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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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All aboard the May bus! We will be using the bank holidays to make our BFPs :)

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nightandthelight · 29/04/2015 21:04

April was a lucky month, let's make May even better :) BFPs ahoy!

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nightandthelight · 04/05/2015 08:51

I believe that a fixed smiley indicates ov in 12-36 hours so tonight might not be too late Mum!

Don't want to be preachy but shows how important it is to dtd regularly throughout cycles so that you are always in with a chance :) appreciate that is a lot easier said than done!

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Woolly84 · 04/05/2015 09:16

Ah nicnac and our other grads, thank you for being so nice about our bus Smile

coffeenut haha yes I can tell you're missing the Wine! It's okay, I'll compensate if no luck this cycleWink

Welcome to skyla and thunder! Smile

mumof1 definitely go for it tonight!

Agree with you night it's tricky but I think aiming for every 2-3 days is sensible, I had a blank result this morning but we did it anyway - though that's partly because we're raring to go post AF anyway Blush

TeenieDeenie · 04/05/2015 09:20

Mumof1, looks like we are cycle buddies Smile I've also been using the CB digital opk and exactly the same thing happened to me yesterday, straight to fixed smiley...

Night is absolutely correct re ovulation times, this is from the clear blue website -

"Studies show that a surge in LH levels occurs 24-36 hours prior to ovulation, and that this LH surge is an accurate and reliable marker of impending ovulation. The urinary LH surge pinpoints the two peak fertile days of a woman's cycle, with intercourse on these days being shown to be associated with the highest likelihood of conception."

You can read more here - www.clearblueeasy.com/healthcare/fertility-ovulation-test.php

Basically, bottom line is DTD tonight and probably tomorrow if you can manage will give you your best chance of catching the egg. FX!

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nightandthelight · 04/05/2015 09:23

Go Mum go!

I go with the regular dtd as I didn't get a positive on my opks so if I had waited for that I would completely have missed the boat! You are definitely in with a good chance though :)

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FlatWhiteToGo · 04/05/2015 09:57

Morning everyone Grin. Just playing catch up!

Welcome to all the newbies. It's so nice that so many people have joined.

Miis - how's the shagathon going? Are you taking a break any time soon Smile? We've DTD 7 times in 7 days...grim! So excited to have some time off now Smile.

Woolly - how's the book reading going? I thought it was useful, but I freaked out a bit by how often she talks about it being harder in your 30s...I'm quite melodramatic on that front though, and I know I'm being ridiculous because I'm only a few months into my 30s Grin.

Oddly - how are you getting on? Any sign of AF? I hope the witch stays away!

Boris - hope you haven't murdered your guests yet Grin! Not long until they go, but it's annoying they've hijacked your entire bank holiday weekend.

Trixie - good luck with the IVF. Keep us posted with how you get on Smile. I'm so sorry you got baby bombed and it is TOTALLY understandable that it made you a bit weepy. Do they know you've been trying?

Wharm - I'm so sorry about everything you went through. That's horrible. I really hope this is a lucky bus for you.

DizzyM - how's the spotting today? Any other symptoms? I hope it's a good sign...FX!

Carrot - hope things are going well Smile. Keep us updated!

I'm now firmly in the 2WW. I hate hate hate this stage! I'm going to find it so hard to switch off/not obsess. I also feel quite stressed because there are 2 work functions in the next 2 weeks which I have to attend and where I will be expected to drink (and not just have one drink). I'm also supposed to be going out for drinks with some friends next Saturday. One friend will be totally fine with me not drinking, but I know the other one's going to be difficult Sad.

DizzyMerry · 04/05/2015 10:16

Welcome skyla and thunder. Hope you both have short journeys.

Coffee I don't want to get my hopes up either so I'm trying not to think about it as a sign.

Night your advice about ov and timings is spot on.

Thanks for posting that info teenie.

Mum get dtd tonight and I'm sure you'll still be in with a chance.

