Ttc and still breastfeeding? Thread #3: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

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Yes, we know all about how emotional and hard it can be! All the pros and cons, all about missing Aunty Flo's and wtf cycles with no ovulation, all about children being cute and pointy. No matter if you are five months or twenty months down the breastfeeding timeline, if you're ttc again, this is the thread to join! Welcome!

Wow mary.....you wait ages for a BFP then 3 come along at once
Congratulations it's contagious!

Massive congratulations Mary, so so pleased for you. I know it's easier said than done, but please please try not to let your previous loss affect this very special time for you and your family x

Wax, we moved house just over a year ago - it was hard work and so energy/time consuming but sooo worth it - and it had minimal impact on DDs 'routine'. We did decorate her new nursery exactly the same as her previous one though. Every time we pull into our street DD yells "yay! Home!" So sweet. I responded to an earlier post of yours about only bf'ing from one side too

Oh my goodness Ava, our DDs sound identical! Remind me how old yours is? It's bizarre as I've never met another one like my DD - boob-attached, feeds on only side...it's the reason I'm so frantic about weaning as there's just no way I could tandem feed off only one boob! A few people have suggested I tandem feed, allowing DD to continue with the 'good' boob and making the new baby struggle with the rubbish one. How unfair would that be?! Though I am hoping any new baby is a little less lazy and will perservere with both sides, not least so they even out a bit....

So glad your move went well - that's really reassuring. Tbh I'm probably overthinking it - my DD does tend to adapt seamlessly to new places, like being on holiday, and actually seems to prefer change. Just as long as mummy is there and provides boob, of course ;)

Haha Wax, we were on holiday a couple of weeks ago and DD, she's 24 months btw, every time we'd return to our accommodation would say 'yay, home!' It's true that a mother has the ability to make anywhere 'home' it might also have helped that we seemed to have taken half the contents of our actual home away with us, too

Awww bless her! She sounds adorable. We've talked a little bit about the move to DD but her main concern revolves around there being a bed for her friend from nursery. He's just a random boy, we don't even know his parents, but she is insisting he is going to live with us in the new house. She may be disappointed!

Bizarrely our girls are almost the same age too! Mine is 23 months - her birthday is the end of June.

When are you testing this month btw? I have my fingers crossed for you. And in a few months time I may well be coming to you for advice - you seem a veritable font of TTC knowledge with your talk of temping and so on!

Aww Wax, I really don't feel that knowledgeable, I've just been ttc #2 for so bloomin' long I've had plenty if time to research while I'm awake until the wee hours of the 2ww obsessing

I'm testing on Sunday if AF doesn't arrive (I am expecting her to though )

Do you co-sleep too?

DD turned 2 at the end of April. She's such a character, but she goes through phases of really wanting a sister (she's adamant she does not want a brother) to being totally against it to the point I'm thinking "what will she do to the baby if she ever gets one?!" seriously though she loves 'helping' me with chores and feeding her dollies, so I'm sure she'll relish the role of Big Sister if when it finally happens...

You could always get a playhouse for DD to have in your garden and say she's welcome to have her friend/s over to 'sleep' in 'her' house - if she's anything like my DD she'll love playing make believe and will play along that it's night time during the day and that her friend is sleeping over. You can put your feet up and enjoy the sunshine while DDs playing at being hostess to the random boy in her little house, haha

Mary - Congratulations! Fx this one is very very sticky! Out of interest what cd and dpo were you when you got your bfp? Did you test early?

Duh! Sorry to everyone who's asked me when I'll be testing. I have given you false information. AF is actually due on Monday. I should have an 11 day LP this month. Have no idea why I keep saying Sunday??!! The fact that it's Monday is staring me in the face every time I open my app

Ava - 2 more sleeps then

ava fingers crossed for a great bank holiday then!

I'm still awaiting ov which was on cd21 last month. Currently cd20 and no ewcm plus opk resolutely negative. Still I've had a lovely spa day today including prosecco in the hot tub so there are a few perks to being decidedly un-preggo!

I'm betting ov is next weekend when we're all sharing aPremier inn room!

Just felt compelled to poas even though I knew it'd be negative, I'm only 9dpo ffs, so incredibly annoyed with myself as it was a CB digi I've wasted too why do we continue to add to the torture during the 2ww, will we never learn ....

