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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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ttc #1 support during the waiting game and friends needed on same boat

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beccarella · 15/06/2015 22:27

Hi ladies! I am 33 and have been trying to get preggars 6months now :( feels like forever. my partner has two children from prev relationship (marriage) and his ex fell pregnant straight away apparently, my younger sister-by 6 yrs is pregnant with her 2nd which happened 2 months into her relationship ! I have been really positive this month but my period is due wed and now i have brown spotting-meaning am out again. I guess i am just on a downer now... this sucks. I have a regular 28 day cycle and ovulate day 13 (opk) and have sex at least every other day! eating more healthily and tried fertilcm to help. I have worked with children for years and so long for my own. I am addicted to these threads and love how everyone is so supportive of one another! Fairy dust to us all!x

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mrsstickll · 21/07/2015 12:35

Londonlady2015 tentative congratulations! I've seen the pic on the other thread and I can see a line!

Sorry to those with Af, I've had a mardy few days but cd7 so time to start all over again.

CinderToffee · 21/07/2015 13:08

That's so exciting LondonLady! This is your first cycle and everything, isn't it?

It is going to be a long week. I'm determined not to test before the weekend. To be honest, I think AF will get here before I get the chance.

bananamonkey · 21/07/2015 13:15

wow loads of chat since I last posted!

I have a really stupid question - it's my first month off the pill - does your pill break bleed count as a period? e.g. do I start to count day 1 from the last day of that?

That's what I've put into my Ovia app which says I'm on D17 but no positive OPK so far (been checking for about 5 days). I have been grumpy, headachey and hungry the last couple of days which are my usual PMS symptoms.

I hate being so impatient!

CinderToffee · 21/07/2015 13:24

I started tracking my cycles when I came off the pill, and I counted day one of the first cycle as the day after I took my final pill, even though I didn't get a bleed (I'd been on cerazette so I didn't get breakthrough bleeds). My first period appeared on day 30, and apart from one odd month, they have been regular since.

The first day of your period is normally CD1, so I'd be inclined to count the first day of your breakthrough bleed s day 1. It seems to be pretty usual for first cycles off the pill to be very long or otherwise odd!

neetie1 · 21/07/2015 17:38

Well on tww now af due 3rd august so hoping this month will be the one. We used digital OV kit this time and it showed ovulation four days before my period tracker did...

Sizzle81 · 21/07/2015 18:41

Congrats LL2015!!

I find my mind wanders to babies all the time!!
Since we are all first timers, have any of you bought any baby items yet? Or do you think it is a jinx?

I bought my first set of children books about 13 years ago!! have been adding to the collection slowly. I loved to read as a child (still do) so wanted plenty of books. Smile

I'm waiting for AF to show (should be tomorrow) We skipped ttc in July so I just AF to come so we can start up again!!!
x

bananamonkey · 21/07/2015 20:31

Thanks Cinder! That makes sense

mrsstickll · 21/07/2015 20:31

sizzle81 I've not actually bought anything but I look at things to buy obsessively, I don't think I can buy anything just incase it never happens, plus I think my dh already suspects I'm crazy lol

Mermaid36 · 21/07/2015 20:36

Hopeful congratulations LL!

I now think about babies all the time now....I find it very frustrating, as I'm used to deciding to do something and just doing it, e.g. I'm an open water swimmer, a boxer and a vintage model. I don't like having things that I can't control!

I'm in my fertile window according to Ovia, we've DTD 2 nights in a row, hubby is away for the night tonight, so we have a night of respite before DTD tomorrow!

Babycakes100 · 21/07/2015 23:11

Ooooooh tentative congratulations LL2015 - that's wonderful news. FX for you! xx

Mermaid - wow sounds like you lead an interesting life!

Along with the impatience, there's the constant awareness of every feeling you get. A sore throat, back cramps, weird contractions, spots, general aches and pains - everything seems like a symptom, a sign, something!!! Grin

Cinder - I do hope AF stays away. Stay positive until AF is due!

Not bought anything yet but I have been thinking about names a lot and worrying obsessively that SIL will pick the names I want. Can hardly dibs them when I'm not even pregnant!

Londonlady2015 · 22/07/2015 06:06

Morning everyone

Thanks for the well wishes, pleased to say I confirmed at home with a clear blue digi - those IC strips aren't half annoying!

Still won't really believe it until I sort doc appt I guess.

cinder if it's any consolation my symptoms are exactly the same as PMS which makes it rather hard to decipher!

