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Spinning, have you seen my video of the tot when I ask her if she misses mummy when I'm at work?

purdie If you don't want another opinion in your job ignor this post.

I also think you should finish the placement. I get that it doesn't stack up as a good option right now. And leaving Nancy must be so tough, I can't imagine it actually. But this is a one in a million chance. I don't think it's the right job for you in any way and so would totally understand if you left.

There is an old but true fact, it's far easier to get work if you are in work.

I think you should stick it out and look for other more satisfying part time, or what ever, roles at the end of it. Not a flashy career but getting any job will be easier if you are working now. You'll need the reference from this placement to get something else.

The money and impact on your family for now does not add up but the longer term impact on your sanity of finding a job which does work for you is worth it, in my humble opinion.

Purdie no, I'll take a look now

Blimey, I love you lot who are so patient with me when I am ranting and wailing and being horrible because I am frustrated and feeling inadequate. Thank you for all your advice. I will stick it out for the eight weeks and re-evaluate things then. Thanks again, my friends

49 purds! That's amazing

eskimo you brave lady, that sounds like a stressful day but I'm
So glad all is clear on the tubes!! woohoo!!

lucie how are you today? Thinking of you xx

oyster happy wedding day!!! I bet it will be amazing xx

CD6 here, getting used to this temping lark, cleaning the pipes later, and OPKs from tomorrow....the next round begins!

Morning everyone

HAPPY WEDDING DAY OYSTER!!!

Thank you for all your messages last night and this morning, am going to try to reply now!
Some of those HSG stories have me worried, but I'm going to pretend that obviously the superior HyCoSy will be much much better!

Sparkly/Spinning yes I'm sure my mum would come, but it's the consoltation afterwards that I want dh for...he's so good at asking the right questions

Chops My drive home would only be about 15 minutes so I think I would be okay by myself. It just seems kind of weird to have anyone else there, its such a private thing. Glad to hear your HSG wasn't so bad...hopefully mine will be like yours! Although not the spotting afterwards!
Haha to your DHs claims his beard got you pg, I like that!

Rainy that's a good early clinic, so dh could do his sample before work and then you could drop it in maybe. Hope he feels better soon.

Woolly Taking the bus to the appointment would be awesome, and you lot already know all the details so it wouldn't be weird having you there!

Eskimo I'm going to ask on the phone if he would be allowed in, I think that will decide for me whether to do it this month or next. Sorry the HyCoSy was so awful for you :( Glad your tube are okay, and a lack of ovulation is easily fixed isn't it? Did you get cramps afterwards?

Bean Good luck with your tests, you can always re book the test for a bit later on as well.

Mummy If we decide to put of the private HyCoSy until next month I will definitely go and see my GP about the choose and book option.

Purdie £48 is not a lot. BUT, who's to say you have to get a job there after your placement? Once you have a good chunk of work experience on your CV then you could get a part time job elsewhere if you still want something outside of being a SAHM? That being said, if its affecting you emotionally not seeing Nancy every day then it is not worth it at all.
You're right, Eskimo and Dizzys experiences have scared me, but as eskimo said in her most it hasn't put me off because I just want to know what's going on. DH is very lucky in that he can work from home, so an hour of not answering the phone wouldn't be a problem, so he can probably come to most appointments, its just next week he has a lot of meetings and is away for a stag do (which he offered to pull out of, but I said no - we can't miss out on everything because of TTC). I need to get all the information before I decide.
Sorry your dh was horrible about the IVF, hope you've made up now?
Oh just seen your update, glad you're going to stick it out :)

Rainy I'd just leave the temp in, FF will give you an open circle for it once it realises it wasn't the correct time and if it messes up the chart you can always discard it. Unless you think you're around ov time one badly timed temp really doesn't matter.

Mummy enjoy soft play - I love those places! We actually went to an adult one for my friends birthday, they had a bar and everything!

So as for me, I've called the private clinic this morning but just got the answerphone for the secretary to the consultant (the same consultant my NHS HyCoSy is booked with!) so left a message, but am assuming she is now not working until Tuesday so I will expect a call back then. It might mean I've missed the chance this cycle anyway because although its private I'm sure the appointments are booked more than 5 days in advance and that would take me to CD10...despite what the hospital said I really don't want to do it much later than that as I don't want to miss a month ttc!

Have a lovely weekend everyone, we're off to a indoor BBQ this afternoon :)

purdie I really really think you are doing the right thing by sticking it out, it is going to help you so much more to get the job that is right for you, I can't imagine how hard it is to leave your little tot but I admire you for getting out there and making a good future for you all, you must not feel inadequate , you have got so much to give to Nancy and your work life, now put a smile on that face and enjoy the long weekend x

sammy just to clarify my experience was awful due to endo. I had cyst and adhesions everywhere and my tubes were stuck to other organs. My consultant told me that after the lap. Your experience may be the same as chops. Honestly, if I had to go through trying to have it done again I would as we're on cycle 14 now do something isn't working right and I would also want to know what's going on inside. Enjoy the bbq.

Purdie I do agree though that's it's so much easier to find work while you're in work and everything you do now work wise will help you immensely to find work. Would you consider voluntary work? Such as counselling or advice work? A lot of people have gone on to get paid work within the organisation after volunteering and gaining experience.

Oyster hope you have the most amazing day. Happy wedding day

Woolly a new cycle begins. This is the one.

Is anyone due to test over the weekend?

Purdie 8 weeks isn't forever and will look great on your cv, if you can stick it out!

sammy soft play birthday party with a bar would be amazing!! DS once went to a birthday party on a double decker bus which was converted into a soft play area. It was amazing - a bus and soft play - the kids loved it!

Purdie glad your sticking it out x

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Purdie for what it's worth I also think that you are doing the right thing sticking the job out. I know you don't like it but another 6 weeks will go quickly in the grand scheme of things.