Think my crazy five mins it was triggered by 'three men and a baby' on TV just now and DD kept asking me to rewind all the parts where they're struggling to feed and change the baby - she loved it, and wants us to have a baby a baby again now... x

Oh Ava Poor you! Don't worry...it's just a stick. I'll probably end up doing a similar mistake It is just evidence how much and how badly we want it

Onecurrent - I hope you Ov soon. I know how frustrating those days leading up to Ov are!

I've just had a hot bath and am getting ready for a party we're all attending tonight - hope it takes my mind off my stupidity. You'd think with how much discipline I've demonstrated this week with eating healthily that I could hold off poas for a few more days

OneCurrant, hope you ov soon. Try poas 3 times a day, if you don't already, in case you miss your surge. I usually get my strongest positives on the third stick of the day Good luck x

Thanks for your lovely messages. I'm trying to stay positive. 'Once bitten twice shy' I guess.

Pear I was 12dpo (based on ic opks as I don't temp). I bought a FRer as it would give me a definite answer, rather than be left in limbo by a possibly too early bfn. They're 'buy one, get one half price' at S/drug atm .

I think it was wax who asked me how I had cut down to just one feed. Sorry for not replying sooner. Since dd was about 5 months old (she's now 2.6) she would never feed whilst out and about. We had to be in a dark room with no distractions. Consequently her feeds were first thing, pre and post morning nap, pre and post afternoon nap, bedtime and dreamfeed. As her number of naps reduced, so too did the number of feeds. We also dropped the dreamfeed and experimented with not feeding her after her nap. She dropped her nap last month so was only feeding 1st thing and last thing. We then dropped the morning feed as this seemed easier than dropping the bedtime feed as we could distract her more easily. A couple of weeks later, dh put her to bed for a week (so no bedtime feed). This worked well however, the first 'morning after' she asked for a feed and I gave in because she had been so good the night before.
And that's where we are now. Tomorrow, dh is going to try and distract her from the morning feed. If it works, it means she had her last feed this morning. [bittersweet emoticon]

Oh Ava, I am with you, I have no POAS determination. I have just cracked too and am awaiting result on a FR! Aaaaargh! Just know it'll be BFN....

Yeah, BFN it is :( why do we do this to ourselves?? At least I have eurovision and beer to console myself. Comiserations to you too Ava!

Oh and in response to your earlier post, we co sleep too - until recently it was all night, but now she starts off in her own bed. She sounds v similar to your DD on the baby obsession front too!!

Aww sorry wax weaseal! How many dpo are you?

I dont actually know :( wasn't using ovulation sticks or anything and my cycles are crazily irregular...so to be honest, it would be a miracle if we'd caught the window. I think by my average cycle I'm due on Thurs? It's day 30 todag. Bloody hate my insanely long cycles...

I'm currently half way through my 2ww and I'm pulling my hair out I am so impatient!! I'm trying my best to live life like a normal day but it just feels impossible when I'm thinking about it all the time!! That said...this week I've managed to eat pate, coffee and tonight, medium rare steak I'm clearly not thinking like a pregnant lady!! At least I'm not drinking!

Aww wax weasel I know what you mean! I've had 30 plus cycles for the last 9 months and it has driven me bonkers!!

I can't believe this month marks my 7th month of serious TTC

Congrats Mary?? So pleased for you & praying this one is a sticky bean for you. Good luck with dropping the feed tomorrow.

Sorry for the bfns - hope they turn into bfps v soon!

Ugh I'm feeling a bit down about ttc. I'm right at the start of my cycle but I'm getting a bit sick of going through it all only to get a bfn & AF at the end of it. I know I haven't been trying for long in the grand scheme of things & ive no right to moan but some days I feel like it's just not happening Sorry for the pity post! I'm a bit tired so just ignore me!

Aww, Mumo, your positivity on this thread is like a ray of sunshine but even you are bound to feel down at times. I've tried to see the positive side of things as much as possible myself, but it's really started to wear me down this month. It's so draining, trying to stay positive, and all the bfp's announced on here and in the media just remind us how much we'd love ours and leaves us questioning whether we'll ever get ours If I felt like I had time on my side I'd stop ttc and just be 'normal' for a while, but I know in my heart that we have to just keep going, so it's very tough. You have as much right to moan about not yet getting your much-deserved bfp as anyone - and I really hope yours is one of the next ones announced on here