ttc #1 support during the waiting game and friends needed on same boat

[beccarella]

Hi ladies! I am 33 and have been trying to get preggars 6months now :( feels like forever. my partner has two children from prev relationship (marriage) and his ex fell pregnant straight away apparently, my younger sister-by 6 yrs is pregnant with her 2nd which happened 2 months into her relationship ! I have been really positive this month but my period is due wed and now i have brown spotting-meaning am out again. I guess i am just on a downer now... this sucks. I have a regular 28 day cycle and ovulate day 13 (opk) and have sex at least every other day! eating more healthily and tried fertilcm to help. I have worked with children for years and so long for my own. I am addicted to these threads and love how everyone is so supportive of one another! Fairy dust to us all!x

Sorry for AF Cinder such a pain, isn't it, but hopefully it'll inform our next cycles.

I dragged my sorry ass to Zumba tonight and I do feel better for it (the hot male instructor might have something to do with it)

Hi everyone, I haven't posted for a while but have been keeping up to date with tge thread. I love how honest everyone is. I thought I was the only one struggling to stay sane. I feel green eyed when friends 'fall' pregnant and I actually feel anxious that I haven't found any baby boys names that I particularly like! I don't symptom spot yet but I'm pretty confident that will come with time! Xx

Hi Alpha, you're definitely not the only one trying to stay sane through this, I get moments of panic where I think this will never happen for me and scare myself with thoughts of all the tests etc we will have to go through to get there.

I have already started to symptom spot (or atleast try to imagine I have symptoms, I dont really have any yet) but Im not due on for another week yet. And after a horrible day at work today I'm even more desperate for this to be my month so I can start counting down to my maternity leave

Hope everyone is ok xx

Definitely not just you Alpha!

Sorry to those with Af.

sunshinegirl12 I'm the same with work, feel like I can't job hunt while ttc so really desperate to conceive so I can leave for a bit. X

It's awful when work causes stress. My previous job made me really anxious but luckily I love my current job. It is causing an issue though...a big part of my job involves supporting couples who have experienced infertility. They tell me their story and naturally it can be very upsetting. I knew it would become a issue before I even started ttc and I explained to my gp that although I tell myself I see a distorted number of people with infertility issues it still makes Me worry. He was very reassuring and sympathetic. He told me that anxiety would not aid ttc and that instead of waiting 12 months I could come back in 6 to get tests done.

It's now been 7 months but only 5 cycles as we had a break from ttc. I'm wondering if I should arrange to have the tests but I feel like I'm 'jumping the queue' as others have been trying longer. I'm also worried it could make me even more anxious and I'm scared of the results too. I really don't know what to do xx

Alpha it's definitely not jumping the queue. You are in a situation that makes you more at risk due to stress (and it must be really upsetting when you're TTC! brave girl for doing it!) as a result you are higher priority.

It's your doc that has decided you're higher priority, not you. This does not constitute queue jumping, any more than triage does when you go to A&E.

My view would be to bite the bullet and get the appointments. It could make you more anxious, but equally it could set your mind at rest. And since you're worrying about the results without having yet had the tests, you'll continue to do so until you do get the tests - I know I would.

Of course it is possible for you, as for all of us, that you will get answers that you didn't want. But if that is the case it would be far better to know this sooner. If you put off your appts for another say, six months, you would be angry with yourself for not having found out if there had been a problem that could've been treated during that time.

I think you are right and I'm certain if I waited and a problem was identified 6 months down the line I would kick myself for not taking action sooner. Thank you pallas .We missed my last ovulation as OH was away so if August doesn't bring a BFP we will have tried unsuccessfully for 6 cycles So will book in Then to see GP.

Fx for an Aug bfp Alpha!
But I agree that if not, you should absolutely jump at the chance for further tests. xx

FX Alpha xx

Thank you both x

I agree alpha, if you feel brave enough you should definitely have tests asap, you're fortunate to have such an understanding GP. Me and DH have agreed to go for tests in the new year when it will have been a year, I'm really hoping it won't come to that but i didnt think it would take this long

Hi all, I'm new. Been reading lots of posts as I've TTC 5 months and think (and hope) I may have had IB. Cycles are not regular which has been frustrating. Averaging 36 days and using MyDays app to track. Had spotting CD22 very briefly. Had it again yesterday, started brownish discharge, have now had some slightly heavier blood flow but not fresh. Have never had this. Felt a bit nauseous last week and very tired, but been very stressed at work so don't want to get hopes up. AF due around thurs next week based on average cycle length last few months. Trying to avoid testing until after thurs as really want a positive and don't want to tempt fate

Hi LucieLu! I did wonder if that spotting could have been implantation but as you've said it's a little heavier now, I'm not sure. Have never had that either. Fx for you x

