How long did it take you to conceive your first?

[gossipgirl81]

I'm 34 and have been ttc for about 6 months and still nothing. My partner is 39 and we have done it on all different days during the cycle, used clearblue digital ovulation tests and pregnacare.
AF came today and I just got so angry and frustrated, but what makes it worse, is that there is no one I can blame as this is in Mother Nature's hands! In the last year, 8 people (family and friends) have announced they are pregnant. How do you deal with the disappointment of AF turning up every month and how long did it take you to get pregnant with your first? I'm just really down today, I knew AF was on her way as I was getting all the symptoms and of course, she showed up right on schedule!

Thanks so much everyone for your kind words and encouragement. I feel a lot better now, I can't really discuss it with anyone as I don't want them to know that I'm upset and hurt over the whole thing, so I'm bottling it all up. I just assumed that I would get pregnant as soon as I had unprotected sex, how wrong was I?! Never realised that it is such an effort. Babydust to everyone xo

Gossipgirl, me too, and am onto cycle #3 now TTC #1, both me and DH aged 30. I don't think it helps that one of my friends has 3 kids each conceived first time they tried. She seems to think this is normal so haven't told her we are TTC as can't stand the pressure! This is obviously not everyone I know - most other people it took 3 months to a year at a similar age to us. I am trying not to freak out but been pretty upset at my last two periods. Especially one I am having now as it was two days late and as if to torture me more, pretty painful!

2 shag at roughly the right time for each child. I am never having sex again!

7 years and a round of IVF.

We made the decision to start TTC and discovered I was already 8 weeks pregnant.

He is 6 months old and at almost 36, we are contemplating TTC again incase it takes ages.

I have a friend much younger than me, tried for two years with no luck. Gave up and went on holiday before going to GP. Came back pregnant.

1st pregnancy - 11 months
2nd pregnancy - 1 month. Resulted in miscarriage.
3rd pregnancy - 1 month

1st pregnancy - 1 month (MC)
2nd pregnancy - 9 months (12 cycles though!)

1st around 16 months from stopping injection, typically the first month we gave 'trying' a miss, but had a couple of very drunken fumbles.

2nd, not trying, 1 month after stopping breastfeeding.

actively preventing now

Got pregnant in the first month of trying with each child.

forgot to say, as much as you can, relax and treat yourself. Get a massage or something. It's not easy but sometimes stopping trying and just enjoying each other helps