-ing.

tentothesix I'm a member of an extended bf-ing group and there was a poll on it and 11 months was the average time for periods to return. I was bang on average. Anecdotally the two girls I know who got theirs sooner both had babies who were brilliant sleepers. My son was a dreadful sleeper.

Hi everybody. Just caught up with your updates.

Pear you sound really stressed. are you OK? Tell me to bog off if I'm being nosey.

Welcome Ten - I agree you must have a good sleeper! I'm very jealous.

CD30 here. Expecting AF on Thursday. Been feeling sick every afternoon for the last 5 days but I've been on a really intensive course all week so think it's probably just stress. Will test on Friday if no sign of AF.

I think we might have finished BF. DS had his last feed on Sept 30th. I offered him a new Duplo set if he stopped having boobie. He was keen on the idea, though we've had a few wobbles since. Never for long though - I can distract him by looking at pictures of duplo sets online and he likes to choose which one he wants. He spent all week with grandparents last week so I didn't see him at all from Sunday-Friday and he was fine. DH is picking up the Duplo tonight so hopefully he'll be happy with that. Feeling a bit sad about it, but I think the time must have been right as it's been fairly painless (mostly!).

I went to a Baby and toddler second hand sale yesterday, representing the company that DS does swimming lessons with. I was surrounded by pregnant people and newborns.

Good luck for Friday LetThereBeCupcakes That sounds like a really smooth transition with your DS. Good to hear it can be done relatively painlessly.

I meant to add my own update at the end of my post, but I forgot. I didn't do ov tests this month and have been just trying to DTD as much as possible from CD11 to CD20. Thought we must be done (I'm CD21 today), but still have EWCM so guess we'll give it another crack tonight. I'm knackered though!

cupcakes that sounds like you've done it so kindly, well done. How old is your little one? My DS is currently feeding almost like a newborn except with added top pulling

that's he's 2.7. I've offered toy bribes before and he's never gone for it, so I think he was ready. His little face was a picture when DH gave him the duplo!

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