Sammy I think you should have the test as soon as you can even if that means taking your mum with you. I went to a lot of my tests and scans on my own and it was fine. Chances are it will just be a routine thing anyway and everything will be fine and you can then move on with the next step. You could sit down with your dh the night before and write down any questions that you will want to ask.

Oyster congratulations and have a brilliant wedding day

Woolly I'm feeling a little better today thank you. I'm just glad DH is home it makes things so much easier to have someone else around. I've decided that if I have to go through this again then I'm not going to take any time off during the 2ww I'm going to go back to work. I know it will be hard to concentrate in work and I will be distracted but at least there will be other people around and it will take my mind off things some of the time and obviously I won't be tempted to poas early.

I asked DH should we do another stick this morning and he said no. He said possibly tomorrow but ideally he would rather just wait for the blood test. I feel a lot better that he has made the decision and we can just enjoy a nice day now. If it were me here on my own I wouldn't have been able to resist and would have done another by now.

Anyway so yes starting to come to terms with things a little. I still get that moment right before you wake up properly where I forget for a split second and then I have that awful sinking feeling but I guess it's only natural while things sink in. We will try again as soon as we can get the money together. Ideally july but will have to see how things go.

Have a fantastic day lovely oyster !!!! Xxx

purdie one the job front, you have to do what you feel is best for you and Nancy. And if working isn't right yet then don't. At least you gave it a try, put yourself out there, had interview experience and got a position based on who you are. That should be taken as a positive. Hope you enjoy your day in the garden.

oyster happy wedding day. Enjoy every second and if you can take a moment to stop, look around and take it all in as it whizzes by in a flash.

Also just holding my hands up to say I am one of the few that really likes pate and swordfish. I'll skulk off again now!!

purdie sorry did I miss read and you are sticking white this placement? As above really, whatever works best for you. You are the only one who knows what feels right. We can only advise from our own experiences but it's your decision at the end of the day.

Thank you Lucie and Dizzy. I'm waiting on a call back from the clinic which I think will be Tuesday now, so will see what availability they have.

Mummy - it was so much fun, google it, the slides are terrifying!

Dojo - I like pate too! Not swordfish though! Xx

*with not white WTF!!!!

Ps. Royal baby bomb! :(

You are eminently sensible there, Lucie, and I'm glad the jarring despair is dissipating a little. I am so in agreement about not idling at home in the 2ww; it is torture.

Thanks again to those of you who not only tolerated my rants but have advised me honestly

Do as I do, Sammy, and don't give a flying turd about the royal runt. That there Kate clearly has a wizard's sleeve for a vagina after squeezing that out in two hours

Was def a mix bag of emotions on the bus yesterday and I felt poopy sharing good news when others are having such a rough time
Lucie I sincerely hope you are the exception, I've everything crossed for tomorrow. Hoping and praying your positive may show a bit later than you thought, but if it's not to be this time it will be soon...of that we're all sure
wotsit congrats!!
the pug glad you have a kind gp - I think after mc you convince yourself every twinge in your body is the worst possible scenario, I know I did too. Hope you're feeling better
sparkly I am so over the moon with your news, it must've been brilliant hearing that heartbeat. I wish you every happiness and pray that all goes to plan for this little flickering bean.
eskimo your procedure sounded grim but at least you know where you stand and what the next plan of action is. Fingers crossed ovulation kicks in whatever means necessary
purdie I'll jump on and offer my 2d too, sticking it out is going to feel like hell on earth and having to leave nancypants won't get any better, but it's going to be more beneficial for you in the long run (with being able to put on cv etc) - one day at a time purdie

Sorry I went AWOL yesterday - gonna take a bit of time to sink in definitely. The positive test is much stronger than it was at this stage of my mc pregnancy which I'm taking as a good sign. But one day at a time, am very cautious to even get excited which is a bit sad in itself. (I need to catch a grip, am blessed for it to have worked!) Thank you so so much for all the congrats - making me a bit teary now!! Only me and dp know for now - and your good selves of course

Our tv has gave up the ghost - so up and out early to try to get a bargain - spent the whole morning rearranging the living room. Place looks like a bomb site

Happy wedding day Oyster

New stats 29,TTC #1,bfp cycle 5! Edd 3rd January 2016 roughly

Sammy I have been very 'no holds barred' in my depiction of the HyCoSy, but I think that my experience was mostly down to the position of my ovaries, and mixed emotions about the ovulation. The good news is that, as soon as the scan was over, the pain was over and I haven't felt a thing since. No cramps, no pain, nothing. So even if you have an experience like mine (which you might not), it is over and done with quite quickly and you will be absolutely fine afterwards.

Just been out to see the Tour de Yorkshire and in the middle of making a cuppa, so I'll be back!

Awful weekend here, my dad has been taken into hospital with acute kidney failure, I still have cystitis and I am still spotting. I wish I could stick my head up my foof and see what is going on up there?! just want af to start, so I can move onto cycle 8. I've been sat in the hospital for 1000 hours with my dad and all I can think about is my stupid foof and it's lack of cooperation. So basically I'm tired, hormonal and I want to slap my dh as he has just asked me if I'd prefer him to play golf tomorrow or Monday - WTF !

Riceicle, my love, I'm so sorry about your dad. Is this sudden? Was he poorly for a while? Sorry for the fanny flimflam too

I couldn't get out into my yarden thanks to the rubbish norvern wevver, so I'm making the Jamie Oliver lamb & sausage stew again It's home made cherry pie and custard for dessert and then we're watching the film Pride tonight. It's about the gays and the miners, innit. I love Dominic West.

Many hugs Rice

Can I come round to yours Purdie for pudding and the film please? Just a warning, Pride is full of Welsh people