Flat no more spotting and only low level discomfort. I hate the tww for various reasons but the worst is the emotions that I go through. It's pure torture.

Woolly good to see you've started dtd early on.

Where are you miis?

Woolly84 · 04/05/2015 10:41

flatwhite the book is very interesting, I couldn't put it down for ages! Definitely glad I started temping this month at least, and I know to keep a closer eye on EWCM now too, I was relying totally on OPKs up to now. I definitely wouldn't worry about the age thing just yet, there's been plenty of stories of women in their mid/late 30s conceiving on here relatively quickly, and conversely those in their 20s who've had issues - so you just don't know, I really do think a lot of is down to pure luck!
Hmm tricky about the drinking thing, a friend of ours made up an excuse about being on antibiotics when we were at a wedding....we still suspected though but as long as they don't make it awkward for you by asking it doesn't matter! And if they do just laugh it off! A couple of glasses would be fine in the TWW I think, though understand if you want to avoid it altogether (I know I prob would).

Woolly84 · 04/05/2015 10:42

dizzy got my fx for you, hope the rest of this awful TWW goes quick lovely x

wishiwaspregnant · 04/05/2015 10:44

Hey all after some advise re. DH. He has gone cold on me. He says he does want children but thinks that dtd has become too weird now it's ttc and not fun anymore. I'm trying really hard to make it fun but he says because I'm the one initiating all the time he is not finding it normal. He knows I have a hidden agenda. Unfortunately I think we have missed our opportunity now since I think I ov'd yesterday (last dtd Friday) He says he feels bad about it but wants me to let him take control of things again. I'm struggling as I think I have become a bit obsessed with all my apps and temping. I'm trying to hide it all from him so as not to freak him out but it's obviously not working. Eek. I'm gutted about missing our window of opportunity this month. Is anyone else having any problems with a reluctant DH? Any advice would be most welcome. I'm stuck for ideas...

Mumof1sofar · 04/05/2015 10:50

Thanks ladies, that's really helpful. Night you're absolutely right - I need to start dtd eod or at least more frequently. It's so odd because last month I had 9 days in a row of flashing smileys before I got my peak & this month it's been much earlier & suddenly shot to peak! Just shows how unpredictable things can be.

We are spending the bank hol with dh's family... Grr can't wait to dtd now! Confused

Rememberallball · 04/05/2015 11:05

Morning all. Was busy at a family event yesterday and was very good drink alcohol free beers - no one realised once it was in the glass!! I did get a few comments about whether we were going to wait for the wedding before ttc and whether I was expecting yet!!

OPK was much paler yesterday than Saturday but I put that down to being very diluted urine - good thing we dtd on saturday as well as dp got stranded on the way home and didn't get in until almost 1am with a huge taxi bill to boot Sad

Will drink a bit less today and hope that the opk is back to 'normal' today or I might have missed the window this month.

JemimaPuddleDuck2 · 04/05/2015 11:22

Welcome to all of the new passengers, I hope this is a lucky bus for everyone! ??

I had a positive Opk on Friday, have dtd 7 times in 8 days (Shock)so I'm firmly in the 2ww...let the symptom spotting commence!

In other news, I have now started temping vag style...thanks parsnip!

parsnipbob · 04/05/2015 11:35

Flat why should your friend be annoying about you not drinking, how cheeky! Just tell her you have a stomach bug/headache. :)

I don't drink at all and I have got crap in the past which I don't think is very fair.

Yay for vag temping!

Mum (I think it was you, on phone so is hard to see), I never manage to get a positive OPK but know I'm ovulating due to temp rises. If I were you as others have said I would just DTD as much as possible regardless of OPK results - they can be helpful but not definitive by any means.

