TTC #2 - would anyone like to share the journey?

[CarrotPuff]

All ages and age gaps welcome!

I'm 29, have a 16mo DS, TTC since periods came back in July 2014, had a mc in Jan.

Anyone else?

I have come up with a totally brilliant, solid plan to totally avoid any early testing. By...wait for it....testing super early!!! using up the last few ics I have over the next couple days! Obviously way too early to get a result but I can't justify binning them and I can't rely on self discipline.

They really are crap tests though, got an obvious grey evap line within the test time frame. Yet next to it was the actual test bit which was stark white. If you weren't a poas addict you would easily take it as bfp how many women get disappointed by those crap tests.

Oh cuppa that sounds like my chocolate biscuit logic - eat them all so I can no longer be tempted by them!

Anyone who's used clear blue digi opk - any idea what I do about the fact the solid smiley face won't go from my plastic bit? Out of curiosity (new POAS addict?!) I did one this morning but the solid smiley wouldn't budge - it never showed the little ready to test icon. Is it buggered? Do I need to shell out for a whole new one?

Hi mrsmugoo - once you've got your solid smiley it stays on the stick for 48 hours as it thinks you don't need to test again once you've got your solid smiley. Last month mine did that so I stopped testing then when I went to use it this month it was fine and ready to go. Hope that helps

Ah that makes complete sense thanks Diamond :)

Officially in the 2ww

Yay your stubborn egg finay let go!! When are you going to test? I'm aiming to wait till AF is late but if my one to one work meeting is a few days before I'll test then just in case.

Very doubtful that this month would be successful so I'll definitely wait til AF is late which will be next weekend. I don't have pg tests in the house anyways so won't be tempted to test early.

What are the best sorts to get??

I've always heard super drugs own are nearly as good as first response but a third of the price. A week on Friday is when AF is due so I'm hoping to not cave in after Tuesday at the earliest.

I've used the superdrug ones before and correctly got a negative every time, don't know how good they are for bfps, but don't buy a load at a time just because they're cheap or you'll end up doing what I did and using them all up every time you get a tummy ache!

Hi all, can I join you all?

I'm 32, have a 12 mo DS and am starting trying for #2 this cycle, currently CD6. Feeling very excited but am fairly sure I will turn neurotic soon - I think I will need you guys so I can hide the crazy from my husband!

I've got my last BFP on a superdrug test, but I was 1 day late so don't know how sensitive they are for early testing.

Sorry to all those who been caught by the witch, keep the positive thoguhts for a new month, hope for lots of May BFP's!

Welcome torf! My first is 13 months and I'm cycle 1 of trying so we're very similar! I think I was broody when he was about 7 or 8 months! Everyone was saying I'm bonkers but I just want to get it over with. I didn't love the newborn stage but absolutely love, love, LOVE it when his personality started to emerge and he was mobile.

Are you going to use charting, temping, opk, an app etc...?

Birdbrain, I know that feeling all too well! I've just bought some first response off the internet with crap postage so they won't arrive till I'm at least 12 dpo hopefully. That should stop early testing.

Welcome torf! Enjoy the excited calmness while it lasts and hopefully you'll get that bfp before it wears off!

I agree.mrsmugoo the newborn stage is stupidly tough and relatively thankless. Plus every family member thinks they can just stroll into your home whenever and hold your baby. I think the toddler stage is my absolute best so far.

Yes I am absolutely ridiculously loving having a toddler - although may eat my words when he's being difficult with a new baby too!

I know what you all meam, I really struggled when dd was a newborn and I keep on telling myself it's because I was so unprepared for the reality of what life is like with a baby and next time will be better, but if she doesn't grow out of her cheeky/naughty stage by the time I get pg and have a baby don't think it will be easier! On the plus side she loves babies, she's only 2 otherwise I'm sure she'd have been asking me for a sibling for ages

Welcome Torfhinn! Passes some

I got my BFP on superdrug too. I think the general consensus is that they are quite good and good price as well.

Mrsmugoo we actually started trying when DS was 8mo and my periods came back. People would have thought I was bonkers too, but I really wanted them to be close in age, ideally just under 2. Yet 9 cycles and one mc later I'm still here...

I also found newborn stage very tough, bfing was painful, everything was such a shock to the system... For me it got easier once he started sleeping better (7m), and I absolutely love this stage too.