I'm cd11. App says Tues is my most fertile day but I had a + opk yesterday. Can't dtd until tomorrow so really hoping I don't miss out! My packet says ovulation within 36 hours so fx it will be the later end

Nope, never had it before Sizzle81, especially the spotting at CD22. Will see how it goes today/tomorrow I guess. On the plus side, it would make it a 32 day cycle, so I've come down from 40, to 37, to 32 in 3 months. Hated it being so long as long to wait to test

Hello there ladies, can I join this thread too?
ttc #1 for about 7 months now. My cycle seems to have settled at 43 days so I've had 4 cycles so far (currently have AF keeping me company). I was on the pill for around 8 years before this. I'm taking "trying for a baby" vitamins (or "the pointless pills" as I call them when I'm in a mood about not being pregnant!). I used the CB smiley face tests before falling for the advertising of the CB advances fertility monitor which I frequently want to smash! Apparently it works for women who have a cycle between 21-42 days (so typically I'm 43!). I'm going to persevere with it though because it was ridiculously expensive

Just ordered some cheaper ovulation tests on the advice of Mermaid in a different thread (thanks again xx) so I'll be using them alongside the CBAFM next cycle. Just reading all of your thoughts, comments & advice on this thread have helped a lot already this morning so thank you! I'm looking forward to keeping up with you all on this frustrating, confusing and fingers crossed, exciting journey!

Have similar situation SharyBobbins (username changed form LucieLu84). I still can't decide if I'm having AF or IB. Going to see how it goes today but I'm thinking it is the dreaded AF now :( At least it's got me down to 32 days from my high of 41. Going to use the ovulation testers this month

Hi Tabby, it's an absolute minefield this ttc lark isn't it I hope you're okay, the waiting game is incredibly frustrating.
I'm quite worried because I read that cycles which are 42+ are classed as irregular, but (touch wood) my cycles have been pretty regular since coming off this pill, just hopelessly long. So I'm not sure if I fall in to the 'irregular' category or not? Either way I guess 4/5 cycles in I shouldn't be stressing so much but its easier said than done isn't it!! x

I'm racking my brain about what "IB" is??
Hope you're all having a lovely Sunday. I'm sitting in the sun with a cuppa and cream cake!

Hello all! I'm new to the boards too and have been checking out some of the Conception threads. Literally just starting off ttc #1 - I'm 33 and have never given this a go before - just had my Mirena coil out so enjoying a horrifically painful and extra AF! Joy! So hopefully I can start tracking my cycle, again something I have not gotten round to doing before so it's all quite new! Have ordered some cheap opk's from the SME fertility site so hoping they might be useful :) huge amounts of luck to you all and hopefully I can keep up with everyone's journeys and share some of my own!

Sharybobbins, I can't believe I was so naive to think it would just happen easily! My sister in law is now pregnant which is both wonderful and heartbreaking. They weren't even trying, just decided to "let nature take its course". I'm 3 years older so really want it now, maybe that doesn't hel, better to be relaxed but it's hard.

Sizzle81- it's implantation bleeding :) although that discovery this month has just messed with my head even more as thought I had it 10 days ago and thought was having it yesterday but think my period is here now :(

Drgee - good luck! I bought some of those testers, going to try them this month. Everything seems so complicated!

Ahhh of course it is!! Thank you Tabby!!
Finding out that close friends or family are pregnant is such a mix of emotions isn't it!?
Welcome DrGee.
Fx everyone xx

Welcome Shary Tabby and DrGee nice to have some new faces on the board!

I'm CD17, so probably heading into 2ww now. I've decided to do a FRER this Friday am (CD21) what with a big weekend ahead.

Hi everyone, nice to see some new faces. Haven't posted for a while but been reading. Pallas i'm CD18 (2dpo) now so joining you in the 2ww. Are you cycles really short then Pallas? I'm not testing unless AF is late this time so thats Saturday 15th August, which seems a very long way away!!

Tabby sympathies on the SIL thing, I know my SIL and BIL are also trying, I'm sure they will get there before us!! They are ttc #3, so at least they know they can do it!!

Hey Violet well my last two have been 25 days so fairly short, and way shorter than my previous cycles since coming off the pill (averaging around 30 I think). Since this is the first time I've had any consistency in regards length, I worked out this cycle on the basis of another 25dayer, but really can't be sure, as I'm just not regular post-pill. [grumble grumble]

If this is 25days, AF would be due 12th. Testing on Friday will be early but with a FRER not crazy early, I'm on a 25day cycle again. I wouldn't test early except that we've a big weekend ahead. Either way I won't go wild at the weekend, but maybe a FRER might tell me if I need to be 100% good!