"Casually" TTC

[BigChiefThunderThighs]

TTC number 2, we've agreed to go ahead in a "let's just see whAt happens, no pressure" kind of way. so I'm casually charting my cycles with a fertility app, breezily checking my cervical mucous, nonchalantly scouring the conception board and definitely not compiling a list of names for dc2 .
What is so frustrating is that because I'm "casually" charting all of this I know exactly when my fertile window is and keep bloody missing it because I don't want to give the game away and look like baby crazed monster! Last month my carefully timed advances were thwarted by a five-aside groin strain. I think today was the day and was planning a seduction after dd's bedtime but he announced he was off to his brothers for a bank holiday drink.
This is lighthearted and is not a problem with communication in my marriage. I think he felt the pressure last time and I'm really trying to keep this as relaxed as possible (for him) but that's just not my style.

Thank you for all your messages re MC. I kind of had my head around it from the start to be honest as I went for an Early Scan privately. The Private Clinic really helped to be honest, and I would go there again as they were so helpful and so straight with me from Day 1. They didn't paint anything Pink with Flowers so to speak, they were very blunt, and prescribed me Progesterone immediately, so I kind of knew. x

Alice
Also... I also have a 'friend' who is obsessed with her nipples and whether they are in fact changing/darker. This friend is also fighting the urge not to test EVERY DAY despite having no other pg symptoms.

God yes even thoigh af has just left i have still managed to convince myself that the bloating, nausea, huge boobs, tiredness and loss of appetite and not wanting chocolate must mean im pg!! Even though its almost certainly not true unlèss i got caught th furst time we had sex and still had a period after!

that's exactly what I thought last month kitkat, I must have got PG literally one day before AF, and still had AF, but was def PG as well. OH making funny remarks now. Just had some toast and he said -> are you still hungry then? Is he trying to sus me out? He is probably wondering as well...ahhhh. He is probably on a similar forum like Men Casually TTC

Hmmm my belly's a bit fat anyway so I doubt I'd notice! I also didn't get darker nipples til much later on last time! I can't remember having any symptoms prior to my bfp so I'm not too obsessive about pregnancy symptoms just ovulation symptoms at the minute! Although every pregnancy is different so that might give me something else to casually look out for

Update!!! Slight cramping. That is all. Adding to my casual symptom spotting. Attempted cervix rummaging but oh knocked on bathroom door so desisted. Latest POAS date Friday. Not holding my breath... (Holds breath)

Alice I LOVE idea of a
Boys TTC forum, wonder if there is one? It must be hard for them (the boys, well, men), the only thing they can do is look at us sideways watching for eating/crying/puking symptoms until we announce we want to test. xx

Wats th cervix checking thing??!

Kitkat - basically sticking your fingers in until you find your cervix which should feel like a doughnut with a little hole in the middle. If you check it every day u should be able to feel changes in the texture, position and openness. So at non-fertile times it should be low down, hard and closed. At fertile times it should be higher, squishier and the hole slightly open. Bit gross and I was sceptical but I could def feel the difference. Very casual you know, daily rummaging up your nethers

On that MensHealth Mag they probably have a Forum where Men 'casually' get together in the evenings and talk about their TTC experiences and journeys
I want to know more about that as well Kitkat!

Ok, I might give that a go BigChief, I'll be casual and report back on that in due course

Struggling with my casual attitude this morning. I thought AF was finally back last night but nothing happening now. Not even a twinge.

BigChief - I tried to locate this so called cervix last night! I could only feel something really goey...(tmi! sorry!) and no hole? But nothing harder, it was quite high up. I am now wondering if I have missed my window of last night as a had a bit too much and just fell asleep once I was happy something had been located

KtKaye - ..try Avocado if you like it, I swear by the stuff. Google Avocado, Bacon and Eggs. I love it for Breakfast and its Baked so healthier too. x

Mmm love avocado maybe will causally make guacamole this eve.

Couldn't find cervix... Nearly fell over in shower. Is this a lying down activity???!

I tend to check it while sitting on the loo with pelvis tilted up, sometimes I can barely reach and it seems kind of off to one side but that might just be the angle I'm at!

LOL! I was casually laying down as I had too much This wait is driving me loopy

Will attempt both loo seat and lying down rummaging later. Tomorrow I am going to flippantly POAS ahead of a boozy weekend. Just in case you understand.
In other news... I don't seem to be producing v much CM in comparison to last week. What does that mean?! (If anything).

Well poas earlier as feeling crap and convinced myself my signs are pg related as my tummy is ballooning by the day even though im losing weight thru noteating as much but nope zilch. Im a serious grumpy arse today

Aaaw kitkat it's devastating, that wee glimmer of hope before you look at the test, even if you know it's unlikely. Have some

Feeling your pain kitkat. Hang in there . One day it will be the bfp xx

Aw, sorry to hear Kitkat . I might push the boat and test at the weekend...do you all think its too early? AF due around 10th June (rough Maths in my head!) It finished on 17th May, thats all I know as I put it on the Calendar after being so upset about AF arriving at all!

Oh and boobs are sore! But then again I think its this bra

Can I 'casually' join in? DH thinks we're just 'having fun and seeing what happens' and I'm researching local birthing centres already. ;) 'TTC' #2, DD is nearly 3 and has only just started sleeping through regularly-ish...

I would say too early Alice it'll only end in disappointment (bitter experience) - at best tests will pick up maybe 4/5 days before af due!

Welcome spotted - sounds familiar my dd age 2 has only just got into a good sleep routine, so that's what has prompted trying for #2. We finally have the energy to try

Speaking of very casual research this is the prettiest pram I've ever seen ......