Halfway through my TWW and looking for company. Anyone in the same boat?

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I've still got about a week to go before I can POAS. DH and I have been trying for about 5 months, but I have very irregular cycles so it's all really hard to judge. I usually go about 2 weeks between periods so following that, AF should be due to arrive before the end of this week. But I'm thinking that would be too early to test and am very impatient! I've also been taking agnus castus this month on the advice of a medical friend so I'm feeling tentatively hopeful. Anyone around who wants to wait it out with me and not read too much into every symptom and definitely not take a test every day this week?

Hi all, just joined this 18 pages In-sorry! My situation is that i am on cd 27 and only had ewcm last week so possibly 7dpo today today or thereabouts. i am irregular-roughly 30 day cycle but last month only 22 day cycle! Anyway have no idea really! All i know is that i have 2 girls and with both i fell pregnant in the first month but this was via bd every day for 30 days! not quite up to that these days haha! bfn today (cheapie ebay test) but i know its too soon anyway. Only bd 5 times this month and only decided to have our 3rd on cycle day 13 so this month might be a write off. will buy a superdrug test on friday as i here they are the most sensitive.

Hi xmumof! Welcome to this lovely thread
Every day for 30 days??!!! That's very impressive - my dh would move out if I suggested that!
Exciting then - yes superdrug are the most sensitive I've heard. Any symptoms?
haquoi - how was the reflexology?

Hi xmum!

Oh brown, that sounds so awful. I agree with diamond about trying to get to see your GP sooner - it's a very long time to wait! No it doesn't sound silly not to test, it's all about what you can take and if not testing helps, then that's great. How's your OH doing with it all?

My reflexology session was amazing. The reflexologist specialises in fertility and maternity and was wonderful and understanding. The best bit about it (apart from feeling all relaxed and in a better mood now) was that I reacted by have a laughing fit - genuine, bubbly giggles that came from absolutely nowhere and were overwhelming, on two occasions. I said to her after that I thought it was weird that my reaction would have been to laugh (I wholly expected to break down in tears), but she said something wonderful: that it could be the joy of my son that was finally coming out, that hasn't been able to because of all of the pain. If it hadn't been such a strange reaction I wouldn't have agreed, but me, laughing whole-heartedly at nothing - that's not me at the moment. I feel so grateful to her for allowing me to feel that. Wow, I definitely recommend reflexology.

Also, she mentioned two things about ttc: 1) charting (rather than opks) allows you to pinpoint your usual day of ovulating, but you only need to do it for three or so months. I read elsewhere that charting is the only thing that can tell you that you definitely ovulated, rather than predicting. So that's me next month.
2) she recommended she-oak, a supplement. She told me just to look it up and make the decision for myself, but she said its great for calming the mind and balancing the body (and also safe for pregnancy).

I'm off to sleep a nice long sleep. Man I feel good. Thanks so much diamond for recommending. Also, spotting can be a good sign. Very often it is. I hope you can take some time for yourself tonight xx

Hope you're alright remember and ickle and sleeping

haquoi - wow, I am delighted to hear it went so well. That about the joy of your son coming out is brilliant and must have made you feel good. I can't tell you how pleased I am you had such a great experience. Thank you, yes am having a nice relaxing night. Sleep well, I'm sure you will, after my first session I slept like a log! Xx

Hello ladies,

Your reflexology sounds amazing haquoi. I have an acupuncture session booked for next month but due to work commitments I think i'll have to cancel it.

Welcome xmum. Every day for 30 days sounds exhausting!

I would love to get an appointment earlier but that's the earliest they could give me. I have been told I can call every day first thing but my work really don't like that then I'm meant to be working and if they offer me a morning appointment I can't go as won't be able to get the time. So it's catch 22.

It is ridiculous though as the wait for the blood test will be long enough. My DP is doing his best to distract me but I think he feels pretty down. I just feel pretty inadequate. I knew I would have trouble conceiving, well I will have trouble but this AF no show is like a big shadow hanging over me. I mean I assume unless I'm like my sister I'm not pregnant so will my next AF come in 28 days/whenever it feels like it?? I hate being unprepared.

Thanks everyone this is helping though.

welcome xmum Any early symptoms so Far? I too am impressed at every day for 30 days! Sounds tiring.

Glad you had such a good experience at reflexology Haquoi

diamond how are you doing?

finding that's a shame about your acupuncture appointment, I've never had one one, my sister have and said they were really good!

Morning all. Had a few bad days after Saturday and got very moody - could have picked a fight in an empty room at one point!! Really dodgy stomach on Tuesday so hardly ate anything and had 2 very early nights. Feel more positive today - dp and I even managed a good evening together iykwim!!

Today is 5-6dpo and I'm due d21 bloods next Thursday but, after last month's 25 day cycle and a 13 day luteal phase, af could be due next weekend. Feeling nothing compared to last month when I couldn't let anything touch my breasts and was off the wine!!

Think I may bbt next month.

