TTC and still breastfeeding? Thread #4: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

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Yes, we know all about how emotional and hard it can be! All the pros and cons, all about missing Aunty Flo's and wtf cycles with no ovulation, all about children being cute and pointy. No matter if you are five months or twenty months down the breastfeeding timeline, if you're ttc again, this is the thread to join! Welcome!

Morning! I am feeling so tired after my late night but sooooooo happy. Just said happy birthday to DH and gave him his first birthday present I got a smiley!

Hurrah! ????????
Totally worth staying up late for then?!
Have a wonderful day, I'm so pleased for you ????

Ispy - aww thanks I'm on cd24 so hopefully I've given you some hope. Are you going to buy more sticks?

Btw my body kept on gearing up for ov with ewcm and then it would disappear. It came back yesterday afternoon but only when I wiped. The Cm signs was what kept me going on the dtd mission

Yay for the fixed smiley pear Worth the wait!

Good luck testing on Weds Ava. Fx for you.

I'm 5 weeks but don't really have many symptoms atm so at times I'm doubting whether I'm even pregnant! Looking forward to getting to the 12 week scan (feels so far away!) I'm still bf-ing dd at bedtime but would like to stop... Have bought some follow on milk as it's sweeter than cow's milk so I'm hoping she might take to that.

Yay Pear! Great birthday gift for DH

I'm hoping to be able to show my DH a faint line on his birthday, on Wednesday, but with no symptoms and temps that have plateaued it's doubtful. My temps are still higher at this point dpo than previous cycles, though [smiie]

Good luck with everything, Mumo - so lovely that you still have the bedtime feed

So, my plan is to test Wednesday, as this is when AF is due, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and if AF still isn't here by 14 dpo I shall buy a digi without feeling like I've wasted money (like in previous cycles). I love digis when they say 'pregnant' but despise them when 'not pregnant' is displayed, so I'm sticking with cheapie tests until 14 dpo. I got a 'pregnant 1-2 weeks' on a digi at 14 dpo with DD

Haha I've already bought another 20! While I've accepted it's probably not going to happen anytime soon I'd like to be certain what's going on this cycle and as I've only just started testing I don't mind spending the money. I won't be doing it every time though! (she says now ????)

Cd17 but 9th day of flashing smileys btw

I'm so excited for Wednesday Ava, I think I'm going to set an early alarm to check in! No pressure but I'm feeling optimistic for you.

Glad things are going well Mumo.

Mumo, I totally get that you won't truly believe it until you see it on a screen as I was like that too with DD lol I went to see my GP when I was 5 weeks pg and mentioned that I was concerned about my lack of symptoms (only really had achy boobies) and she said that not getting my period yet was the only 'symptom' you need to have lol she also said that many women sail through pregnancy with no symptoms and I might be one of the 'lucky ones'. A week later awful hypermesis kicked in and stayed the duration next time I'll be careful what I wish for haha x

Aww thanks iSpy I'm not overly hopeful (again) but I will update on here as soon as I have anything to report x

Oh forgot to say, duh, fx it happens for you soon, iSpy, totally agree that you needed to buy more sticks for consistency, I'd have done the same. Fx for you x

Everything crossed for you Ava!

Mumo when I was pregnant with DS I was convinced I'd go for the 12 week scan only to be told I'd imagined the whole thing!

DS stayed at my mum's all weekend, which meant a good 48 hours with no BF. I'm really hoping that will have upped my fertility a bit, because I was bloody sore by yesterday afternoon so I'd like to think it was worth it! Unfortunately despite DS draining both boobs when he got back last night the left one is still really sore - praying it's not mastitis (again).

Oh, and I spent yesterday being lectured on Why I Should Not Breastfeed My Toddler.

Cupcakes, sorry about the sore boob - I too have a sore boob (the only one DD feeds from now ) as she managed to break the skin around the nipple yesterday. Sooo painful, but she likes playing doctors so she's been 'looking after' me hope yours is better soon x

Who lectured you??

