Ttc and still breastfeeding? Thread #3: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

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Yes, we know all about how emotional and hard it can be! All the pros and cons, all about missing Aunty Flo's and wtf cycles with no ovulation, all about children being cute and pointy. No matter if you are five months or twenty months down the breastfeeding timeline, if you're ttc again, this is the thread to join! Welcome!

Thanks Pear

God, I am so ready to graduate this thread now too...

Hahahah Ava...I'm so counting on you going first so that I can quickly follow

No pressure at all then lol

I'll do my best

Eek Ava, sounds really positive for you! Fx it's your month.

Pear I have a good feeling about you too... When are you testing?

Thanks Ava- I thought the same about a boy! It's so weird but this month I feel ridiculously chilled out about it. I would honestly be SO surprised if it was my month... Really don't think it is as I just don't think we dtd enough. I have had absolutely no symptoms. On Sun it will be 14 days after I got my +ve opk so if af hasn't arrived I'll test on Mon.

Mumo, It only takes once at the right time to get a bfp and you managed to dtd twice! An egg can be fertilised up to 36 hours after ov so you timed it right! How cool would it be to get your bfp the month you are most chilled about it all and least expect to - I love irony And, btw, I had no symptoms whatsoever with DD until I was 4-5 weeks

(Then they all came with a vengeance, but I'll cross worrying about that bridge if I ever when I get to it x)

Good luck for Monday x

Mumofone - Aww I hope you're right I'm not sure what will happen to my cycle length now that it looks like I'm ovulating early. If I have another 31 day cycle then AF is due in 19 days on June 2nd. Best of luck for Monday!!! I hope the weekend flies by for you with a happy ending

Btw I'm not sleeping at all well this week so charting my temp is just out the window

Hello! I'm sorry - I've not read the thread or the earlier ones, but saw the title and wondered if I could join in?? I'm not actively TTC (yet...) because my 23mo is still feeding like a thing possessed, including pretty constantly through the night. I would love another baby (as would she - she keeps getting friends' babies in a headlock and trying to claim them as 'mine baby sister!!!!') but am just afraid she won't wean during the pregnancy and I'll be stuffed. I cant tandem feed as only have one side that seems to work properly.

But, er, I also DTD last night and have now realised it's probably my ovulation window right now. I have a really irregular cycle so hard to know. So now I'm in a fug of hopeful excitement and also panic at how the hell to make the toddler wean (and let me sleep more than 2 hours a night...) if I am up duffed.

Any tips? Would love to hear success stories of toddlers who have been weaned while still v attached to breastfeeding as a comfort thing, or of those types of toddlers who have weaned themselves during pregnancy when you never thought they would!

Ps best of luck to all of you TTC and in the hopeful waiting period before you can test xx

Hi there everyone. Wondering if I can join you lot.
Am 35 and cycle 2 ttc #4. I have dd 8, ds 6 and dd2 9 mths.
Still breastfeeding upto 5 times in 24 hrs so feel things maybe more tricky this time round.
Baby loves her milk and I don't want to wean if I can help it as she's still so little. Although just trying to cut out one of the night feeds with some success over last 2 nights.

I am very lucky?!? ( can't believe I just said that ) that af returned immediately following all 3 of my deliveries. Am regular 28 days so cN I assume I am ovulating?

Af next due 22/5 so now well into tww.

Hopeful as dtd plenty at approx the right time although I guess that prolactin floating around can inhibit things - would be grateful for any knowledge you guys have gleaned over your time ttc whilst BF.

Hi Waxweasel, I can't offer any advice, I'm afraid but I too am in the same boat as you in a couple of ways. I am hoping that DD self-weans if I ever when I get pg again, if not before. She goes through periods of not being v.interested to demanding the boob like her life depends on it I too have only one milk filled boob since DD lost interest in the right one at approximately 12 months Been feeding on just the left for the last 12 months or so (I'm not lopsided though tg! ) Good luck x

Welcome Sparkles, I too am 35 but my DD has just turned 2. Some women on here have had bfp's despite feeding lo's on demand so I wouldn't worry about weaning her just yet if you don't want to and she's happy I totally recommend temping and using opks to accurately identify your fertile windows. Good luck with conceiving #4 x

Pear, sorry to hear about your rough nights sleep this week. I'm that my temps did not shoot up, as hoped, today... they increased a little but not to above my cover line Hoping it's just because I also had a crappy sleep. Fx tonight will be better and I'll see a higher increase tomorrow x

Hello new people! manages feeble wave
Cd14. No hint of anything happening at all. Just feel down. May your weekends be utterly wonderful please! Need some good cheer! Up conception while bfing!