FX for everyone x

Mermaid36 · 22/07/2015 06:34

Babycakes We've had endless baby name discussions - almost every day!

P.S. I do have a regular day job too, but I think you've got to grab life by the balls and do what you want.....which is probably why we've not had kids until now! (at 35 and 36, despite being married for 13 years!)

Sizzle81 · 22/07/2015 08:07

We have discussed some names too! I did try to hide the crazy from OH but it was just too much! Lol

CinderToffee · 22/07/2015 12:01

3 days until test day. I really want to test early, but I will not succumb! I've already dialled back from my original plan to wait until Monday, to Saturday.

CinderToffee · 22/07/2015 18:15

Oh dear I couldn't help myself and I did test - BFN Blush

This is ridiculous - I am only 11 or 12 dpo, and it's the evening, so it's not conclusive. But it was a First Response. I haven't told DH as he'd be really annoyed - we specifically agreed we wouldn't do early testing because it's pointless! I will definitely leave it until the weekend now, but I think AF will come anyway.

Babycakes100 · 22/07/2015 18:27

Oh Cinder that's understandable. Of course there's still hope as it's still early! Hold out until the weekend and test again. Don't let it stress you out though in the meantime x

PallasCat · 23/07/2015 19:48

Totally understandable Cinder - don't be tough on yourself about it!
LL2015 Congratulations! xx

CinderToffee · 24/07/2015 10:14

How's everyone doing today? How are you feeling LL2015?

I think AF is definitely on the way - I've got a bit of an ache starting up, and I feel very fat and grumpy, which is usually a pretty good indicator! Still - always next month! She'll probably appear tomorrow, so I should really only test on Sunday if she doesn't. I'll probably do it tomorrow anyway though! Glutton for punishment, me.

Babycakes100 · 24/07/2015 17:36

Oh Cinder! It's kinda good to think the worst I suppose as you may be pleasantly surprised. FX.

I'm having a weird week. I did have positive OPKs on cheapies but I don't think I trust them tbh. I've continued to test after my positives but had to use a more expensive brand again as the cheapies ran out...haven't had a positive since so I'm realllly hoping they were real positives on the cheapies. Had a sore throat all week, felt reallly tired and been getting really bad headaches. I have loads of really wet CM too...like today my knickers were practically soaked (so sorry wayyy TMI). I have no idea what is going on with my body. I feel that should be a sign of ovulation but I have had EWCM earlier in my cycle. I also tested yesterday night and BFN. Open to opinions!

How about everyone else?

PallasCat · 24/07/2015 18:13

What day in your cycle are you babycakes?

I've also been under the weather, though lucky in a way I guess that it timed itself with AF! Felt absolutely crap with both together but at least we weren't TTC!

I'm CD7 and AF has gone so now back to TTC this weekend. Really really hoping this month... our 3rd cycle, but both 1&2 were complicated by health problems (mine then his) so I don't think we were really in with a shot.

Babycakes100 · 24/07/2015 21:07

I'm on CD 36 but I have no idea how long my cycles are. I don't have sore boobs and last cycle I had realllly sore boobs followed by AF which is how I know I must have ovulated. So that makes me think maybe I haven't.

Yesssss I really hope this is the month for you! Just stay as relaxed as possible (easier said than done I know). How long are your cycles?

Londonlady2015 · 24/07/2015 21:44

Hi cinder thanks for asking I'm ok. Got some abdominal and pelvic discomfort but hopefully nothing to worry about. Got gp appointment for Monday.

Your PMS feelings could well be other things - mine were class period symptoms before I took my test. Either way keeping FX

Good luck with this weekend pallas

Babycakes100 · 24/07/2015 21:54

Good luck and best wishes LL2015! xx

PallasCat · 24/07/2015 22:43

Thanks babycakes Smile
Last two have been 25 days, which is way shorter than I'm used to. before the pill I always used to be 29 days, then since coming off the pill they've been irregular, but mostly long, at least 28+, so don't know what's going on with these 25s!
Plus I actually seem to be not quite over AF, which for me on cd7 is weird - never usually anything after cd5.
Sounds like we're both being treated to some mysterious goings on from our bodies, eh?! FX for you too x

CinderToffee · 25/07/2015 08:01

BFN this morning - not even a ghost of a line. So I'm definitely out this month. In a way, it's a relief to know for sure!