TTC and still breastfeeding? Thread #4: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

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Yes, we know all about how emotional and hard it can be! All the pros and cons, all about missing Aunty Flo's and wtf cycles with no ovulation, all about children being cute and pointy. No matter if you are five months or twenty months down the breastfeeding timeline, if you're ttc again, this is the thread to join! Welcome!

Mumofone - I got a bfp with a FRER on dpo11 with DS for what it is worth. Personally I would test and have a spritzer but that's just me I'm in a dilemma myself as I'm going out with my bf for dinner tomorrow night. a massive part of me feels like saying the truth and letting her know that I'm ttc. I will definitely be mentioning it at some point in the evening because I need to gently warn her. She's not married and doesn't have kids so me having a child has put a lot of strain on our once close friendship and I feel it's much better to warn her now then pretend nothing is about to change again!

Ava - well done on keeping the momentum up Weird about the lack ofopk ! I hope tomorrow proves a different start to the day!

Part of me is glad that ov isn't imminent as I'd feel even worse for skipping 2 dtd opportunities. Feel like I've got an extra day now to cover all bases. Hopefully no longer than just one more day or I won't be very hopeful at all with a much shorter LP...

Hope you all have a lovely weekend with your friends DH and I will be praying for nice weather to get DDs little wooden playhouse up and decorated in the garden - hoping to have a 'house warming' party next weekend lol

Had the most vivid dream last night and it's still affecting me a bit. I can't seem to shake it. In my dream both my sister and my best friend from school separately announced - by showing me their +ve pg tests (one cheapie, one digi (wtf?!)) - that they were pg with their second DC on the same day! I wanted to be pleased for them but I was really upset and inconsolable, and shocked everyone around me as they were totally unaware how much I wanted a second DC and how hard and long we'd been trying. I kept sobbing "I'm broken!"

My temps are still the same today so definitely no ov taken place here yet. Think I might just be a little bit broken this month

Awww which playhouse are you getting Ava? We're getting the little costco one next weekend as DD's birthday present! Hope your DD loves hers and it isnt too tricky to assemble. And fx that ov turns up soon!

Good luck with telling your bf pear. It's so difficult when your friends are just in a completely different stage of life.

I'm on day 5 of the stupid flashing smiley :( honestly wish it would just fuck the fuck off now.

Oh Ava what a horrible dream! But it's just a dream - you're not broken and it will happen!

Thanks Wax it helps that we're all in pretty much the same boat on here x

We have a small semi-circle raised area in our garden, where the playhouse will sit, so size-wise we were limited as to how big the playhouse could be. Gone for a small TP playhouse with a veranda and we're going to beautify it with pretty colours, bunting, string solar lights, and small potted plants outside. It is for DD, honest My dad is coming over to help DH with the assembly, but I'm in charge of painting and decor

Hope your DD has a great birthday and I'm sure she'll love her playhouse too x

Morning ladies Got my 4th flashing smiley today so I'm expecting to OV tomorrow. I've decided not to drink tonight. I've worked so hard towards this that I feel why spoil it when then say alcohol can delay ovulation! I've got 3 mini bottles of rose in the fridge and so many AF supplies...I'm ready for Sod's law to arrive!

Oh and Ava...sorry about your pants dream. It's horrible when it takes over your nighttime rest What cd are you now?

I only have 2 sticks left in this packet

Yay! A definitely positive opk! A very dark strong line showed up straight away! Yay!

Pear, I'm on CD 16 so looking at a 12 day-ish LP... Just hope it's long enough

Will definitely dtd tonight and tomorrow night and maybe even Sunday just to be sure

Pear, I wouldn't worry about being down to your last 2 sticks - you will ov tomorrow, this will be your month and you won't need them again until ttc #3

Argh! Can alcohol delay ov? Bollocks. Well, I've not had much this week - only a small beer the last couple of nights. but I was looking forward to a bottle of wine tonight!!

Congrats on the positive opk Ava! I'm hoping tomorrow is my day :)

A bottle with DH that is not a whole one to myself with a straw!

Ah thanks Ava! Yay for your +opk! I'm on cd14.

Wax - I know how u feel! Would love a glass of wine tonight!

Ahh, the good ole days, Wax lol

Aaaagh! Just occurred to me that I have had 2 large glasses of coke today, something I never usually drink and didn't even register the caffeine content impacting on ttc! Just googled it and omg Saw it as a 'treat' after losing weight..... Duh! I don't usually drink many soft drinks, and stick to caffeine-free when I do, and I only drink decaf coffee and don't eat loads of chocolate crappy timing on my part .... What if I've ruined our chances this cycle?! I'm such an idiot....x

Think I've subconsciously been trying to up my calorie intake in order to increase my chances of conceiving....oh the irony Feel so pants now... Lost my mojo again...

Thanks for the advice pear. Sounds like a good idea to gently warn your friend.

Poor you Ava, that sounds like a horrid dream! But yay for the +ve opk!

Ahh wax, hope you get your fixed in the morning.

Ava why would drinking a bit of caffeine ruin your chances?

Agh can't decide whether to test tmrw. Don't know if I want the disappointment of another bfn

I read it's actively encouraged for the man to drink caffeine when ttc as it helps move the swimmers along, but it can be detrimental to the egg quality/journey if the woman drinks too much caffeine when ttc. Please, anyone, feel free to correct me

Mumo, I'd poas if I were you (I can never resist ) as, if it's a bfp then that'd be amazing but if it's a bfn it doesn't necessarily mean you're not pg

Dangly legs here

I think I will Ava I would be AMAZED if it's anything but a bfn though! Eek feel a bit nervous about doing it!

Ava I've been drinking tea pigs - have you tried them? Expensive but delish herbal teas. I drink a couple of green teas every day though & I know that contains some caffeine

How's the dtd-athon going Ava, pear & wax? And anyone else I've missed?

Don't beat yourself up about it Ava. I'm sure if caffeine does affect ttc them you have to have tons of it over a longish period of time for it to cause any issues. 2 glasses of coke is nothing in the grand scheme of things. You've been doing everything right; I really hope this will be your cycle.

Mumof fx for an early bfp for you!

Evening or morning...can't believe I'm up this late Just about to head to bed after my night out. Massive confession... drank a small glass of rose! I had a terrible time getting out the door. DS totally cottoned on that I was going out and even worse saw DH getting ready to leave for work at the same time thanks to DH not being subtle about it! Anyway, DS screamed the house down and I had to leave him with elderly neighbour babysitting which I just felt so bad about. All was OK though and neighbour (who adores him) put him to bed an hour later with no trouble. So, by the time I arrived late at the restaurant I clocked my friends glass of rose and thought what the heck! Much needed relaxation Ava, now we're equal except alcohol is probably worse then caffeine

Mumofone - can't wait to hear what your test says in the morning

Managed to dtd this afternoon. Think I saw Ewcm tonight but who knows. Could haven been the other thing!

Wow oh wow! I just did a super drug hpt & it said bfp!!! So I cracked open a digi & it said pregnant 1-2 weeks! Think I'm in shock... Soooo surprised!