First a "friend" of DH's, then my Dad.

I don't normally mention BFing, TBH, but the subject came up as I was so sore.

Sorry about your similar woes! The things we do for our little ones!

Hi everyone

Just wanted to pop in and say hello, and see how you're all getting on.

I'm 14 weeks along now (EDD 16th Dec) and just starting to come out of the mist of nausea and exhaustion. For those who may/may not remember my TTC journey, I was having really long cycles and DTD EOD or every three days from CD8 onwards. Now that I know my dates I thought it may help someone to know I ovulated CD29. I got a bfn 12dpo and a BFP 17dpo. I didn't test in between as at that point I had absolutely no symptoms, literally nothing! Just thought I'd share in case that info gives anyone hope for this cycle.

Congrats Mumo and MarysPrayer (sorry can't remember your new username!) on your BFP's and anyone else I might have missed. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

On the weaning front, DD completely self-weaned at 17 months (she's now coming up to 19 months). Once I got pregnant she totally went off bf and wasn't interested anymore. My midwife thinks the hormones may have changed the taste of the milk. So, after all my stressing about cutting down, DD took the decision out of my hands in the end! Just thought I'd let you all know in case anyone was deliberating fully weaning in order to get a BFP.

Anyway, enough about me. I hope you're all doing well and I'll be thinking of you all.

Just ignore their opinions, Cupcakes, they obviously don't know what they're talking about. And what's it to them anyway??

Great to hear from you, Duchess! I was just thinking about you yesterday! And Droflove as well actually, just wondering how you're getting on - thanks for checking in and updating. And thanks for the advice! Can you remind me how often you were still feeding when you got your bfp please? A lot of women on here seem to get theirs when they cut down to one feed a day, but I think DD and I are still a long way off that

Hello everyone...excuse the self indulgent post Am having a wobbly day today. We'd found a lovely nursery for DD, and today was the first settling session. But it was AWFUL. Since we viewed it a month or so ago they've had loads of staff leave suddenly, and it was just a shambles. Shes fine. I stayed with her. She has a 2 hr session tomorrow without me :( it was just a total shambles. They havent got enough staff and are just making up numbers with randoms from reception and other rooms popping in. The kids were just ambling about largely unsupervised. DD hadnt been assigned a key worker and nobody seemed to be expecting us, but they still seemed to think i was leaving her today - i was like, er, but arent you going to have a meeting with me to talk about her routine and what she likes etc? And they were just like oh, yeah, you should have filled in a form? We just sort of hung around and I tried to snatch the odd 30 seconds of talking at a key worker about key info about DD while she sorted children. Then she disappeared, and we just hung round for a bit then let ourselves out DD came home and cuddled up and said 'not nice nursery mummy, DD sad' and I just sobbed upstairs while she had lunch with her grandparents. I feel awful.

DH convinced me I have to just complain and let them try to improve tomorrow at the next session, and then we can look into other options. So I called the manager and had a chat and they did apologise. But I am just so, so uncertain about leaving her there. I feel like I'm really letting her down

Oh Wax, that sounds awful. It's so heartbreaking when they tell you they're sad, isn't it? Are there any other nurseries you can take her to instead? I'd trust my instincts and avoid avoid avoid... The least they can do is demonstrate that your child is going to be well taken care of, should you leave her with them, even if they do seem to be very disorganised (as the nursery DD is starting in September appears to be but she loves it there and they seem to have plenty of staff in a nice little environment) So sorry to hear you and DD are so sad about it, I can't believe you weren't given assurances that today was just a one-off and that it's not usually like that when you complained sending you x

Quick question. Does anyone else feel nausea and dizzy at OV time? Is my body Ok? I hope my ovulation is going to plan. I could literally throw up right now whilst making dinner? Bit worried my body is going crazy! Help

Thank you ladies! Ava, yes I guess the missed period is definitely the big one

Glad all's going well, duchess.

