Hi ladies
Apols for a long one (brevity is not one of my strengths, clearly!)
stealthbanana You guys sound very similar to my DH and I. Research everything to the nth degree, like to be over informed about everything. Mainly so can ask the Drs - given we aren’t! - the right questions. Love the hairy follicles!
Re: ankles, SO know that one. TBH I was again economical with the truth when I called up BUPA for another course of physio earlier this year. It was to do with my hypermobile ankles, but by saying I’d sprained my ankle (not a total untruth, as I was going over on them all the time, so was only a matter of time!) they were happy to approve it.
Though not my gynae appts - I’m seeing Mr Colin Davis, whose private practice is at the Princess Grace, but his NHS post is lead clinician for reproductive medicine at Barts. He is LOVELY, super reassuring. I know what you mean about having a load of doctors - I’m up to four consultants now!! How many do I need for a full set?!
OK nfm. Had a really positive consult with my gynae about my scary scan result. He didn’t say ‘oh we can disregard it completely because you’d only come off the pill’ but that’s cos he doesn’t know if there IS anything untoward, and is taking the PROPER approach of investigating it further and taking it step by step, instead of putting the shits up me and trying to sell me IVF. He said the pill could have affected the appearance of ovarian reserve, but there might be something going on - but if that does turn out to be the case (responsibly he can’t say ‘there likely is or isn’t’ as he doesn’t yet know!) then it will be a blessing to know this sooner rather than later.
So am going for my Day 3 bloods, week after next if AF turns up next weekend (based on estimated O date - never ever had an AF due date before in my life!!). If it doesn’t, said obv do a preg test just to check, but if it doesn’t cos I didn’t ovulate, then we should still do the bloods anyway. Said no point doing a scan now until had the blood test results to look at together, so will do one when come in for consult once they’re back.
He was really really livid about the behaviour of the Dr I saw, and the clinic in general. Firstly the fact she used the words ‘I’m worried’ and tried to push me down the IVF route without any real follow up other than ‘come back in 6 weeks so we can do another scan’. Secondly the fact that even though I paid for the AMH test that she said shouldn’t have been done, as the results would be misleading so soon after coming off the pill, she wouldn't give me the results - even though I’d paid for the bloody test. Thirdly, the fact the clinic insisted I complete the official govt HFEA forms about welfare of the child & diclosure of information before I even came in for the appt. These are legally required for IVF, but even though I queried why I had to complete them if I was only coming in for assessment, they insisted it was their policy and meant they ‘had my info already on file if I do start treatment with them’. He said that was grossly unprofessional, as they shouldn’t hold data on file that’s not needed.
He strongly encouraged me to write a letter requesting both the AMH result and for the removal of my information from their records, and to say that if I didn’t get a satisfactory response I would make a formal complaint to the HFEA. He said it gave fertility doctors and clinics a bad name when practices such as this go on. I will be writing a stern letter!
So, obv we’ll have to see what happens with the tests, but he said even worst case with the results I had, that I ‘still had eggs’ and certainly didn’t have the ‘danger danger red alert’ reaction I got with the Dr I saw for my scan. Who isn’t a consultant!
So, we shall see. But certainly feeling much more reassured after having seen him.