Woolly84 · 04/05/2015 11:59

wish first off, you are still in with a chance this month since you Dtd ovulation day-2, so don't count yourself out.
Does DH know much about the fertile window and how how the timing works etc? I don't mean to the nth degree of detail, but the basics? Perhaps a good approach would be to just try every 2-3 days in the couple of weeks after AF, but explain to him that there's a couple of days around ovulation when it would really up your chances if you dtd.
did you initiate dtd often before starting to TTC? And say if you didn't initiate as much, do you think you'd still end up Dtd fairly regularly?
It's tricky I know, personally I find it really helpful that DH knows about as much as I do about timings etc, it did put the pressure on the first month, but we're both used to it now and it feels more normal and part of life iykwim. But I totally understand everyone is different and he might not want to know all the details!

DizzyMerry · 04/05/2015 12:20

Wish I just came on to offer some advice and saw that woolly has offered some sound advice. I would like to add that sometimes ttc sex isn't much fun at all but as long as you're both on board you will be able to manage this. The every 2-3 days advise is sensible and everyday from positive opk. Ttc is serious business and stressful and we all need to be realistic about this. I personally feel that you need to have a chat with him. He does need to know what's involved as in when you will need to up dtd. Maybe just tell him and let him initiate? DH knows I use opks and temp so knows about when we need to concentrate our efforts. It has made it so much easier for me. As woolly says not everyone wants to know the details and the pressure may be getting to him so acknowledging how he's feeling may also help.

wishiwaspregnant · 04/05/2015 12:33

Thanks dizzy and wolly for your sound advice I really appreciate it! Everyone is so nice on here and I feel I have learnt so so much! I have chatted to DH about it at great lengths. I think he'd rather not know what I'm up to and just be how we were before (with mostly him initiating) but I'm finding it hard to wait for him as I get anxious about timings. I've promised him I will relax. But in the mean time I'm off to the beauticians to make myself irresistible!!!! Grin

DizzyMerry · 04/05/2015 12:39

To make yourself even more irresistible wish Wink Pleased you've had a talk and fair enough if your DH doesn't want to know as it can add to the pressure.

Woolly84 · 04/05/2015 12:41

Good advice dizzy, we have to be realistic and acknowledge that it's not fun and relaxed all the time, especially if you've been trying a while.

wish you go girl! Grin bet he'll have no choice but to initiate! Wink

CarrotVan · 04/05/2015 13:31

wish ov-2 is when I conceived my first. TTC sex can be weird - can you talk it through? Would he be ok with you telling him the rough dates to prioritise with him then initiating? Although either of you should be able to initiate and either of you say no

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nightandthelight · 04/05/2015 13:56

Difficult one wish! Like carrot says each of you has a right to initiate sex and it shouldn't always be him. Do you initiate sex outside if your fertile window though? If you do that it might make him feel less like a sperm machine. Also don't forget that every day is not necessary and actually reduces the sperm levels :)

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thundernlightning · 04/05/2015 14:24

Thanks for the welcome everyone! Sounds like this is going to be a lucky bus.
Wish I hope your DH is just having a case of jitters and they wrap up soon. Good idea to go to the beauticians! Nothing feels as good as feeling good, IYSWIM.

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nightandthelight · 04/05/2015 14:46

Went to see a colleague's month old baby, very gorgeous!

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MaybeMrsMum2016 · 04/05/2015 16:36

night I'm not jealous, not jealous at all! damn it I really want one of my own!

Another bfn for me today. AF hasn't appeared yet but isn't always on time (although has been for the past few months) so now I'm just in limbo. Aaargh!

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nightandthelight · 04/05/2015 19:24

You will get there Maybe we all will :) so sorry for the BFN, no AF means you aren't out yet though!

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sarah1391 · 04/05/2015 19:24

Wondering if anyone can help with this one...

Ok...i've just downloaded an app and its a period and ovulation tracker which asked me for my cycle length. I'm not sure of this as my last period i had was my first real one so the one before was a 'pill bleed' but i just used that...38 days (and that would be about right for what my period was like before i was on the pill).

Anyway...this app has said ovulation is today! I don't know if it's right or not but considering we DTD this morning i'm a bit like OMG.

I would actually be shocked if i got pregnant this quick haha but at the same time seeing that has made me get my hopes upConfused

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