Hi remember, sorry to hear you've felt so awful, but really pleased you're feeling better. I can't believe we're back in that tww already, it feels so short (but also so long...). What's bbt?

brown, I don't think your cycle will reset. Just still think of AF as due, rather than skipped. How many days late are you now? Do you have any walk-in clinics nearby? (Sorry, I'll stop suggesting things now, sometimes just having a plan and sticking to it is the easiest thing).

finding, that's a shame about your acupuncture, are you going to rearrange? I honestly think something like that will help, especially with the clomid. I'm amazed at how good I feel (happy, I'm happy this morning and relaxed and not worried by the things that usually worry and stress me. Even if (and probably is) it's short term, it feels good now and will be doing me internal good). How is dtd going?

And speaking of dtd, xmum, wow. I missed that part of your post last night!

Hi finding - I really fancy acupuncture too, I think I may look into it. Have heard good things about it.
brown - you're in such limbo, must be so awful for you. Am hoping you are like your sister and it is just taking time to show your bfp. I'm okay thank you - no clue about my cycle at the moment so af could turn up at any moment - I'm only cd 22 though.
remember - sorry to hear you've had a few bad days, I get them too. Glad you're feeling better and a good evening together is just what you needed! No symptoms could be a good sign - you never know!

Hi there

trying for number 1 here but only for the last 3 months and i did have AF till month no2!

I am now due AF in the next couple of days but we DTD at least 4 times during 'fertile window' and i feel a bit funny, not sure if that is just down to me being full of cold though so i am fully expecting AF to come....

Currently feeling as follows:

weird tummy ache, not draggin or sharp like usual period pains
Feeling queasy (sometimes get this when i have a cold)
Sore tongue
Coffee tastes funny (i looooove coffee)
Not feeling hungry (im always hungry but this could be cold too!)

no idea WHERE i am lol!!!!

morning ladies! im so annoyed at myself today... AF due 13th/14th and i had a complete moment of madness and tested this morning, obv it was a bfN and now im in a terrible mood and givin up for this month...
why did i do it?!

Hi Haquoi its CD 42 so it's what 12 days? I like your suggestions, don't think I have any walk in clinics close by sadly, I've taken to phoning the doctor every day to get a cancellation but so far no luck.

thanks diamond* I'm not very good at waiting!

Only difference now is I feel sick at times and my boobs really hurt. DP brushed past me this morning and I almost hit the ceiling with pain. To be honest I've given up all hope of a bfp.

Hi Sleepy you sound quite in tune with your symptoms, I've not had that many symptoms and my Af is 12 days late! When are you going to test?

hopeful I think it's normal to text when we are awaiting on something happening. You can test again nearer the time, it isn't over till AF arrives.

Sorry to hear your feeling so rubbish remember

What changes, if any, have you made to your diet and lifestyle while ttc?

I'm trying to reduce my caffeine intake and drink more water.

Is there anything else that you recommend?

Hi sleepy - sounds promising! When are you going to test?
Hi hopeful - don't worry too much! It's still really early so you've got time to get your bfp yet - hope you're feeling a bit better now. I am terrible for testing early - and when I get disappointed I swear I won't do it again but I have no willpower with tests! When do you think you will test again?
Hi finding - I'm just generally trying to eat healthier- the reflexologist said a good diet is important and not to skip meals - which I am bad for doing - but easier said than done. I don't really have that much caffeine anyway but I've heard reducing it is a good idea. I can't really think of anything else

diamondsparkles thanks :) i don't feel as disheartened as i did this morning.. i did swear i wouldn't even think bout testing but during my lunch break i ordered some cheapie tests from the internet . . i think im out for this month as i have no symptoms now :( but least il have plenty for next month

Hi diamond Hi Brown

I'm not sure, i'm at that stage wher i think if i test i will jinx it and AF will turn up but then i'm half expecting 'her' to turn up anyway LOL

Not sure i'm in tune with my symptoms its more i know ive not had them before... its probably just my cold

hopeful - I like ordering the cheapie internet tests - then you have lots of supplies! You're still not out though but if you are we've got a good thread here and it's very supportive
Hey sleepy - I know what you mean about jinxing - I've done that before - but you never know!!

Hi haquoi, bbt is basal body temp. Apparently it rises as our cycle progresses and then drops when af is due to arrive. Whereas opks tell us we produce lh bbt doesnt go up unless we actually ov; and, while opks tell us we're 12-36 hours away from ov, bbt goes up when we ov so tells us exactly which day it is. I'm going to do it this month with the fertility friend app, I bought a bbt thermometer which is being delivered tomorrow by Amazon.

Ah, thanks remember, I know of it but didn't know it was called bbt. I'm planning on doing that next month as well :) I'm going to get some opks as well just to be sure. My stress this month was that my cm was all over the place and I didn't know whether it had happened or not! So yes, that sounds like a fab idea . How're you doing today?