Yeah 7/8 months was a turning point for me too - I went back to work and he started sleeping through the night. Everything seemed to get a lot easier. Breastfeeding was soooooo hard at the start and I had everything they could go wrong did go wrong - multiple bouts of mastitis, the lot. But I carried on for just short of 10 months and quite enjoyed it by the end.

I think my turning point was closer to 18 months, but I had mega issues with pnd turning into ocd and that was when I went on ads. All sorted now thank goodness. Hoping I won't get it so bad next time. Breastfeeding was a difficult start too which didn't help. I was very lucky with DDS sleep, but of she had of been bad my mental health would have cracked sooner and I would have gotten help.sooner. so swings and roundabouts.

Might have had the tiniest bit of blood in my discharge today tmi sorry! But no cramps or anything. Though normally.I have AF cramps by now. It's been a busy week at work.and I'm knackered, obviously cos.I'm doing overtime but I cab tell myself its a sign right?

Thanks for the welcome everyone

Mrsmugoo I feel exactly the same - I really struggled with the newborn stage, but from 6 months on it's just got better and better! My DS is not mobile yet but his personality is shining through Not planning to temp or use OPK's as I can usually tell when I'm ovulating, but given me a few months and I'm sure I'll get pretty obsessive about them!

I was actually planning to start trying when DS was about 8/9 months but decided I didn't want most of my mat leave to be in the winter, if I were to fall quickly. He a love now and genarally sleeps most of the night. I attempted breastfeeding too, but only lasted 2 weeks - I don't think I'll ever let go of the guilt about that

Fingers crossed Cuppa!

Don't feel guilty over not breastfeeding! You made the right choice to make sure your baby didn't go hungry. Why it didn't work doesn't matter, but the fact you gave up your parenting ideal to ensure your child's wellbeing ( and your physical and mental wellbeing directly influences your child's) is a truly selfless thing you should be proud of!

Thanks Cuppa, that's lovely to hear. It's amazing the capacity ones own brain has for making you feel shit. I know what you say is true, and thank you for saying it - I hope one day that evil part of my mind will agree!

It is and there is a lot of pressure to breastfeed these days. In fact there's a lot of pressure around having babies full stop. Unless you have no pain relief, no assistance, no tearing, a quick labour, a tiny baby, breastfeed with no issues, and loads of.other dumb stuff you have little influence over you're meant to feel guilty like somehow you're second best. I hate it.

I have vontouese with dd and I refuse to feel bad about it. I'm not going to complain some lovely obstetrician decided to help me finish labour a bit quicker! That's a good thing! Plus dd and me were knackered we both needed a nap. Bit at first I was upset and worried I'd cheated or failed. Anyway what that rant is getting at is, in your own time you'll come to terms with it and it won't bother you anymore. Also everyone who breastfed two or more has told me it's so different each time, that it's mostly down to baby, not mummy.

I was planning hypnobirthing in the water, all that jazz but mine was breech and wouldn't bloody turn so I never even made it as far as labour I was booked in for an ELCS. I ended up making my peace with the whole situation but comments from my other mum friends about being too posh to push and having it soooooo easy really pissed me off.

Looking after a newborn and trying to establish breastfeeding off the back of major abdominal surgery was no walk in the park :(

I was determined to EBF after my c-sec and I did manage it but he ended up being a bottle refuser - I've literally never got him to take one - I dropped him at nursery on his first day with formula and a sippy cup and told them to just get on with it (he took a tiny bit from a cup the week before he started, before that, boob only!)

Next time round I won't be so precious about bottles / formula - I didn't leave the house past 8pm for 6 months!!

Hey ladies can I join? Ttc #2
My DD IS 10 MONTHS
hubby wants DS
Both 21 married 2 yrs living young love lol

Hello sponge! Welcome, have you just started ttc number 2? I think a few of us are aiming for small age gaps so you'll be in good company. Are you using opks, temping or any apps?

Hey cuppasarah:)
Yes we have just started to ttc this month but I'm so worried now. I was thinking of using ovulation strips, do they work? And if so how? I didn't think I could concieve in the first place so I'm over the moon but I seem to keep thinking I'm pregnant and spending a small fortune on pgtests
I can't track my periods because they are all over. I would love to fall pregnant this month I wanted a DS since my DD was 7 months old. How old is your LO? xx