TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

[CarrotVan]

Support, shoulders to cry on, virtual gin and the best cheer leaders MN can offer you. We've been there and it's awful but we'll help each other through to better times.

I doubt it carrot, I suppose they might consider it if the tests indicate an autoimmune problem...we shall see

It is naughty but I think I will lie if needs be. The mw said its pointless as it just shows I am ok on that day but that's all I want!

I'm ok thanks, AFAIK I am still pregnant but it's hard to believe as I've had few symptoms. Of course that is making me worry a lot. I had some spotting at the very beginning (around 5 weeks) and they did a scan but couldn't see much as it was too early. I'm booked for another one next Thurs, which feels like a long time away.

I do think of everyone on here a lot, you were so kind to me. I almost feel guilty for getting pregnant on the first cycle sometimes, like I don't deserve it. Good luck to everyone here xx

Sak it's the first day of full flow that you start from so CD1 would be last Friday and you are CD7 today. Maybe start with opks on Sunday

Hey all, hope you're doing ok.
Good news...bleeding has finally stopped. Still unsure if I should wait for my first cycle before trying again...really don't want to wait. Just want to be pregnant again.

tft don't be silly, of course you deserve it x
carrot thanks for the link, I have pretty much read everything on google
mummy good luck with getting your scan, ill be doing the same thing when I'm in your shoes! X
Reebok there's no medical reason to wait, only dating reasons, we tried straight away but didn't fall in first cycle...i was kinda glad we didn't though, as I felt that perhaps I had given my body more time to heal and get back to normal...we fell in second cycle but sadly ended in another mc....
I think it also depends on how far along you were, if it was an early mc, like 4-5 weeks, then there probably won't be that much healing to do, whereas a mc around 7-10 weeks would have had more of an impact on your body.
The choice is yours really, we are now in our tww in our first cycle after a 4 week mc...testing as from tomorrow, even if I was pregnant though, I probably wouldn't get a bfp until at least Saturday! Feeling a lot of cramps going on today, hoping implantation x

Girls, I have to say yesterday was a tough day! I think it was the heaviest af since first mc. Luckily I'm over the heavy part now and feel relieved! Bring on cd10+ so ia can start testing for opk!

mummy thank you for the offer of that thread...joined one that someone suggested 'recurrent miscarriage support thread' .... Would join the one you suggested but don't want to confuse myself with too many threads and names
Fc I can join you on an antenatal thread soon xx

I'm not on any yet paws but have a Facebook page with the bumsnet girls.

Hi ladies, I'm still here. I've just been laying low while I had AF. I had almost exactly the same pattern as you sakura, only one heavy day compared to my normal 3. On the plus side, last month was a 30 day cycle, which means it'll be much easier to predict when my period is due. I am also trying to relax a bit and not be so focused on ttc. I was desperate for it to happen last month because the dates were so perfect (would have been an edd of the exact weekend I had my mc this year) but it didn't happen. I am finding it hard to achieve a balance between positive thinking (which I really believe in) and not getting obsessed in case I am disappointed.
Good luck for testing tomorrow paws, hope you get the blood tests soon too.
I have to go against the grain mummy, I wouldn't recommend lying to get a scan because if there was something wrong then your records wouldn't be accurate. Im sure everything will be fine, most people who have a mc go on to have a healthy pg. My mmc must have happened a couple of days after a very healthy scan, so they aren't always useful but I understand the need for reassurance. Is a private scan an option for you?
In other news, my nutribullet has arrived and I love it! Need to get some seeds and things to boost up in my smoothies.

I was 7 weeks paws but sac only measured 5....hubby is away anyway so have to wait until he's back! Dammit!

Oh bum! reebok tbh you will feel better that you're having to have one cycle first, the whole guessing game of
'am I, aren't I' is horrid in the wtf cycle, I was convinced I was pg but wasn't...was happy that I had the one cycle first, gave me a little longer to deal with stuff, and felt 'healthier' 2nd cycle x

fruit I know what you mean about needed to find a balance! haven't managed it yet

Hope you're doing well x

mummy I don't use fb, caused so much shit its unreal! I figured my true friends have my number, and I have theirs so deactivated my account x

POAS today bfn, but only 8dpo ... Only started getting shadows of lines at 10dpo last time!

I am 4dpo. I am knackered but it's far too early for that to be anything other than stress at work (one of my section leads has decided a 10% overspend on a budget that already included a 15% contingency is something I can apparently fix easily. Because I can find £75k from nowhere just like that...)

Hi ladies, I hope you don't mind but I've been hovering over this thread for a while now. I'm a fully fledged poster on another TTC thread, but think I need a little extra post-MC support.

I had a scan at 7 weeks and discovered an empty sac. I miscarried at 8 weeks. The miscarriage lasted 5 weeks, then merged into my period. I found it all shocking, draining and....sad.

Just ovulated (well, I think I did - I use CB fertility monitors) for the first time since the miscarriage and very keen not to get too obsessed with TTC, but I'm finding it hard not to. I'm already fretting that we didn't do the deed nearly enough over my fertile period (due to DH working late and me getting cystitis).

Finding some comfort knowing there are others going through the same thing (and who also like POAS)

Hi everyone, just checking in on you all, hope you're doing ok.

Welcome featheredtail. I'm sorry for your loss. It's very hard not to become obsessive. I don't know how people manage it.

Welcome featheredtail. I'm sorry for your loss. I think once I start ttc again I will feel the same.

paws I guess you're right. I just didn't want to go back to work in September (I'm a teacher) and not be pregnant especially seeing as I will be around 2 of my colleagues who are pregnant. This just sucks. Some days I'm ok and other days I just want to scream WHY ME??? WHY DO I HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS AGAIN????

Reebok I am with you! Although only teaching assistant I know how you feel!
We moved from a town to another last year and then I had 2 mc so I am not with a school bit with 3 agencies so I see plenty of ladies ready to go in maternity leave...
i had one of those days and I am ready to fall asleep crying!

Hugs raluca... we will get through those and get our babies.

Feeling like crap tonight so I'm trying to count my blessings....I've been blessed with my LO who turns two tomorrow. She's what gets me through days like today when I'm in bits.

Hugs to you, reebok and happy birthday to your little one x

reebok sorry you're feeling low, I feel like screaming the exact same thing most days x
feather welcome, lots of support here, sorry for your loss x

carrot hope your tww goes by quickly for you x
mama how are you? Where are you at in your cycle? We mc'd the same time this month at beginning of July, I'm in my tww 9dpo still bfn's ... Gonna get a FRER today, as I think the ic's are crap...no way are they 10mlu! X

Just wanted to say thanks for support. We've been away and had a nice day so I feel better. Also managed to find his&hers.

Thanks for the welcome.

I'm trying to ignore the "why me" feeling but it's hard not to think "what if". Within three days of my miscarriage starting, three good friends announced their pregnancies...and one even has 'my' original due date Desperately trying to be happy for them, be zen and realise that feeling jealous won't change a thing. I just want to be pregnant again. I have another 6 days before I can test but really not hopeful for this cycle (first post mc).

By the way....I think I saw someone ask about getting a positive opk and a positive pregnancy test at the same time. It's because the hcg and lh are very hormones with only one differentiating chain. You can get a positive OPK if you're pregnant but not a positive pregnancy test if you're ovulating. You can actually use OPKs as pregnancy tests!

I found this out the hard way (thinking I was ovulating 3 weeks after the miscarriage....doing some reading then realising the OPK was picking up residual HCG and confirming it by doing a pregnancy test that was still coming up positive). Phhhh.