Hi hopeful and sleepy, you've come to the right place! These are wonderful people to share stuff with (they've kept me sane). Don't give up just yet, AF is the only indicator that the month wasn't successful.

brown, now those are some symptoms! I feel for you and your boobs, that doesn't sound fun. When did you last poas?

diamond, cycle buddy! How are things with you? My symptoms have all but gone, I'm just still gassy (or should I say, farty) and happily winding my way through to next week. Although I'm beginning to get the jitters. I don't want to test, it's too early, but my patience is going. Grrr. And just when the reflexologist got me feeling good! Does yours do fertility stuff on you?

Hi haquoi123 thanks so much, everyone's so reassuring here, u are all keeping me sane! I havnt told my family/friends that we r ttc so I don't really have anyone to stress to.
My lightheaded feeling has pretty much gone but I do have this strange feeling in my right side, it's not painful but noticeable if that makes sense?! Not general cramping, it seems focused on one little area

Evening! How are we all?

finding Changes I've made is trying to eat more healthier and more water, i eat pretty healthy but I can still improve. Also not exercising as much.

Remember & Haquoi I want to start testing my bbt next month (well once AF has decided to come back from her mysterious trip she's on), it sounds quite complex. You wouldn't think we have been ttc for 6 months I feel like a total newbie!

Haven't poas in a few days Haquoi I will be honest I've kind of given up expecting anything. I may at the weekend. Keeping my fx for you this month!

I haven't told anyone either hopeful well apart from my sister but she's had 3 children so she's got a lot of advice!
Everyone is here is great though, I've found it really helpful.

hopeful, that sounds really exciting, (not that I want to get your hopes up). I felt a lot of pinching last month on my right side (had a chemical pregnancy (v v v early miscarriage)) and ended up with a positive test, so fingers crossed for you! But don't test early! It's not worth it!

finding, I've been terrible this time and not changed anything really. I try to drink more water and I don't drink caffeine anyway. But before with my DS I tried to eat more veg, and more green veg too, for the iron. I'm also vegetarian and fussy, so probably should do something...

I've just been for a lovely little walk with a friend by the lake (I live in the Lake District). Such a lovely evening and always nice being outdoors - helps to lift the spirits. My friend is also awesome and I'm fairly open with him about everything, (inc. cervical mucus). You all should know he thinks women have it hard and that men don't appreciate all that we have to go through :)

Morning haquoi, sorry for not replying last night, dp took me out for dinner!! I'm doing better thanks. Still achy in my shoulder and in general but having rheumatoid arthritis I get used to that being the norm.

I think I'm 7dpo today, know cd15 but don't feel the need to rush and poas this month. My bbt thermometer is due to arrive today and I've downloaded the ff app so might start temping tomorrow even though it's mid point in my cycle.

Yesterday got crazy at home. We've decided on our wedding invites and am ordering them today; written our guest list for both ceremony and reception; had plumber out to repair boiler - only for him to declare it unsafe due to something else which needs replacing urgently so part ordered and hopefully here today or I'm without a boiler until Monday!! Thank goodness for electric cooker or I'd be up a shitty creek with no paddles!!

Morning everyone!
haquoi - cycle buddy - I'm okay - no symptoms but I've got a heavy cold so feel rubbish anyway. I know what you mean - I'm nervous about testing next week but really in my heart I know it's not happened this month so I just feel sad and fed up at the mo. Dh said last night he hates this time of the month because I get so worked up then the crashing disappointment and he's right - I have been in such a grump this morning and it's not fair on dh and ds.
On a lighter note - the Lake District- you lucky thing! It's my favourite place, we try and go there a couple of times a year - must be lovely to go for walks like that - very jealous!
I'm vegetarian too! Do try to be healthy most of the time!
remember - exciting about the wedding invites! Not so good about the plumbing situation- hope you get it sorted, there's nothing worse than no boiler. I've just been diagnosed with osteoarthritis and it is in my shoulder so I know what you mean about the aches, not good.
brown - are you going to try another test?

Remember, congrats! When's the date? That's exciting, its good that there's something to distract you from all of this! That's also lovely going out last night, good on your DP! How did it go with the plumber?

Sorry to hear you're ill diamond. I always swear by garlic and honey (crushed, raw, on a spoon full of honey) - it gives a great boost to the immune system, but whether that's what you want at this point in the cycle... maybe a cold is a good thing (apart from kicking you when down)? I know what you mean though, I'm just getting antsy and I've still got at least a week to go (who knows when I ovulated!). It's hard to keep the spirits up. Is your DH supportive otherwise though?

I went into two chemists today and neither of them even knew what I was talking about when I asked for a basal body thermometer. Amazon it is, then. I'm going to get some she-oak as well, Neal's Yard. Got lots of creamy cm today as well - unhelpful symptom googling ensued "it could be a symptom, but also probably isn't"... No other symptoms though. Think I'm probably out this month. Apart from needing the time for a deadline, I could happily will the next week away!