Sorry to hear you're feeling down, Auto

Thanks Ava

Pear, I would count 13/14 days after your fixed smiley & you will probably get af/bfp then... Bfp of course, I have a good feeling for you

Welcome wax & sparkles & good luck.

Good luck this month auto

Hi Wax and Spark, good luck :)

Sorry you're feeling down Auto.

You're cycles sound promising Pear and Ava, will be nice if you both get BFPs together.

Mumo, sounds like you've been quite relaxed about ttc this tww so that makes me think could be good news for you too.

I'm thinking about testing tomorrow, if I did OV when CB digi said then I'll be 14dpo, I had a faint bfp by then with my DS so I'll know either way. I was testing everyday with IC opks and Hpts but ran out a couple of weeks ago and decided not to get more. Once my cycles kick start again, I will temp and DTD EOD, we are still DTD EOD (more or less) at the moment just in case...

Also, I'm starting to regret telling people that we wanted a small age gap between DCs as people have started asking, can't believe I thought it be so simple as to choose age gap! xx

Good luck Lea!x

And tell me about it re telling people you wanted a small age gap...I've moaned on the last couple of threads about this. My 'plan' was going perfectly until this stumbling block (house, marriage, first dc etc all by a certain age) and everyone knows I wanted my second dc at 35 (not happening unless I get a bfp this cycle ) and people keep reminding me of the fact too I've learnt to just smile and say sweetly "we're just focussing on DD right now" Only my parents and sister know the truth...x

Auto - in my experience it is normally when I'm least expecting something to happen in my cycle when something finally happens so keep looking for signs Tomorrow could be your day I know how utterly soul destroy you probably feel though & fed up?!

Lea -- ooooo how exciting!! Keep us posted!

Mumofone -thanks for the positive vibes! I am praying that the smiley turns static tomorrow. Half of me is doubting that it will though. Trying to take deep breathes

Ava - thanks I always find it hard to sleep well after dtd because my mind is thinking about leakage so I find it hard to relax. Didn't you find last cycle that you had delayed temps? FC for tomorrow hug!

Good luck Lea I've got everything crossed for you.

Don't know why I'm so chilled out this cycle- I think because ov passed me by in the blink of an eye so I felt it was over before it had begun. I've got lots of spots appearing on my chin... Think it's a sign af is on her wicked way

Hope you get your static asap pear

Pear, I've taken to retiring to bed after dtd with a pillow under me to prop my bottom half up

Yeah, you're right, my temps plateaued for 2 days at ov before going up last month

Hope you sleep better tonight! And fx for static tomorrow x

Mumo, I've had a couple of tiny ones break out today too fx it's not a sign of AF for you x

Cd14 and still getting flashing smiley (day 3 of flashing smileys now). Guess I just have to ride it out! I will try and attempt dtd tonight but we will have to skip tomorrow because DH is working so will be shattered. I'm not even sure if he will manage tonight after work I have so many spots thanks to my estrogen levels

Thank Ava . I did sleep better

Thanks you nice people. Still down for various reasons but had some ewcm late last night so hoping that's the start of things this cycle! Happy weekend!

Just tentatively dipping a toe in. DD is nearly 10mo and BF on demand. She's recently dropped her afternoon feed though so we are down to bedtime, overnight (co-sleeping) and morning. No AF as yet but I've been feeling more hormonal.
Complications mean that I will probably need IVF although we are going to try naturally just in case. Hoping my cycle reappears soon.

Glad you slept better. Pear. When DH gets in v.late from work and is tired and we need to dtd I remind him that if we give it our best shot this month we won't need to bother with this craziness (dtd on demand) again. I have been saying that for a while now though, every cycle for at least the past 6 months Good luck x

Great news about the cm, Auto x

Hi Talulah, DD and I also co-sleep and AF didn't return until 16 months for me. It sounds like you're currently feeding less than I was at 10 months though, so your cycles may return sooner. I'd recommend opks and temping to gauge what's happening and you may be lucky enough to catch the first egg Good luck x

My temperature is slowly on the rise x

I'm utterly confused now. I tested with my cbfm this morning with left over sticks and I didn't get anything...not even a high! How can the smiley sticks be saying high and the monitor not?! That's just odd! Still not peaked with the smiley sticks. I will continue to attempt dtd tonight and then start again from from Monday. Can't keep going every day

Oh Ava I knew would rise soon enough

I've sent my first batch of 14 samples to Clearblue. It wasn't as embarrassing in the post office as I had imagined in my head