Wax, what a nightmare, poor you. I agree - avoid!

Best of luck to you all this month.

Oh Wax, I'm sorry you've had a bad day. I too would say trust your instincts. My ds1 had a trial day with a childminder once and I was really uncomfortable with it for reasons I couldn't put my finger on. I get that nurseries are busy and chaotic but they should still be safe and happy.

Thanks for popping by Duchess. It is reassuring to hear your story as here I am stressing about having not ovd by cd17! Hope the next few weeks go smoothly for you and bubs

Pear I've no idea about the nausea but I wondered this too as I felt queasy this morning and immediately thought 'symptom?!' then 'doh, I haven't even ovulated yet!'

Oh and Cupcake, it's always good to be armed with research on how breastfeeding a toddler is still (hugely) beneficial. It's harder for people to argue with facts! Sorry you've had to deal with such numpties.

I would also like to second Ava's question to Duchess ???? re frequency of feeding as we are still bf ALL the time!

Ha! pear I told you you would get your smiley this week!

wax sorry to hear the nursery was so rubbish. Can you just not send her back? I feel sorry for the kids who are already there, it sounds awful .

I had a horrible day at work today. Just relaxing with a and looking forward to a nice relaxing day at home tomorrow with ds .

For those asking, at the start of my cycle I was still breastfeeding DD first thing in the morning, once during the day, and before bed. She was eating three full meals a day, and drinking approx. 3 sippy cups of cows milk.

DD had her last daytime feed CD24 and I ovulated five days later. At that point there was approx. 12 hours between feeds. I dropped the morning feed CD36 (a week after I ovulated), and DD dropped the bedtime feed herself after I had got my BFP. So, it was only dropping the daytime feed that may have had some significance in terms of bringing on ovulation.

Not sure if that is much help to anyone, but you never know! I'm just glad we carried on the DTD mission, as I thought I was out long before I had even ovulated!

Also, thanks for everyone's good wishes, they really mean a lot.

I really miss chatting with you all, so I hope you don't mind that I try to check in every now and then and keep up with everyone's news. Wishing you all the best.

Hi everyone, hope you've all had a good day.
Wax, sorry to hear about your rubbish time at nursery, I agree with the others and go with your instincts, is there another nursery your DD could go to?
My maternity leave finishes in November so I need to start looking at nurseries for DS. Dreading it
Still waiting for my first AF. I'm feeding DS probably 5 times a day at the moment and he's having 4 bottles. So probably not going to be any time soon...
Duchess congrats! And thanks for letting us know about your feeding patterns when you conceived, really helpful.
I'm off to bed now, have a good night all. There's someone talking loudly on the phone outside my house I'm tempted to tip a bucket of cold water over her!

Wax, if I was you I would change the nursery but that's just me. I actually have a few friends who have had to change nursery because they didn't like their first choice after the first visit and their children were v upset like your Dd. I hope it makes you feel better to know its not uncommon. These children that I talk about are all now happily settled into a new nursery now. I even have a friend who recently told me that she's removed her son from a nursery they both loved because he started not liking since Xmas after having a new key worker. It's a personal thing to both you and your child and you just have to go with your gut feeling like everyone else has mentioned on here. Good luck and don't blame yourself

So, sorry for my little panic earlier! I think the OV pain got the better of me and made me all faint. I was running around all day preparing for DH's birthday meal, wrapping presents and baking a cake. I'm all OK now and back to dangling legs. DH is beyond exhausted. I'm really not sure he can dtd again tomorrow Ideally I would want to dtd on both peak days and the day after but I just can't see him managing it with his work stress and tiredness. I get it, we've dtd 11 x this month but I still want to keep going now that it's OV time. Feel a bit annoyed that I'm the only keen one right now

Trinpy - sorry about your bad day at work. Have a lovely day tomorrow

Ava - 2 more sleeps counting tonight...eek!